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Barudak
May 7, 2007

This has been the tboned in an intersection of age guesses.

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GamingHyena
Jul 25, 2003

Devil's Advocate

dudeness posted:

My [19 F] Gf will only accept Disneyland as a bday present when I [26 M] already took her and I don't want to go again

quote:

What can I do to fix this?

Put her back in the sandbox you snatched her from and hope her parents don't call the police?

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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dudeness posted:

My [19 F] Gf will only accept Disneyland as a bday present when I [26 M] already took her and I don't want to go again

this is what happens when you date children

Doc Hawkins
Jun 15, 2010

Dashing? But I'm not even moving!


Wow, misogyny strikes again, please don't deny this young lady's agency to use a Cool Grown-Up With A Job to score free trips to Disneyland and ice cream whenever she wants it and now and then some help with her homework.

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy
Why would you want to "fix" that relationship? The only positive outcome there is for them to :sever: and ghost each other.

DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!
the worst part of that story is that those spoilers on the ages were actually needed, there are way too many 35+ people going to disney theme parks regularly

like if you're in a disney park on a regular basis and you're a childless adult you are a fuckin weirdo, and nostalgia is not a good enough excuse, nothing is

Ugly In The Morning
Jul 1, 2010
Pillbug
Disney girls are loving insane. They're worse than horse girls.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

the worst part of that story is that those spoilers on the ages were actually needed, there are way too many 35+ people going to disney theme parks regularly

like if you're in a disney park on a regular basis and you're a childless adult you are a fuckin weirdo, and nostalgia is not a good enough excuse, nothing is

I completely assumed the people in question were at least 35, because those are the only people who go to Disney like this.

Trauma Dog 3000
Aug 30, 2017

by SA Support Robot

dudeness posted:

My [9 F] Gf will only accept Disneyland as a bday present when I [26 M] already took her and I don't want to go again

corn on the cop
Oct 12, 2012

Break what must be broken, once for all, that's all, and take the suffering on oneself.

― Corey Dostoyevsky
My (20/F) friend (20/M) who I have a crush on, let slip the fact that he thinks I'm the gatekeeper for my hotter female friends.

quote:

We've been friends since twelfth grade. I've had a crush on him on/off since then. We're not super close, but we have a bunch of mutual friends and we occasionally go out to eat, watch movies, etc.

I've always kind of had a thing for him, but I'm not in love by any means. It's just a crush.

That said, it still hurt me a lot when he said that he thinks I'm the gatekeeper (or the DUFF).

First, we're friends, so he should at least be respectful towards me as a person. I'm well aware that I'm not the hottest girl in the world, or even in my group. I don't need him or anyone else to tell me.

Second, he only said it because one of his guy friends jokingly told us to get a room at the party we were at, as we had been standing around, talking only to each other the whole night. He got embarrassed, and decided to let me (and everyone within an earshot of our conversation) know that he thinks of me as the gatekeeper. I think his exact words were, "Dan's such an idiot when he's drunk. He knows you're my hookup to Emma and Kate. By the way, did you tell them to come to my party next week?"

Third, while what he said could have been perceived as a joke between friends, he also dodged me the rest of the night, and mentioned to a few people that he'd probably date me if I were hotter. He was a little drunk, but not to the extent that he didn't know what he was saying.

It was pretty embarrassing. And believe me, no one has any idea that I've had a crush on him this whole time. I've kept it to myself. I know there's no way he could ever like me back, and I'm pretty good at drawing the line between my feelings and our friendship. I think because we hang out so much, people have the wrong idea about us, and he reached his breaking point and said some mean poo poo. To my face and to others.

That was last night. Now I'm just in my room, wondering if I should still talk to this guy. Even without the crush, what he said was mean. He basically said, in different ways, I'm not good enough for him. And honestly, in terms of looks, I'm not that bad. So I don't know what he's on about. My friends are ridiculously pretty, and I've seen many guys say and do crazy things in order to get with them. Maybe this is a case of that. I told Emma and Kate what he said, and they were shocked. They both told me that they were under the impression that he had a thing for me, and that he was such a nice person. Suffice to say, they think he's horrible now. I'm glad I have their support, but I'm still so embarrassed and angry over what he said.

I've cried two times already.

I don't know if he's going to apologize or if he even knows that my feelings were hurt. Should I tell him? Is it worth the trouble? We've been friends for a few years now, so I don't want to just ghost. If I cut ties with him, I want him to know why. I'm just not sure what to do right now or if this is even as big of a deal as it feels. I've never seen this side of him before.

tl;dr We've been friends for three years. Should I tell him that he hurt my feelings when he said that, or should I just let this fade?

id suggest you forego trying to talk to him and jump straight to :murder:

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

dudeness posted:

My [19 F] Gf will only accept Disneyland as a bday present when I [26 M] already took her and I don't want to go again

JFC stop dating people you need to sneak into a bar by WELL before the time you (should have) finished undergrad.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

the worst part of that story is that those spoilers on the ages were actually needed, there are way too many 35+ people going to disney theme parks regularly

like if you're in a disney park on a regular basis and you're a childless adult you are a fuckin weirdo, and nostalgia is not a good enough excuse, nothing is

That is one of the weirdest things. I don't understand any of that poo poo. Weddings at Disney? Disney cruises - for ADULTS who aren't bringing children? WHY?

