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Its like an extra bundle of concerns and issues thats just for the hardcore fans, the ones who really read these posts.
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- Who What Now
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i mean yeah in this case it's an odd choice for a point to make when the subject was a model designed to physically appeal to sex drives but capitalism does weird things to human interaction
Also it started because one guy said he wouldnt gently caress a Torrid model (presumably because they are too fat).
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Apr 30, 2017 22:57
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- UnfurledSails
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It's cool that models look more varied these days but plus size models frequently look like they photoshop a thinner model's head on a larger woman's body.
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Apr 30, 2017 23:08
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It's cool that models look more varied these days but plus size models frequently look like they photoshop a thinner model's head on a larger woman's body.
yeah slim girls have cute faces too fyi
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Apr 30, 2017 23:07
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- Bubblyblubber
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Me [27 F] with my boyfriend [50 M] of three months, his kid warned me about him. Red flag?
quote:submitted 1 year ago by airpass
I have been dating Jesse for about 3 months. It's been a bit of a whirlwind romance. Jesse is the kind of guy I've always wanted, confident and smart and makes me feel like a princess. The sex is great and I feel like we have a deep connection.
Last Friday, Jesse and I went out and ran into his son, Julian (19) at the bar. Julian shouldn't have been there as he is underage, so I assume he had a fake ID. Jesse was excited to see him, but Julian seemed like he didn't want to see Jesse at all. It was very awkward.
Later, while Jesse was talking to someone he knew from work, Julian approached me. He told me, "He'll get tired of you. He won't care about you anymore and just see you as something he has to spend money on. Then he'll find something new. He always does." He said he was sorry and then left the bar.
I didn't know how to respond so I talked to Jesse. He told me how his ex-wife and step-daughters had poisoned Julian against him. I've always known Jesse to be very generous, so I don't believe the money part is true, but I do know that Jesse hardly ever spends time with his son. He says Julian won't answer his calls or texts and avoids him. Jesse also works a significant amount and finds it difficult to balance his time.
How do I know if this is a red flag or not? This kid could just have a warped perception of his father. But I can't help but feel badly for Julian, he seemed really sad at the bar.
Tl;dr boyfriend's kid warned me at the bar. How to respond?
Update!
quote:Hi /r/relationships. It's been a couple of months since my last post. Thanks for all the advice, even though it was tough to hear. I ended up deciding to move forward with the relationship but keep an eye out for any other red flags.
To backtrack, early in our relationship I got a text from a friend of mine that he had seen Jesse at the local strip club. I spoke to Jesse about it, and he said he did not consider it cheating because he did not get lap dances or touch the dancers. I let him know then that I would let it slide but in the future, I am not okay with him going to strip clubs without talking to me about it first. He agreed.
But I kept noticing he would be out working late. He told me he had an emergency (flood) and had to work late and I ended up seeing him at a gas station that I was driving by. I stopped and talked to him and he said he had just gotten off work but he smelled like cigarettes and alcohol and his clothes weren't dirty like they typically are when he works flood damages.
I also noticed he was very protective of his work phone. He leaves his other cell phone out all the time, but once I asked to use his work phone to look something up and he basically told me no and to go get my phone charging in the other room.
It all just built up so I snooped. I got up in the middle of the night when I was staying at his place and looked through both phones.
On his work phone, I found texts to escorts and strippers.
On his other cell, I found a ton of texts to his ex wife who he promised me he didn't talk to anymore unless it was about Julian. Apparently she just started dating again a month ago, and he absolutely shredded her for it. He said some very cruel things, like "you must have found a guy who loves fat asses if he'll be seen with you". She never replied, as far as I can tell. Looking at those texts, I knew that any future with Jesse was going to end like this.
I also saw that he never messages Julian. What's worse, their text feed is Julian reaching out every couple months and getting ignored. One text from a few months ago was Julian telling him that his band had a gig and asking if he would come. I remember that weekend. Me and Jesse stayed in that night and had a bunch of sex. He never even mentioned his son had a show. I felt sick. I went online and bought 10 copies of his band's EP a few days later.
In the end, I decided to just ghost him. He obviously had no respect for our relationship, and I felt I didn't owe him anything. When he was at work, I got all my things out of his apartment and left a note. I just wrote that his family was right about him and to not contact me again.
He texted me later that he had an emergency and had to work late...He obviously hadn't seen my note and I just didn't respond. The next day he found the note and started messaging me about it. I decided to take a page from his ex wife's book and ignore him. As the week moved on and he realized I was serious the messages started getting hateful, things I don't care to repeat. I blocked his number then.
It is disturbing for me to think about what a cruel and viscious person he ended up being. If Julian hadn't talked to me at that bar, how much longer would it have taken me to see this side of him? I also have this weird guilty feeling that I'm a homewrecker, even though Jesse obviously wrecked his home himself. I really thought of me and Jesse as having a potential for a long term relationship. It hurts to have those hopes crushed. I'm not getting any younger.
