Kelp Me! posted:

:scoff: you want me to intentionally play a bad deck, just so my crybaby girlfriend will actually enjoy herself and not feel intimidated and belittled every time I make her play against me?


Next you'll tell me I should give constructive advice instead of getting immediately frustrated and irate when she makes a rookie mistake!

BENGHAZI 2 posted:

ArbitraryC posted:

Also didn't we drop this for like 2 pages why are you so insistent about dragging it back out?

ArbitraryC posted:

It's a turn based strategy guys, even if the decks are imbalanced there's a bunch of optimal ways to play you internalize that will just naturally give you an advantage.

Think of literally any other game where it's player vs player, if someone has much better fundamentals than their opponent it doesn't matter if they pick weaker characters or use weird strategies they haven't tried out before they'll just win with better technique and decision making. This is made worse because it's turn based, there's not a good way to "play more casually" when your options are "make the right play" vs "don't make the right play".

They can just play gimmick versions of the game like crap stack or 2hg or w/e, but if it's just 1 v 1 with normal rules it's probably not gonna be a fair fight even if he gave himself every handicap reasonably possible. I dunno what's so hard to understand about this.

Also didn't we drop this for like 2 pages why are you so insistent about dragging it back out?

MF_James posted:

Pot meet kettle, just stop loving responding and magic the gathering will die as it should.

maskenfreiheit posted:

you text them and they never respond, hth

Pick posted:

If one player is still way better with the funsie intro decks you can buy, why doesn't the better player take out all their best cards, like the dragons or whatever, to keep it competitive?

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My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost six months, and I want to tell him now, before things start to get more serious than they already are. I think he has a right to know.

I am of Indian heritage. This is not a generational practice in my family - my great grandmothers all came from four different countries. As cousin marriage is not unheard of in Pakistan and India, this wouldn't be an awkward conversation to have if he was of South Asian heritage. But, as he is Scottish and German, I think that he will find it much harder to understand.

At the risk of ruining a great relationship, how do I have this conversation with him?

tl;dr: I somehow need to tell my non-Indian boyfriend of six months that my parents are first cousins

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My wife and I have been together for a little over 2 years. At the beginning of our relationship I can admit that I did play a lot of video games. Once we started getting serious I started playing less and less. We both work full time but she makes way more than I do. When we go out to eat or something we usually split the check but sometimes when I am low on cash and she wants a burger she will pay for it if I pick up. I would say that she wears the financial pants in the relationship. Every so often if we are both doing nothing I will tell her that I am going to play 1 game of LoL or CSGO which usually takes about an hour. Sometimes she is ok with it but most of the time she will get pissed because she thinks I prefer to play video games than spend time with her which turns into a fight. Right now we are trying to get a house and being in the area that we have to hit the top of our budget to get a house.

I usually have no money by the time I get paid and that is after I pay all of my bills and she usually can saves about 1k every month. This being the cause she is putting most of her savings and 5k from her dad into the down payment. I had bad credit which she helped pay off by letting me us my half of the rent to pay off to get it up to where we need to be which I am grateful for. I have also agreed that since she has done this for me I will give her a little more each month to pay towards half of the down payment.

Last night after 4 hours spending time with her giving her a foot massage, playing with her hair ( usually do it 30 mins daily) and make a BOMB steak dinner I tell her that I am going to play 1 game of CSGO. After my game I shut off my computer and go back into the living room. She looks pissed and says "go away, go back to your video games". I do not play this passive aggressive game with her so I go back to my computer and watch some youtube.

She doesn't like that so near bed time she starts telling me that I care about my computer more than her and that I have to sell it or we are not getting a house and she is going to divorce me. I have no clue what to do. She has said before "when you make as much as I do you can start doing what you want" I'm ok with doing more house work than her since she makes more but I don't think she can dictate what I can and can't do.

tl;dr: Wife wants me to sell my computer because she does not like me playing video games. If I don't she will drop the house and divorce me

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At this time she does not have any hobbies. She has some podcasts she listens to or some tv shows. She said she would be more ok if it was a normal hobby like basketball or something. She thinks that I am a loser and a child since I like video games

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The thing is that there is only one show I hate that she watches which is Teen loving mom. I hate the show but I dont hate her for liking it.

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Most of the time I have to watch it with her or she will be upset.

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She has tested me many times before this by saying "if you really love me you will stop playing for X amount of weeks or months" which I have happily done.

