|
Mirthless posted:Pick's posts are either (sometimes both) serious or trolling depending on the situation and the deadpan delivery can often make it hard to tell. Close. If you disagree with something Pick posts to the point where your knees start to jerk, it's even odds on trolling or genuine belief crouched as trolling. It's the same with my posting, really. Being a sarcastic, acerbic rear end in a top hat is a fine line between exposing all of your vulnerabilities and problems and hiding them among a bunch of false ones. It's kinda like playing Battleship with your fragile psyche but you try to lie about actual hits and misses and keep a poker face while doing it. This is purely my own personal experience however, and I may be (read: likely am) entirely wrong about this thread's darling poster. Also, just because an individual sucks at putting something into practice, it doesn't mean that they don't actually have good advice about the things they repeatedly fail horribly at. Doctors make the worst patients and all of that. I should know. My dad's a doctor and I've seen that first hand.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:07 |
|
|
# ? May 14, 2024 07:02 |
|
Enough of this! Have some content. Should I [25M] date my cousin's adopted sister [19F]? quote:My cousin is also 25. We are best friends and have been since childhood. He has an adopted sister so they aren't related at all.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:14 |
|
fruit on the bottom posted:Enough of this! Have some content. This depends on when she was adopted. In her late teens (16 up): it's still going to ruin your family relationships but you're not inherently hosed up, just dumb and also don't date nineteen year olds. I mean that advice for nineteen year olds as well. No one should date them, including each other, they are all much too stupid. Literally any earlier than that: you can't bang your cousin you loving degenerate.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:18 |
|
quote:Go for it, you only live once, compatible people are hard to find.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:28 |
|
lmao if you haven't got enough points by now for 1-2 extra lives
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:31 |
|
I got my poo poo together and ive completed a lot of combos in my time so im just gonna wait for the dream girl before going on any dates
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:34 |
|
And by that I mean I'm not gonna try to date a cousin
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:35 |
|
Look if youre going to pull some 19th century dating, you should go whole hog and let her finish being educated while you establish yourself as a respected and wealthy bachelor of 29 before the two of you ever go for a first dance.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:37 |
|
subhuman filth posted:psst, ever seen a grown man's penis? On one of my deployments there was a huge white dude who would yell this question while chasing people around the sleeping tent naked
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:44 |
|
Pvt.Scott posted:Close. If you disagree with something Pick posts to the point where your knees start to jerk, it's even odds on trolling or genuine belief crouched as trolling. Pick posts some really accurate poo poo that I may not exhibit in my behavior but I definitely see in others. However I suspect it's mostly sincere worldviews which makes me feel sorry for her.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:46 |
|
Mirthless posted:you know, this might be an appropriate and/or funny response if we weren't right smack in the middle of a serious conversation, but here, it's just white noise. Try harder. I'm like 40 pages in the past, I will likely not get to this post I am making right now for a few days and by then it will be in the past as well But shut the gently caress up, Mirthless Edit: Content before I return to the past Me [25 M] with my Client [30's M] of 6 months stood me up and I fired off a rude email, haven't heard from him since quote:So I am a software salesman in a mid-sized city in the US. One of my clients who I have always gotten along with super well ( Free sports games, drinks, dinners, etc really help these things) cancelled on my last two meetings with him within an hour of our meeting time. Not a huge deal, he did give me some notice and it allowed me to have a little free time. Then, on Thursday July 2nd (basically the friday of Independence Day weekend here in the States) we were supposed to meet for drinks at a nice restaurant, go over our new Contract, catch up, plan a trip for him down to our international office, and discuss a big acquisition his company just went through and how it would effect my team working with him. Top comment quote:Either he was blowing you off and you burned a bridge that was barely there or he had a legitimate excuse and you burned a perfectly good bridge. Either way has the same outcome that he is not going to be your client anymore, so I'd chalk it up as a mistake and try not to think about it and don't send emails like that in the future. and an update quote:UPDATE/EDIT: He texted me back after I left a voicemail this morning saying he was travelling out of the country, forgot about our meeting, is very sorry and understands my frustration, and looks forward to getting together ASAP. I Definitely stuck by the "I am sorry, regardless, I overreacted, looking forward to connecting" Thanks for the advice all. The client shouldn't have even responded
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:56 |
|
