maskenfreiheit posted:

I [18M] said something stupid to my sister [20F] cause I didn't even know what it meant. She showed our friends, and now they all won't stop making fun of me for it every time we hang out. Its really getting on my nerves.

maskenfreiheit posted:

I [18M] said something stupid to my sister [20F] cause I didn't even know what it meant. She showed our friends, and now they all won't stop making fun of me for it every time we hang out. Its really getting on my nerves.

Outrail posted:

They bullied me so I reacted to their bullying and they bullied me more so I reacted even harder and they bullied EVEN MORE so now I'm reacting as hard as I loving can and they won't stop! I've tried everything except not reacting what can I do? I'm going to go watch some Netflix and try to chill out.

maskenfreiheit posted:

I [18M] said something stupid to my sister [20F] cause I didn't even know what it meant. She showed our friends, and now they all won't stop making fun of me for it every time we hang out. Its really getting on my nerves.

lemon-lyme disease posted:

I'll admit to not having known that "netflix and chill" is always a euphemism. Maybe because it sounds a lot like something friends or a couple might actually do if they're tired and just want to relax/veg out.

For the record, I understood that it can be used as a subtle way to indicate you wanna bone on down, I just thought it was situational. Like how asking somebody if they want to grab a coffee is sometimes a "safe" way to express romantic interest but also sometimes you just maybe want a cup of coffee.


I guess it's lucky I don't have a sister?

lemon-lyme disease posted:

I'll admit to not having known that "netflix and chill" is always a euphemism. Maybe because it sounds a lot like something friends or a couple might actually do if they're tired and just want to relax/veg out.

For the record, I understood that it can be used as a subtle way to indicate you wanna bone on down, I just thought it was situational. Like how asking somebody if they want to grab a coffee is sometimes a "safe" way to express romantic interest but also sometimes you just maybe want a cup of coffee.


I guess it's lucky I don't have a sister?

maskenfreiheit posted:

If you're going to react to bullying you need to play it right... think a Christian Slater from Heathers vibe.

Pick posted:

The only way to get rid of a bully is to react in a way that super weirds them out and makes them uncomfortable so they stop, but not in a way that is easy for them to describe to other people. So you don't, like, poop yourself or anything, or yell at them. You like, act like they're becoming your best friend because you're so desperate for any kind of attention that literally anything is ok, and this will make the bully be all like "uh...." and they don't like it. Like, after he kicks you in the butt and calls you a douchefart, whinge "please, please can you meet my mom, she thinks I don't have any friends".

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Pick posted:

Yes! Exactly!

Pick posted:

The only way to get rid of a bully is to react in a way that super weirds them out and makes them uncomfortable so they stop, but not in a way that is easy for them to describe to other people. So you don't, like, poop yourself or anything, or yell at them. You like, act like they're becoming your best friend because you're so desperate for any kind of attention that literally anything is ok, and this will make the bully be all like "uh...." and they don't like it. Like, after he kicks you in the butt and calls you a douchefart, whinge "please, please can you meet my mom, she thinks I don't have any friends".

Pick posted:

The only way to get rid of a bully is to react in a way that super weirds them out and makes them uncomfortable so they stop, but not in a way that is easy for them to describe to other people. So you don't, like, poop yourself or anything, or yell at them. You like, act like they're becoming your best friend because you're so desperate for any kind of attention that literally anything is ok, and this will make the bully be all like "uh...." and they don't like it. Like, after he kicks you in the butt and calls you a douchefart, whinge "please, please can you meet my mom, she thinks I don't have any friends".

maskenfreiheit posted:

Me [19F] with my boyfriend [20M], together three years. His best friend [22M] keeps making rape jokes around/about me even though they're both aware I was brutally sexually assaulted as a teenager. I kind of hosed up, though, in how I reacted to it. Help?Personal issues

Clark Nova posted:

As horrific as this one is, I think she's figured out the best way to use the relationship subreddit - preemptively dump the motherfucker then post about it and bask in the glow of hundreds of strangers telling you you're right, because they are always, always pro-breakup.

maskenfreiheit posted:

Subtle is "want to come over and watch a movie" or "how you doin'"

lemon-lyme disease posted:

See, that first one is indistinguishable from "netflix and chill" as far as I'm concerned.

I'm old and uncool. Shocker.

