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Danger posted:Maybe I'm not familiar with the story, but it sounds like that dude didn't want to give up his parental rights? Did he force her to get be up hers? I'm pretty sure that's not legal and exactly what we are talking about shouldn't be if it is. The woman has control over her own body and the dude shouldn't have any kind of absolute say in whether she decides to carry the baby, but when the kid is born it has a dad and a mom and neither has like a controlling stake. I know capitalism is pretty much cynical to its core but that kid isn't property. Basically what at least ArbC seems to be arguing is that because of the state of reproductive rights in this country, in many cases it might be the only path out of an unwanted pregnancy where abortion isn't available and so morally not letting her adopt out the baby is the same as denying an abortion.
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I apologize for contributing to a derail. Let me tithe you some content: My[25M] girlfriend[24F] gives 10% of her small income to the church, while I support us quote:I love my girlfriend of 2 years dearly. She's a fantastic woman and such a great, kind person. In the comments it turns out that tithing might be the least of their worries. quote:| Her part time income of $340 a week is small and I let her spend it all on girl supplies, contacts and other essentials. OP posted:Yea, it's not pocket money. Her academy was $5000 but that's not near 17000. I'll need to have her tell me to get the full picture and make a plan. I feel like I'm being played.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 21:49 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:Basically what at least ArbC seems to be arguing is that because of the state of reproductive rights in this country, in many cases it might be the only path out of an unwanted pregnancy where abortion isn't available and so morally not letting her adopt out the baby is the same as denying an abortion. Yea, I can certainly see that as a problem. Yea the whole landscape is hosed up and that shouldn't be the case. The remedy isn't unilaterally revoking a parent's rights though without cause. On the flip side, in this awful hypothetical, the father should also be required to the woman's post partum care in the nightmare world we find ourselves in.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 21:53 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:Basically what at least ArbC seems to be arguing is that because of the state of reproductive rights in this country, in many cases it might be the only path out of an unwanted pregnancy where abortion isn't available and so morally not letting her adopt out the baby is the same as denying an abortion. I appreciate this, fwiw I think that if we had better safety nets in place I'd be fine with the concept of the bio father getting first "dibs" so to speak as I see the inherent potential issues in the state trying to regulate whether a wealthier adoptive family would be better parents than a 20 something who could still be a great dad. My opinion mostly boils down to the current state of affairs and not a hypothetical ideal.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:02 |
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My atonement offering for my part in the derail: A friend [22F] of mine [24M] is an actress. She got a small role in a major TV show... but it's a nude scene. Do I congratulate her for it?Non-Romantic quote:So not much else to the title. I live in LA and work on the business side of entertainment. I've got a good friend who's an actress/dancer whose been doing the typical actress grind etc. Total gem of a person. "Hey I saw you on tv, you looked good naked. Wait, sorry I didn't mean that. I mean not that you look bad naked. But the part on the show. That was good. You were good. At the part. Nudity. Wow!" Got home from long trip to new tenants in apartment - MA quote:'m sorry if this is short, they have my computer so I'm using my phone.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Got home from long trip to new tenants in apartment - MA This landlord, is, to use a legal term, turbofucked.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:08 |
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Wouldn't they get suspicious about a furnished computer they can't unlock, and a closet/chest of drawers full of clothing?
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:13 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:My atonement offering for my part in the derail: Gee why do I get the feeling this guy's "non-romantic" disclaimer is disingenuous
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:13 |
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Jesus just airb&bing it while he was away would be ballsy this is something else.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:24 |
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I [28M] think I cost myself my wife and son [27F&3M]. I took my eyes off him while playing a video game and something bad could have happened. Doesn't have to be a gamer. When I was like 3, I got out the front door and ran down the street to the McDonalds parking lot to chase seagulls. My dad didn't tell my mom about it for months.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:24 |
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Doesn't have to be a gamer. When I was like 3, I got out the front door and ran down the street to the McDonalds parking lot to chase seagulls. My dad didn't tell my mom about it for months. I mean yeah this kind of thing can happen with any indoor hobby (or even work) you get focused on but I feel like in this case it was prolly an ongoing issue where this was the last straw.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:32 |
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Doesn't have to be a gamer. When I was like 3, I got out the front door and ran down the street to the McDonalds parking lot to chase seagulls. My dad didn't tell my mom about it for months. When I was like 4 I hid under a blanket or something when my parents left the room. They couldn't find me and freaked out worried that I had left the house or worse. I thought it was hilarious. My parents, as you might imagine, were substantially less amused.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:34 |
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I (26M) think I'm falling for a stripper (20sF), but have reservations and am unsure how to proceedquote:I apologize in advance if I drone on a little too long (I tend to do that quite a bit). This will end well. Also, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lKcr5vkOxNs
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:40 |
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If everything in that post happened exactly the way he portrayed it, he probably has the best chance anyone has ever had at getting an actual honest date out of their favorite stripper, and those odds are still like 100:1 against
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 22:48 |
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Outrail posted:I need to know how old the other guy and his wife are. Any takes on 'Guy is late 30's, wife is late 20's/early 30's and they got married about 5 years previously? My bets are guy is 38, his wife is 37 or so, the ex-girlfriend is 22 and the storyeller is 23.
