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Chomp8645 posted:The whole story is pointless because who is right and who is wrong is a value judgement based on their personal dynamics. I agree. The whole "There was lighting and then I smelled something on FIRE OH MY GOD!!"
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# ? Dec 1, 2016 23:37 |
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# ? Jun 5, 2024 09:27 |
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WampaLord posted:He could have compromised and gone home, picked her up, and let her come hang out at the Magic tournament where there's at least power. But he might have forfeited the tournament to leave. He'd be out like, upwards of two whole booster packs!
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# ? Dec 1, 2016 23:41 |
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Maybe I'm a big softie but fears aren't always rational and if my fiancee called me and begged me to come home because she was freaked out I'd go
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# ? Dec 1, 2016 23:46 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Or at least paid for an uber. Story is from 4 years ago, so Uber didn't exist (or was it still just the black car service back then?)
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# ? Dec 1, 2016 23:49 |
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He does seem to be a bit too into Magic. Not dropping FNM for his fetus of a gf is understandable, but the fact that he is playing Magic aka spending money on Magic above and beyond a competitive deck 4 nights a week, he's got some issues as well. Crack might literally be a cheaper habit
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# ? Dec 1, 2016 23:51 |
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Someone was saying that he apparently does this 4 other nigths a week. Friday Night Magic is a weekly casual (but officially sanctioned - basically they track your record) tournament that takes somewhere between 2-4 hours. I used to play fast decks and win/lose quickly and then go grab a drink between rounds. Its not the best night for Magic, its possibly the only night that he can play. As an adult, married to another adult, if the power went off, you check if other places have power and if they do, you reset your circuit breaker. If nobody has power then just wait for it to come back on. She's making a huge deal out of the power going out and that's pretty weird.
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# ? Dec 1, 2016 23:56 |
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zakharov posted:Maybe I'm a big softie but fears aren't always rational and if my fiancee called me and begged me to come home because she was freaked out I'd go
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# ? Dec 1, 2016 23:57 |
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Someone was saying that he apparently does this 4 other nigths a week. Friday Night Magic is a weekly casual (but officially sanctioned - basically they track your record) tournament that takes somewhere between 2-4 hours. I used to play fast decks and win/lose quickly and then go grab a drink between rounds. Its not the best night for Magic, its just the name of the tournament and its possibly the only night that he can play. As an adult, married to another adult, if the power went off, you check if other places have power and if they do, you reset your circuit breaker. If nobody has power then just wait for it to come back on. She's making a huge deal out of the power going out and that's pretty weird.Nazzadan posted:He does seem to be a bit too into Magic. Not dropping FNM for his fetus of a gf is understandable, but the fact that he is playing Magic aka spending money on Magic above and beyond a competitive deck 4 nights a week, he's got some issues as well. If he's drafting, hes probably only out like $15. Its not that big of a deal
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# ? Dec 1, 2016 23:59 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:My wife (41F) is obsessed with her friends as if she were a 13 year old. Me (45M). This dude's number one problem is right there in the beginning of his post quote:When we met, I enjoyed her circle of friends because they partied and drank every weekend, as did I. They made plans every weekend and usually went out drinking two nights a week, sometimes three or four. Eventually, it wore me down. It seemed no fun could be had without getting drunk and I began to resent it, but I truly believed she’d grow out of it, or at least when they reached age 40 they would slow down. You should spend your dating getting to know someone, and a big part of that is getting to know their capacity for change/where they want to go in life. Reading the later part of the post, his wife is now 41, and is still going out "every weekend and usually went out drinking two nights a week". She has never slowed down, and to assume that she'd grow out of it is ridiculous considering it sounds like that exact pattern has been going on for the entirety of them being together. Relationships 101: Always assume your partner is going to be roughly the same as they are now, even if you [have a baby/move in together/get married/get older]. People change, but assuming they'll change when they demonstrably don't want to is a recipe for heartbreak
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:09 |
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It's kind of odd that she didn't know where a flashlight was. The first time I got trapped in a power outage during a bad storm I too freaked out a bit and I was also an idiot and completely unprepared. I called a friend and talked a bit before taking a nap. Afterwards I bought a few flashlights and candles and made sure I knew were they were. The BF was a jerk to her but she's being unrealistic to expect him to drop everything for her. Storms are scary, yes, but she was safe inside. She was right to call around for friends for help and such and she's even right to be upset at her BF but the best he could have done is ditched the game and sat around in the dark with her or done what her friend did and walked her through working the circuit breaker. Guy could have been a bit more sensitive and the fact that he wasn't is kind of concerning but not deal breaking. Sometimes people are assholes. I am an rear end in a top hat all the time. HardDiskD posted:Wait, what? I can't find the post in question () but at the time someone actually bought an add on the forums that lead to that guys post. That's how I found it and wow. Jenner fucked around with this message at 00:15 on Dec 2, 2016 |
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LGD posted:Pretty much my perspective. I mean maybe he's spending too much time/money on his hobby, which is potentially a legit relationship issue, but he was also at a pre-arranged event where a) he'd made a time commitment of several hours and b) he was doing something that wasn't terribly conducive to being on the phone. In this case it was Magic: the Gathering, but there are lots of other hobbies and events that have similar time commitments and practical restrictions on phone access. Expecting him to drop everything for a non-emergency that he would either be completely unable to resolve or that she should have trivially been able to resolve on her own isn't really a reasonable expectation and is predicated on the assumption that his time/money/hobby is less important than being immediately available to assuage her anxiety over a minor inconvenience. I mean at worst she'd be unable to cook something for dinner, so just order takeout or text him and ask him to pick up something on his way back. If it wasn't Magic people would be telling him to sever her. Jenner posted:It's kind of odd that she didn't know where a flashlight was. The first time I got trapped in a power outage during a bad storm I too freaked out a bit and I was also an idiot and completely unprepared. I called a friend and talked a bit before taking a nap. Afterwards I bought a few flashlights and candles and made sure I knew were they were. The best part is that she was texting him on a device that can be used as a flashlight! Also powerouts are primo nap time, take naps whenever you get the opportunity.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:22 |
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Me [63F] with my son [35M] totally flipped out over first baby.quote:My son and his wife have been together 15 years and had their first child 6 months ago. Since the baby was born he has expressed a great deal of anger and resentment towards me for things that happened 14 years ago when his father and I divorced. This one has a twist followup in the comments....are you ready? 14 years ago: quote:His father was doing crystal meth with him and his girl friend. He had also "disappeared" $38,000 from our joint bank account. I figured he was not just using but dealing. When I found out I left and I told my son I would rather see him in jail then addicted to meth. I started asking around to see what ex-H's adult friends knew and was planning to use it against x-H in court. x-H asked to go through mediation instead and we split things up without a court hearing. No body got into any legal trouble.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:22 |
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Pussy Quipped posted:"and I have no car and nothing is in walking distance to the apartment. " Maybe she's actually a bird and when the lights went out she just assumed it was time to sleep and sat completely still until the boyfriend came home?
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:24 |
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zakharov posted:Maybe I'm a big softie but fears aren't always rational and if my fiancee called me and begged me to come home because she was freaked out I'd go She won't learn anything if you coddle her.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:28 |
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zakharov posted:Maybe I'm a big softie but fears aren't always rational and if my fiancee called me and begged me to come home because she was freaked out I'd go Same but because I'm thinking of my SO in this situation. I have friends who have had or have super-ultra-needy SOs that have never dealt with a problem on their own in their entire life.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:30 |
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I think she's being a baby, but the guy could have been nicer, what I would have done (because my SO is somewhat like this, although once I walk her through stuff once, everything's good), is something similar to: 1) Take her phone call 2) Ask her if the neighbors have power 3a) neighbors do ahve power, check the breaker and flip any in the OFF position 3b) neighbors do not have power, call the power company and inform of outage 4) sexy time when I get home.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:37 |
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Adults who can't handle the power going out probably can't handle any other activity without help either.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:47 |
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I lost power yesterday and we had a tornado warning and all I did was lay on the sofa with my puppers shitposting. Then I went out cause puppers wanted to sit under an overhang and try to eat rain out of the air. It was funny then the power came back on and I went back to playing video games. Being 14 or over is really hard. In short, bone app the teeth posted:Adults who can't handle the power going out probably can't handle any other activity without help either.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:48 |
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bone app the teeth posted:Adults who can't handle the power going out probably can't handle any other activity without help either. Exactly. That's why you need to teach your kids to handle this stuff. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpURRW80LnM
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:51 |
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Facebook Aunt posted:Exactly. That's why you need to teach your kids to handle this stuff. This could be part of the issue, my father and mother taught my brothers and me how to do all sorts of stuff growing up, like here's the fuse box, here's how you know a breaker popped etc. My SO on the other hand was not taught this and I showed her the first time we had an issue and she didn't know how to do it. Some things you will have knowledge gaps in, giving this woman the benefit of the doubt, which is why I would (if presented with his situation) taken 5-10 minutes on the phone to walk through troubleshooting steps with her to figure out what to do and how to do it.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 00:56 |
