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fruit on the bottom posted:Did we ever find out what kind of cupcakes they were? Handmade raspberry preserve stuffed
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Pick posted:He didn't throw out your loving cupcakes so shut up Seriously though, after the second paragraph I figured this was either your Reddit alt or your long-lost cousin who also is trapped in a lovely abusive relationship.
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# ? May 30, 2017 05:55 |
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dudeness posted:How can I stop doing things for my bf without hurting his feelings? This is like the earth shaking, the rocks crumbling, and the seas frothing and then the volcano just kind of dribbles out a thin stream of lava that goes straight to the sea. Have some drat pride, if you're going to explode because the high priest hasn't tossed a virgin into you since he got the job level the whole goddamn island so that future men who dare to tread on your shores find the still standing statues of the men who failed you.
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# ? May 30, 2017 05:56 |
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dudeness posted:How can I stop doing things for my bf without hurting his feelings? She's really loving upset about that goddamned pot.
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# ? May 30, 2017 10:49 |
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Am I going to go to Jail?quote:Hey guys, You had FOUR chances to not get arrested for underage drinking by the most patient cops in the US, and you managed to blow every single one of them.
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# ? May 30, 2017 12:00 |
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Throw that monster into the gulag and let him rot i say !!
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# ? May 30, 2017 12:16 |
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Danaru posted:Am I going to go to Jail? And lowkey complains about the unfairness of it. A perfect occasion to excerpt the most underrated speech in Shakespeare: Friar Lawrence posted:The law that threaten'd death becomes thy friend
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# ? May 30, 2017 14:23 |
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dudeness posted:How can I stop doing things for my bf without hurting his feelings? Jesus, that's heart-breaking. Anyone who has to write several paragraphs of their SO being a dick should know what they're supposed to do. But hey, it also gave me a few cool ideas for hand-made gifts!
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# ? May 30, 2017 14:53 |
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Barudak posted:This is the stupidest reason to like the term, but I appreciated it because once while struggling to call someone stupid and being told that pretty much every term from dumb to idiot to stupid were ableist I stumbled onto Nimrod and just relished it as I said it over and over again. ugh gently caress you
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# ? May 30, 2017 15:11 |
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Motherfucker posted:ugh gently caress you Sorry, did someone violate your safe space by considering others?
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# ? May 30, 2017 15:14 |
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Danaru posted:Am I going to go to Jail? I don't think he would have gotten arrested if he had blown them.
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# ? May 30, 2017 15:24 |
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Sorry, did someone violate your safe space by considering others? Man that attempt at turnabout with "safe space" failed on multiple levels.
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# ? May 30, 2017 15:25 |
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ZearothK posted:Jesus, that's heart-breaking. Anyone who has to write several paragraphs of their SO being a dick should know what they're supposed to do. I can totally see her side of this, it sounds soul crushing, but if you're someone who isn't super big into giving and receiving gifts that poo poo gets annoying and wears you the gently caress down, and then you feel guilty for disliking it and the other person goes "but that's just how I show love!" I...may be speaking from the boyfriend's experience on this one, though I do always make an effort to get a thoughtful present the other person will for Christmas and birthdays.
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# ? May 30, 2017 15:26 |
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Bamabalacha posted:I can totally see her side of this, it sounds soul crushing, but if you're someone who isn't super big into giving and receiving gifts that poo poo gets annoying and wears you the gently caress down, and then you feel guilty for disliking it and the other person goes "but that's just how I show love!" If you're not into giving then you should prolly give up on relationships.
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# ? May 30, 2017 15:44 |
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Martha Stewart Undying posted:If you're not into giving then you should prolly give up on relationships. Look at this obvious shill for Big Head.
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Bamabalacha posted:I can totally see her side of this, it sounds soul crushing, but if you're someone who isn't super big into giving and receiving gifts that poo poo gets annoying and wears you the gently caress down, and then you feel guilty for disliking it and the other person goes "but that's just how I show love!" Martha Stewart Undying posted:If you're not into giving then you should prolly give up on relationships.
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crazy wall of text incomingquote:
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# ? May 30, 2017 16:11 |
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My family of chimneys hotboxed the loving house with cigarette smoke after being told that my boyfriend was allergic to cigarette smoke. Is my boyfriend an rear end in a top hat for acting nicer around them when he has access to oxygen?
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# ? May 30, 2017 16:22 |
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dudeness posted:How can I stop doing things for my bf without hurting his feelings? Hmm. Codependent doormat dates the least complicated man on on Earth, showers him with attention he finds uncomfortable and hard to reciprocate. Through 5 years of OP's frustration and her bf's failure to adapt, OP has finally (FINALLY) started to realize that maybe he's not into this poo poo like she is. I'd call this a success story, honestly.
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putrid aidsman posted:crazy wall of text incoming I don't see where she is saying he had an asthma attack and had to go to the hospital, so I am thinking that this allergy is being exaggerated because he is a big baby.