BENGHAZI 2 posted:

The intro decks already don't have actually good cards in them.by design

Patrick Spens posted:

I know this isn't the point of the story, but I can't imagine splitting the cheque when you are married to someone.

La Brea Carpet posted:

Hey lets talk about video games instead of MtG!

My wife [25 F] wants to divorce me [25 M] because she thinks I like playing video games more than hanging out with her

There are dudes who pay good money for this kind of treatment.

purple death ray posted:

Oh woe is me, I can't find anywhere else on the internet to have pedantic conversations about a collectible card game! Better load up r/relationships and make this poo poo happen!

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First off, I'm a gay lady, and this ex is from 2 years ago. We dated for about a year. I don't know if there is any actual advice for this issue. I'm mad at both my "step-mom" and my ex. It's their life, and their business, but I just feel like there are plenty of women out there if she just had to try women. Did it have to be someone that we spent Christmas with as a family as my girlfriend in the past.

ArbitraryC posted:

It's a turn based strategy guys, even if the decks are imbalanced there's a bunch of optimal ways to play you internalize that will just naturally give you an advantage.

Think of literally any other game where it's player vs player, if someone has much better fundamentals than their opponent it doesn't matter if they pick weaker characters or use weird strategies they haven't tried out before they'll just win with better technique and decision making. This is made worse because it's turn based, there's not a good way to "play more casually" when your options are "make the right play" vs "don't make the right play".

They can just play gimmick versions of the game like crap stack or 2hg or w/e, but if it's just 1 v 1 with normal rules it's probably not gonna be a fair fight even if he gave himself every handicap reasonably possible. I dunno what's so hard to understand about this.

Also didn't we drop this for like 2 pages why are you so insistent about dragging it back out?

La Brea Carpet posted:

[b]My wife [25 F] wants to divorce me [25 M] because she thinks I like playing video games more than hanging out with her.

La Brea Carpet posted:

Hey lets talk about video games instead of MtG!

My wife [25 F] wants to divorce me [25 M] because she thinks I like playing video games more than hanging out with her

purple death ray posted:

Oh woe is me, I can't find anywhere else on the internet to have pedantic conversations about a collectible card game! Better load up r/relationships and make this poo poo happen!

Yawgmoth posted:

I think if I got any of the crazy ultimatums this dude has gotten I would respond with divorce papers, jesus gently caress.
Dude, if you want it to stop have to put in a token effort. Personally, I think that conversation is all tapped out, but your efforts run counter to that. It's just a phase of the thread, whining about it is just going to draw it out more. count the magic puns you nerds

Slugworth posted:

Some of this is awful, but at the same time, is it weird that if I'm home with my gf, I'd rather not like, be in a different room doing something by myself? It just feels strange. I'm all for us doing our own things out of the house, have no like, bare minimum amount of time we must spend together, but if we're home together, it seems like we should be doing stuff together. I wouldbt be upset per se if she went into another room to watch a movie without me, but it would just feel... off.

Slugworth posted:

Some of this is awful, but at the same time, is it weird that if I'm home with my gf, I'd rather not like, be in a different room doing something by myself? It just feels strange. I'm all for us doing our own things out of the house, have no like, bare minimum amount of time we must spend together, but if we're home together, it seems like we should be doing stuff together. I wouldbt be upset per se if she went into another room to watch a movie without me, but it would just feel... off.

Slugworth posted:

Some of this is awful, but at the same time, is it weird that if I'm home with my gf, I'd rather not like, be in a different room doing something by myself? It just feels strange. I'm all for us doing our own things out of the house, have no like, bare minimum amount of time we must spend together, but if we're home together, it seems like we should be doing stuff together. I wouldbt be upset per se if she went into another room to watch a movie without me, but it would just feel... off.

Pick posted:

I'm just saying you could take the strongest cards out, like the dragons (if it's anything like Yu Gi Oh), and then it'll be fairer. Or give the dragons to the other player.

Slugworth posted:

Some of this is awful, but at the same time, is it weird that if I'm home with my gf, I'd rather not like, be in a different room doing something by myself? It just feels strange. I'm all for us doing our own things out of the house, have no like, bare minimum amount of time we must spend together, but if we're home together, it seems like we should be doing stuff together. I wouldbt be upset per se if she went into another room to watch a movie without me, but it would just feel... off.

Pick posted:

I'm just saying you could take the strongest cards out, like the dragons (if it's anything like Yu Gi Oh), and then it'll be fairer. Or give the dragons to the other player.

Slugworth posted:

Some of this is awful, but at the same time, is it weird that if I'm home with my gf, I'd rather not like, be in a different room doing something by myself? It just feels strange. I'm all for us doing our own things out of the house, have no like, bare minimum amount of time we must spend together, but if we're home together, it seems like we should be doing stuff together. I wouldbt be upset per se if she went into another room to watch a movie without me, but it would just feel... off.

Yawgmoth posted:

It's nothing like yugioh outside of there being cards and turns involved. A deck with a bunch of dragons in it is going to be absolute poo poo (although maybe he could try building dragon tribal and play it against his girlfriend).

Yawgmoth posted:

It's nothing like yugioh outside of there being cards and turns involved. A deck with a bunch of dragons in it is going to be absolute poo poo (although maybe he could try building dragon tribal and play it against his girlfriend).

La Brea Carpet posted:

Ya'll nerds should have tapped more kegs and less manna in college.

La Brea Carpet posted:

My wife [25 F] wants to divorce me [25 M] because she thinks I like playing video games more than hanging out with her

I Was The Fury posted:

[Relationships] How do I (25F) tell my boyfriend (27M) that my parents are first cousins?

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As cousin marriage is not unheard of in Pakistan and India, this wouldn't be an awkward conversation to have if he was of South Asian heritage. But, as he is Scottish and German, I think that he will find it much harder to understand.

OP posted:

There are a lot of details to this story so I will start from the beginning. I live in a suburban neighborhood of Nevada, made up of rows of newly built property. I have a neighbor who is a man about my age (40) and lives with his wife and a young girl. He has been harassing me since I moved here from Eastern Europe in 2012. This includes playing loud music through speakers in the early hours of the morning, (he knows that I work night shifts) abusing me when I am taking out the trash and even damaging my property.

This is came to a climax in January when I was trying to sleep after a long night of work (I am a security guard) and I was woken up by the sound of loud metal music coming from this man's house. I was enraged by this and jumped out of my bed, threw on a shirt and shorts, and stormed outside only to find that this man had opened his front door to let the sound out for the express purpose of ruining my sleep. I angrily stormed into his house and got in his face, shouting at him about what he had done and told him that I have had enough.

This was made even worse by the fact that his wife and young girl were with him in his living room, and I felt sorry for them having to deal with such a terrible father/husband. The girl was crying and it made me even more angry. I shouted to the man " you don't deserve to be a father", to which he replied "I'll do whatever the f*ck I want with my kid" and without warning he punched my head, breaking my nose.

I lost my composure and pushed the man over, he landed very hard and hit his head on the corner of the coffee table. I would like to add that I did not intend to push him that hard, but this man is about 5'"5 tall and I am over 6" making it hard to avoid hurting him. I left the house and went back to my home without looking back and tried to forget about what happened.

In this time to try and forget about what happened, I drank very heavily and took some ecstasy. Things got out of hand when during the high I remembered the incident and flew into a rage. Without thinking I grabbed my Ruger 10 .22 rifle and fired a shot at my neighbour's house. Thats it. I walked back inside and didn't hear anything about it for months.

Fast forward to last week when I had police officers show up to my house and arrest me. They took me to the police station and questioned me for hours. The next day I was charged with unlawful discharge of a weapon among other charges relating to property damage.

Though I acknowledge that what I did was not responsible and an overreaction, this man is now acting as though he did nothing wrong and I am certain that he has not admitted to punching me in the face. How can I counter this prosecution by bringing up his initial attack on me? Is it possible to have my charges dropped or lessened by bringing up the fact that he punched me?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Holy poo poo, you need a criminal defence attorney immediately, and you need to stop posting your story on the internet. Without prompting or any pressure whatsoever, you just admitted to multiple offences, including a couple of felonies. Off the top of my head:

-Assault
-Brandishing
-Attempted murder/depraved indifference or something else along that spectrum
-Possession of controlled substances

If all you catch for this is an unlawful discharge conviction, you'll be coming out ahead.

Shut up, lawyer up, and let your lawyer field this. Pray your lawyer can negotiate a plea bargain, but expect to be doing anger management courses and to have to complete substance abuse counselling as a condition of that deal, or of your eventual parole.
Worrying about whether he punched you first is, at this point, not urgent.

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Well at least you'll never be able to own guns again

La Brea Carpet posted: