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Is there a single open relationship success story?
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:23 |
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Ratjaculation posted:Is there a single open relationship success story? Those middle-aged people with grown kids who go to swinger parties and all gently caress each other's wives and husbands seem pretty happy most of the time
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:27 |
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My (24f) fiancé (29m) just accepted a plea deal and has to register as a sex offender. I'm a teacher.quote:I'm also posting in /r/legaladvice for advice on the legal aspects of this question....
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:28 |
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Ratjaculation posted:Is there a single open relationship success story? Yes. Every single one is a success in its own way, because it's always one idiot suggests it thinking s/he will get laid nonstop but then they fail miserably while their partner ends up a happier and more fulfilled person, and the idiot gets what s/he deserves.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:28 |
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Ratjaculation posted:Is there a single open relationship success story? No, because it's founded on people being completely unable to entertain compromises with their partner. The only winners are when the partner who didn't bring it up realizes how selfish their SO is and leaves for an emotionally satisfying experience. Pick fucked around with this message at 16:34 on Nov 28, 2016 |
# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:32 |
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Ratjaculation posted:Is there a single open relationship success story? Well, if you ever see a question that's like "how do I invite grandma to my polyamorous wedding ceremony?" instead of "let me tell you how I just ruined my own life" I guess that counts as successful.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:33 |
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Eight months without sex!? That's impossible for a man. Yes I do assume Roald Amundsen was loving his dogs.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:37 |
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various cheeses posted:
Gaunab posted:It's loss from ctr+alt+del okay I clearly missed something, not seeing it still Jeffrey of YOSPOS fucked around with this message at 16:44 on Nov 28, 2016 |
# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:41 |
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Shall I post the e/n open relationship story again. Because that was a success story for her I guess...
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:43 |
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Syncopated posted:They're gonna marry and have kids, then in 25 years she'll realise he's autistic and doesn't have the capacity for intimacy. lol owned Which, of course, wouldn't be a big problem except that his zygomatic arch is 2 cm insufficiently protuberant women!
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:44 |
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Ratjaculation posted:Shall I post the e/n open relationship story again. Because that was a success story for her I guess... Eh, that was brutal.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:44 |
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Quote-Unquote posted:Yes. Every single one is a success in its own way, because it's always one idiot suggests it thinking s/he will get laid nonstop but then they fail miserably while their partner ends up a happier and more fulfilled person, and the idiot gets what s/he deserves. In some of them the sociopath one actually does get laid nonstop while the normal one sits at home not cheating, like a normal person, and basically wallows in misery while displaying a big fake compersion smile so as to not rock the boat
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:47 |
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Ratjaculation posted:Is there a single open relationship success story? Yeah, they're just not posting on r/relationships, for obvious reasons. They're really loving rare though, to the point where I would say not opening up a closed relationship is a dang good rule to live by.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:48 |
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quote:My [37F]boyfriend [34M] of 8 months wanted to leave me by myself to go dancing at an after hours club by himself All I could do is shake my head at this.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 16:55 |
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Ah, drugs and alcohol. To be 18 again. Wait ... double that?!
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:02 |
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WampaLord posted:
as someone with bpd, this is probably bpd
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:13 |
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By the way, if anyone thinks, "well, dating an autistic person is probably fine, you get 'you time' while they play with train sets" it's worth revisiting the depressing tales of older people trapped in these relationships. Perhaps the saddest part is that the partner with Asperger's doesn't even apparently have the frame of reference to understand why being with them is and will always be torture. And to add another layer of black comedy, they tend to attract really compassionate partners who assume that what they really need is someone emotionally in-touch who can reach out to them. Woo nelly that does not go well. And then when and if the partner leaves, it's a mystery! quote:Right now I'm depleted from my one-sided relationship with an aspie but even in a calm moment of clarity, why should anyone do this in a romantic or marital partnership? These relationships are supposed to be between equals and about reciprocity.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:14 |
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almightyerin posted:All I could do is shake my head at this. Dear reddit: my boyfriend likes to do drugs and party late but he's being kind of irresponsible and sketchy, I'm sooooooo confused by this!!!