I got a lot of comments last post about the age gap. I'm not really interested in that. I know several couples with significant age gaps. I'm a grown woman, not a teenager, and I can choose to date someone older. Hopefully it won't be an rear end in a top hat next time.
Tl;Dr: My ex boyfriends son was right about him. I'm feeling lost and second guessing myself, but at least we aren't together anymore.
EDIT: Thanks for teaching me a lesson. This is a painful time for me. I won't be responding to any more comments or PMs. Thanks.
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Apr 30, 2017 23:10
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How is that different than any other model?
mebbe 80 pounds
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Apr 30, 2017 23:12
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- Barudak
- May 7, 2007
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That age gap is so big Evel Kenieval tried to jump it.
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Apr 30, 2017 23:17
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That age gap is so big Evel Kenieval tried to hump it.
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Apr 30, 2017 23:20
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- Ride The Gravitron
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by FactsAreUseless
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The something awful forums - > girl boss sentral - > /r/relationships: men: durrrr im stupid dur
Ride The Gravitron fucked around with this message at 23:24 on Apr 30, 2017
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Apr 30, 2017 23:20
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- Pick
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"Hopefully it'll be different next time"
Goddamn you dipshit
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Apr 30, 2017 23:19
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Apr 30, 2017 23:20
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- Panfilo
- Aug 27, 2011
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Can't post for 12 days!
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Apr 30, 2017 23:21
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- Panfilo
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Can't post for 12 days!
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Does it need to be different?
Then why bother pointing it out?
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Apr 30, 2017 23:23
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- Cough Drop The Beat
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Please post more stories and stop being dumb and bad.
I (29F, pregnant) found out my husband (30M) of 9 years together has been pissing away his earnings online and possibly cheating online too.
quote:We have separate bank accounts but also a joint account that is for our savings. We don't touch any of the money in there, it's for things in the future like a house and kids' college (I'm 6 months into my first pregnancy). We would each put a bit of money in the joint savings each month from our paychecks.
A few months ago my husband told me that because his company was having some financial struggles he had to take a pay cut indefinitely. He said he wouldn't be able to contribute to our savings, only to make basic payments. When his car had an issue I had to pay for it to get fixed. I've been paying all of the rent and most of the bills.
Earlier this week, I found out this was a lie. It came out through my friend who also works at his company that my husband was not among the people who'd had to take pay cuts. I confronted him to find out where half our earnings is going if not to the things he/we need to pay for.
He got very defensive and said I was lying and my friend was lying. I told him I was going to call his boss tomorrow if he didn't tell me where all that money was going. He then broke down and confessed he had a gambling addiction. I was dumbfounded, he's never even bought lottery tickets to my knowledge. He said whenever he has a late night at the office, he's actually out at the casino. I was furious. He looked really remorseful and said he was going to get therapy for his addiction.
So that brings us to today when I was having a problem with my email. I logged into my husband's spam account as a test. He'd given me that info awhile ago for anytime I don't want something having my real email but I'd forgotten about it. When I logged in, I saw a bunch of emails from websites with weird names that made me realize something was going on.
They were fetish websites that list profiles of different women who cater to people with a BBW fetish. People send them money for all the food they eat to make themselves gain weight. Some of the emails were from the site, some from paypal transactions, and others were from individual women thanking him for his "generous donations." He has been throwing away nearly all of his paycheck on this poo poo. For months. And a lot of these women do live webcam shows too where they stream themselves eating or send nudes for money so he's probably also been cheating on me with obese camgirls. I can't believe this is something I'm typing out.
He is out helping a friend with yardwork until later tonight. I have to figure out what to do about this. If I was furious about the "gambling addiction" story, I'm 10 times past that now. This AND all the lying he's done about his money. I just can't even begin unpacking everything and he'll be home in a few hours.
What do I do? He's the father of my child, but I feel like there's no way this could end except divorce. I have no idea how I could ever trust him with money or even the loving internet again, after this.
TL;DR my husband lied repeatedly about where his money was going and I found out he's giving it all to people on a fat fetish website and probably having online sexual relationships with them too.
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Apr 30, 2017 23:23
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- Who What Now
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"A man's son explained to me in great detail exactly how he is going to use me and then dump me. Is that something I should be concerned about?"
I mean goddamn lady, how good is his dick that it you turned that stupid?
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Apr 30, 2017 23:26
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- maskenfreiheit
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"Hopefully it'll be different next time"
Goddamn you dipshit
i don't like to throw around the phrase "daddy issues" but there's definitely something going on if you flat out refuse to date anyone who's not at least twice your age
"A man's son explained to me in great detail exactly how he is going to use me and then dump me. Is that something I should be concerned about?"
