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Pac-Manioc Root posted:Please tell me there is a response that simply reads "yes." with like a trillion upvotes. Yep drop that guy like it's hot.
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Broad categories of r/relationship posts: The OP should just type the words they typed to reddit to the person they are having the conflict/trouble with, usually in a direct but maybe slightly more diplomatic way. The OP poses a question that if you have to ask is answered "Yes." The OP should grab their bug-out bag and leave a doormat to take their place in the relationship if they feel bad about bolting. Subset of above: The OP is cohabitating with an adult baby with literally no redeeming qualities and it's difficult to understand why this is even a question.
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Jul 18, 2017 18:16
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WoodrowSkillson posted:did he just try getting better? I know it sounds bad but dude had a responsibility to his family and he just gave up. He put the entire burden on us. It sucks. Avenging_Mikon posted:Did your mom step out on him and call him worthless to all her friends? No but I wouldn't have blamed her if she did. She spent the majority of their marriage working overtime in a factory and then tending to his illness. He wasn't abusive but I'd be lying if I said we didn't feel a sense of freedom and relief when he passed.
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Jul 18, 2017 18:24
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If a woman makes me curry she can do whatever she wants with me. Ravish me, put me to work, harvest me for organs idgaf just keep that curry cumin.
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fruit on the bottom posted:If a woman makes me curry she can do whatever she wants with me. Ravish me, put me to work, harvest me for organs idgaf just keep that curry cumin. i dated a woman from india in grad school who had a lot of issues and i basically kept it going a large chunk just because i thought it'd be cruel to dump her before finals since she almost certainly would melt down... but she did make me curry, so i had that going for me.
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Jul 18, 2017 18:37
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Intruder posted:Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] of three years is an incredibly lazy person, plays hours of video games a day, doesn't contribute to household work and then expects me to have sex with him every night. Tonight I exploded at him The book 'The Sociopath next door' had all these different Sociopath archetypes, and one of them was a 'lazy' sociopath that would basically manipulate people close to him into allowing him to be as lazy as possible. The example in the book was a guy that met a woman at work then convinced her to let him move into her house, get married, quit his job and have a kid together. The whole time the dude was lazy as gently caress but because he was never outright abusive to her, (never yelled, argued, or harmed her son nor was he jealous or outwardly controlling) it was hard for her to see him as he really was. Even after she got the ovaries to divorce him he was still able to manipulate her into letting him come to the house so he could go swimming midday  . Because he was so passive he was able to slip under the 'danger' radar and it took a really long time for people to realize he was incredibly lazy.
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fruit on the bottom posted:She single? i deleted my fb and if i mention her to any mutual friends my phone will start blowing up so she will remain Schrödinger's curry maker Panfilo posted:The book 'The Sociopath next door' had all these different Sociopath archetypes, and one of them was a 'lazy' sociopath that would basically manipulate people close to him into allowing him to be as lazy as possible. The example in the book was a guy that met a woman at work then convinced her to let him move into her house, get married, quit his job and have a kid together. The whole time the dude was lazy as gently caress but because he was never outright abusive to her, (never yelled, argued, or harmed her son nor was he jealous or outwardly controlling) it was hard for her to see him as he really was. Even after she got the ovaries to divorce him he was still able to manipulate her into letting him come to the house so he could go swimming midday meh, i'm actually reading that book and i think that's a bit weaksauce to call that sociopathic. he's lazy. he's like "hi, i'm lazy, marry me" and she's like "lol k". without some threats or gaslighting it's just her being dumb like at a certain point you need to take responsibility for your choice in partners. lovely lazy husband ≠ sociopath
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Panfilo posted:The book 'The Sociopath next door' had all these different Sociopath archetypes, and one of them was a 'lazy' sociopath that would basically manipulate people close to him into allowing him to be as lazy as possible. The example in the book was a guy that met a woman at work then convinced her to let him move into her house, get married, quit his job and have a kid together. The whole time the dude was lazy as gently caress but because he was never outright abusive to her, (never yelled, argued, or harmed her son nor was he jealous or outwardly controlling) it was hard for her to see him as he really was. Even after she got the ovaries to divorce him he was still able to manipulate her into letting him come to the house so he could go swimming midday So, smart. Got it.
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Intruder posted:Is my boyfriend [25M] abusing me [23F]? BF: GF, I want to ADDRESS this issue. [GF nods] You KNOW I am sensitive to the the claims that my actions toward you are reminiscent of your abusive father GF: Absolutely BF: BUT!
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Jul 18, 2017 18:43
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What if it was Japanese Curry? My spouse early in the relationship never made or ordered anything spicy for fear that I couldnt eat it. They then decided that to make sure this could be a long term relationship they would have dinner with me where the only food would be extremely spicy dishes from their culture. They later recounted to their parents their absolute surprise that I could eat it all and that I made an unknowing comment that I was glad we were finally eating things with flavor. Their parents, knowing literally nothing else about me, recommended they marry me.
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My understanding of what curry is was utterly destroyed the first time I went to an actual Indian restaurant. Before that, I'd eaten my mom's curry my whole life and it's really more of a beef and potato stew with curry powder added and is nothing close to the real deal Because I grew up eating it I actually like it better than real curry 
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Jul 18, 2017 18:44
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Bf's mom asked me to provide birth certificate, W-2 and last 2 paystubs so she can bring someone over from Vietnam?quote:She asked for all original copies and said I wouldn't have to sign anything, because they just need proof that the person coming here knows a citizen from America. This seemed really sketchy to me, because I haven't known them long.
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Barudak posted:What if it was Japanese Curry? is japanese curry especially spicy? i'm more familiar with sichuan and thai, never encountered anything excessive in glorious nippon - my idea of japanese food is usually weird soups and uncooked fish not spicy stuff
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Intruder posted:My understanding of what curry is was utterly destroyed the first time I went to an actual Indian restaurant. Before that, I'd eaten my mom's curry my whole life and it's really more of a beef and potato stew with curry powder added and is nothing close to the real deal die
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Jul 18, 2017 18:46
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Thai curry best curry.
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maskenfreiheit posted:is japanese curry especially spicy? It is gently caress awful and bland, like all authentically Japanese foods.
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See though your reaction is how he was able to get away with it for so long. Because from everybody else's perspective looking at this with 20/20 hindsight it is her fault. So every time there's an issue the burden is suddenly on her to do something about it, when he's not doing jack poo poo. But technically he is working on being lazy because if he was truly lazy he wouldn't be able to proactively manipulate the situation so that he could put himself in that position. The lazy sociopath didn't shack up with the first desperate woman that came along, he targeted her specifically. I mean you could argue over the other Sociopath archetypes too by your logic; it was the employer's fault they didn't do their due dilligence to ensure the sociopath therapist lady wasn't qualified for her job until after she had turned patients against her rivals. The whole point about the archetypes is how each type is able to maneuver themselves into a position of power through manipulation. In the lazy guy's case, he was so passive nobody would believe he was actively positioning himself into that role.
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Hahaha this is like the inverse of the Pete story: I (M26) asked my girlfriend's (F26) best friend (F26) on vacation with me when my girlfriend cancelled. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. She has a best friend who is always around and we have become friends over that time. My girlfriend and I had planned a vacation in August. Its a month long trip and something we've been planning for years. We both get very good vacation time so it wasn't a problem. Something came up with her work and now she cannot go. My girlfriend's best friend is between work right now and I know she's always wanted to go on a similar trip. I asked her to go and she said she'd love to. She needs cheering up as she's been very down about her job loss and job hunt. I hadn't mentioned the plan to my girlfriend before hand and when she found out she was pissed. She doesn't want me to go on the trip with her best friend. She thought I would take one of my best friends or my brothers, but most of them are working and wouldn't have been able to go even if I asked. She says she can't support the two of us taking her dream vacation without her and its weird that the two of us are planning to vacation alone together. She's barely speaking to me now. I know that it was hard for my girlfriend to miss this, but it wasn't my fault and I needed someone else to go with. I know I should've discussed it with her beforehand, but I was so upset about trying to find someone to go with, I didn't want to waste any time asking her friend. tl;dr: My girlfriend cancelled on our vacation so I asked her best friend to come instead. Now my girlfriend is pissed at me. Is this really that weird? I don't want to waste this vacation time and vacation. Thoughts? In the comments he's doubling down and saying he'll just go on the vacation alone.
