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Haifisch posted:Me [28 F] with my aunt [52 F] of 28 years, every time I have a house party/dinner party, she brings food & drink for her and her kids and it upsets me. Not sure how to approach. Get over it. They're picky eaters. They KNOW they're picky eaters. They bring food with them they know the kids will eat, big deal. Such a non-issue.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:12
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Your aunt is weird and ruining her children, but youre being dramatic about it and could resolve this problem by just not making them any food since it doesnt seem like they expect you to? Who am I kidding, you put poison in the food and thats why nobody eats what you cook.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:13
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Haifisch posted:Me [28 F] with my aunt [52 F] of 28 years, every time I have a house party/dinner party, she brings food & drink for her and her kids and it upsets me. Not sure how to approach. if she's not making you cook it why the gently caress do you care, aunt's made it as clear as possible that it's not a dig at your cooking or anything she's just a nut
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Sep 13, 2017 22:14
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lol @ at husband and father that won't break their "no sweets" or atkins diet stuff on loving Thanksgiving.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:15
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Proteus Jones posted:Get over it. Yeah, it seems like they're taking steps to accommodate themselves so that no one else feels pressured to cater to them. Picky eaters are terrible, but this seems like the best compromise given that.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:15
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This one seems as forgettable as they come at first, but then... Me [40 M] with my wife [40 F] has no privacy MIL [70F] quote:submitted 4 days ago by rr_throwa9
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Sep 13, 2017 22:19
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Ouhei posted:I remember seeing a video one time where this Japanese guy hadn't spoken a word to his wife in like 20 years or some insane amount of time. They had 2 kids and apparently shortly after the second was born he felt jealous about how much attention she gave the kids and didn't speak to her. He eventually got over being a turd but it had been so long he had no idea how to even start talking to her again...so he just didn't. Eventually the kids contact some show and they arrange a date for them and the finally speak. I could see this being a B plot on a stuffy British drama. One day, the husband forgets to perfunctorily say, "ma'm," to his wife before going to work, and is too embarrassed about the whole thing to speak to her for the next 30 years.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:20
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Chomp8645 posted:lol @ at husband and father that won't break their "no sweets" or atkins diet stuff on loving Thanksgiving. But why is the wife carefully monitoring who to be upset at for not eating all eight of her side dishes? Isn't the point to cook a bunch of food and have people eat what they like? I probably would not have been enthused about maple-glazed carrots either, am I not allowed to turn down a single side without hurting the cook's feelings, even if I am vigorously enjoying the rest of the meal?
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Sep 13, 2017 22:20
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SpiderHyphenMan posted:"my mom bought this for you don't you think I look sexy" the worst loving sentence in the English language
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Sep 13, 2017 22:20
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:But why is the wife carefully monitoring who to be upset at for not eating all eight of her side dishes? Isn't the point to cook a bunch of food and have people eat what they like? I probably would not have been enthused about maple-glazed carrots either, am I not allowed to turn down a single side without hurting the cook's feelings, even if I am vigorously enjoying the rest of the meal? You're a cold-hearted monster, Jeff.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:21
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SpiderHyphenMan posted:This one seems as forgettable as they come at first, but then... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=98YukqxYCKU&hd=1
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Sep 13, 2017 22:21
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:the worst loving sentence in the English language I think my dick would invert if that was uttered during SEXYTIMEZ
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Sep 13, 2017 22:24
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:But why is the wife carefully monitoring who to be upset at for not eating all eight of her side dishes? Isn't the point to cook a bunch of food and have people eat what they like? I probably would not have been enthused about maple-glazed carrots either, am I not allowed to turn down a single side without hurting the cook's feelings, even if I am vigorously enjoying the rest of the meal? OP posted:Having some sense of normalcy in my family relationships is important to me. First and foremost I just like cooking in general but I like having people over to break bread. Maybe your family is different, but mine centers a lot around making & eating our food together. OP posted:I disagree that I am tying success into how much people eat. It's not about the quantity, it's that I want people to be eating food that they like and enjoy. "Success" at Thanksgiving would have been knowing what people like and making that. We agreed upon a menu a week in advance, so there was time to make suggestions about what could be made/adjusted for everyone's food preferences. Instead of making those suggestions to ensure everyone had food options they liked, my aunt didn't communicate and let me make a whole array of food that she knew wouldn't be eaten.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:27
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:the worst loving sentence in the English language Almost. SpiderHyphenMan posted:"your mom bought this for you don't you think I look sexy"
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Sep 13, 2017 22:27