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Haifisch posted:Pull up, thread! age gap, aspergers. they go hand in hand. every woman his age has already dated one of these and learned her lesson and got the gently caress out. he's a relict, let him die that way
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:If everything in that post happened exactly the way he portrayed it, he probably has the best chance anyone has ever had at getting an actual honest date out of their favorite stripper, and those odds are still like 100:1 against I've dated three strippers and exactly none of them or anyone they worked with has ever dated a customer. More like 1000:1 Pick posted:My bets are guy is 38, his wife is 37 or so, the ex-girlfriend is 22 and the storyeller is 23. Pick posted:age gap I feel like jumping right to age gaps is something with a story behind it
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:02 |
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I met a stripper through online dating in like 2000, except I made the mistake of saying stripper and she got super pissed off and said 'I am NOT a stripper, I am an exotic dancer, I dance at a gentleman's club and it's classy!' and I found it so hilarious I egged her on instead of trying to salvage things
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:24 |
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Doesn't have to be a gamer. When I was like 3, I got out the front door and ran down the street to the McDonalds parking lot to chase seagulls. My dad didn't tell my mom about it for months. Yeah as soon as kids figure out how to open doors as well as walk the potential for trouble gets a lot huger. But that's why you should probably be in the same room as the kid and if you're doing your own thing keeping an eye on them and seeing what they're doing if they toddle off. Being far away enough you can't even hear the back door opening and closing is not a great sign. Anything the wife would probably not be moving out and taking the son over this if there wasn't a pattern of the OP neglecting his childcare for his own personal interests. It reads like a last straw to me.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:25 |
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My [32M] fiancee [32F] insists on wearing a bikini top that she pops out of and I am uncomfortable with this.quote:The title pretty much says it all. She bought a bikini top that is already too small for her and I expressed that it did not fit immediately and she responded "well, if something happens, I will stop wearing it." Dude should just wear some really short shorts and hang brain around her family.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:28 |
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it's important that your bikinis for properly especially at 32F
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:30 |
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Quit bragging about your GF's big boobs, rear end in a top hat
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [32M] fiancee [32F] insists on wearing a bikini top that she pops out of and I am uncomfortable with this. Ah, to be a guest at that wedding...
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Pick posted:age gap, aspergers. they go hand in hand. every woman his age has already dated one of these and learned her lesson and got the gently caress out. he's a relict, let him die that way It's not even just the Aspergers though. I mean I am not discounting there being a physical biochemical reason for differences in presentation of symptoms in men and women, but Aspergers doesn't make you incapable of empathy. I honestly don't understand all these people who get away with horrific behavior bc Aspergers and then people going 'well it's the Aspergers, don't date a guy with Aspergers'. Like I've got autistic dude friends who aren't like that at ALL so honestly I think it's just like... a specifically toxic combination of symptomatic stuff with good old-fashioned entitlement? Why do people get in relationships with people they don't understand and who don't understand them in the first place? The expectation that things will change as they hit a certain intimacy level?
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:34 |
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This is also from OP quote:This is true and hits very close to home.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:36 |
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PetraCore posted:It's not even just the Aspergers though. I mean I am not discounting there being a physical biochemical reason for differences in presentation of symptoms in men and women, but Aspergers doesn't make you incapable of empathy. I honestly don't understand all these people who get away with horrific behavior bc Aspergers and then people going 'well it's the Aspergers, don't date a guy with Aspergers'. Like I've got autistic dude friends who aren't like that at ALL so honestly I think it's just like... a specifically toxic combination of symptomatic stuff with good old-fashioned entitlement? I blame TBBT, personally. They've normalized "Asperger's means you're allowed to be a douche".