Nazzadan posted:I'm like 40 pages in the past, I will likely not get to this post I am making right now for a few days and by then it will be in the past as well Hell ya
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 22:57 |
|
Nazzadan posted:The client shouldn't have even responded It's cool to work for a company whose product is desirable enough to sell itself - taking poo poo from clients is something I hope to never do again. Jeffrey of YOSPOS fucked around with this message at 23:07 on Apr 21, 2017 |
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:04 |
|
Me [24 F] with my STINGY friend [23 F] 3 years, treated friend to plane tickets and she mooched off me the whole tripNon-Romantic 94 points 74 comments submitted 7 months ago by Quinn-108 to r/relationships My friend and I, both women in our early twenties, met in college. I helped her get a job at a bar I worked at. We had fun working together and have stayed in contact after graduation and moving to a new state and me to a new country. We aren't very very good friends but communicate frequently and trust each other. This August I bought her a ticket to travel through Colombia with me. It's cost $2000 for both of us to go there and back. I never told her how much the tickets cost. I just said something like, "If I buy you a ticket to come with me, would you like to? And can you?" She also has a lot of experience traveling which was why I asked her to join me instead of some of my closer friends. Buses, boats, and hostels in Colombia are a little difficult sometimes so I thought it'd be perfect. And anyways, I feel like we get along pretty well and I thought we'd have a good time. The trip was for two weeks by the way. And also, it's important to know that I'm not wealthy. I just recently found a side hustle that makes me a lot of cash so it's not a big deal. It's more of the principle. First off, the day we are leaving she says she doesn't have a debit OR credit card. She only has $800USD cash and requested to put half in my bank account which was on the way to the airport. It made me uncomfortable but at the time I rationalized that because she was moving back to our state (her and her boyfriend broke up), that it made sense she had to close her bank. So I did it. I put her money in my account. But actually that was the worst thing. Because she didn't have any way to get cash and had only converted $200 to pesos in the beginning I had to plan all hostels, book them, pay all the fees for using my card overseas (for me it's a lot because I have a credit union), and just arrange everything in the beginning. But the beginning of the trip turned into a pattern that lasted for about 12 days of our 15 there. On our trip my friend never once invited me to a beer or meal and pulled out her wallet incredibly slow any time we needed to pay. One night she told other backpackers, from Holland, that she's "poor" and "even on Obamacare" because she can't afford private insurance. Obviously they offered to pay after that... One morning, I told her I was going to a bikini store to go shopping and I'd see her later. I didn't want to bring her there because the bathing suits were expensive even for the US and I didn't want her to feel bad about being broke. She came anyways, asked her mom for $100 which I gave to her and her mom later paid me back. But here's the thing, she bought a bathing suit that costs $70. Later that night she ordered pizza thinking it would be just a slice but instead they gave her a whole pizza. I said, "yum I think I'd love to try a piece," and she told me that if I wanted pizza I needed to order my own and that she made that clear before ordering. She said she'd give me and our two Colombia buddies a piece to share. Prior to this I invited her to beers, coffee, and paid for most of the taxis. She didn't even finish the loving pizza. Yet, on countless occasions she couldn't pay because she had too big of a bill (pesos are different, nobody in Colombia has change) or was short a little bit. She loves to say "here take this for mine and you pay since you have a bigger bill" because that means she's off the hook for tax and tip. I wonder if she thinks I don't notice. Reflecting on the time I've know her it's all coming together. She was on welfare despite making decent money in tips at our bar. Sure, I believe that a waitresses wage is still low enough to be on food stamps even with tips included but she only did it so that she could save more for a 4 month trip through Europe. Her rent at the time was only $120USD because they were living in a house that was foreclosing and she didn't have any bills besides car insurance. I know this information because she talks about her money saving tactics obsessively. On the last day we got in a flight because one day she didn't have change AGAIN and I told her she needs to get some change in town. She got SO mad. And I said, look I'm not trying to be rude but I find it impolite that you never have small change. She didn't talk to me the rest of that day. But this topic did come up in an argument in which she told me that I'm actually in the wrong because I "only like reciprocity when it benefits me." Bitch. I bought your ticket here and paid for like a 1/4 of your time here. HELP?! Every time I think about her my blood boils. I didn't expect anything in return for buying her ticket but I feel taken advantage of and actually very embarrassed for her for having such bad manners. I forgot to add that on the way back we got hosed over by the airport and I had to buy her a new ticket home. For me, it was instinct because I didn't want to leave her in Colombia of all places with no money. But looking back, I don't know if I'll ever get that money back. How do I at least get my money back? tl;dr: Stingy friend while traveling. I bought her ticket and ended up paying for tons of other stuff and am all around overwhelmed and insulted by her stinginess. HELP.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:06 |
