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Mirthless posted:She keeps different hours than him and holds that against him. He's the one who has to be at work in the morning. Given how you post I am pretty sure you must realize it is not necessary to work most of the daylight hours
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Mirthless posted:She keeps different hours than him and holds that against him. He's the one who has to be at work in the morning. I guess but expecting a 19 year old to go to bed every night at 10pm and have no social life as a result is pretty silly. quote:I've told her that I'm very busy and can't stay up having sex or going out but she argues and cries saying I don't love her and that she's always alone (she has girlfriends over most days, though).
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Not sure how much quicker than "literally 8 minutes" you can get, heck I'm jealous of anyone who doesn't lie awake at least 1 hour on the reg
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YeahTubaMike posted:it's "funny" (in a terrible way) that it apparently hasn't occurred to him that having sex will help him fall asleep quicker stress probably makes sex a chore for him. all the more reason he shouldn't be swimming in a pool of debt and working an 80 hour a week job with an infant and a new wife.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:workaholics are legit the shittiest people I'm doing this for you!! *doesn't text you for multiple weeks* *is your god damned spouse*
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YeahTubaMike posted:it's "funny" (in a terrible way) that it apparently hasn't occurred to him that having sex will help him fall asleep quicker Look, he can fall asleep in twelve minutes, as is. If we add sex into this equation we may find that, despite time between 'settling' and 'sleeping' being shortened, when we look at the overall time taken...
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:workaholics are legit the shittiest people
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Pick posted:Given how you post I am pretty sure you must realize it is not necessary to work most of the daylight hours Of course. I wasn't defending that, at all. Moridin920 posted:I guess but expecting a 19 year old to go to bed every night at 10pm and have no social life as a result is pretty silly. If his hours are crazy, he can't take her out all the time, and getting mad at him for it is unreasonable. Edit: What I'm saying is, these are the circumstances they are currently in as a couple. He should be trying to change the situation and she should probably accept that this is how things are right now and give him some time to fix it. Of course, the answer to their problem is obvious - he needs to find a new job that doesn't demand all of his time. In the meantime, he should probably do what most americans do when they get married and just stop loving exercising in the mornings. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 23:51 on Jan 31, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:She keeps different hours than him and holds that against him. He's the one who has to be at work in the morning. He does need to get to work, I grant you, but he's still intentionally worked out a routine that means he gives himself a good few hours of me-time while giving absolutely no time to doing things with his wife, save for the 'rare' treat of going past his 9:58 bedtime. Like, time to oneself is important, but the girl is crying over how alone she feels and he just handwaves it as "but other human beings have shared your space recently????"
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"Just gonna get UP and get some SOFT-SERVE, maybe go bounce on some YOGA BALLS while I play some X-BOX" *ducks into a corner and texts his wife 'i love you'*
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Parsley posted:Like, time to oneself is important, but the girl is crying over how alone she feels and he just handwaves it as "but other human beings have shared your space recently????" Well her social needs bar is full isn't it?????
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Parsley posted:He does need to get to work, I grant you, but he's still intentionally worked out a routine that means he gives himself a good few hours of me-time while giving absolutely no time to doing things with his wife, save for the 'rare' treat of going past his 9:58 bedtime. the exercise routine is really crazy, i have to say, I just don't get why he would prioritize this over sex and conversation with his wife
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Moridin920 posted:Well her social needs bar is full isn't it????? 
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Mirthless posted:If his hours are crazy, he can't take her out all the time, and getting mad at him for it is unreasonable. Edit: What I'm saying is, these are the circumstances they are currently in as a couple. He should be trying to change the situation and she should probably accept that this is how things are right now and give him some time to fix it. Sounds like she isn't asking for "all the time" but literally once in a while and that is too much even. 97% of all days he doesn't go to bed past 10pm. That's once a month they gently caress or go socialize with friends or whatever. If that's the situation now and he is gonna change it okay but I feel like he isn't even acknowledging her concerns because he's going "I don't get it, she says she is alone all the time but she has friends over..." which I promise you from the wife's perspective = "he doesn't' care about how I am feeling" which is why is upset in the first place and saying he doesn't love her. I mean you're right; I just feel like there is a greater issue here bc he doesn't even seem to get why she is upset really. If he communicated with her she would prolly be open to "poo poo sucks now but it'll get better I promise bae" but as it is now he is asking Reddit about why she is so upset. She's not doing anything wrong just voicing her concerns/feelings. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 23:54 on Jan 31, 2017 |
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Moridin920 posted:Sounds like she isn't asking for "all the time" but literally once in a while and that is too much even. 97% of all days he doesn't go to bed past 10pm. That's 3/100 days they gently caress or go socialize with friends or whatever. 