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Jul 18, 2017 19:04
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Intruder posted:Is my boyfriend [25M] abusing me [23F]? 1) No 2) No. No. NEXT
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to be fair that's a bit different from the pete story cause presumably everything was already booked/paid for and now he needs a +1. Additionally the gf already knows the girl and it's not like it's his ex or something. It's still not unreasonable to be put off by it on his girlfriend's part but if I had to guess there's already some jealousy there.
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Pac-Manioc Root posted:Broad categories of r/relationship posts: - the ones where the OP is bugfuck insane, turns to reddit for validation, and winds up replying to each and every individual comment about how they're wrong and stupid and just don't get it - the incredibly stupid, petty disputes that nobody should rightly care about either way but the OP is going to write sixty thousand words laying out their entire life story over - word salad there now it's comprehensive A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 19:14 on Jul 18, 2017 |
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Jul 18, 2017 19:11
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He definitely should have run that by the girlfriend ahead of time though.
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Patrick Spens posted:He definitely should have run that by the girlfriend ahead of time though. oh yeah for sure, and as I said I think even a really understanding person would probably be unhappy with their SO going on a long trip 1 on 1 with someone they could be attracted to. I just think it's fairly different from the pete story in a lot of significant ways, and had he simply discussed it with her first it's possible that's something within the trust/boundaries of their relationship.
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Me [18 F] with my bf [19 M] can he change or is he abusive?quote:I don't know what to do anymore. Almost a year ago I thought I had met the most perfect, charming, passionate guy. Now I'm doubting everything. quote:When I told him no one deserves to get raped he said "oh look we have miss activist over here" and was laughing while watching someone get raped in a movie
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dudeness posted:Me [18 F] with my bf [19 M] can he change or is he abusive? wonder if there's no update because she got out and everything was resolved cleanly and that was the end of it, or there's no update cause her boyfriend finally succeeded in murdering her
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Jul 18, 2017 19:25
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dudeness posted:Me [18 F] with my bf [19 M] can he change or is he abusive? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dPQ_Ac0uQr0
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ArbitraryC posted:to be fair that's a bit different from the pete story cause presumably everything was already booked/paid for and now he needs a +1. Additionally the gf already knows the girl and it's not like it's his ex or something. Also he didn't flip out about his girlfriend being abusive for objecting and say he can do what he wants with who he wants
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I didn't think the story of an abusive man could get more pathetic until I got to the part about doing wrestling moves. "Honey, I don't think this type of behavior is..." *RKO out of nowhere*
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Jul 18, 2017 19:42
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my boyfriend who constantly strangles me, as a joke
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dudeness posted:Me [18 F] with my bf [19 M] can he change or is he abusive? "A bit abusive" Right new phone who dis posted:I didn't think the story of an abusive man could get more pathetic until I got to the part about doing wrestling moves. I shouldn't laugh. I laughed
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"Is getting F5'd through my kitchen table a sign of abuse or is my boyfriend just really dedicated to kayfabe?"
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I wonder how he " professes his love for me in such a romantic and unique sense like it's nothing like those cliche "relationship goals" post on tumblr", because all I can picture is him bringing her small animals he's tortured to death, like a cat
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dudeness posted:Me [18 F] with my bf [19 M] can he change or is he abusive? I hope youve got 20-30 hours to carve out to find out what can change the nature of a man.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I wonder how he " professes his love for me in such a romantic and unique sense like it's nothing like those cliche "relationship goals" post on tumblr", because all I can picture is him bringing her small animals he's tortured to death, like a cat He cuts a mean promo.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I wonder how he " professes his love for me in such a romantic and unique sense like it's nothing like those cliche "relationship goals" post on tumblr", because all I can picture is him bringing her small animals he's tortured to death, like a cat he brings her the broken bodies of dogs that he's piledrived
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I wonder how he " professes his love for me in such a romantic and unique sense like it's nothing like those cliche "relationship goals" post on tumblr", because all I can picture is him bringing her small animals he's tortured to death, like a cat A cat is tumblr level. This guy is killing animals on the brink of extinction so literally on he can ever show his love to her this way.
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Scene from their wedding http://imgur.com/a/wc7Js WoodrowSkillson fucked around with this message at 19:52 on Jul 18, 2017 |
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Jul 18, 2017 19:48
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I like to imagine him getting on one knee to propose and right as she's about to accept he flips her off with both hands and Stone Cold Stunners her, then wanders around the house smashing beers together and mugging for the pets.
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gently caress you internet for ruining my randy savage wedding reference.
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