Haifisch posted:

This is why every crazy neighbor legaladvice post has people screaming DO NOT IGNORE A LAWSUIT IF THEY FILE ONE. Apparently it's hard to believe that bad things happen if you don't show up in court, even against a crazy.

Ham Sandwiches posted:

If you get served then you have to respond to what you were served with, no matter how credible you find the claims the place to dispute them is in court, not by refusing to go to court.

Haifisch posted:

This is why every crazy neighbor legaladvice post has people screaming DO NOT IGNORE A LAWSUIT IF THEY FILE ONE. Apparently it's hard to believe that bad things happen if you don't show up in court, even against a crazy.

quote:

Hi everyone. Sorry if this is a bit long, I'm lost on how to proceed with this situation, I'd really love your insight .. I have worked at my job for about 6 months in an office above the warehouse for a large company. Not sure if this is relevant, but everyone in my office is older, ranging from 40-60+

I had been battling with an abusive ex boyfriend after breaking things off prior to working there, which I confided in one of the office ladies about (60f). She asked me one day if there was anyone in the warehouse I thought was cute or would consider dating, and I named John. She tracked him and got him number for me (without me asking). Her husband had worked very closely with John before retiring.

We end up texting, hanging out and kissed. I met with him later that week to explain I wasn't interested in dating and I needed to step back from whatever this was as my ex was still bothering me. We decided to be just friends.

He asked if I'd like to do a Christmas gift exchange and I agreed, but only if we set up a price limit, which he said no don't worry about price. I figured $50 maximum! During that time I asked him to glance into a store window on his way home from work for a Himalayan Salt Lamp because I was pretty sure I had spotted them at that store. My plan was to wait to hear if they had them and drive out there to buy one for myself. I don't hear from him. He buys me a lamp for $45. I was bummed because I really wanted to pick my own out. I thanked him for it and told him I'd keep it as my Christmas gift. He said no it was a nice gesture from him.

He then bought me a $70 sweater online and got my name printed on the back of a hockey jersey as my Christmas gifts. So now I'm feeling like this has gotten out of hand. I barely know this guy and he's spending so much on gifts for me and I feel obligated to match the price on my gifts back. He tells me he'd also like a salt lamp $50 and a Blue Jays jersey $120

While all of this gift madness was going on, we had made plans to hang out after work one day. I started feeling sick and left work 3 hours early. He called me that night and told me he was coming to drop the lamp off for me, I tried to tell him no as I was sick, but he insisted. Literally would not take no for an answer. He invited me to his house last Saturday to watch his dad play music, but I had already made plans for a friend's bday. Then Friday comes along and we have plans to go for dinner. I get a call from my brother crying saying his girlfriend of 4 years broke up with him because she found out she can't have kids. I cancel plans with Johns to spend the night with my brother.

John tells me he's done trying to hang out with me because things keep coming up when we have plans aka me being sick and having prior commitments... I tell him I'm sorry and that if he doesn't want to be friends then I'll have to respect that. He gets upset that I'm preoccupied helping my brother and asks for the lamp back, then tells me to "actually keep the stupid lamp".. losing it over text.

Anyways... last night I miss his call. I text him "busy what's up" and he then tells me we need to talk. I respond saying there's nothing really left to say, and that I'd bring the lamp back on Monday.

John: "if you bring any tension or drama to work I will expose you, Your hoodie for Xmas just got processed so it's non-refundable now. There's a jersey I can't take back either. Could you get me a salt bowl and an Aaron Sanchez jersey like you promised?"

Me: "John I'm trying to be nice and civil. Sorry it's gotten to this point. You asked me for the lamp back and I'm going to respect that and bring it on Monday."

John: "What the hell do I do with your other gifts I can not refund tho? Can you get me those things to offset it or pay me 160$ please?"

Guys... I barely know this person. I don't know what threatening to "expose" me even means. I looked up the return policy for the hoodie's website and he can request a return as it hasn't even shipped yet. I think giving the lamp back is enough because he can return the sweater or regift it to one of his female friends? He's the one who said he's done trying to be my friend.... what the hell do I do?

tl;dr my coworker got upset because I cancelled plans, told me to friends off, wants his gift back and for me to pay him for the Christmas gifts he got me

Propaganda Hour posted:

My girlfriend bought $300 worth of JNCOs with rent money that she said we're for us.

putrid aidsman posted:

I was curious how much a new pair of JNCOs costs



These can be yours for $99.90

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Can this be real? My neighbor has a court order to steal my dog?!

