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Uh-oh, this sounds like one of those real conversations, the sort you'd have with your mother. My role as a father is to stand in the back and say stuff like "don't come back too late" and "go cubs!".
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Uh-oh, this sounds like one of those real conversations, the sort you'd have with your mother. My role as a father is to stand in the back and say stuff like "don't come back too late" and "go cubs!". "Dad....I'm gay" -without looking up from book- "Ask your mother"
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:10 |
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The more I read the more dad rules actually. He is 1) okay with gay 2) trying to be a more accepting homodad than his parents were 3) is going to let his daughter bang other girls in the safety of their home so they don't sneak around doing it 4) proactively inviting gaydaughter's girlfriend over to meet her Nah, hardpass on thinking this dad is anything but awesome.
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:12 |
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Nazzadan posted:Nah, hardpass on thinking this dad is anything but awesome. "Dad, I'm gay." *looks up from paper* "Oh, okay, good for you." *looks back to paper* *Daughter exits room, clearly upset* Father of the Year!
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:13 |
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54 40 or gently caress posted:"Dad....I'm gay" hi Gay, I'm Dad
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Nazzadan posted:The more I read the more dad rules actually.
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:14 |
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WampaLord posted:"Dad, I'm gay." *dad realizes he hosed up and actively fixes the situation* I know, what a monster.
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:14 |
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In my experience many teenage girls are disappointed when you don't also act like a teenage girl when they tell you something.
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Nazzadan posted:*dad realizes he hosed up and actively fixes the situation* Like, have some emotion here you goon.
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:17 |
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But what did he do next after he realized he messed up
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:18 |
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Dad should have called his gay brother and thrown a big ol coming out party with streamers and a parade and everything. Parents are so insensitive, god
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WampaLord posted:
You, of all people, do not get to accuse others of being goony and inept at navigating the fine points of socialization
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she wanted it to be dramatic and it wasn't that's not really on him
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chernobyl kinsman posted:she wanted it to be dramatic and it wasn't No, she wanted her dad to just listen to her, and maybe say that he loves her, not to freak out cause "uh oh emotion conversation, normally mom handles this." Like, I can't picture a worse way to handle a major moment in your kid's life like this. It's so autistic and goony.
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I can sympathise with the girl. Every time I tell GBS that I'm gay nobody really even seems to notice.
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:22 |
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WampaLord posted:
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WampaLord posted:No, she wanted her dad to just listen to her, and maybe say that he loves her, not to freak out cause "uh oh emotion conversation, normally mom handles this." Some people are less emotional than others. Just like some people are gay. Everything life event doesn't have to be a full-on Lifetime Moment up to the expectations of a dramatic teenager.
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I'm sure all the thrown out of their homes teens and ones beaten and told they are wrong are glad their parents at least showed emotion unlike this GOONY ROBOT!! fake edit: more content Me [21M] with my ex gf [19 F] She has super conservative parents, we broke up a a long time ago but her parents just found out we had sex and her dad just messaged me. What should i do??? quote:Hello good people of reddit, i frequent this sub a lot and i know its filled with lots of good people that gives pretty good advice. Throwaway because friends know my reddit account. Sorry in advance if it sounds rushed or anything, im kind of rushed and just wrote what i could, ill answer any questions that anyone may have. Update quote:Soo i tried making this post a little while back but it was taken down because it was an update... idk.. either way, a lot of you asked for an update so here it is, hopefully this one isnt taken down
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WampaLord posted:
I can think of more than a few ways that are worse to react to your kid coming out than saying, "okay, good for you."
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Nazzadan posted:I can think of more than a few ways that are worse to react to your kid coming out then saying, "okay, good for you." Yes, obviously it would be worse if he called her a hellspawn and a sinner and kicked her out. But let's operate under the assumption that he's not a religious whacko and admit that he handled it pretty badly while still not being actually Evil.
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:26 |
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Obviously what coming-out-daughter dad should have done https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSSido3IwnE
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:26 |
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gently caress where's that one from the kid whose mom reacted by going full on gigglesquee and never stopped referring to him as her gay son and trying to hook him up and get him to pick out dresses with her like he's from Queer Eye or some poo poo
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WampaLord posted:No, she wanted her dad to just listen to her, and maybe say that he loves her, not to freak out cause "uh oh emotion conversation, normally mom handles this." You're wrong, and the goon. Stop.
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If my kid is gay, I'm just going to react with "I know," whether I actually know or not. Gonna take the wind right out of their little gay sails.
