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TOOT BOOT posted:Nah the guy's just a piece of poo poo. If my SO unilaterally put my pet up for adoption they'd be hitting the curb. quote:It was a "foster to adopt" type of plan, and we agreed that if she didn't get along with Maggie (our current dog) or if she was aggressive, etc. we would try to get her adopted ASAP. quote:He has expressed a couple of times that he thinks we shouldn't keep her, but it has always been after she does something that upsets him and I chocked it up to being an emotional response that he would get over. He really hasn't bonded with Jessie, though, and hasn't made much of an effort to. quote:Thursday night my husband texted me while I was asleep saying Jessie peed in the house (for the second time that week) and that if it happens again "she's gone". I ignored it, realizing that he was probably very upset after having to clean up the mess and being frustrated with her. quote:Yes, you are so right! We both agreed to not have the rescue post photos of her, but we didn't clearly define what we were doing or what would need to happen in order to keep her. I wish we would have discussed prior what we would do if one of us loved her and one of us didn't. We didn't make a plan or anything, and the longer we kept her I just thought my husband was wanting to keep her too. They both sound terrible at communication, but OP's not exactly innocent here.
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# ? May 21, 2017 22:54 |
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Eh, I guess they're too dysfunctional overall as a couple to have pets. Maybe they should start over with a nice fern? ...or kids
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# ? May 21, 2017 23:25 |
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Khorne posted:It sounds like they talked about it a lot, it is both of their pet because they joint adopted it, and the pet is both a giant drat nuisance and really doesn't like the guy despite him not actually doing anything to it. #gbshateswomen
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Psycho Society posted:This is also why couples should never adopt dogs. One person or other needs to take responsibility for raising an animal Hmmm this winning strategy might make sense with children, too.
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Psycho Society posted:This is also why couples should never adopt dogs. One person or other needs to take responsibility for raising an animal drat, I was hoping to get a dog one day but I'm married and we have a house and it would be wrong to adopt a dog, because I have a wife. So many families making a horrible selfish decision, adopting cool doggies in need of a home
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# ? May 22, 2017 01:22 |
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blarzgh posted:And she still ends up with primary? Maybe the husband was an even bigger POS.
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# ? May 22, 2017 01:32 |
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My [24F] fiance's [27M] sister [25F] just got engaged and is planning on having her wedding really close to ours. Wow, that is kinda rude of quote:So a little background on the relationships. All three of us went to the same highschool. My fiance (let's call him John) was a few years ahead of me but we didn't talk much in school. His sister (I'll call her Julie) was a year ahead of me but we were on the dance team together.
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# ? May 22, 2017 01:34 |
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I don't see the big deal
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# ? May 22, 2017 01:40 |
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Haifisch posted:My [24F] fiance's [27M] sister [25F] just got engaged and is planning on having her wedding really close to ours. People who give a single gently caress about this sort of thing are the absolute scum of the earth. Your wedding isn't special, you're not special, get the hell over yourself.
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Blue Train posted:I don't see the big deal
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# ? May 22, 2017 01:42 |
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Blue Train posted:I don't see the big deal It's not, I mean it's almost three months later.
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Naerasa posted:People who give a single gently caress about this sort of thing are the absolute scum of the earth. Your wedding isn't special, you're not special, get the hell over yourself. I mean it would be kind of rude if they'd set it within a few days, but three months? Get over yourself.
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# ? May 22, 2017 01:45 |
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I will never understand why weddings make so many women so loving crazy.
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# ? May 22, 2017 02:41 |
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many johnnys posted:drat, I was hoping to get a dog one day but I'm married and we have a house and it would be wrong to adopt a dog, because I have a wife. So many families making a horrible selfish decision, adopting cool doggies in need of a home Just make sure it's your dog, not a "couple's dog", and don't let anybody gently caress with your dog.
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# ? May 22, 2017 02:55 |
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HoAssHo posted:I will never understand why weddings make so many women so loving crazy. Somehow we haven't collectively noticed that other people stop caring about your wedding a week after it's done. e: I can type gud. Haifisch fucked around with this message at 04:13 on May 22, 2017 |
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Haifisch posted:It's built up to be Your Special Fairytale Day Where You Can Have Anything You Want, and there's an entire industry encouraging women to invest insane amounts of time, money, and mental energy into them. The secret is to give up control of a bunch of minor stuff to the couple's parents since they're paying for most of it traditionally and it's important for them to feel like they're contributing. it makes the whole planning process much less stressful, and every dollar you don't spend on a ridiculous soiree is more money you can spend on a bitchin' honeymoon.
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:33 |
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HoAssHo posted:I will never understand why weddings make so many women so loving crazy. Because in theory you are only doing it Once, which puts this enormous artificial pressure to have it be perfect. If you normally host Christmas with your family, and you accidentally burned the ham or had some screw ups, its not as big of a deal because you can always try again next year. But with a wedding, you don't really get do-overs, which puts a lot of emphasis on how it plays out the first time.
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:35 |
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Maybe I'm just poor but the majority of people I know just went to a justice of the peace or whatever and then had a party
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:38 |
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Blue Train posted:Maybe I'm just poor but the majority of people I know just went to a justice of the peace or whatever and then had a party You are poor.