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Moridin920 posted:Sounds like she isn't asking for "all the time" but literally once in a while and that is too much even. 97% of all days he doesn't go to bed past 10pm. That's 3/100 days they gently caress or go socialize with friends or whatever. He seems to think the only thing that matters is things, judging by his comment history. Jesus, this post: quote:The beautiful homes, Rolls-Royce cars, and other big purchases are in big monthly payments. If I quit, I'd likely end up with nothing, bad credit, and another problem.  this guy is a programmer and he owns rolls royces and multiple homes. how loving stupid do you have to be? this isn't finance, dude, if you have to make monthly payments on it you shouldn't own a rolls royce i don't even think it's autism, i think this guy was raised by rich people who hated each other
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"Dear Reddit, how do I more optimally gaslight my partner so she's not so hysterical?"
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Mirthless posted:this guy is a programmer and he owns rolls royces and multiple homes. how loving stupid do you have to be? lol yeah that dude is Bad With Money for sure. Sounds like he graduated college and got a decent engineer income but never had any experience handling finances or budgeting or anything and just literally used his credit to the hilt ASAP. quote:The beautiful homes, Rolls-Royce cars, and other big purchases are in big monthly payments. If I quit, I'd likely end up with nothing, bad credit, and another problem. Like stop making big purchases, sell the loving cars you goddamn nitwit, maaaybe keep the other property around (let a company manage/rent it for you) depending on potential income stream but either way goddamn man get rid of all your poo poo that you can't afford. Why is the only option here 'continue never seeing my pregnant wife or bankruptcy.' Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 23:59 on Jan 31, 2017 |
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Moridin920 posted:lol yeah that dude is Bad With Money for sure. Sounds like he graduated college and got a decent engineer income but never had any experience handling finances or budgeting or anything and just literally used his credit to the hilt ASAP. "Well, I'm making six figures now, I guess the reasonable thing to do is make sure I'm spending my whole paycheck every month"
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so, do you think his wife would be really super unhappy if they moved into a 3 bedroom luxury apartment and downsized their multiple rolls royces to a pair of brand new his and hers BMWs? it's like this guy doesn't understand you can be rich without living like you're a billionaire
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The important thing is I died owning a lot of things
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Kurieg posted:If he doesn't ever have spontaneous sex with his wife, and she's somehow pregnant, that probably means that they literally scheduled the conception sex. I don't see her as a broodmare or a mothering unit, however I impregnated her on a timetable and intend no interaction with the offsprangs
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But the child unit will get the best Barbies and/or Hot Wheels!
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Back a bit but I can't  hard enough when I hear someone going on about being demisexual. I really don't know when "Normal" needed it's own fake sexuality & flag.
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I kinda wonder if there's anything else, like if he was letting all non-work aspects of his life go I'd assume there was some depression there and stuff would make more sense but him still doing exercise and such while not being able to make time to bone his wife just seems so random.
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Far as workaholic dipshit I copied that to someone and they asked me why he's even married. My response "SOCIAL.exe requires the Wife plugin in order to maximize score"
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Nissin Cup Nudist posted:How did those two get married to begin with? She confused his workaholism for ambition.
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"Your wife was last seen three weeks ago. Why didn't you report her missing to the police?" "My wife is missing!?"
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Homeboy is such a  the "girlfriends" are probably her many, many lovers hiding cross dressed in plain sight, Ms. Doubtfire style.
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Pick posted:i invited someone over to my place and they saw an animation cel from a movie and their immediate response was "wow, that movie is a piece of poo poo, why do you own this? you don't like that loving movie do you?" I'm not going to complement your Ralph Bakshi cels from Cool World, no matter how hard you want me to.
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Moridin920 posted:lol yeah that dude is Bad With Money for sure. Sounds like he graduated college and got a decent engineer income but never had any experience handling finances or budgeting or anything and just literally used his credit to the hilt ASAP. You don't get it man, he likes those cars. Wifey's just going to have to deal.
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Pick posted:For real though, it's hard, I mean, come on. Who hasn't had someone they thought was a friend, and then 2 years in they drop a comment about how child pornography isn't "a big deal" and you're like oh yeah this is why i don't hang out with compsci students I've experienced the extreme case of this twice. I developed deep, trusting relationships with two different men in two different states, different socio-economic classes, different races, etc. These were people I would have bled for. One day I wake up, and they're in jail for loving special needs children in their care. These two relationships were back to back over about four-five years. Goddamn it if I don't still try my hardest to love and trust those around me. Sure, this really hosed me up for a long time, but I'm not going to let a couple of kid fiddlers ruin my interpersonal relationships. Yes, I talk about this in therapy sometimes. Yes I got extremely depressed and it was a contributing factor towards me planning suicide (how poo poo was I as a person to fall for this twice?) but I never stopped giving all I could to my friends and trying to reach out to others. That's really the only reason I didn't end things. I needed people and they sure as poo poo needed me. Neither were compsci though. White, middle-class art student and Latino, lower-class wage-slave.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I [22/m] don't understand why I can't be with my ex [20/f]. Is there a way to persuade her? lol first off lol coach. Second why would he leave the part about his lovely underwear in the post? He could have replaced it with any number of things.
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