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Haifisch posted:Me [28 F] with my aunt [52 F] of 28 years, every time I have a house party/dinner party, she brings food & drink for her and her kids and it upsets me. Not sure how to approach. It's obviously weird/rude to consistently show up to someone's dinner only to sit in the corner eating chicken nuggets, you're wasting their time and food. On the other hand, Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:But why is the wife carefully monitoring who to be upset at for not eating all eight of her side dishes? Isn't the point to cook a bunch of food and have people eat what they like? I probably would not have been enthused about maple-glazed carrots either, am I not allowed to turn down a single side without hurting the cook's feelings, even if I am vigorously enjoying the rest of the meal? she does seem like she's being kinda weird about some stuff.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:33
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I[20F] caught my brother[18M] and his girlfriend[18F] having sex with their school counselor[25F] who is also a family friend.quote:So my brother has been dating Rachel for a couple years now, but they've been friends for over 10 years so Rachael is basically family. Ashley is a counselor at our school and this is her second year on the job. My older sister and Ashley are good friends and that's how we know her. She's really nice and pretty though my parents were surprised because she's openly bisexual and was dating a woman at the time. quote:But if I tell someone wouldn't that cause friction in or family? I don't want that to happen. What if my brother or my sister or Rachael start blaming me for Ashley getting into trouble? quote:I don't think she slept with other students and I don't think she'll ever sleep with other students in the future. Besides it's my brother's sex life and he's 18 now, shouldn't I just stay out of the way and mind my own business? This won't hurt him or Rachael. quote:Oh wait sorry I mistyped my brother's age, he's 17 and Ashley is 18.(my brother is turning 18 in about a month however)
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Sep 13, 2017 22:35
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I think it's OK to expect people to break a diet on Thanksgiving, our national day of gluttony, when you do all the cooking and to be concerned about the eating habits of your extended family. It seems like she's gone out of her way to accommodate them so yeah I can see why she'd need to vent.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:36
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SpiderHyphenMan posted:This one seems as forgettable as they come at first, but then... The lady is 70. I have a feeling he would be able to wait this one out.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:36
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Yeah like, if I'm planning a meal for 8 people, I'm not going to veto a dish just because I personally don't like it. Is that what she wanted her husband to do? I think the aunt is probably embarrassed by her kids and bringing food is her best attempt at minimizing that. It's not like this is a stranger, the OP has known the deal forever, she just doesn't like it. I wouldn't like my aunt raising her kids that way either but I'd either not invite her or learn to cope. The middle ground of inviting her only to be upset every time is pretty maddening to me. Solve your problem or accept that you can't solve it and stop letting it get to you - the middle ground of reopening the wound every time you're reminded of it must get old fast. She can dislike her....niblings (*shudder*) eating habits but I think the time for being surprised by them has passed. EDIT: looking again I guess she has stopped inviting the aunt over so good for her, I'm sure this will still come up though Jeffrey of YOSPOS fucked around with this message at 22:42 on Sep 13, 2017 |
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Sep 13, 2017 22:37
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:if she's not making you cook it why the gently caress do you care, aunt's made it as clear as possible that it's not a dig at your cooking or anything she's just a nut Chomp8645 posted:lol @ at husband and father that won't break their "no sweets" or atkins diet stuff on loving Thanksgiving. Hot take: OP sucks at cooking and nobody wants to eat the unsavory and/or unsanitary poo poo she's shoveling.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:38
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La Brea Carpet posted:I[20F] caught my brother[18M] and his girlfriend[18F] having sex with their school counselor[25F] who is also a family friend. You know I was going to let this slide as let the boy live a dream but then the counselor is loving underage people, including other underage people, and yeah now Im gonna be the old fuddy duddy saying put em in jail. And not sexy, fantasy jail. Actual jail.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:40
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quote:I don't think she slept with other students and I don't think she'll ever sleep with other students in the future. Lol, okay. Keep harboring that predator.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:41
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Barudak posted:You know I was going to let this slide as let the boy live a dream but then the counselor is loving underage people, including other underage people, and yeah now Im gonna be the old fuddy duddy saying put em in jail. Even if they weren't underage it's still hosed up
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Sep 13, 2017 22:42
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sexy teacher roleplay is all over the place, you know what you never see? sexy guidance counselor
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Sep 13, 2017 22:43
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SpiderHyphenMan posted:This one seems as forgettable as they come at first, but then... "are those the panties your mother laid out for you?"
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Sep 13, 2017 22:46
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:sexy teacher roleplay is all over the place, you know what you never see? sexy guidance counselor I know, sexy HR really stole their double entendre material
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Sep 13, 2017 22:48
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Waiting for sexy actuary personally
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Sep 13, 2017 22:49
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fruit on the bottom posted:Waiting for sexy actuary personally You're a white male non-smoker aged 31 who is a pizza delivery guy? Get a $20000 20 year policy and then get in my panties.
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Sep 13, 2017 22:55
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fruit on the bottom posted:Waiting for sexy actuary personally Want me to tell you how long you can expect to wait on average? 