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Eh, I don't think she gets the benefit of the doubt. She says in the comment they live in a very storm-prone area, so this can't be the first time her power has gone out.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:04 |
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It's not like she had crack open the circuit panel and start checking voltages, it's basic problem solving skills. I have no light and need light to see. Whelp better curl up into the fetal position until someone can come save me.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:06 |
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I feel like we're skipping over the "friends have left their wives in the hospital to go play Magic" line. While yes, this was not an emergency, I can see how her mind started racing about what-ifs and realizing he won't give a gently caress.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:10 |
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Trevor Hale posted:I feel like we're skipping over the "friends have left their wives in the hospital to go play Magic" line. While yes, this was not an emergency, I can see how her mind started racing about what-ifs and realizing he won't give a gently caress.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:11 |
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zakharov posted:Maybe I'm a big softie but fears aren't always rational and if my fiancee called me and begged me to come home because she was freaked out I'd go Me either but I also wouldn't be getting this kind of calls over a power outage in the first place. It's kind of a Catch-22 where if one person is going to blow up another person's phone in a panic over something the other person considers so trivial they can completely ignore it, they shouldn't be together.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:14 |
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Trevor Hale posted:I feel like we're skipping over the "friends have left their wives in the hospital to go play Magic" line. While yes, this was not an emergency, I can see how her mind started racing about what-ifs and realizing he won't give a gently caress. That line could also easily be interpreted as quote:My wife is in the hospital for a few days because of health issues, so after a few hours of visiting with her on day 2 of 4 I hosed off to my buddys to play Magic
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:18 |
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quote:My Boyfriend [26 M] and I [30F] have been together 6 years and he has admitted to sleeping with his Gay Best friend [28M] last month. He says it isn't cheating and I'm over reacting. Am I?
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:34 |
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It's cheating, and he's totally gay
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:43 |
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quote:Boyfriend says it isn't cheating if you sleep with someone of the same sex but aren't gay yourself.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:45 |
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quote:He then suggested that if I wanted to get even I had his PERMISSION to go sleep with another girl! Man, the titanic balls on this guy.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:46 |
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Not sure whether to be mad at the BF for those mental gymnastics or the GF for being an obtuse moron
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:46 |
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I wish people would say "had sex with" if that's what the mean. Merely sleeping with someone wouldn't be cheating.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:47 |
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Nazzadan posted:That line could also easily be interpreted as I think that is kind of poo poo though? Different strokes, I guess.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:49 |
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"It's not really cheating, it was just an experiment -- oh, and we got a big single bed so we could cuddle." Was there also breakfast in bed and a luxurious whirlpool bath? Rose petals? Candles?
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:49 |
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Syndic Thrass posted:It's cheating, and he's totally gay
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:49 |
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Antivehicular posted:"It's not really cheating, it was just an experiment -- oh, and we got a big single bed so we could cuddle." Was there also breakfast in bed and a luxurious whirlpool bath? Rose petals? Candles? "Oh, I'm gay alright... gay for this incredibly tasteful ambience!"
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:56 |
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gay, not gay, not cheating, touching dudes butts with my dick is just fine. The fact that he lied about it and tried to hide it definitely makes it worse, like it could be somewhat forgivable (maybe depending on the person...), but he definitely knew what he did was wrong and cheating because he tried to hide it.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 01:58 |
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Trevor Hale posted:I think that is kind of poo poo though? Different strokes, I guess. I love my girlfriend to death, but if she was in a planned hospital visit for multiple days, I'm not going to spend every minute that I'm not asleep or at work by her side. Maybe my girlfriend should
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 02:01 |
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I have real life friends who create a distinction between "betraying the trust of your SO" and "hiding something that your SO will reasonably find incredibly devastating and hurtful but it's okay i'm not a bad person" and I don't really get how that works. I guess this story about the not-gay gay bf didn't really help, but it's got my anyway
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 02:01 |
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Nazzadan posted:I love my girlfriend to death, but if she was in a planned hospital visit for multiple days, I'm not going to spend every minute that I'm not asleep or at work by her side. No poo poo. This is what what that Meatloaf song was about.
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# ? Dec 2, 2016 02:02 |