Antivehicular posted:

This woman sounds insufferable but the dude also sounds like a tiiiiny bit of a weiner, although I guess that depends on just how goddamn insane the Protoss porn is.

datajugend posted:

Im gonna guess the banned word is rape, so some of that is detailed rape porn. Are you really a weiner if you freak out about your wife spending all day writing rape porn with her internet friends?

datajugend posted:

Im gonna guess the banned word is rape, so some of that is detailed rape porn. Are you really a weiner if you freak out about your wife spending all day writing rape porn with her internet friends?

Antivehicular posted:

No way in hell this dad isn't on the autism spectrum. Also, uh... did any of his books actually get published, or is this in a weird vanity-publishing/fanfic place?

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I [27/F] was ghosted by my boyfriend [28/M] of 7 years.
Breakups
submitted 6 hours ago by lavender55

Even typing this out will be painful.

My boyfriend and I were together for 7 years. Those 7 years were overall wonderful. We shared (or so I thought) the same life plans and goals and we were so compatible that everything felt so natural. Our families became close and spent a lot of time together. We hadn't been in a hurry to marry but we had been talking about it a lot the past 2 years and more frequently recently. He knew it was something I wanted and he said it was what he wanted too. We made a great team and I was looking forward to being a part of that team for a long time.

....until he ghosted me.

I can't even believing I am typing this out. My best friend and partner of 7 years ghosted me.

The timeline here is 2 weeks. This happened 2 weeks ago on a Sunday.

2 weeks ago (Sunday) we were having dinner at my mom's house like normal. Everything seemed fine. Afterwards, we went over to my house and looked at houses (we were looking to buy soon) online and watch Netflix. He started acting a little strange, getting annoyed at me over things he usually doesn't. He just seemed moody. He left around 7 to go home.

During the week we don't really see each other much because we work crazy hours (both work at hospitals). We usually only see each other Friday-Sunday. We do keep in touch primarily through texting throughout the work week.

So the next day (Monday) I texted him some funny thing that happened at work. I got no reply all day, but figured he was busy (he is not the fastest texter in the world) and didn't think anything of it.

Tuesday I texted him about something else and asked him to call me when he got home. No reply. I called him that night and he didn't answer so I left I voicemail.

Wednesday, I heard nothing all day and tried calling him again that night. No answer. I saw he was online on Facebook and sent him a message asking him to call me. Nothing. Okay, this was weird.

Thursday went by and again nothing. No replies to any voicemails, messages, texts, nothing. I texted his mom and asked if she had heard from him and she said he stopped by there on his lunch break. I decided to drive to his (about 30 minutes from me) to see if he was OK or what was going on. When I got there his car was gone but the lights were on. I texted him and told him I was there and asked if he was OK. I waited in my car (I don't have a key and he keeps his with him.) for a little while and he never showed so I went back home.

I called my best friend (who is a good friend of his as well) and asked if she had talked to him and she said no but she would try to get ahold of him. I went to sleep and the next day (Friday) I had off and so did my friend. She texted me the next morning and said she had talked to him and was going to come over for coffee.

She said they talked on the phone and he told her he just didn't want to be in the relationship anymore but was afraid of telling me because he didn't want me to become depressed again. (I have battled depression for years but I have always stayed on top of it the best I could and gotten help when needed).
I have still not spoken to him and that was over a week ago that I spoke with my friend about it and 2 weeks since I saw or spoke with him.

I am beyond hurt and confused. If he was unhappy, I wish he would have just told me. It would have still hurt after 7 years, but the way he has gone about this makes me feel worse.

I have not gone over to his house because its clear he doesn't want me in his life anymore and I am scared of looking like a psycho. But, I just don't feel "right" about ending it without him even talking to me. I know that closure is something you have to do for yourself, but ghosting after SEVEN years? I can't even describe the level of hurt I am facing.