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WampaLord posted:No, she wanted her dad to just listen to her, and maybe say that he loves her, not to freak out cause "uh oh emotion conversation, normally mom handles this." WampaLord: "dad I'm gay" "Oh, okay. Good for you." WampaLord: "Holy poo poo dad stop freaking out it ISN'T EVEN A BIG DEAL gently caress YOU"
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Nazzadan posted:I'm sure all the thrown out of their homes teens and ones beaten and told they are wrong are glad their parents at least showed emotion unlike this GOONY ROBOT!! hahaha what the gently caress A Wizard of Goatse posted:gently caress where's that one from the kid whose mom reacted by going full on gigglesquee and never stopped referring to him as her gay son and trying to hook him up and get him to pick out dresses with her like he's from Queer Eye or some poo poo if we're thinking of the same one, it's even worse because she was a slash fanatic dreaming of the day her (at the time) infant son would come out as gay she thought it was gonna be just like one of her japanese animes
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:31 |
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Kid just wanted a loving hug and to be told her dad was proud of her and happy for her. It doesn't matter at all how big a deal it *should* be, it was a big deal to her. It's like a sitcom husband forgetting an anniversary. Like if your kid is crying about anything the response isn't "oh ok" and just keep reading your book lol I don't care if it's about being gay or getting dumped or failing calculus comfort your child purple death ray fucked around with this message at 16:36 on Apr 5, 2017 |
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When you come out to someone, especially someone close to you, it's a big deal. You make yourself extremely emotionally vulnerable and are sharing an intimate part of yourself. Being met with "Okay" and nothing else makes it seem like you don't care about how important it is and that you don't appreciate the trust and emotional work it took to come out. It's far better than a negative response, but it's far from the best
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Mirthless posted:if we're thinking of the same one, it's even worse because she was a slash fanatic dreaming of the day her infant son would come out as gay oh no this was a totally separate one where the kid was a full on teenager and this had actually happened, instead of being planned in detail from birth. because of course this is A Thing with slashfic-lovin' moms.
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new phone who dis posted:In my experience many teenage girls are disappointed when you don't also act like a teenage girl when they tell you something. well let them out of your loving van then.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:oh no this was a totally separate one where the kid was a full on teenager and this had actually happened, instead of being planned in detail from birth. because of course this is A Thing with slashfic-lovin' moms. i spent all my teenage years wishing my parents would stop speculating on my sexuality, I wish they'd been as apathetic as this guy tbh
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:36 |
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Maybe he doesn't like her
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:38 |
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Gloryhold It! posted:When you come out to someone, especially someone close to you, it's a big deal. You make yourself extremely emotionally vulnerable and are sharing an intimate part of yourself. it's a reasonably common thing to land on when trying to convey genuine acceptance and that it doesn't change how they percieve you, something plenty of folks have wished their coming-out would look like even if it didn't match all of this specific girl's secret hopes, which is about what a person can healthily expect of your average mere mortal with no coaching; if you really want to just spend pages picking apart the mildly suboptimal verbage of random well-meaning suburban dads go start a r/mildlyinteresting thread or something this is the thread for insane dysfunction Me [25F] with my BF [27M]'s mom ... Asked her to teach some recipes and poo poo hit the fan. quote:Hey all ... I'm at a bit of a loss right now.
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# ? Apr 5, 2017 16:41 |
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The day I knew my browser history clean-up protocols were effective was the day in high school when my mom said I wasn't interested in girls. LOL.
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Well excuse me for trying to explain something that people didn't understand
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Milotic posted:I (28 m) found out my mother (48f) is alive after thinking she was dead for twenty one years, she now has another family
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:
Finally, it's the version of this story where the bf stands up for their SO
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Gloryhold It! posted:Well excuse me for trying to explain something that people didn't understand I get you fam. I accidentally did that to a mate of mine once. He made me dinner, sat me down and was like "I need to tell you something, yadda yadda yadda." I was like well obviously you're gay, nice salad btw. Had to do a bit of damage control on that one, whoops.
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Gloryhold It! posted:When you come out to someone, especially someone close to you, it's a big deal. You make yourself extremely emotionally vulnerable and are sharing an intimate part of yourself. Is it really that big of a deal anymore when 1 in 4 millennials are at least a little bit gay and the majority of the country supports LGBTQ rights? It sounds like her family has never been anything but accepting. It's one thing when you're in a conservative community and your parents "don't like to talk about it" but lol, c'mon, today is a far cry from even five years ago when it comes to this kind of thing. Dad, like many dads, might have some issues with emotional availability but it sounds to me like 17 y/o is being a 17 y/o in that she's getting mad that nobody is making as big of a deal about her dramatic life as she does
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Mirthless posted:Is it really that big of a deal anymore when 1 in 4 millennials are at least a little bit gay and the majority of the country supports LGBTQ rights? It sounds like her family has never been anything but accepting. It's one thing when you're in a conservative community and your parents "don't like to talk about it" but lol, c'mon, today is a far cry from even five years ago when it comes to this kind of thing. Idk if you meant America or the UK when you said "majority of the country," but if you meant the US they are British which is like, SUPER gay friendly. Also lot of people are mad at the dad who later reflected on what he said and decided to take steps to make it better with his daughter. Get over it, he rules.
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