|
Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:If that was the actual text of the email, that doesn't seem that unreasonable. I am not in sales and don't have that always-pleased attitude but like, that is a pretty big waste of time and it's pretty understandable that he'd be frustrated. I'm not saying I wouldn't ever blow off a meeting with a salesperson, but I'd at least try to give them a heads up instead of just no-showing and I'd definitely apologize if I did the latter. That's what they paraphrased their email to, they admitted that they were fired up and it was "harsh." Truthfully I just grabbed that story because I don't like posting offtopic or about other people's lovely posts in this thread without attaching content. Also that was from my current search term of beep
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:06 |
|
quote:My (25/f) fiancee proposed to me but it turns out the ring is fake. He bought a name brand box off of ebay
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:07 |
|
My [25F] boyfriend [26M] of 1 year just told me that he wants me to pay him a rental fee for borrowing his car to visit my family. Am I wrong to be upset?Relationships 1,339 points 727 comments submitted 1 year ago by crystalcleric to r/relationships Ordinarily this wouldn't be a problem. I would just take my car, but it is being fixed right now. This meant that in order for me to drive to see my family for Thanksgiving I would have to either rent a car or borrow someone's. Since my boyfriend was flying out to California for Thanksgiving and wouldn't be using his, I asked him if he would mind if I borrowed it. He told me that of course I could borrow his car. Nothing else was said about it until today (other than some minor things). I texted him to thank him again for helping me. The way I worded things apparently made it clear to him that I was only planning to cover the gas I used, and he told me that he expected me to pay him a "reasonable" fee for using the car. Reasonable to him is $50 a day plus replacing the gas I use (so the visit will cost me at least $250 in addition to whatever the gas costs). It is his car, so I don't think I can really argue with him about this. I do understand in principal. I don't think being his girlfriend entitles me to use his stuff whenever I want, but I am hurt that he is being so stingy. We've been together for a year; it's the holidays; and my only other option was renting a car through a private company. I guess I would have hoped that he would have been more sympathetic, but maybe he has a right to expect that he be paid for use of his car. I don't know. I very rarely ask him for any favors and cover all of my expenses myself, so he can't say that I am using him or exploiting him financially. This has never come up before, so I have been taken off guard. Maybe I am being too sensitive? EDIT: Just so you guys know, I am already at my family's house. Sorry if that wasn't clear. tl;dr: I had to borrow my boyfriend's car to visit my family. He wants me to pay him $50 per day for use of it. I am upset by this, but I think that maybe I am just being too sensitive.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:07 |
|
You know, my fiance got my engagement ring on sale. When I feel insufferably proud of him (often, he's wonderful) I sometimes like to joke-brag to people about what a deal he got on it. So I don't really 'get' why some people care about the cost or valuation of their rings. But I can say that she'd be in the right to throw that trash back in his tightwad face and call him a cheap gently caress. Edit: car guy just gets spiteful hissing from me. HISS.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:12 |
|
Haha the solution there is so easy - "okay I'll pay you, but I'll be finding cheaper arrangements for getting home" and then leave the car at her parents house.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:13 |
|
wow, I am outraged who still gets Cubic Zirconia when Moissanite exists?
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:15 |
|
Stingy girl and ring price is all that matters to me should gently caress in hell
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:18 |
|
quote:Me [28/F] with my bf [31/M], little over a year, heartfelt email made him furious with meRelationships I am also FURIOUS... that someone stole my letter to hugh and put it online. quote:Tl;dr of original post: Boyfriend took my time for granted, always made last-minute plans with me, made me a quasi-priority. He didn't seem to understand why I felt this way when we discussed it so I wrote him a letter about it, the letter made him furiously angry. Pick fucked around with this message at 23:23 on Apr 21, 2017 |
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:18 |
|
Im not reading that entire terrible letter and I dont care how in the right the author is I hate them now and side with their ex.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:21 |
|
I was ready to be down with being pissed that ring boy lied and then bragged about lying, but she seems to care more about the ring being worthless than her fiance being a lying dildo
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:23 |
|
Just cut your ring finger off like in that timeless romance song.
Pvt.Scott fucked around with this message at 23:30 on Apr 21, 2017 |
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:23 |
|
Barudak posted:Im not reading that entire terrible letter and I dont care how in the right the author is I hate them now and side with their ex. I tried to read it and now I want a Gregg Williams coached defense to tee off on her.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:24 |
|
I'd probably be pretty annoyed if my SO wrote me a loving novel too. That said, and so forth
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:25 |
|
Barudak posted:Im not reading that entire terrible letter and I dont care how in the right the author is I hate them now and side with their ex.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:30 |
|
People think about compatibility in terms of shared culture, interests, and personality. But they often neglect how much they VALUE things- both material objects and time. If a genuine, fancy ring is important to one person but not the other, there will be conflict. If one person likes to throw down $3,000 a month on candles or aquarium fish and the other person thinks this is excessive, they're going to have a problem. This is the kind of thing couples need to discuss early in a relationship so they know they are on the same page. But as r/relationships and e/n have proven, people are bad at setting boundaries or delivering ultimatums.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:33 |
|
Barudak posted:Stingy girl and ring price is all that matters to me should gently caress in hell she's entitled to be mad if he lied about it. like she doesn't come off sounding like a nice person but what she's angry about is that her fiance doesn't feel like she's worth spending money on but also wanted to trick her into thinking that he believes otherwise. like if he had bought a cheap ring and just told her it was cheap because he doesn't want to drop that kind of money on a ring it would be different. and then he told people (!) at work about how he cheaped out on his fiance like that's some kind of power move. like the smart thing to do in that situation is let her find out after the inevitable divorce when she tries to pawn the worthless ring
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:33 |
|
quote:My [31F] husband [33M] of 4 years has a weird relationship with his pregnant coworker [23F]. I'm not sure if I should be worried or not.Relationships quote:tl;dr: Husband has spent a lot of time and money helping his pregnant coworker. This makes me uncomfortable, but he says I am being greedy for trying to discourage him from doing a good deed. Am I worrying over nothing, or are my concerns justified? Men, horrific garbage people or humans? you decide.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:34 |
|
fruit on the bottom posted:I'd probably be pretty annoyed if my SO wrote me a loving novel too. The key is to coat yourself in pages of the letter like a cocoon and proceed to estivate until conditions improve.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:35 |
|
Pick posted:Men, horrific garbage people or humans? you decide. Why can't it be both?
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:40 |
|
If he keeps denying you a commitment and you stay, that's your fault. Continually waiting for the person you're dating to turn into someone else is ultimately a waste of both your lives. At least she figured it out.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:44 |
|
Pick posted:Men, horrific garbage people or humans? you decide. Pick, have you read The Gift of Fear? This story kind of reminds me of how women are conditioned to second guess their own intuition and it leads to dangerous situations. In hindsight we can chastise her for being naive but in so many of these situations her own spider sense was shut down by the people around her.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:43 |
|
Barudak posted:Im not reading that entire terrible letter and I dont care how in the right the author is I hate them now and side with their ex. I'd make myself read that if I was having sex with her but yeah, I'd be done after that.
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:45 |
|
Tiny Deer posted:I'd make myself read that if I was having sex with her but yeah, I'd be done after that. Oh cool, now that we're talking about needs, I need to not read any boring rear end emails, LMBO. Later loser!
|
# ? Apr 21, 2017 23:50 |
|
Yeah how dare she try to communicate her feelings amirite
|
# ? Apr 22, 2017 00:17 |
|
SirSamVimes posted:Yeah how dare she try to communicate her feelings amirite Could she try not-the-worst-possible way?
|
# ? Apr 22, 2017 00:22 |
|
|
# ? May 14, 2024 07:02 |
|
That salesman worked up the balls to fire his client and then regretted it. I work with salespeople and if a client starts taking up too much time then they prevent you from making sales. If firing the client worked out for him this time then great, but the #1 lesson he should learn is to give people he's meeting with a courtesy call the day before to remind them of the time/place. It takes 2 minutes, you can always say "We'll discuss it tomorrow" if they want to talk longer for some reason.
|
# ? Apr 22, 2017 00:22 |