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Barudak posted:Your wife cheated on you within three days of getting married, then instantly bullied you into accepting she get hallf your stuff while she fucks a guy who you live with and your trying to make it work. Even a dog would have poo poo on her rug and run away by this point. Going to guess the cheating was going on before the marriage and the relationship was not as monogamous as he thinks. Should of got a prenup.
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Khorne posted:This is a complicated thing to learn because it's not always true, but in the context of "you don't need the approval of others do something you really want to do" it's true. to be fair in normal people speech "do x if you want do do x" usually means you're not really that enthusiastic about the prospect but don't really want to directly tell them no.
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Jul 8, 2017 16:57
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I honestly wonder what these weddings are like. Like, is this a full blown ceremony and reception, or is this the back yard, lawn chair, juggalo wedding type thing where they don't even know you have to go to the courthouse and stuff?
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Jul 8, 2017 17:23
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genesplicer posted:Pretty harsh statement, there. I am utterly devoted to my wife, and have been so for over 30 years. The fact that you might be having problems does not automatically translate to "All men are scum". Maybe picking a better quality of man might help. v never mind then! Anne Whateley fucked around with this message at 17:50 on Jul 8, 2017 |
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Jul 8, 2017 17:42
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i like nice words
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I thiiiink that was Corsair.
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Jul 8, 2017 17:46
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Pick posted:No it's actually not me, that's what's so crazy about it. You all think the Hugh story is nuts, but what's nuts is it's totally rote and overplayed. Yea it is pretty nuts that you had all the examples in the world around you on what not to do and completely ignored them all. Its almost like you're a loving dumbass or something??
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Jul 8, 2017 17:59
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saw this on reddit and thought of you guys TIFU by accidentally flashing the pizza guy and then accidentally tipping him a hundred dollars quote:Well, this literally happened no more than five minutes ago. My boyfriend and I decided to build a bed fort in my living room and order pizza.
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Jul 8, 2017 18:03
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darkhand posted:my bf doesn't seem to ~~know his own emotions~~ i say as i sit in a parking lot crying I'm going to make as crystal clear as possible that I don't like his music and don't actually want to be there, oh god why did he give me permission to not come does he hate me someone help me decode this autistic cipher A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 18:12 on Jul 8, 2017 |
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Jul 8, 2017 18:05
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I'm going to make as crystal clear as possible that I don't like his music and don't actually want to be there, oh god why did he give me permission to not come does he hate me Some people would happily jump up and down on their own heads if they physically were able to do so.
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Jul 8, 2017 18:51
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epsilon posted:Yea it is pretty nuts that you had all the examples in the world around you on what not to do and completely ignored them all. Its almost like you're a loving dumbass or something?? Love makes you dumb as hell, man
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Jul 8, 2017 19:23
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Pick posted:Love makes you dumb as hell, man no you're just dumb as hell
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Jul 8, 2017 19:34
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blarzgh posted:I honestly wonder what these weddings are like. Like, is this a full blown ceremony and reception, or is this the back yard, lawn chair, juggalo wedding type thing where they don't even know you have to go to the courthouse and stuff? I know im always curious about that part. Like the dude whose wife has been unfaithful for, uh who knows how long and he got married for three days, I hold out hope they didnt to to the courthouse yet.
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Jul 8, 2017 20:03
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Pick posted:Yeah, that's a big upshot. Keep him if you can, with arts and crafts he's less likely to develop fetishes dangerous to your health. Good luck. You say that until one day he brings home an apiary.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:00
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rat-born cock posted:r/in-denial-cels Nah. Turning women down when you're an obese uggo because you have hang ups about sex after being assaulted feels pretty lovely though. I'm working on that right now.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:05
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Help. I [19F] drove drunk to my best friends [21M] house, puked on his floor and cried to him about random stuff at 3 AMquote:There's no way I'm posting this on my real account.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:08
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Pvt.Scott posted:You say that until one day he brings home an apiary. bees are fine. bees friends.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:08
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Pvt.Scott posted:Nah. Turning women down when you're an obese uggo because you have hang ups about sex after being assaulted feels pretty lovely though. I'm working on that right now. Yeah, that sucks, I was mainly using your post as an excuse to make a bad joke.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:14
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fruit on the bottom posted:Help. I [19F] drove drunk to my best friends [21M] house, puked on his floor and cried to him about random stuff at 3 AM bees
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Jul 8, 2017 21:15
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rat-born cock posted:Yeah, that sucks, I was mainly using your post as an excuse to make a bad joke. It was a good joke. I laughed.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:18
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Mirthless posted:saw this on reddit and thought of you guys It's pretty lovely not to let him keep the hundred bucks.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:25
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Anony Mouse posted:My [39/F] Ex-Husband [38/M] of 18 years has revealed that he is gay and cheating on me... Everyone tells me to just "be happy for him"? What does she want? I mean obviously cheating is bad, especially if they are having unprotected sex (A lot of married closet gay guys do because they still consider themselves to being monogamous and aren't as well versed in safe sex practices). But the guy is gay, cheating was a lovely thing to do but most of the other stuff is just, dear, he's gay, what do you want, him to stay married to you? His children to gay shame him? And who the gently caress doesn't have ANY friends? Really, no one in your life? She is nuts and he is better off sucking dick than spending the rest of his life with her.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:40
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Pvt.Scott posted:Nah. Turning women down because you have hang ups about sex after being assaulted feels pretty lovely though. I'm working on that right now. I was a ho for years. I'd have preferred turning them all down. GRINDCORE MEGGIDO fucked around with this message at 21:47 on Jul 8, 2017 |
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Jul 8, 2017 21:42
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fruit on the bottom posted:Help. I [19F] drove drunk to my best friends [21M] house, puked on his floor and cried to him about random stuff at 3 AM LOL what even advice do you want with this one, lady? Sounds like you freaked out huge and a friend was there for you. Tell the guy he's a great friend, you're sorry you were such a ridiculous mess last night, and you hope you can be there for him as well as he was for you when you needed to have a stupid drunken meltdown.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:48
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Three Olives posted:What does she want? I mean obviously cheating is bad, especially if they are having unprotected sex (A lot of married closet gay guys do because they still consider themselves to being monogamous and aren't as well versed in safe sex practices). He shouldn't stay with her, and it sucks that it turned out this way. But he didn't have to cheat on her. He could have broken up with her first. He's an rear end in a top hat and everyone is afraid to say so because they think criticizing a gay man's actions might make them a homophobe.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:50
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fruit on the bottom posted:Help. I [19F] drove drunk to my best friends [21M] house, puked on his floor and cried to him about random stuff at 3 AM Cash, grass, or rear end
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timefly posted:He shouldn't stay with her, and it sucks that it turned out this way. But he didn't have to cheat on her. He could have broken up with her first. He's an rear end in a top hat and everyone is afraid to say so because they think criticizing a gay man's actions might make them a homophobe. Well yeah cheating isn't good, I don't think you should cheat but if he's gay the relationship was already terminal, it's over, there is no longer any sacred bond in their relationship to betray because he is gay so the relationship is null and void and the rest is just logistics.
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Jul 8, 2017 21:56
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Three Olives posted:Well yeah cheating isn't good, I don't think you should cheat but if he's gay the relationship was already terminal, it's over, there is no longer any sacred bond in their relationship to betray because he is gay so the relationship is null and void and the rest is just logistics.
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Jul 8, 2017 22:00
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Khorne posted:I'd care more about being married for 18 years. You couldn't figure out you wanted some man rear end 17 or so years ago? That seems to be what she's annoyed with as well on top of people saying to "be happy for him". Internalized homophobia can gently caress you up, sometimes even with people that are completely out.
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Three Olives posted:Well yeah cheating isn't good, I don't think you should cheat but if he's gay the relationship was already terminal, it's over, there is no longer any sacred bond in their relationship to betray because he is gay so the relationship is null and void and the rest is just logistics. Yeah but it is absurd to tell the wife he cheated on for the better part of two decades "just be happy for him or ur a homo-hater." I can't quite put my finger in it but I feel like something is clouding your judgement in calling a spade a spade on this one. Owlbear Camus fucked around with this message at 22:18 on Jul 8, 2017 |
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I can totally get why it wouldn't have been an immediate discovery and reveal, but drat it's gonna be hard for her to trust again after an 18-year relationship imploding in that way. It's totally fair for her to feel betrayed. Also, if he fell for another man, then I'm sure a realisation and divorce could have happened before the cheating. It's gotta suck to not be able to cry and vent, because everyone's congratulating your cheating husband on being so brave. Parsley fucked around with this message at 22:16 on Jul 8, 2017 |
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Jul 8, 2017 22:13
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:Yeah but it is absurd to tell the wife he cheated on for the better part of two decades "just be happy for him or ur a homo-hater." Exactly - if he had broken up with her gently, didn't cheat and didn't act like he couldn't wait to sever all ties with his family, it'd be easier to feel happy for him for coming out. But it would still be awfully insensitive to expect his WIFE to feel that way considering the man she loves, and the father of her children, just dumped her. There's nothing necessarily homophobic about her reaction, her friends are just choosing to be more understanding of him than of her so no one can call them a bigot.
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Parsley posted:I can totally get why it wouldn't have been an immediate discovery and reveal, but drat it's gonna be hard for her to trust again after an 18-year relationship imploding in that way. It's totally fair for her to feel betrayed. Maybe this wouldn't be a problem if she had managed to make any friends in the past 18 years. I'm betting there is something pretty hosed up about her and it's not her gay husband.
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Three Olives posted:Maybe this wouldn't be a problem if she had managed to make any friends in the past 18 years. I'm betting there is something pretty hosed up about her and it's not her gay husband. lmao, her husband is a massive piece of poo poo however you slice it, and it sounds like you really want to make it her fault for some reason. he basically conned a woman into wasting nearly two decades with him and having kids with him, so that he could hide his sexuality. gently caress him.
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Kind of banal but I think it will spark debate. Thoughts on moving in but keeping separate bedrooms? quote:u/thunderbirdess Having a spare bedroom can be a godsend for all sorts of reasons - bad cough, early morning start, it's really freaking hot.
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:LOL what even advice do you want with this one, lady? I mean, it sounds like she's a little freaked out that he got her naked and put her in the shower? Which seems reasonable, and she probably should talk to him about it. Like, I've been in similar situations to him with friends of the opposite sex before and I don't think I'd strip them down under any circumstances.
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:I mean, it sounds like she's a little freaked out that he got her naked and put her in the shower? Which seems reasonable, and she probably should talk to him about it. Like, I've been in similar situations to him with friends of the opposite sex before and I don't think I'd strip them down under any circumstances. He's a med student, so hopefully he's above the whole "Heh heh boobies" thing and she was presumably covered in vomit. It's clearly just an act of kindness.
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If your friend is too wasted to clean themselves but also covered in vomit then putting them in the shower and giving them a hand cleaning up a bit is a nice thing to do. I'd be *way* more concerned about the drunk driving thing.
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Yeah I assume she would mention if he did more than just take off her vomit-caked clothes to rinse her. A little weird but on the balance way better than getting tucked in soaked in puke.
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:I mean, it sounds like she's a little freaked out that he got her naked and put her in the shower? Which seems reasonable, and she probably should talk to him about it. Like, I've been in similar situations to him with friends of the opposite sex before and I don't think I'd strip them down under any circumstances. op posted:I love daniel but we're like siblings, we grew up in the same house. He's incredibly cute and he gets laid a lot, so he's bound to find someone better than me anyways
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