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:22 |
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If she hasn't figured it out by now I don't think there's much hope for her.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:27 |
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Pick posted:By the way, if anyone thinks, "well, dating an autistic person is probably fine, you get 'you time' while they play with train sets" it's worth revisiting the depressing tales of older people trapped in these relationships. Perhaps the saddest part is that the partner with Asperger's doesn't even apparently have the frame of reference to understand why being with them is and will always be torture. And to add another layer of black comedy, they tend to attract really compassionate partners who assume that what they really need is someone emotionally in-touch who can reach out to them. Woo nelly that does not go well. kind of reminds me of my dad tbh haha oh no
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:30 |
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I feel bad for the person who will never feel any sort of emotional reciprocity from her partner, but I laughed at the idea of responding to that by talking about winston churchill. Churchilling should replace severing - simply talk about nothing but winston churchill until you're broken up.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:31 |
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bone app the teeth posted:My (24f) fiancé (29m) just accepted a plea deal and has to register as a sex offender. I'm a teacher. I just came to post this one, how are we not in full fledged assumption mode here? He accepted a plea deal for fifteen years, I so want to know what he did because that's pretty damning. She needs to leave him yesterday because there is no way she will ever get gainful employment as a teacher while married to him. 15 years, Jesus wept.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:32 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I feel bad for the person who will never feel any sort of emotional reciprocity from her partner, but I laughed at the idea of responding to that by talking about winston churchill. Churchilling should replace severing - simply talk about nothing but winston churchill until you're broken up. yeah that one always makes me laugh. i mean i feel bad but holy poo poo
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:34 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:I just came to post this one, how are we not in full fledged assumption mode here? That was my first thought, along with the typical "jesus christ redditors stop burying the lede" - I mean, it is absolutely crucial to understanding this story that we know what the dude did.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:36 |
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My (45F) daughter (16F) is "in love" with her dead father's best friend (43M).quote:Honestly my husband and I were nearing a divorce when he died suddenly in a car accident. His best friend since college who we'll call "John" has always been a presence in our lives and this didn't stop after my husband's death. Nothing overbearing or anything, and I have no doubt his feelings for my daughter and I are anything but platonic (I've known him for 20 years and my daughter her whole life) but he comes over every now and again and my daughter enjoys keeping in touch with him. She seemed to like spending time with him a little too much but I chalked it up to maybe in her mind John was her "filler dad" or something. She's been acting off so I read her diary and what I found was honestly disturbing.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:39 |
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My [24F] Parents are blaming me for my brother [16M] getting his girlfriend [16F]. She wants me to pay for the abortion and will kick my brother out if I don'tquote:My brother met Tina at my wedding. Tina had a crush on my brother before hand and we got them talking. They danced at my husband and I wedding. They went out on several dates and they have dated and they have been dating for 8 months. Tina and my brother are so similar in personality it's scary. She's pretty and I knew my brother would fall in love with her on sight.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:41 |
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That's just depressing. Hopefully just a phase/crush. But therapy for the loss couldn't hurt Edit: dead dad girl Ratjaculation fucked around with this message at 17:45 on Nov 28, 2016 |
# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:42 |
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El Golden Goose posted:That was my first thought, along with the typical "jesus christ redditors stop burying the lede" - I mean, it is absolutely crucial to understanding this story that we know what the dude did. I checked both her threads and she doesn't elaborate on the nature of it which just makes me assume it was something pretty bad. I'm sure if he was drunk and pissed in the middle of the street or passed out with his junk out in a grocery store or some poo poo she'd at least try and defend him. Complete lack of specificity is shaaaaady
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:42 |
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My mother (52/F) found and read the eulogy I (19/M) wrote for her.quote:I know this is weird and I hosed up but
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:43 |
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My (25 F) partners family said some things about my vehicle that offended me. Am I over reacting to something stupid?
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:44 |
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Ratjaculation posted:Is there a single open relationship success story? loquacius posted:Those middle-aged people with grown kids who go to swinger parties and all gently caress each other's wives and husbands seem pretty happy most of the time mfcrocker posted:Yeah, they're just not posting on r/relationships, for obvious reasons. Meanwhile I got that previously mentioned crazy friend who found a guy she really likes and he's not ok with her loving around, but of course she's trying to leave that door cracked even though she wants to make things work and it's going to blow the whole thing up.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:45 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:My (25 F) partners family said some things about my vehicle that offended me. Am I over reacting to something stupid? yes and get that piece of poo poo out of the road.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:45 |
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A couple comments in the thread quoted some comments she made but she must've deleted them. I don't know if she was defending him or not but one said something like "he fooled me for five years so I deserve it". I closed the window or I'd quote it. Edit: I was off, here it is. quote:If he actually did it, then I've been so completely fooled by him that I deserve whatever misery this relationship leads to. almightyerin fucked around with this message at 17:50 on Nov 28, 2016 |
# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:47 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:I checked both her threads and she doesn't elaborate on the nature of it which just makes me assume it was something pretty bad. I'm sure if he was drunk and pissed in the middle of the street or passed out with his junk out in a grocery store or some poo poo she'd at least try and defend him. Complete lack of specificity is shaaaaady Even if she breaks it off with this dude (the fact that she doesn't want to say what he did means she's probably stupid enough not to), if any potential school she wants to work for finds out about this guy, she's done. Speaking from experience, if she's not real good at covering her tracks online a school could likely easily find that reddit thread. What a dumb dummy.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:47 |
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A Tin Of Beans posted:My [24F] Parents are blaming me for my brother [16M] getting his girlfriend [16F]. She wants me to pay for the abortion and will kick my brother out if I don't Less she's super strapped for cash help a bro out and then get him the gently caress away from your mother, you know she's nuts don't act like this is the only time.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:49 |
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almightyerin posted:A couple comments in the thread quoted some comments she made but she must've deleted them. I don't know if she was defending him or not but one said something like "he fooled me for five years so I deserve it". I closed the window or I'd quote it. My guess is sexual misconduct with a minor. That's where I'll throw my hat. Soliciting 14 year olds for nudes type deal.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 17:52 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:My guess is sexual misconduct with a minor. That's where I'll throw my hat. Soliciting 14 year olds for nudes type deal. You're probably right, but for some reason 15 years on the registry as a plea deal for soliciting nudes seems like a lot. I'd imagine before the plea deal he was facing decades in prison. I'm thinking, based on the plea deal being pretty severe and the fact that the OP has said zip about what he did, it's probably something even more serious than this, but I know absolutely nothing about sex offender laws.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 18:03 |
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HardDiskD posted:My (45F) daughter (16F) is "in love" with her dead father's best friend (43M). Lady must be new to Reddit/the internet
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 18:05 |
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almightyerin posted:mid-thirtysomething MDMA clubbing drama
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 18:11 |
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El Golden Goose posted:You're probably right, but for some reason 15 years on the registry as a plea deal for soliciting nudes seems like a lot. In Ontario the minimum is 10 for anything, and in Ireland you get 10 for anything with a sentence of 6 months or more. I dunno what the standards are in the US, but I somehow doubt that they're more lenient.
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# ? Nov 28, 2016 18:13 |