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:41 |
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Well la de da
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:42 |
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My (F24) fiance (M27) gave away $170,000 to pay for another woman's education. Should this be a deal breaker?quote:A little background we have been together for two years, engaged for nine months. Money has been tight and we do share some of our income and expenses. We've been planning our wedding but it has gone slow because of money being tight. He didn't pay off the 8,000 credit card debt he's been working on. He didn't pay off his car. quote:He's not just a drunk guy. This didn't happen overnight but he definitely didn't deal with an attorney. He deal directly somebody at the university. He received an award from the board of trustees and I was there for that and it was a ceremony where a lot of people got awards. But definitely no attorney represented him. Could he have gotten swindled? quote:I assumed he was saving the money. Then at some point at the end of summer he told me he used it to help single moms pay for school. In November we went to a ceremony and he got an award for his contribution. We don't do taxes together so all I know is he owes a few thousand in taxes but he's not worried about it and says he can pay for it by the end of 2015. I don't have exact figures on how much he owes. I didn't ask about the money because it was his money. I just assumed he would spend it on your wedding and save some of it.
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:44 |
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Blue Train posted:Maybe I'm just poor but the majority of people I know just went to a justice of the peace or whatever and then had a party The lady and I are poors and we've decided if and when we tie the knot were going to do it in dumb t shirts and jeans and sneakers and not give a shot and then get hella loaded
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dudeness posted:My (F24) fiance (M27) gave away $170,000 to pay for another woman's education. Should this be a deal breaker? He is straight retarded BENGHAZI 2 posted:The lady and I are poors and we've decided if and when we tie the knot were going to do it in dumb t shirts and jeans and sneakers and not give a shot and then get hella loaded It seems like the best idea imo
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:49 |
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Weddings are dumb you should just put a down payment on a house and then go to a beach and stare into each other's eyes while throwing rocks at seagulls or w/e
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:50 |
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Blue Train posted:Maybe I'm just poor but the majority of people I know just went to a justice of the peace or whatever and then had a party I [23m] have been with my girlfriend [25f] for over 3 years. We were waiting until marriage for sex. Now she says she may never want it. quote:We have been together for 3 years and we have had a wonderful relationship. We now live together in an in-law style apartment in her parent's house (fairly private, just shared kitchen). We have fun, we laugh, we really love each other. When we first met, she said that she wanted to wait to have sex until marriage so that it would be more special. I was/am okay with this.
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:52 |
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Sex is a crucial part of a relationship and needs to be experienced before marriage just like living together
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:57 |
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Blue Train posted:Sex is a crucial part of a relationship and needs to be experienced before marriage just like living together Yea. Both of those change a load of dynamics. That'd be the big thing for me, not even how the sex was.
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# ? May 22, 2017 03:59 |
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A big wedding can be a lot of fun as long as you maintain perspective on how much everyone else cares about the details and don't go into debt for it. Source: just did this.
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:03 |
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I'd love to get dressed up beautifully and proclaim to the world, and especially all the people I know, how much I love the person I am marrying and how devoted I will be
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:08 |
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You got the Disney disease tho
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:09 |
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Haifisch posted:It's built up to be Your Special Fairytale Day Where You Can Have Anything You Want, and there's an entire industry encouraging women to invest insane amounts of time, money, and mental energy into them. Yeah, I think what rubs me so wrong about it is the idea that they're doing so something so amazing and special by getting married. Like it's such an accomplishment and we all need to fawn over them and treat them like royalty because of it.* Most people get married. You're not that special. And you're definitely not so important and special that no one in the family can also get married around the same time. If only people put as much work and thought into making their marriages work as they do into making their childish pretty princess fantasies into reality. *(Similarly, I hate how in movies the woman always acts like she hit the loving lottery when the dude proposes - like getting married is the best thing that could possibly happen to a woman and he's doing her such an incredible favor. It's a bummer.) Blue Train posted:Maybe I'm just poor but the majority of people I know just went to a justice of the peace or whatever and then had a party We just eloped in Vegas because his Greek immigrant parents were being awful and overbearing and wouldn't compromise at all (they wanted me to get baptized and convert to Greek Orthodox and have a huge church wedding, including flying over like two dozen people from Greece) and I very much wanted none of that so we said fine, gently caress you then if you won't even budge. The screaming and crying over the phone that we had to endure was awful (these are the same people who literally screamed and cried when he wanted to move out of their house at 24 lol) but they got over it eventually, though my MIL still occasionally tries to talk us into having having a real wedding one day. 16 years later. My Big Fat Greek Wedding is basically a documentary, is what I'm saying.
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:11 |
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I will never understand people who wait until marriage in 2017
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:15 |
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BENGHAZI 2 posted:I will never understand people who wait until marriage in 2017 Some people still care about things and are willing to wait for good things.
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Pick posted:Some people still care about things and are willing to wait for good things. That's all well and good but you really need to make sure you're sexually compatible first though.
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:18 |
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HoAssHo posted:My Big Fat Greek Wedding is basically a documentary, is what I'm saying. drat you beat me to the joke lol
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:18 |
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HoAssHo posted:That's all well and good but you really need to make sure you're sexually compatible first though. I mean I personally agree but people have had successful marriages without having done this.
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Pick posted:Some people still care about things and are willing to wait for good things. Waiting to have sex until marriage is a great way to end up with someone cheating, especially if both people aren't virgins going in
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:20 |
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I'm too salty for love.
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:23 |
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Pick posted:I mean I personally agree but people have had successful marriages without having done this.
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# ? May 22, 2017 04:23 |
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Also there's no reason to wait and every reason not to wait. Successful no-sex-before marriages are exceptions, not the rule. And the attitudes that lead to people waiting until marriage tend to create other problems, like sexual problems when their brain can't go "sex is evil and will taint you forever"->"ok it's cool now that you're married".
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