I mean goddamn lady, how good is his dick that it you turned that stupid?
obviously the son is simply jealous he can't snag a 27 year old
maskenfreiheit fucked around with this message at 23:27 on Apr 30, 2017
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Apr 30, 2017 23:25
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- Pick
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The dream always seems to be a skinny wife and a fat mistress
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- maskenfreiheit
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The dream always seems to be a skinny wife and a fat mistress
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Apr 30, 2017 23:30
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- Panfilo
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Can't post for 12 days!
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The dream always seems to be a skinny wife and a fat mistress
Lady on the streets, demon in the sheets.
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Apr 30, 2017 23:29
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- putrid aidsman
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Me [20F] worried about large age gap with my partner [40M] in new relationship and my parents impression
Okay, so, keeping it short, I met my partner on a website based around certain sexual interests. Happy to be transparent about it but details aren't really needed to contextualise the relationship, aside from the fact that he makes me feel accepted and beautiful for something I was quite ashamed of for a while.
Now I think he is totally awesome, kind, caring, best intentions at heart, not creepy, most certainly not using me for sex (because he could have had just that without any commitment but there was always naturally something deeper/ a desire to get into something emotional). We have similar values and interests and I feel really at peace when I'm with him- we find similar things funny and he's just really pure and beautiful and great and supports me.
However, as idealistic as this is, I'm 20, and my friends and parents don't get it (rightfully so, because it is weird, based on what society sees as weird). My mum particularly says she hopes this is temporary and has no desire to get to know him because both her and my father think it's troublesome. I know he was in a similar situation previously with his other girlfriend who was a bit older than me (again, met in similar circumstances) and eventually the parents came around/ still keep in touch with him and are on great terms with him.
My mum's approval is really important to me however and I fear that any anxiety she has will turn into my anxiety and thus cause me to wreck something that's only bringing me happiness at the moment.
I've had quite a few panic attacks about it because my mind constantly wonders to not being able to have kids, own a house, having to be a widow and all that jazz- which are all things she brings up consistently. I've looked at advice columns etc. online that all say there are risks with any relationship and ultimately this over thinking is a symptom of anxiety induced by anything at all.
I know in my heart that I could make this work, or at least give it a shot. It's just really hurtful to not have her approval. I don't even know why I'm still so attached to her approval. If I marry this person I don't want them to talk about the marriage in a negative way/ think badly of him.
What's more is I can't at all express to her how understood he makes me feel and how spiritual that is to me, even despite the sexual connection creating that bond. I have never been this fulfilled sexually ever and I never thought I would find someone who was able to bring my desires to life like this, and even further bond with me deeply on a non sexual level.
I don't know what to say or do, or if this is sustainable or if I'm kidding myself. I guess I still rely on my mum for a lot of approval but I don't know how to get rid of that tendency (while still living in her house, particularly).
tl;dr: Worried about relationship with older boyfriend- am I right to side with my mum and think this is impossible and troublesome or should I follow what's making me happy?
why doesn't mom approve of my Fetlife daddy dom 
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Apr 30, 2017 23:37
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why doesn't mom approve of my Fetlife daddy dom
Sure, I'm going to be a widow, and I could never have children, but at least he shits on my tits
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Apr 30, 2017 23:40
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- Sheen Sheen
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The dream always seems to be a skinny wife and a fat mistress
Where do you fit in to that spectrum if no one will even think of marrying you or having sex with you?
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Apr 30, 2017 23:48
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Apr 30, 2017 23:51
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Where do you fit in to that spectrum if no one will even think of marrying you or having sex with you?
I've been proposed to multiple times
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Apr 30, 2017 23:53
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[smilie gif that animates like toxx except it says pick]
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Apr 30, 2017 23:53
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- Harry
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I do solemnly swear that in the year 2015 I will theorycraft my wallet as well as my WoW
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She should sever with the family, and then post really deep messages on facebook when he dumps her for something younger and tighter
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Apr 30, 2017 23:57
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- Sheen Sheen
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I've been proposed to multiple times
I would like to hear the circumstances of these proposals--were they from people who actually cared about you that were in real relationships with you, or were they from awkward turbo-nerd blind dates who proposed to you immediately upon meeting you?
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- PHIZ KALIFA
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Everyone shut the gently caress up about Pick. There are real life women near you to go make miserable. Post more Reddit posts or I swear to Christ I will PM you obscene Harry Potter fanfic.
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May 1, 2017 00:03
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if I make the pick smilie would someone do the $35 thing
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Everyone shut the gently caress up about Pick. There are real life women near you to go make miserable. Post more Reddit posts or I swear to Christ I will PM you obscene Harry Potter fanfic.
go ahead and do that see what I do with it
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GOONS* 
