Elsa posted:

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u/Throwaway4Lunch

I have been going out with my boyfriend, Robby, for about 8 months now. He spends about two nights a week at my place (a house with a few other people in it) and I usually spend a night a week at his apartment.

This week he was staying over, we had sex, and then he went to the bathroom. I had to go to and asked him if I could come in. He said "he was using the tub" and that I could come in if I wanted. I did and was really shocked that he was giving himself an enema. I saw that he was squatting on the edge of the tub with a tube coming out of his butt.

I'm not sure why but I like started retching at this arrangement. I've never seen someone give themselves an enema before no less know that Robby did that...in my tub. I didn't know how to react and just left while he finished up. When he came out he tried to comfort me or whatever but it just felt gross.

This was a problem in and of itself but I was also grossed out by the bathtub, which now what his enema...stuff...in it. I asked him if he had done it before and he said that he had but he usually cleaned up or whatever. This to me seems really disrespectful. Like why would you do an enema in someone else's bathtub without asking? We argued about it and he just kept repeating that it's clean but for me it was a bigger issue than that. I wouldn't eat off of a counter someone had poo poo on even if they then cleaned up the poo poo.

Am I overreacting here? I don't really want to talk to my friends about it for obvious reasons.

tl;dr: I walked in on my bf giving himself an enema in my bathtub. Am I right to feel that this is disrespectful?

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UPDATE] Bf [25 M] gave himself an enema in my [26 F] house's bathtub...am I overreacting?

u/Throwaway4Lunch

Original post here: /r/relationships/comments/3weiyh/bf_25_m_gave_himself_an_enema_in_my_26_f_houses/

What I took away from the last thread was that he was being disrespectful but he may not have been making GBS threads in my tub or he might have a legitimate medical reason he was just embarrassed about. At the time I had just assumed he would have told me about ulcerative collitis or some such disease after we had been together for so long but it's possible I didn't know.

So I contacted him for the first time after the incident the day before yesterday. He didn't pick up his phone so I left a message explaining that what he did was disrespectful but I should have asked him if there was a medical reason, etc. Basically I didn't want to let him off the hook for his weird behavior but I let him know we could work on acceptance and improving communication. I left him a few text messages too but they were also unresponded to. It was really concerning that he wouldn't respond to this stuff and I got worried but I figured he must have had a good reason since it was the busy time of the work week for him.

Yesterday I got a long email from him that detailed his reasons for breaking up. It feels like it came totally out of the blue and I feel like such a bitch. It read:

"[OP],

I need to end our relationship for both of our goods. It's become clear that we are incompatible and I can't let us waste more time convincing ourselves otherwise.

The incident last week has shown that our communication skills and lifestyles are simply not on the same page. I'm not sure how to say it in any other way. Neither of us were in the wrong but we just can't coexist.

After this message goes out I'll block you from my devices and Facebook. This isn't because I hate you but rather because we both need time to move on and not get stuck on the past. Please don't contact me and I will try my best to contact you. Any items of mine left at your place are not worth me picking up; you can have them. I am very sure that none of your items are at my place so there should be no reason for you to come over.

I wish you the very best in your future. I'm sorry it had to end this way.

Robby"

I am a sobbing wreck right now. I feel like this is totally unprovoked. I tried my best to be understanding and communicate but I guess I just suck at it in ways I can't understand. If he's really serious about the break-up I know he's right about no-contact but I just want to hear his voice and apologize for whatever I did. Is there an obvious way that I pushed him away so quickly? I just want to understand.

tl;dr: I tried to apologize for overreacting and tell him I can work through whatever caused the enema. Bf broke up with me through email and has requested no-contact.

therobit posted:

Yeah I wsse thinking the same thing. If he wants a trade yes the IBEW would start an apprentice where he needs to be but I would never take educational advice from someone who has 3 junior college degrees. After 2 you need to think about why you aren't employable. I bet they are all from for profit schools that advertise on daytime TV.

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

Boyfriend giving himself enemas

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Neither of us were in the wrong but we just can't coexist.

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

pegging

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Me [34F] with husband [32M] married 6 years, sex with him is getting weird and he isn't listening [NSFW]

u/chezburgersalad

Disclaimer: There is NO abuse in the relationship. Emotional, physical, or other wise. I know it's easy for people to go there, but this isn't a "whole scope" scenario. It's only the sex part.

Before we were married, my husband wasn't completely honest about his sexual preferences, which I think is due to shame. He was raised in an uber christian house and kicked out at 14 for watching porn.

To keep that scenario short, he is into T-girl porn, enjoys pegging, etc. Honestly that is not a problem. The problem is he isn't listening to me and has begun to get really loving selfish. Sex is starting to become all about him and I'm starting to feel less like his wife and more like a toy. More so, he has started using all of my sex toys (vaginal) for himself (anal). Without telling me. I found out because we are stuck sleeping separately due to me co sleeping with our son, and while cleaning the room he is sleeping in (cause it was a wreck), I found most of my sex toys, plus his, plus lube, plus a disgusting pile of condoms he uses for the toys (not cheating, in case your mind goes there).

We haven't been able to have much lately cause of the baby, but when we do, he's gotten pretty demanding. I have work, school, baby, and a house and I'm honestly so busy I'm drained. I've got a ton of homework to do right now and he is in the bathroom giving himself a drat water enema. I went to drop kiddo off at daycare and before I left he asked if we could have sexy times. I said yes but it would have to be quick cause I have a lot to do and I got back half an hour ago and he is still in the bathroom. I don't have time for this. And this happens all the drat time.

His porn collection is also outrageous. He looks at it ALL the time and I'm pretty sure spends half the day masturbating. Honestly, I don't know how to handle this.

tl;dr: Think husband is a selfish sex addict. How do I talk to him about this? How do I get balance in our sex life? How do I get him to even be realistic about it?

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I've taken the time to read all the differing opinions, insights, and variations of experience. I will be using these as a guide to help decide which direction we need to go, how to approach this, and how to talk to him. I thank you all for your insight and input

Gorilla Salad posted:

He was totally doing it on purpose. Scat discovery fetish? That's a new one to me.

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Very short post. Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 happy years, and we live together. We've had no major issues, except sometimes he'll say something stupid and I don't understand why he says it. Examples would be: "I wouldn't mind if your boobs were bigger"

Today, the problem arose because we were on the topic of a friend's younger sister (15 years old.) my boyfriend said and I quote: "I would do (name) if she was just a bit older, just saying."

I am totally weirded out! First of all, we are open, so I don't feel disrespected by him talking about another girl like that. I feel weirded out because she's 15! She looks and acts like it also... just the whole thing feels gross.

Anyway, am I overreacting? How do I handle this? Does anyone have any idea what he was thinking and why in the world he'd say something like that?? Thank you.

TL;DR: boyfriend said something gross about a 15 year old. Am I in my right to be upset? How do I handle this?

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

The word for today is enema

Modus Pwnens posted:

Listen lady, where else was I supposed to drain it, your sink?

Some people!

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Does anyone have any idea what he was thinking and why in the world he'd say something like that?? 

Gorilla Salad posted:

But maybe I'm just a prude.

Cakefarts Carol posted:

The idea of her walking in to her boyfriend perched on the edge of the tub in a slav squat hosing out his colon like it's business as usual is funny as gently caress though

Pick posted:

I assume it means the balls are like, slapping against the other person's asscheeks suuuuuper fast, like rapapapapapapapapapapapapappapap instead of plubplubplubplubplub

Pick posted:

I assume it means the balls are like, slapping against the other person's asscheeks suuuuuper fast, like rapapapapapapapapapapapapappapap instead of plubplubplubplubplub

Pick posted:

whenever I think of fetishes my mind jumps to the episode of the f-plus that mentioned "hyperballs" and I still have no idea what that means but sometimes I just think of that word and laugh

Modus Pwnens posted:

Seriously though the enema thing is loving weird but if that's her reaction to a little poo juice in the tub she'd better never get a pet or have a baby, that's all I'm saying.

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:

Elsa, if you had time this would be a great comic.

ZearothK posted:

I've had cats and dogs for literally my entire life and I'd still throw out a person making GBS threads on my bathtub.

Pick posted:

I assume it means the balls are like, slapping against the other person's asscheeks suuuuuper fast, like rapapapapapapapapapapapapappapap instead of plubplubplubplubplub

Pick posted:

whenever I think of fetishes my mind jumps to the episode of the f-plus that mentioned "hyperballs" and I still have no idea what that means but sometimes I just think of that word and laugh

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I need some adult advice with girls. This hot girl from school loving hates me. (we're year 11 students) I mean really hates me. Talks poo poo about me to anyone who will listen. I am almost certain she would run me down if she could. I had sex with her at a party after everyone left. It was my best mates party, and he's our mutual friend. My mate had taken a girl to his room. He told me I could sleep in the guest room if I wanted.

Somehow I wound up loving this girl that hates me. She cuddled with me afterwards. In the morning she's back to hating me. Called me a c word for sleeping on her bra. Next thing I know she's pressing me at school telling me to come to hers today. I did, and we slept together. Next thing she's yelling at me to get out. I'm so confused. She's hot, wants to gently caress and hates me.

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tl;dr: I need help with girl trouble.

Tiny Deer posted:

I [17M] am confused with this girl [17F] who hates my guts. We had sex at a party and she wants to keep doing it. But she constantly tells me she hates me and hopes I die.


Which anime is this?

Tiny Deer posted:

I [17M] am confused with this girl [17F] who hates my guts. We had sex at a party and she wants to keep doing it. But she constantly tells me she hates me and hopes I die.


Which anime is this?

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So the title kinda says it all. My girlfriend and I have been together 15 years. We have 2 kids and she wants to get married. Two years ago we started a business together and I agreed that we would get married.

Then we needed to move closer to the jobs so 6 months ago we moved. She again brought up getting married so I told her to buy the ring and I would propose. That was Dec 2016.

I'm tired of renting and want to buy a house and yesterday I wanted to look so I took the day off work and asked her to pull up everything online so we could look together.

That was apparently a huge mistake. She was so mad. She said she's buying or even looking for a house with me until we are married. This escalated into a huge fight about commitment. She said I'm stalling and she's tired of being used.

I slept on the couch last night and she's not really speaking to me this morning. I told her I had plans to propose this June but she said I'm too late and she doesn't believe me.

I really love her but I don't know how to fix this. I think she's really going to leave. I've never seen her this mad.

TL;DR Girlfriend of 15 years is mad and doesn't want to buy a house with me because we aren't married. I was going to propose this June. Please help me reason with her.

first comment posted:

15 years together, 2 kids and a business together... why exactly did you need to wait until June to propose to her?

the king of romance posted:

I just asked her right now and she blew up crying. I dont understand.

...


But its what she wanted. I just landed a new client and went to tell her and ask her to marry me and she got mad and blew up and started crying.

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

Someone tell that idiot step 3 is her crazy brain accusing him of rape

chitoryu12 posted:

Just watch as it turns out to be a wacky mix-up involving twins.

Tiny Deer posted:

Me [35M] with my GF [40F] of 15 years. I think I messed up. We were supposed to get engaged and then married but she got really mad because I haven't proposed yet and want to buy a house and wont listen to reason. How do I fix this?

Tiny Deer posted:

Me [35M] with my GF [40F] of 15 years. I think I messed up. We were supposed to get engaged and then married but she got really mad because I haven't proposed yet and want to buy a house and wont listen to reason. How do I fix this?