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WampaLord posted:That doesn't at all mean she deserves to be psychologically tortured over these mistakes for months. No one deserves that, what the boyfriend is doing is the relationship equivalent of cruel and unusual punishment. I never said she deserves anything, I said the BF was acting like a lunatic  You posted "sins" in quotes like she was somehow an innocent in the situation, when it seems fairly clear that she's done a number of things that most people would dump her for.
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Yeah they should because it almost seems like he takes some perverse enjoyment over making her feel ashamed. I don't see how it could be anything other than that. Dude is creepy as gently caress.
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Gerblyn posted:I never said she deserves anything, I said the BF was acting like a lunatic She doesn't have to be 100% innocent for me to sympathize with her, considering how terrible the BF is being. Sorry for your lack of empathy?
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Bubblyblubber posted:That lede was burried so deep loving lava came out when I noticed it on a second read. It's only lava if it comes out a volcano.  Breakfast chat: 7 to 8 is really early and kind of a jerky thing to do since most nerds tend to be night owls. I live in silicon valley and the earliest you can get hot food at one major company is 8am. Cutting perks is basically cutting salary, because they probably factored into your decision of whether to join the company in the first place. Most people wouldn't be happy to be suddenly informed that they'll arbitrarily get $10 less a week.
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Beachcomber posted:It's only lava if it comes out a volcano. Esp. if you bust your rear end for the company all the time and are already feeling like you're not valued by your employer enough It's amazing how much an irrelevant perk getting cut can hurt when you're under a lovely workload
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WampaLord posted:She doesn't have to be 100% innocent for me to sympathize with her, considering how terrible the BF is being. Sorry for your lack of empathy? I'm sorry, I thought calling the boyfriend a lunatic who was either straight out evil or destructively delusional would have been enough to make the point that I do, in fact, have sympathy with her situation, but I can see now that my post was a little too subtle for you.
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WampaLord posted:No, she cheated on previous partners. she did cheat on him, though: quote:Let me just start of by saying I am a bad girlfriend. Please have no sympathy. In the past, I have slept with more than 10 people, cheated on my ex , called my current boyfriend and his family and friends a lot of bad names and even accidentally called him by my ex's name, I've also lied about who I had slept with to my boyfriend , been in contact with these people and I flirted with an older man while in a relationship with my bf to get money. I've done a lot of awful things and he has done a few. Perhaps. Boyfriend is unhinged and being abusive but his girlfriend is a habitual liar who is incapable of monogamy. She never specifically states she's never cheated on her boyfriend (omission is not a denial, as we have learned from so many of these posts) and the information she offers is, at the very least, a history of emotional infidelity and untrustworthy behavior. They should  but I doubt this guy was always so crazy and controlling. Given her age, that's a hell of a history to fit into such a short period of time and at least some of it was probably occurring within the confines of her existing relationship.edit: Just so we're clear tho quote:the boyfriend is a lunatic who is either straight out evil or destructively delusional
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No..no I'm going to agree with the poster who said they shouldn't sever and should just be stuck making one another miserable instead of potentially inflicting their horrible personalities on others
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Feb 2, 2017 15:42
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Mirthless posted:she did cheat on him, though: No, words mean things.
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54 40 or gently caress posted:No..no I'm going to agree with the poster who said they shouldn't sever and should just be stuck making one another miserable instead of potentially inflicting their horrible personalities on others yeah this is probably a good point they should probably also look into not having kids so: quote:I flirted with an older man while in a relationship with my bf to get money What do you guys think "flirting" counts as, to her? A friend of the family used to do this, and her definition of flirting was cooking dinner for him naked and then blowing him edit: WampaLord posted:No, words mean things. If making sexual advances on another man for monetary gain doesn't count as cheating to you, you're a very forgiving partner or you're really naive about how sugar daddy relationships work Mirthless fucked around with this message at 15:47 on Feb 2, 2017 |
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Why do we need this dedicated effort to point out that the tortured person is bad too?
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WampaLord posted:Why do we need this dedicated effort to point out that the tortured person is bad too? Because we're looking at fish in an aquarium, and not dishing out advice to somebody in an abusive situation
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Feb 2, 2017 15:52
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WampaLord posted:Why do we need this dedicated effort to point out that the tortured person is bad too? this is watching jerry springer, so yeah p much
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She is, by the way, entitled to not have told him anything about her sexual history and the fact alone that he's making her talk about it with him "as punishment" is unacceptable as it is. Just the thought process of an adult who is making another adult do something "as punishment" within the context of a relationship is hosed up. Break up with her or get over it. Talk about how you feel like you can't trust her, but what is buying his ticket going to do for him other than breed resentment. Even if he is paying all the bills every month, that's a thing he agrees to do, not something she's making him do.
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54 40 or gently caress posted:No..no I'm going to agree with the poster who said they shouldn't sever and should just be stuck making one another miserable instead of potentially inflicting their horrible personalities on others I'm going to break consensus and point out this is the kind of situation convents and monasteries exist for
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WampaLord posted:Why do we need this dedicated effort to point out that the tortured person is bad too? punished "venom" snake did some pretty questionable things, but I dunno if I'd say he's a bad guy
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Mirthless posted:What do you guys think "flirting" counts as, to her? A friend of the family used to do this, and her definition of flirting was cooking dinner for him naked and then blowing him Dude your idea of flirting might be a bit skewed here...
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Ouhei posted:Dude your idea of flirting might be a bit skewed here... Mirthless posted:or you're really naive about how sugar daddy relationships work A big part of how these arrangements operate is plausible (or implausible) deniability that they're doing sex work You'd be surprised by what doesn't count as sex when you're getting paid for it and don't do sex work normally
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Eponine posted:Even if he is paying all the bills every month, that's a thing he agrees to do, not something she's making him do. Yeah, I probably shouldn't really have mentioned that, because it's not that relevant as far as the blame game goes. I only brought it up since (if it is indeed true) it might go some way to explain why he's treating her like a child/personal possession in his treatment of her, a sort of "I pay for all this, and you still treat me like crap, I'll show you!" kind of thing. I guess I did imply that this somehow justified his actions, which wasn't really my intention. Sorry!
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Eponine posted:She is, by the way, entitled to not have told him anything about her sexual history and the fact alone that he's making her talk about it with him "as punishment" is unacceptable as it is. Just the thought process of an adult who is making another adult do something "as punishment" within the context of a relationship is hosed up. Break up with her or get over it. Talk about how you feel like you can't trust her, but what is buying his ticket going to do for him other than breed resentment. Even if he is paying all the bills every month, that's a thing he agrees to do, not something she's making him do. Agreed, to be sure. Even if it's accurate to say his trust issues are her fault (and it's probably not, at least not entirely) the way he acts is entirely on him and if he can't trust her at all anymore, to this degree, then he needs to end the relationship rather than be a crazy person obsessing about her past.
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Zelder posted:punished "venom" snake did some pretty questionable things, but I dunno if I'd say he's a bad guy Yes and much like her, he admitted he was already a demon
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I [23 M] upset my GF[19F] of 3 months with how a text I sent shooting down a date from a coworker [25 F] who didn't know I was dating someonequote:So my girlfriend won't speak to me and I need advice to win her back.
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Zelder posted:punished "venom" snake did some pretty questionable things, but I dunno if I'd say he's a bad guy My [52M] girlfriend [?F] won't speak to me, what did I do wrong?
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I [23 M] upset my GF[19F] of 3 months with how a text I sent shooting down a date from a coworker [25 F] who didn't know I was dating someone quote:We stayed on the line together over 6 hours. She had me muted and initially black-screened. About an hour in, she showed her face and let me talk while she was still muted because I texted her that I wanted to talk about it. But she eventually turned the screen away from her face and gave no indication that she was really listening. I spent the rest of the time muted, with the screen facing a wall or a bookshelf. I would talk, but get no response.  
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Mirthless posted:A big part of how these arrangements operate is plausible (or implausible) deniability that they're doing sex work I think you're making a jump to the sugar-daddy relationship thing, though a reasonable jump since "flirted with older men for money" is probably something along those lines. I was more making a joke around that being way beyond what any reasonable person would consider flirting.