Absurd Alhazred posted:

"Want to come over and watch a movie" is "hey, let's see if there's chemistry and if so let's gently caress before the movie's over", in my experience.

maskenfreiheit posted:

Yeah but "Netflix and chill" is just cliche and cheesy.

"Watch a movie" = romantic evening of wine and cinema

"Netflix and chill" = pawing at some poor woman before the Bojack theme is even finished

Absurd Alhazred posted:

"Want to come over and watch a movie" is "hey, let's see if there's chemistry and if so let's gently caress before the movie's over", in my experience.

Outrail posted:

I said to her, "there's no need for that, you're at our home, I would agree with my parents and ask that you remain respectful." I tried to say it as politely and smiling as I can, but she clearly didn't take it well.

This is some condescending poo poo right up there with saying to someone 'Friendly reminder' or 'Bless your heart'. If you can't see how that would be insulting, especially after being asked already, you're a piece of poo poo.

Pick posted:

The only way to get rid of a bully is to react in a way that super weirds them out and makes them uncomfortable so they stop, but not in a way that is easy for them to describe to other people. So you don't, like, poop yourself or anything, or yell at them. You like, act like they're becoming your best friend because you're so desperate for any kind of attention that literally anything is ok, and this will make the bully be all like "uh...." and they don't like it. Like, after he kicks you in the butt and calls you a douchefart, whinge "please, please can you meet my mom, she thinks I don't have any friends".

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So my wife has recently gotten into very experimental, GIF-recipe type foods that you see on facebook. Like those recipes that looks questionable at best and even worse when it's made in real life.

Last weekend we were invited to a BIG labor day party by my wife's boss. It was actually pretty fancy and catered but also a "potluck" for those who wanted to show their special culinary skills. So welcome but not necessary. My wife decided on this "sushi casserole" or lasagna type thing that was basically layers of rice and sashimi in a baking tray. I watched her make it and she was winging a lot of it and it looked TERRIBLE. Like instead of making sushi rice, she just used regular rice, and instead of sashimi grade fish I think she just bought her own from god knows where and sliced it. It wasn't even good tuna or salmon, it was some other kinds of fish that I couldn't identify. She topped it off with cut up avocado and some Japanese mayo (like it did in the vid).

Well, when it was done it honestly, and I mean HONESTLY, looked like a tray of vomit. The mushed up avocado (which had gone slightly brown) plus reddish fish plus scattered rice and watery mayo made it look exactly like a big tray of puke. I was frank and told her the "sushi casserole" looks seriously gross and that sushi shouldn't even be in casserole/lasagna/burger/cake or whatever else buzzfeed comes up with that week to begin with. I thought we were both on the same page at that point and she would laugh and throw the monstrosity away, but she got extremely mad at me.

She told me I NEVER like the food she makes and I'm never supportive. She also brought up the fact that just because I had traveled more than she has and eaten at far more "fancy" restaurants than she, it doesn't mean I can be such a food snob. I told her that dish had nothing to do with trips to Japan or 3 Michelin star dinners; it was just a bad dish, period. Well, the day of the party comes and she brings the casserole. As suspected, it looked SUPER out of place on a table full of nicely arranged, catered foods (turned out very few people brought their own and the only ones that did made desserts). The day passes and everything else is polished down except for her sushi casserole. It remained sadly full and by the end of the party it was glaringly untouched and people were making subtle jokes about the "mystery dish." My wife heard some whispers about it and became visibly upset.

So we got back home and I tell her not to worry too much and that there was just too much food overall which is why hers wasn't as popular. She ignores me and walks off. So ever since then she's been cold and giving me the silent treatment on most afternoons. Apparently she's mad that I didn't get some of her casserole myself and didn't encourage others to try it. She said I humiliated her by not touching the dish and telling her it looked gross when she was making it. I told her I can't make people eat things they obviously don't want to eat.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

I'm pretty sure that casserole could literally kill you if you ate it

cumshitter posted:

This is like a sitcom.

Act 3: Husband returns to boss's house to get back his wife's heirloom tray that she left behind out of shame. Boss mocks, wife's cooking. Witty banter, then husband delivers passionate monologue about how he loves his wife and her awful cooking. Camera zooms out to show wife heard everything. Marriage is saved.

Barudak posted:

Mmm love this uncooked fish dish, better wash it down with this pineapple juice from the puffy can.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Wife [32F] made a disgusting "sushi casserole" that I [33M] was against for a big potluck. Dish ended up a flop and now she's mad at me.

Pick posted:

act 4: