Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

Wow. Prioritizing having children over your relationship is a sign that it's not a relationship worth having

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My(F26) husband(M29) is going to fire my sister's(F27) husband(M33) tomorrow. How do I talk to her?

My husband helped my sister's husband get a job. My sister's husband unleashed some racial slurs at another employee. Human resources department has investigated. He admitted to it. Now my husband has to fire him. They have three kids, it's Thanksgiving, I'm furious at him.
My sister has no idea and my husband is a total mess. He has no idea why they chose him to do the firing. This is something that someone in HR usually does. My husband was promoted last month so maybe it's in his new job description.
TL:dr:. my husband is about to fire my sister's husband. Should I give her a heads up?

La Brea Carpet posted:

I'm pretty sure that this is an O. Henry story in the making.

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My [21f] friend [21m] acts creepy with women, like following random girls around the campus at night. How can I tell him to stop?

This is something that's been going on for a while.

My friend is always acting creepy with women. He likes to follow them around the campus at night. I think it's awful, he knows that women get scared shitless about having a man following them, but he does it anyway. I have no idea why. I've told him to stop but he said he "couldn't". How to proceed?

tl;dr: my friend follows women around the campus even though I told him to STOP.

Gaunab posted:

Gaunab posted:

Breetai posted:

America.

Seriously, can't link because I'm phone posting, but YouTube 'wanda's macaroni salad'.

Gaunab posted:

While it sucks he's getting fired, he unleashed a torrent of racial slurs at a coworker and admitted to it.

zakharov posted:

They should probably get someone else to do the firing if possible?

Quote-Unquote posted:

Yeah, really. I once had a lovely job at the same place my (then) girlfriend worked. She made a pretty big mistake one day and faced disciplinary charges... and she worked directly under me. They made me do the disciplinary despite my request that my senior really should do it, given the obvious conflict of interest.

That said, she just cocked up something that resulted in some money being lost. If she'd started spewing out a torrent of racial slurs I would've fired her and dumped her, because I'm not mental.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Sounds sexy. Whose a naughty girl who is being written up? Here, sign this please, we need a paper trail to complete the disciplinary process.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Sounds sexy. Whose a naughty girl who is being written up? Here, sign this please, we need a paper trail to complete the disciplinary process.

Jenner posted:

I learned this when I tried to calm down my 4 year old cousin who was wailing and carrying on about wanting her mom when her mom was unavailable (because she was sick and trying to recover.) Her dad and closer family's solution of ignoring her or trying to distract her wasn't working and was only causing her to ramp up the volume and act out more. So I took the time to sit down with her and ask her if she had ever gotten sick, which she confirmed, and explained to her that sometimes moms get sick too and need some time to themselves to get better. While I was explaining this to her her dad interrupted me and was pretty upset with me saying poo poo like, "It's all about you, Jenner." And yeah, in hindsight even though everyone was miserable and nothing was working I should have stayed the gently caress out of it because the girl wasn't my kid to parent.

WampaLord posted:

Her dad sounds like a total loving rear end in a top hat. How were you making it all about you?

Jenner posted:

So I took the time to sit down with her and ask her if she had ever gotten sick, which she confirmed, and explained to her that sometimes moms get sick too and need some time to themselves to get better. While I was explaining this to her her dad interrupted me and was pretty upset with me saying poo poo like, "It's all about you, Jenner." And yeah, in hindsight even though everyone was miserable and nothing was working I should have stayed the gently caress out of it because the girl wasn't my kid to parent.

Gaunab posted:

guy who "can't" stop stalking women

Jenner posted:

What bothers me the most about fussy/misbehaving kids, however, is that there is nothing I can do to help. I like to be proactive and try to solve/resolve my own issues. But there is nothing I can do in response to a screaming/tantruming child but grit my teeth and endure it or relocate myself. Because going up to either the parents or the kid, even if you know them very well or are family, and trying to help is a bad thing.

I learned this when I tried to calm down my 4 year old cousin who was wailing and carrying on about wanting her mom when her mom was unavailable (because she was sick and trying to recover.) Her dad and closer family's solution of ignoring her or trying to distract her wasn't working and was only causing her to ramp up the volume and act out more. So I took the time to sit down with her and ask her if she had ever gotten sick, which she confirmed, and explained to her that sometimes moms get sick too and need some time to themselves to get better. While I was explaining this to her her dad interrupted me and was pretty upset with me saying poo poo like, "It's all about you, Jenner." And yeah, in hindsight even though everyone was miserable and nothing was working I should have stayed the gently caress out of it because the girl wasn't my kid to parent.

Jenner posted:

"It's all about you, Jenner.

Danaru posted:

Submitted 7 hours ago:


Meanwhile, in his post history, on a post submitted 9 months ago:



Buddy got dumped straight up almost a year ago and still hasn't realized it. She even told him and he still didn't notice.

Quote-Unquote posted:

what

It sounds like you were the only person that actually knows how to deal with a child. Kids aren't totally dumb and most of the time if you take a while to actually explain poo poo to them they'll get it.

Gaunab posted:

There was a time when GBS had that kind on anti-child rhetoric.

Jeza posted:

Looks heavily editorialised to me because the reaction the dad had is a complete non-sequitur from what OP allegedly calmly and empathetically explained to the kid from the goodness of their heart.

Antivehicular posted:

You know it's a good Reddit post when the most sympathetic explanation is "your friend is a tormented ghost, chained to this world by his sins, compelled to reenact his terrible life"

RNG posted:

Soon to be UN-friend just posted a pic of her little gently caress trophy TOUCHING Monet's Water Lillies in Paris. No shame. Bragging about it in facebook to her friends. I am seething, and must control the murder rage.
Debating on commenting before I block her.
http://i.imgur.com/Ec9Y5V9.jpg
UPDATE! reported post to Facebook, reported pic to Musee Orangerie curator with contact information for "friend" and an apology from me, and commented on the post that it was pretty loving lame to brag about something like this on Facebook. Oooohhhhhh they hate me, and the pits of hell are burning bright with suburban hate for my comments in the ensuing Facebook imbroglio! Hahahahaha.

loquacius posted:

My thought was "the Origami Killer is threatening to murder his son Shaun unless he completes trials to prove he is a good father, like for example The Trial Of The Huge loving Creep"

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We're three nerds who share a nice three bedroom house in suburbia which my roommate "Tina"s [26/F] father owns. We'll call my other roommate "Sam" [28/M]. I met them about three years ago through a mutual friend and I moved in with them about three months ago. We all work and pay our rent/bills fine, there's no issues there, but things have been getting progressively complicated.

Sam and Tina have a lot of animals and don't clean very much. Before I moved in and would come over to hang out, the litter boxes were pouring over with cat poo poo and the house smelled of ammonia. They blamed basically everything on their old roommate, who really was a terrible roommate, but it didn't help that they completely gave up on household chores. I knew the state of the house before moving in, but had hoped they'd be different after their old roommate moved out. I was wrong. Other than Sam doing the dishes every once in a while, I'm the only one who cleans. Tina will say, "Oh, I'll wash the towels!", "I'll do the dishes!", but days will go by without her doing much of anything. It's depressing for me, personally, to live in a dirty house so I've taken upon myself to keep things clean and organized. Because of this, they like to call me Mom in front of their friends whenever they come over as a dumb "inside joke", which is really, really irritating. I've asked them to stop, they haven't. I've asked them to do more around the house, they haven't. But, honestly, I wish this was the biggest problem I had with them.

Tina and I are both very artsy, creative, and love animals. Before I moved in we'd talk about doing hobbies and stuff together. Talking about ideas and interests gets us really excited. I always ask if she wants to go in on projects with me, or collaborate on something, and while she expresses lots of interest she really never commits. Right now it's chickens. We just split the cost of a coop, and picked it up yesterday, but I know that I'd be the only one taking care of the chickens once we get some. It sounds a little dumb, but it's just one example. I really want to be involved in fun hobbies with her, but they just seem to turn into an extra weight for me to carry.

Although we have a three bedroom house, Tina and Sam share a room together. They're best friends, sleep together in the same bed, and aren't a couple. They also don't have sex at all and Tina makes sure everyone knows they're just friends. Everyone (our circle of friends, Tina's family, and I) knows their situation and think its completely weird, but we accept it and understand it to a degree. Sam doesn't drive, so Tina brings him to and from work every day. They spend almost every minute together when they're not at work (Sam works in the day, Tina works at night). Sam babies her, is often loving to her, cooks her meals, and treats her as a boyfriend would without any reciprocation. Sam VERY OBVIOUSLY wants to have a real relationship with Tina, but she doesn't have those kinds of feelings for him, so she's locked him in the friend zone. Tina often walks around in her underwear in the house, which adds to a weird sexual tension between them. Several times I've knocked on their door, Tina says come in, and they're almost naked in bed together and he's giving her messages. They've been in this weird "relationship" since I've known them, but I didn't know the awkward depth of it until I moved in.

Sam knows he's being used as a kind of pseudo boyfriend but he perpetuates the situation by being "coupley" with her every day. He's expressed interest just recently about moving into the third bedroom and having his own space, but Tina is basically a hoarder. The entire third bedroom is her storage space. I've tried to organize it for her, to get her started on clearing some of the things out, but therein lies another problem. Tina wont do anything. She doesn't clean up after herself and doesn't put effort into anything. Her life consists of hanging out with friends, working, sleeping, and sitting on her phone. I offered to split the cost of a storage unit with her so she wouldn't have to deal with going through everything, but she hasn't been open to the idea at all.