What do I do? Do I try to talk to him or not? We have a lot of stuff at each others houses. Not just clothes and toothbrushes, but more expensive things.
I just can't believe things ended up this way.

tl;dr: My boyfriend ghosted me after 7 years of being together. It's been 2 weeks since we saw each other or talked. He spoke with my best friend and told her he "didn't want to be in the relationship anymore". I haven't heard a peep from him and not sure what to do.

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My best friend who might as well be my brother went through the same agony. His ex ghosted him for a month while dancing along mutual friends and her friends and making everyone think they were fine since he immediately shut down and wouldn't make his feelings clear. Me wanting to help I called some of our friends up wondering if she was okay and blew her spot up. My friend and I met, gathered her poo poo, gave it to her parents and burnt the sentimental mementos.
Several months later I hear whispers that she wants back with him but at this point he was so done with her I was worried he'd flip out if the two ran into each other which did happen close to Christmas. She tried to stop us while we were at the mall getting some gifts and he walked around. She persisted till he stopped, looked her dead in the eye and said "who are you? I seriously don't know you and I'm not comfortable with you touching me." Ex proceeds to have a meltdown and cry, screaming why he won't just talk to her. "I don't believe in ghosts." Was the only thing he said and we kept on walking.

artichoke posted:

The best is from one of the comments:

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She persisted till he stopped, looked her dead in the eye and said "who are you? I seriously don't know you and I'm not comfortable with you touching me."

Benagain posted:

No, but you are if you excitedly show someone else the Starcraft 2 cinematics.

artichoke posted:

WampaLord posted:

Holy gently caress that's one of the cruelest things I've ever read.

artichoke posted:

She persisted till he stopped, looked her dead in the eye and said "who are you? I seriously don't know you and I'm not comfortable with you touching me." Ex proceeds to have a meltdown and cry, screaming why he won't just talk to her. "I don't believe in ghosts." Was the only thing he said and we kept on walking.

LethalGeek posted:

Holy hell that's brutal.

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Hey everyone, so I have a bit of a conundrum. I have been with my fiance for over two years, and I've always known I was in to swinging. However last year I discovered that sex clubs are a thing.

Before that I had no clue how to go about even starting swinging, so I left it as an unobtainable fantasy but now it seems like a possibility.

So my question is basically how do I go about approaching my fiance with my kink of swinging? I don't want to hurt his feelings by telling him I want to gently caress other people. But I do, men and women. I want to watch him with another woman too. I just don't know how to have this conversation.

Pick posted:

she went back in time... TO gently caress

Antivehicular posted:

It turns out Adolf Hitler never got around to marrying or impregnating Eva Braun because he was too worn out from all the historical sex tourists sapping his precious bodily fluids. Thus was our timeline spared Adolf Hitler II: The Revenge.

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My boyfriend [25M] is overly paranoid about me [23F] wanting to get pregnant NOW.... I don't.Relationships
181 points 99 comments submitted 1 year ago by paranoid_bf to /r/relationships

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. And we've been very happy. Recently, however, my boyfriend has become increasingly paranoid that I want to have a baby now, but I don't. At all.

Background

When we first started dating, we both found out that we do have opposite views on things. Children is the biggest one: I would like kids one day, and he wants nothing to do with them. We both are well aware of this and know we won't last. But we're both happy now, and we're both young and I don't want kids yet. So we're sticking together until I at least graduate college and start my career.

Problem

I'm on a very effective birth control. It's an implant that's 99% effective, and we use spermicide on top of that. He also pulls out. But every time I have a stomach ache, or feel a little dizzy, or god forbid I wake up feeling a little nauseous in the morning, he immediately jumps on the "OH poo poo YOUR PREGNANT" train.

I try to calm him down but he never listens until I take a test. The first few times I did just to make him feel better. But now it's just ridiculous and a waste of money in my opinion. It's one thing if I woke up this way every morning or felt dizzy or cramped multiple times a day. But Jesus, sometimes you just wake up and you're not feeling on the up-and-up, you know?