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Ouhei posted:I think you're making a jump to the sugar-daddy relationship thing, though a reasonable jump since "flirted with older men for money" is probably something along those lines. I was more making a joke around that being way beyond what any reasonable person would consider flirting. The way she described the relationship is the same way most people in sugar daddy relationships describe them. It's not a jump. It's not even a little hop. A Wizard of Goatse posted:I [23 M] upset my GF[19F] of 3 months with how a text I sent shooting down a date from a coworker [25 F] who didn't know I was dating someone quote:"Hi [coworker]. I wont be free for a few weeks, actually. But I think you should now I started seeing someone seriously recently so I may not be able to go out again soon." She apologized if she offended me, let me know she was open to being my friend, and wished us the best of luck together. this stupid rear end in a top hat, hahaha i get what you were trying to do here but it really looks like you're saying "stick a pin in this, it might take a few weeks but as soon as i break up with this one i'll be good to go again" Edit: Really though the moral of the story is "don't date teenagers" especially when you're already casually seeing somebody your own goddamn age Mirthless fucked around with this message at 16:21 on Feb 2, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:The way she described the relationship is the same way most people in sugar daddy relationships describe them. It's not a jump. It's not even a little hop. Not knowing anyone with that kind of relationship I guess I'll just take your word on it, I read what she wrote as flirting with dudes to get drinks, but can see how it can be read differently. Agreed on the coworker text guy, his gf sounds passive aggressive as all hell, but he sent the most "I'll call you when I'm single again (soon)" text you can send.
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WoodrowSkillson posted:this is watching jerry springer, so yeah p much we're missing the most critical element tho My [24F] boyfriend [28M] threw a chair at me quote:You guys! there, fixed
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Improbable Lobster posted:My [52M] girlfriend [?F] won't speak to me, what did I do wrong? "She dragged me to the shower and made me watch while she cleaned herself and hummed creepily, I'm getting mixed messages."
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Ouhei posted:Not knowing anyone with that kind of relationship I guess I'll just take your word on it, I read what she wrote as flirting with dudes to get drinks, but can see how it can be read differently. quote:I flirted with an older man while in a relationship with my bf to get money. The key things to focus on are the singular statements and the specific motivation. The context leads me to believe this was an ongoing thing with a single individual, and it was purely for cash. If she was just flirting with guys in the club for drinks I doubt she would have even seriously mentioned it, and would have framed it more like that if that was the case. This was definitely not somebody random, and it was definitely not a random occurrence.
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Kurieg posted:"She dragged me to the shower and made me watch while she cleaned herself and hummed creepily, I'm getting mixed messages." Worst scene in the game, hands down  A Wizard of Goatse posted:I [23 M] upset my GF[19F] of 3 months with how a text I sent shooting down a date from a coworker [25 F] who didn't know I was dating someone Lmao at this guy for staying on the line the whole time
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Kurieg posted:"She dragged me to the shower and made me watch while she cleaned herself and hummed creepily, I'm getting mixed messages." "Also my many sons and daughters hate her"
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WampaLord posted:No, words mean things. Actually, we live in a society where words no longer have meaning
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WampaLord posted:My crush (35/F) farted in front of me (22/F). Do her following actions prove she doesn't like me/think of me the same way? When I'm stable long enough I start to look around for love See a sweet in maternity wear My mind commences to prepare But when I start to feel that pull Turns out I just pulled myself She would never go with me Were I the last girl on earth I'm a fool, she's heterosexual I thought I had found the one We were good as married in my mind But married in my mind's no good BF's baby in her womb Let me know the truth Let me know the truth Might have smoked a few in my time But never thought it was a crime Knew the day would surely come When I'd chill and settle down When I think I've found a good like-minded girl Then she farted from her rear If everyone's a little straight Can't she be a little queer? I'm a fool, she's heterosexual I thought I had found the one We were good as married in my mind But married in my mind's no good BF's baby in her womb Let me know the truth Let me know the truth Let me know the truth Let me know the truth Let me know the truth
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Mirthless posted:The key things to focus on are the singular statements and the specific motivation. You realize you're basically doing the exact same thing as the boyfriend, just not to her face?
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I [23 M] upset my GF[19F] of 3 months with how a text I sent shooting down a date from a coworker [25 F] who didn't know I was dating someone Look at this poor man, tragically born without the thumbs needed to hang up a phone.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:My [24F] boyfriend [28M] threw a chair at me Just hangin' with the boys, jerkin off on a stranger, you know, the usual
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