This morning Tina brought Sam to work, I left to do some errands. Tina messaged me and asked if could not to come home for a few hours. I asked why. Tina said she wanted to bring a guy over. While I have absolutely no problem with that, she's asking me hide poo poo like that from Sam. This has been an ongoing thing for a while, she's been sleeping/dating people behind his back (even though they're just "friends"). Sam would obviously be very jealous and angry. I can't tell Sam, because although I care about him, I don't want to make drama and wouldn't want to betray Tina's trust. Tina often comes to me to talk about her issues with Sam, but any advice or help I try to give her seems pointless. Nothing changes.

Regardless of the issues I have with my friends, I really care about the both of them and don't want to upset either of them. We have fun, they're great to be around, and we often help eachother out with things/emotional issues. I've done so many things to try and improve our living situation in these few months, but I feel like a doormat, and I'm also afraid a shitstorm of drama is coming. I really don't want to have to move out. Any advice is appreciated.

TL;DR - My roommates are self-confessed adult children, have a messed up relationship, and I don't want to be their caretaker.

SENTIENT HOUSEMEAT posted:

OK so sorry to run back to this childfree Monet thing but it's bothering me because absolutely nobody comes out of this well. The parents are smug philistines, the OP is a hysterical, self-important nonsense.

But to be honest, what's bothering me the most about this is that I had no idea how that painting has been framed. Talk about literally gilding the lily, gently caress.

SENTIENT HOUSEMEAT posted:

OK so sorry to run back to this childfree Monet thing but it's bothering me because absolutely nobody comes out of this well. The parents are smug philistines, the OP is a hysterical, self-important nonsense.

But to be honest, what's bothering me the most about this is that I had no idea how that painting has been framed. Talk about literally gilding the lily, gently caress.

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

I [30/F] am having a lot of issues with my roommates [28/M, 26/F] who don't contribute and call me "Mom."

Soylent Grun posted:

How soon is too soon to make the move to close the distance? Or, how do I judge whether doing so is too hasty? 1727 MILES OR-MN

54 40 or gently caress posted:

^what in the god drat hell


I actually didn't look at the pic the first time. It's still irresponsible but having held Wiggling Toddlers in the past, I wonder if the baby reaching out and touching it wasn't intentional. Like grandad or whatever wanted to take a pic of little gently caress Trophy (this term disgusts me) next to one of history's greatest artists lovely pieces and they just, reached out their hand to touch without being prompted.

loquacius posted:

Is it really that hard to say "what the gently caress do you mean you can't" and if he doesn't elaborate say "that's bullshit, stop doing it you loving idiot"

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

I would do this but be carrying a hammer as I said it to him.

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Ill try to be brief with all the relevant information. I've been dating James since last August. We have lived together since June of this year. We generally have a good relationship. I can be a lot to put up with because I'm pretty needy (but working on it) and he usually does a great job and has generally bent over backwards to make me happy over this time.

So last night around 6:30 or 7 we were coming home from getting groceries together. We had been arguing about stuff earlier and we're both kind of upset. I was driving us home and after more arguing he told me to stop the car and get out. I said no but then he yelled for me to pull over. So I did and he said to get out again. I told him no and he told me to either get out on my own or that he'd make me. I said it was dark and we're still miles from home so I can't just walk by the highway alone. He got up out of his seat and started walking around to mine, reached across me and took off my seat belt and told me to get out. He gave me his phone and told me I could call someone else but that I wasn't going to ride in his car and be a bitch to him. Then he got in my seat and drove off.

So I ended up walking home about 6 miles because I was too embarrassed to call anyone and have to explain what happened. I got home and went straight to bed. We haven't talked any since. I've been thinking now about what I'm going to do. Whether or not I'm going to leave him. I dont know if this is something to forgive and I'm overreacting to it or if this is a big deal and the first sign he's going to become abusive. I've been abused by prior boyfriends but he's never laid a finger on me. I want advice please. Do I need to leave now and cool off a while at my parents? Is this something we can talk through?

TL;DR:
• boyfriend and I got in an argument in the car.
• he made me get out of the car and walk home 6 miles
• I haven't talked to him since and don't know if I should try to or just leave.

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I cannot fathom the logic behind engaging in a 9 year long LDR. I was in a LDR for almost 1.5 years with my awesome girlfriend of over 2 years and I saw her about twice per month. It was still really goddamn tough and painful at times to be 220 miles away from her until we moved in together... and I'm blown away by some dude who proposes a LDR that loving long with nearly 2k miles between each other. The rest of the post is typical immature decision making, but man, that bit is totally insane and just unbelievable.