Danaru posted:

Is my friend [26/M] OBVIOUSLY saying he's into me [28/F]? Am I an idiot????

fruit on the bottom posted:

If you're confused about this post you can just ask her. Pick is always around

blarzgh posted:

I had a case in bumfuck central Texas where a guy (who lived 50 miles away) was renting a house to some tenants, who eventually got tired of paying rent and decided, "Hey, here's a good idea: lets sue our landlord, claiming we own the house and that HE owes us rent!"

He never showed up because they served his papers by posting it to the door of the house he owned; the one THEY were living in. $10,000.00 judgment against him. It eventually got thrown out b/c defect in notice is grounds for throwing out a default judgment.

But, not before they filed bankruptcy in Mississippi, and listed the house as an asset (didn't tell him, or serve him), got a court order to liquidate, and then 'sold' the house themselves (no realtor) to this other family, and absconded with the down payment. My guy only finds out about all this because he drives down to do some repairs, and walks in on a family of people he'd never seen before.

blarzgh posted:

I had a case in bumfuck central Texas where a guy (who lived 50 miles away) was renting a house to some tenants, who eventually got tired of paying rent and decided, "Hey, here's a good idea: lets sue our landlord, claiming we own the house and that HE owes us rent!"

He never showed up because they served his papers by posting it to the door of the house he owned; the one THEY were living in. $10,000.00 judgment against him. It eventually got thrown out b/c defect in notice is grounds for throwing out a default judgment.

But, not before they filed bankruptcy in Mississippi, and listed the house as an asset (didn't tell him, or serve him), got a court order to liquidate, and then 'sold' the house themselves (no realtor) to this other family, and absconded with the down payment. My guy only finds out about all this because he drives down to do some repairs, and walks in on a family of people he'd never seen before.

BENGHAZI 2 posted:

i lost the bookmark of like THe Landmark SovCit Brief from canada, a brief so thorough and so good that it is cited in like every other case involving them, about how to identify and deal with a sovcit

its a fun read because like every third line the judge is like "this, obivously. was not how it worked"

Intruder posted:

I assume the guy got his house back?

Mirthless posted:

It seems like it'd be hard to actually evict that family given the circumstances

Like I'm sure he could have and probably did, but I can't imagine it was easy unless they just packed up and moved out

quote:

So my wife and I keep having problems with the fact that I am not making her feeling wanted sexually enough. We've been together 5 years and it's something that's been a problem. I'll do better for awhile, maybe for a couple of months and then I'll slide back I guess and she starts feeling unwanted and like a sex toy. We had another fight about it, which started after she started wanting to get get intimate and was holding me close and kissing me after we both got home from work. I'd picked our son up from daycare who is 3 and a half and told him I'd take him to the park after we went home and I changed out of my work clothes. So I was distracted. And I was still kind of tired from what felt like a weekend full of being in bed together, while our son watched TV. Which doesn't happen often.

Anyways, I got our son in front of the TV again and then we went upstairs and started fooling around until she realized something was up, like I wasn't giving her my full attention. And we started arguing about how she wasn't feeling wanted again, and she was feeling so alone, which she's never mentioned before. We arguing for half an hour or so before our son started crying about how we weren't going to the park. My wife had to push me out the door basically and my son and I went to the park for an hour or so and then I got him a Happy Meal afterwards and he went to bed really late for him.

Then we started arguing again and she asked a question I wasn't ready for 'Are you embarrassed by my weight.' She's beyond 300 pounds and is constantly fighting her eating disorder. I mumbled something and she yelled something at me and I said 'maybe'. Then I tried to backtrack and say how I'm scared of her dying early and not being able to live a long life with her. Though it may not have sounded like that.

I ended up journaling for an hour until about midnight about things I remember from our life together. It was the only thing to calm myself down after the sobbing I started. I actually was really pleased with what I had, and thought it was pretty decent. I left it under her hand on the couch downstairs and went to bed. She didn't say much to me beyond reminding me to tell the daycare provider that it was our son's last day there before he was due to start preschool next week. I've been barely getting through work today, and she's been at work too. Not texting me like usual. I miss her so much today. I don't want to lose her. I don't know what to do. I know I have to make her feel wanted and beautiful and sexy and all of that. I just don't know how I can wait for her to stop being mad at me.

tl;dr: I answered my wife's question of 'are you embarrassed by my weight', who is morbidly obese and suffers from Bipolar and a over eating disorder, 'maybe'. What do I do now?

Intruder posted:

If I steal a car and sell it to you, it's not your car even if you never get your money back I'm pretty sure

Then again this was the state liquidating so maybe that works differently

Danaru posted:

Me [33 M] with my wife [30 F] of 5 years, said something really horrible to her and now I'm terrified for my marriage.


First of all why would you ask
Second of all why would you answer

blarzgh posted:

I had a case in bumfuck central Texas where a guy (who lived 50 miles away) was renting a house to some tenants, who eventually got tired of paying rent and decided, "Hey, here's a good idea: lets sue our landlord, claiming we own the house and that HE owes us rent!"

He never showed up because they served his papers by posting it to the door of the house he owned; the one THEY were living in. $10,000.00 judgment against him. It eventually got thrown out b/c defect in notice is grounds for throwing out a default judgment.

But, not before they filed bankruptcy in Mississippi, and listed the house as an asset (didn't tell him, or serve him), got a court order to liquidate, and then 'sold' the house themselves (no realtor) to this other family, and absconded with the down payment. My guy only finds out about all this because he drives down to do some repairs, and walks in on a family of people he'd never seen before.

quote:

I love my boyfriend. He's my best pal. He suffers from epilepsy, and has multiple seizures a week. I've learned to deal with them; It doesn't scare me anymore.

Recently, he had a seizure at my mother's house and kicked over a table, breaking my mother's antique lamp. She doesn't want me to be with him. She doesn't want to risk us having epileptic kids.

I tried to argue with her on this, but she just shut me down with her secret weapon. (My dad killed himself before I was born, and, when angry at me, she tells me that it was all my fault.)

I don't want to dump my boyfriend; He's great. But I have no idea how to handle my mother.

tl;dr: Bf has seizures, Mom wants him gone or she leaves.

EDIT: I realize now that the throwaway name I picked sounds like I'm blaming my bf for the situation. That wasn't my intent; It was just a description of what's going on.

Jeff Sichoe posted:

If she was fat when they met he has no leg to stand on (and neither will she after the diabeetus kicks in)

if she was trim and slim and ballooned up, he can call her out (BUT, only if he himself is not also a balloon man)

Haifisch posted:

My [22 F] boyfriend [23 M] keeps having seizures and my mother [39 F] wants me to dump him.

MF_James posted:

Wow this woman is awful (the mother) "YOU KILLED YOUR DAD WHILE YOU WERE IN MY WOMB" what a piece of poo poo.

OP posted:

I'm afraid for my mother to turn on me because I'm the only one she has. She got pregnant with me in high school and it really ruined her life. By the time my dad killed himself ("to escape being your father" she says) it was too late to abort.

MF_James posted:

Wow this woman is awful (the mother) "YOU KILLED YOUR DAD WHILE YOU WERE IN MY WOMB" what a piece of poo poo.

Haifisch posted:

My [22 F] boyfriend [23 M] keeps having seizures and my mother [39 F] wants me to dump him.

MF_James posted:

Wow this woman is awful (the mother) "YOU KILLED YOUR DAD WHILE YOU WERE IN MY WOMB" what a piece of poo poo.

Haifisch posted:

Mirthless posted:

a compelling argument for wider access to mental health care

jesus loving christ,

edit: (please don't mistake this as sympathy, anyone in this thread)

Mirthless posted:

a compelling argument for wider access to mental health care

jesus loving christ,

edit: (please don't mistake this as sympathy, anyone in this thread)


I kind of wonder if this isn't gonna have a followup story in five or six years where we find out dad was never dead

Ham Sandwiches posted:

It's a little more likely that he committed suicide while she was pregnant or whatever and mom tells the kid it's because he didn't want to be a father, etc.

I don't think mom can both have the dad be completely made up and blame her daughter for his death to where it would have any impact, I suspect there's a real thing she's tormenting her daughter with her whole life