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Sep 13, 2017 23:06
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I [19F] deleted a customer [50sM] off Facebook, and he's taking it so bad I think it's going to cause problems for me at work. There's so much about this story that makes me feel  Why is OP only earning £40 a week? I thought the UK had reasonable wages and all that stuff so unless she's working one half-shift a week or something? And how hard could it be to find another job? The only thing I can make sense of it is if she's an illegal immigrant working for cash slave wages? And then at the end throwing in the line about the 50-something psycho also being obsessed with comics or whatever? It's all so loving strange. I need to know more but I know that any further explanation would just raise another million questions.
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Sep 13, 2017 23:16
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I call this one "Purposefully Antagonistic" My boyfriend [25M] and I [24F] work together. He's making work life difficult by being purposely antagonistic to my coworkers. I want him to stop, he says he's "sticking up for himself". quote:I work for a pretty large company in a small department. It's pretty much just me and 4 other women. 3 months ago my boyfriend lost his job. We've been hiring at work so I offered to put in a good word for him and he got a job. We don't work together during the day, but we do eat lunch together. Which is where the problem comes in.
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Sep 13, 2017 23:52
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I call this one "Purposefully Antagonistic" Sorry that your boyfriend has the only spine between the two of you. Also, have you heard the good news about hostile work environments?
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Sep 13, 2017 23:54
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that op is not gonna like the replies at alllll lol
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Sep 13, 2017 23:57
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:that op is not gonna like the replies at alllll lol I disagree, as a sentient doormat shell do whatever the loudest voices tell her.
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Sep 14, 2017 00:00
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SpiderHyphenMan posted:This one seems as forgettable as they come at first, but then... *on the horn with your wife's mother* KEEP MY NAME OUT YO MOUTH
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Sep 14, 2017 00:09
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Barudak posted:Sorry that your boyfriend has the only spine between the two of you. oh please oh please oh please don't start this again the solution here is to find a new job, there is absolutely nothing she can do to remedy this situation beyond that.
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Sep 14, 2017 00:14
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something I never get is that people are always saying things like "bring it up to hr!" and "you can take your landlord to court" and things like that, and they never seem to get that even if all those sort of systems worked in your favor 100% of the time, there is always a technically legal/non-actionable, difficult to fight, expensive, time consuming, or some other burdensome way the party with more power/money/clout whatever will use to hit back. even if you really truly win, are you really gonna be stoked about going to that job? excited to not have been evicted from a building where your landlord "never gets" your messages about repairs or loses your rent check twice a month? like, in real life, you are gonna get hosed and/or end up with an unfair outcome and nothing you can do about it but cut your losses like, all the time (unless you're rich or w/e)
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Sep 14, 2017 00:26
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I'm sure she won't mind breaking up with her boyfriend only 40 hours of the week if she gets to keep the peace at work and get along with her coworkers.
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Sep 14, 2017 00:29
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:something I never get is that people are always saying things like "bring it up to hr!" and "you can take your landlord to court" and things like that, and they never seem to get that even if all those sort of systems worked in your favor 100% of the time, there is always a technically legal/non-actionable, difficult to fight, expensive, time consuming, or some other burdensome way the party with more power/money/clout whatever will use to hit back. even if you really truly win, are you really gonna be stoked about going to that job? excited to not have been evicted from a building where your landlord "never gets" your messages about repairs or loses your rent check twice a month? like, in real life, you are gonna get hosed and/or end up with an unfair outcome and nothing you can do about it but cut your losses like, all the time (unless you're rich or w/e) legal remedy is for the wealthy 
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:something I never get is that people are always saying things like "bring it up to hr!" and "you can take your landlord to court" and things like that, and they never seem to get that even if all those sort of systems worked in your favor 100% of the time, there is always a technically legal/non-actionable, difficult to fight, expensive, time consuming, or some other burdensome way the party with more power/money/clout whatever will use to hit back. even if you really truly win, are you really gonna be stoked about going to that job? excited to not have been evicted from a building where your landlord "never gets" your messages about repairs or loses your rent check twice a month? like, in real life, you are gonna get hosed and/or end up with an unfair outcome and nothing you can do about it but cut your losses like, all the time (unless you're rich or w/e) It's the same thing in the other direction too, it's like advice givers have a weird legal and moralistic mindset. "It's their house, their rules" is mostly really awful advice because, generally, your parents aren't going to legally evict you for disobeying, but it's pretty much what's given to any kid who asks in there. Meanwhile millions of children disobey their idiot parents each year without finding themselves homeless and sometimes even with better outcomes than if they had not disobeyed. "Oh your mother is being conned by some guy into letting him live with her rent free and walk all over her? Well it's not technically your problem because of subsection C here, go ahead and move out until she's ready to do something" is a pretty common refrain too. Way to type something entirely useless to the OP. No, maybe you don't have the right to try and end your mother's relationship, but if the OP is going to try, you may as well give them the advice that will maximize likelihood of success.
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