I recently went to my ob/gyn for a check up. As it turns out I just have a cyst on an ovary (not uncommon as most women know) and was given a prescription and went about my business. Boyfriend asked my how it went, and I told him what happened. I was laughing about it because they had to take a transvaginal ultrasound (it's like in internal x-ray). I got to see the screen as she was taking pictures, and I jokingly asked the doctor if it was quadruplets. He FREAKED OUT.

I asked him what his problem was, and told him I was just making a joke with my doctor to lighten the mood a little bit, since an x-ray stick thing was IN MY VAGINA. I was just trying to make myself feel more comfortable so I made a joke!

He asks me if I'm trying to get pregnant. What. I told him no, of course not. I'm 23 years old, I'm not ready to be a mother. He kept claiming I have baby fever and I want to get knocked up now so he would have to stay. I told him that I'm well aware that this plan is ridiculous and NEVER works. Why would I want to put my hypothetical child in the middle of that?

He then brought up how friendly I am with our mutual friends kids [5M and 7M]. And I told him of course I would be, because I love kids. Am I supposed to ignore children completely while we're together? Because I won't. I have 4 nieces and 8 nephews... Am I supposed to ignore them when we go to gatherings? He says "You know what I mean."

He went on to say that he plans on getting the male birth control Vasalgel when human trials begin. And I could see on his face he was trying to gage a reaction from me. He was actively looking to see if I looked disappointed. And I told him "Who's trying to stop you? I'm certainly not. If that's what you want, then do it!" And he just huffed and drove me home.

I just felt accused with no evidence to back it up. My birth control is implanted in my arm, I can't NOT be on birth control for the next 2 years. He makes well on his end of the deal with spermicide and pulling out. What does he want from me?

I know that someday we're gonna break up, but I'm not looking for my forever partner right now, I want to have fun, and I'm happy with him now. He's a very loving person, but this sudden accusation and his refusal to just listen was not okay. How do I convince him to simmer down, and literally no babies are taking up residence over here for a long while? Is there a way for me to comfort him?

tl;dr: Boyfriend does not want children, and accused me of trying to get pregnant, where I do not want children for quite some time.

Antivehicular posted:

It turns out Adolf Hitler never got around to marrying or impregnating Eva Braun because he was too worn out from all the historical sex tourists sapping his precious bodily fluids. Thus was our timeline spared Adolf Hitler II: The Revenge.

Andrast posted:

Why are all these people dating someone who they apparently don't trust at all?

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]My [24f] boyfriend [28m]of 1.5 year put gum in my hair and I had to cut it off. Now he says he's not attracted to me.◉ Locked Post ◉
682 points 250 comments submitted 2 years ago by badhairgf to /r/relationships

It sounds worse than it is I think... about three weeks ago my boyfriend and I were joking around. He took a huge wad of gum and stuck it in my hair. My hair was down to my tailbone and I loved it. It took me a long time to grow it out. But in the end it was just hair to me, and so I had to cut it to get the gum out. I'd tried everything and it just made it worse. So I went with as nice a short haircut as I could pull off. It's just a little shorter than chin length.

But my boyfriend has been really weird about it. He's been less sexual with me lately, has been rejecting my advances. He's even avoided going to parties with me or going out on public dates and is suddenly more into staying at home and just not being around other people. I had enough of it and asked him what was going on, and he said that he couldn't find himself attracted to me with short hair. That I looked like a boy, or that it just wasn't very feminine. I asked him how he wanted me to fix it, since obviously I can't make my hair grow, and he suggested that I get extensions, if I could. He even offered to pay for some since the hair removal was partially his fault.

I asked him if he was really less attracted to me just because my hair is shorter than when we first met, and he said yes, and said something about how women with short hair are "damaged" that women are supposed to have long hair, and that he just doesn't like it. It made me feel really bad, but I did ask him about it so I guess it's my fault.

He told me that it was up to me what I would do about it, but that he can't change the fact that he's hardwired to find feminitiy attractive, that girls in porn look that way for a reason, etc. I asked him if maybe dressing more girly would help, and he said no.

On the one hand I get his point, I know attraction is really important. But on the other hand, shouldn't he like me for more than just that at this point? Shouldn't a relationship be about more than 'your hair is ugly' or something? I don't know.

tl;dr: after a haircut my boyfriend isn't attracted to me anymore and wants me to get extensions until it grows out.

Pick posted:

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Hi all, I have never posted to this sub before so if I do something wrong let me know please.

I am 15 and I hate my hair. I'm not the kind of girl who's always crying about how she's having a bad hair day, I just hate my hair how it is. It's starting to become more an issue than it's been, and it's always been an issue.

Let me explain from the start. In every picture when I was little I always had really long hair. Like down to my tailbone long. Being little, like toddler or grade school, I suppose I never thought of it much. I do remember not liking things about it then, tho.

I am on the autism spectrum. I'm very high functioning and most of my issues are sensory. I remember my mother washing my hair and combing the tangles out and it would always hurt, a lot. She would get frustrated with me that it couldn't hurt as much as I said but it did. It was also very hot in the summers and she would pull it into a ponytail, which I didn't like the feeling of because it pulled. She made me wear headbands to keep it out of my eyes in school and some of those would dig into the sides of my head. My classmates and relatives would always want to braid and play with it but I don't like that because I don't really like to be touched that much.

My hair is still very long, like to mid back, and I still hate it. Puberty has changed its texture, it's fine like it's always been, but more dry and grows in thicker. I've tried so many products to get it to look decent, and anything for moisture/frizz just makes it look greasy and even flatter than it already looks. I have no options with it. I can't curl it because it doesn't hold, so it's wear it down like a set of curtains, or pull it back. It takes forever to wash and dry.

I hate, hate, hate it. I have always wanted a short cut. Like really short. Boy/pixie short. I've tried to show my mother pictures that it is really versatile - you can slick it back, spike it up, part it on the side and wear it sleek, wear barettes, leave it naturally "messy", you can do so many things with the same short cut. Even when we're talking SHORT, like 2". I would just love to be able to get out of the shower, rub a little gel in, mess it up and go. It can still look "pretty" for formal events.

She won't let me do it. I know its a big change and she thinks I would hate it. I know I won't, but I ALREADY hate it. Like what, short will be worse? I tried to compromise and ask if I could do a lob, or shoulder length layers, just to see how I like shorter, and she said she isn't going to pay "to have my pretty hair chopped up" and why would I want to "ruin my pretty hair".
IT'S NOT PRETTY!!! I HATE IT!!!! I hate how it looks, I hate dealing with it, I've actually cried getting ready in the mornings because I have to spend an hour on this ton of awful, lifeless hair that I think TAKES AWAY from my looks. I'm really sporty/casual, kind of a tomboy, and I don't even think it suits my style. No hate to people who do but I'm not the kind of girl who WANTS to spend that kind of time on hair. It's 2-3 hrs a day all total if I have gym that day, on HAIR. And that's just to get it to look "bad" instead of "terrible".

I get bullied for it too. It seems like my mother (my father passed away when I was 6, btw, in an accident, so it's just us) has this whole identity for me that revolves around hair that I can't stand. Does she think I won't be the same person with short hair?

Is there another way I can talk to her about this? Should I just try to get a little money and go have it cut on my own? Why is she even being this way? Even if it was a phase (it's not) it's just hair, if I don't like it I could grow it out again. I'll consider any suggestions I get, and yes she knows that I feel everything I have told you guys.

tl;dr I hate my overly long, bad hair. I want a short cut but if I sugggest doing ANYTHING different with it, my mother acts like I've killed a puppy. What should I do?

Breetai posted:

Well poo poo; my ex-girlfriend had short hair when I first met her and when she was mulling over it I encouraged her to get a pixie cut because they're loving cute, so I guess that I'm some sort of homotronic fagbot fueled by pure sweaty manmusk and the bed-scrapings of an Elton John/Freddie Mercury/Liberace dogpile.

Pick posted:

Yep

Breetai posted:

Pick drops the mic like:

HopperUK posted:

Who is this lady please? I love her and wish to be her.