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I blame TBBT, personally. They've normalized "Asperger's means you're allowed to be a douche". Yeah... like I've got understanding for tone mismatch and other symptomatic stuff but then there's people who just make no effort to treat other people decently at ALL and it's infuriating. Combine that with 'autism makes you a savant, right?' and 'smart people are allowed to be assholes because they're more valuable than dumb people' and you get, well.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:I blame TBBT, personally. They've normalized "Asperger's means you're allowed to be a douche". Basically people can't handle the idea that sometimes people are just assholes without some form of brokebrains behind it. Haifisch fucked around with this message at 23:43 on Jul 30, 2017 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [32M] fiancee [32F] insists on wearing a bikini top that she pops out of and I am uncomfortable with this. I feel like this coulda been a p neutral story prone to exaggeration but there's enough specific details that either translate to the OP flagrantly lying or the lady flashing her coworkers in private pool parties looking for some outside attention.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:48 |
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Haifisch posted:That and the internet has a long trend of lumping things under Asperger's that have nothing to do with , so just about every negative nerdy/know-it-all personality trait has been blamed on the sperg at some point. It's more than that. I think people use developmental disabilities or mental illness as a reason to tolerate abusive behavior.
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It can be both!
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ArbitraryC posted:I feel like this coulda been a p neutral story prone to exaggeration but there's enough specific details that either translate to the OP flagrantly lying or the lady flashing her coworkers in private pool parties looking for some outside attention. Unless she's also trying to gently caress his dad, it seems more like a woman who is very cool with sex is also very cool with exhibitionism.
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [32M] fiancee [32F] insists on wearing a bikini top that she pops out of and I am uncomfortable with this. These are the ones that I keep thinking are fake or there's way more going on because I can't understand either of the people in this story as it's presented.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:52 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:It's more than that. I think people use developmental disabilities or mental illness as a reason to tolerate abusive behavior. Yeah, I agree with this. Even in cases where someone isn't actually mentally ill! Like how with every time there's a mass shooting the media immediately jumps on 'so what mental illness did this person have that caused this', even when the thing that caused it is they're an rear end in a top hat who considers it appropriate to take their own issues out on unrelated people.
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Universe Master posted:Unless she's also trying to gently caress his dad, it seems more like a woman who is very cool with sex is also very cool with exhibitionism. I just think it'd be kinda funny to see an OP that basically covered the same topic but didn't explicitly mention visible nips or her top coming off.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:54 |
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PetraCore posted:Yeah, I agree with this. Even in cases where someone isn't actually mentally ill! Like how with every time there's a mass shooting the media immediately jumps on 'so what mental illness did this person have that caused this', even when the thing that caused it is they're an rear end in a top hat who considers it appropriate to take their own issues out on unrelated people. Well, whether or not people look to mental illness as a factor when there's a mass shooting depends strongly on the perpetrator's ethnicity.
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Malachite_Dragon posted:It can be both! "I keep my stuff nicely organized. I'm so OCD! " "I've been depressed too, but a nice jog and a warm bath made me nice and happy again! " But yeah, the takeaway is that it doesn't matter if someone has brain problems or not, just don't tolerate assholery. A lot of people with brain problems manage not to be assholes, and a lot of assholes don't even have brain problems.
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:56 |
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Don't date Aspergers http://heartlessaspergers.com
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# ? Jul 30, 2017 23:59 |
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Pick posted:Just get buried at a family funeral home, one owned by the people there not by some llcorp, inc. eight states away and you'll probably get someone who gives a poo poo this reminds me of a youtube channel i follow, ask a mortician the death industry is actually kind of interesting (but family funeral homes aren't necessarily a guarantee either)
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PetraCore posted:It's not even just the Aspergers though. I mean I am not discounting there being a physical biochemical reason for differences in presentation of symptoms in men and women, but Aspergers doesn't make you incapable of empathy. I honestly don't understand all these people who get away with horrific behavior bc Aspergers and then people going 'well it's the Aspergers, don't date a guy with Aspergers'. Like I've got autistic dude friends who aren't like that at ALL so honestly I think it's just like... a specifically toxic combination of symptomatic stuff with good old-fashioned entitlement? It's because when people, generally, get a diagnosis for a thing (and I'm not just talking aspergers) then they use it as an excuse for doing whatever poo poo they wanted to do anyway and not take responsibility for the things they can control.
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