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Martha Stewart Undying posted:If you're not into giving then you should prolly give up on relationships. I like doing small gifts/gestures for my partner, just not love bombing them with cookies and detailed cutesy crafts and baked food for him to take on a boat for work continuously. She sounds needy and smothering as hell. Like I knew my boyfriend had a terrible day at work last week so I when I showed up at his place, I brought a six pack of his favorite beer. And when I had a murder flu last month and I mention in passing I was low on medication, he drove to my house without me even asking having bought half the drugstore. THOSE kind of things are what I think show how much you care for someone. That being said, he needs to up his game for at least Christmas and birthdays.
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# ? May 30, 2017 16:29 |
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Martha Stewart Undying posted:If you're not into giving then you should prolly give up on relationships.
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Martha Stewart Undying posted:If you're not into giving then you should prolly give up on relationships.
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# ? May 30, 2017 16:36 |
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I like being a giving and sharing partner in things like goals and emotions and interests and love, I just find her type overboard gift attitude extremely annoying. She crossed over from being thoughtful to going "LOOK AT ALL THESE THINGS, LOVE MEEEEEEEE"
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# ? May 30, 2017 16:37 |
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Bamabalacha posted:I like being a giving and sharing partner in things like goals and emotions and interests and love, I just find her type overboard gift attitude extremely annoying. You should not try to make this thread understand nuance like this The thread has spoken, the dogpile has already begun
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# ? May 30, 2017 16:43 |
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hawowanlawow posted:You should not try to make this thread understand nuance like this That isnt nuance it's more cynicism.
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# ? May 30, 2017 16:56 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:That isnt nuance it's more cynicism. Not really, saying that different people value different things in a relationship isn't really cynical at
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hawowanlawow posted:You should not try to make this thread understand nuance like this Lady finds her self worth in doing things for others (note the emphasis on the cost and effort on her part) and is craving more attention from her bf because his normal actions of taking her on dates and being cool and nice and junk aren't enough to mask the self-loathing any longer. She is desperately carpet bombing this guy with self-sacrifice, hoping for more love in return. Dude's at fault for just ignoring the issue and hoping it will go away (which it now might do so, at the expense of a chunk of his gf's fragile self-worth) or for being an oblivious idiot for five years, dealer's choice. The other option is that OP's a perfectly well-adjusted human being who has remained in an unhealthy relationship for five years, which isn't any fun, it's just boring.
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Bamabalacha posted:I like being a giving and sharing partner in things like goals and emotions and interests and love, I just find her type overboard gift attitude extremely annoying.
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Actually, yeah! She's a lovely, clingy girlfriend for doing things like hand-making birthday/christmas/vday gifts and having the audacity to bake him cookies. I mean, where they even loving gluten free? What an unreasonable bitch! Is she trying to kill him?
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# ? May 30, 2017 17:02 |
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Martha Stewart Undying posted:Actually, yeah! She's a lovely, clingy girlfriend for doing things like hand-making birthday/christmas/vday gifts and having the audacity to bake him cookies. I mean, where they even loving gluten free? What an unreasonable bitch! Is she trying to kill him? I'm just working from my own experience here. The truth is likely that she's just not going to be satisfied with this guy and it's way past time to move on. E: it's not that she made the gifts, it's that she kept making them and making them for no return.
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Giving a gift is traditionally the last resort to try to get affection from another person, and that might seem really hosed up, but when a person is in a relationship and they feel unloved, that is often something that they do to squeeze out an "I acknowledge you". However, instead of make a point about how much you like the gift, then it is time for the other person to step up their level of affection generally or sever the relationship entirely, because at that stage it really isn't about the gifts, it is about someone feeling like they are being starved of affection.
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Pvt.Scott posted:I'm just working from my own experience here. The truth is likely that she's just not going to be satisfied with this guy and it's way past time to move on. What kind of emotional terrorist does things for the people they love???
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therobit posted:I don't see where she is saying he had an asthma attack and had to go to the hospital, so I am thinking that this allergy is being exaggerated because he is a big baby. Absolutely this, but gently caress smokers.
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# ? May 30, 2017 17:11 |
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Bamabalacha posted:Not really, saying that different people value different things in a relationship isn't really cynical at Saying that someone giving someone gifts based on gathering attention for themselves is the definition of cynicism.
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# ? May 30, 2017 17:12 |
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I was with a girl like that, cards weekly, she'd make cakes, I'd buy her flowers and lingerie, cook her food as a surprise, and surprise tickets to zoos and gigs, etc. It was all really really sweet. I wish she hadn't had an affair. Those cakes were awesome. GRINDCORE MEGGIDO fucked around with this message at 17:16 on May 30, 2017 |
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GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:I was with a girl like that, cards weekly, she'd make cakes, I'd buy her flowers and lingerie, cook her food as a surprise, and surprise tickets to zoos and gigs, etc. It was all really really sweet. these really are the best, but then they're not really gifts. Shame my x decided I couldn't smoke weed anymore.
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Submarine Sandpaper posted:these really are the best, but then they're not really gifts. Shame my x decided I couldn't smoke weed anymore. why weeds not even a drug
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# ? May 30, 2017 17:16 |
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Martha Stewart Undying posted:What kind of emotional terrorist does things for the people they love??? Also what kind of relationship is founded on gestures that any of your friends would do? Oh they picked me up from the airport *gargles cocks*
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Martha Stewart Undying posted:why my thought exactly. Her farther was an alcoholic who smoked weed?
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