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Sorry, but youve been palpartion'd

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Motronic posted:

That is one of the weirdest things. I don't understand any of that poo poo. Weddings at Disney? Disney cruises - for ADULTS who aren't bringing children? WHY?

Like people who buy christmas stuff year round that the leave up until the neighbors worry they died, some peoples brains are all hosed up on childhood highs.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender

Motronic posted:

That is one of the weirdest things. I don't understand any of that poo poo. Weddings at Disney? Disney cruises - for ADULTS who aren't bringing children? WHY?
Disney has a relentless marketing machine making sure everyone loves them. Forever.

And they're sure as poo poo not going to discourage adults from doing a ton of Disney stuff.

DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!

Motronic posted:

That is one of the weirdest things. I don't understand any of that poo poo. Weddings at Disney? Disney cruises - for ADULTS who aren't bringing children? WHY?

crazy disney people are just like crazy anime people except that somehow everyone else isn't constantly ragging on them all the time and I don't know why, but they should be

Doc Hawkins
Jun 15, 2010

Dashing? But I'm not even moving!


Ugly In The Morning posted:

Disney girls are loving insane. They're worse than horse girls.

There's at least some overlap there.

La Brea Carpet
Nov 22, 2007

I have no mouth and I must post

dudeness posted:

My [19 F] Gf will only accept Disneyland as a bday present when I [26 M] already took her and I don't want to go again

She's loving goofy. Sever.

goethe.cx
Apr 23, 2014


La Brea Carpet posted:

She's loving goofy. Sever.

heh

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

Motronic posted:

JFC stop dating people you need to sneak into a bar by WELL before the time you (should have) finished undergrad.


That is one of the weirdest things. I don't understand any of that poo poo. Weddings at Disney? Disney cruises - for ADULTS who aren't bringing children? WHY?

These things exist for the same reason people eat at McDonald's in Italy. They know they're going to get something they like with no surprises and with a certain standard of quality.


I have no nostalgia for Disney parks. I was never taken to one as a child. The first time I was obligated to go to one I was 25 and I was certain it would be a miserable, hot, long lined, over-capitalist nightmare. My wife and I had no kids and there were no kids in our party.

I was wrong.

The first thing I want to mention is that DisneyLAND and Disney World are entirely different beasts. At Disneyland it is feasible to just pop in for a few hours, grab a snack, ride a thing, and pop back out. Disney World you're committing at least 3/4 of your day or your wasting your time. Also, Disneyland has more attractions than all of Disney World's four parks put together in a space smaller than Disney World's Magic Kingdom. Also, Disneyland has alcohol. (Well, California Adventure, but it's right there)

Anyway, the main thing I was not expecting in any of the parks was the attention to detail in the theming. It didn't make me feel like I was in the jungle, but it made me feel like I was in what 1950s people thought the jungle was like, if that makes any sense. The food, if you do the research (I always do) is good). The lines aren't that bad if you have a plan and get there at opening. It's really the feelings though.

The haunted mansion is a genuinely spooky haunted house. It isn't scary or frightening or horrifying. It's spooky and fun.

The jungle cruise is a feast of animal-themed dad jokes and every skipper has their own selection and delivery. I sometimes ride this three times in a row if the line's short.

Pirates of the Caribbean. I wish to hell I'd been to Disney before they added Jack loving Sparrow to "improve" the ride. Its a cool, enchanting ride that does a good job building an atmosphere until Jack Sparrow takes it away from you.

I like the animals on the Big Thunder Mountain Railroad.

Other things to like:
Dole Whips
Trader Sam's
Beignets/Nutella waffles depending on coast
Fireworks
Parades


Oh. And not having kids means you can take your time and do whatever you want. Sit and people watch. Whatever.

DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!
if I wanna observe strange childish weirdos I have the whole internet for that and that isn't price gouged to insanity (yet)

P-Mack
Nov 10, 2007

Seriously the food at the good Disney restaurants is amazing, and the resorts do a great job on all the little things. The people who never vacation anywhere else are weird but it's still a lot of fun for adults with or without kids.

Pvt.Scott
Feb 16, 2007

What God wants, God gets, God help us all

Ugly In The Morning posted:

Disney girls are loving insane. They're worse than horse girls.

They're horse girls with an even less tenuous grounding in reality.

E: seconding that Disneyland is superior to Disneyworld. For starters, it's not located in a primeval swamp filled with monsters that time forgot.

Pvt.Scott fucked around with this message at 23:50 on Sep 16, 2017

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde

Pvt.Scott posted:

primeval swamp filled with monsters that time forgot.

But enough about Floridians

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Disneyland is superior because it doesnt have the tedious mandatory story introductions for the rides they copied making it the cutscene skipping of real life

Ziv Zulander
Mar 24, 2017

ZZ for short


Beachcomber posted:

The jungle cruise is a feast of animal-themed dad jokes and every skipper has their own selection and delivery. I sometimes ride this three times in a row if the line's short.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a0cCRRFi1aA

Palpek
Dec 27, 2008


Do you feel it, Zach?
My coffee warned me about it.


Get the Disneyland girl a special birthday gift - freedom...to be with somebody else.

Motronic
Nov 6, 2009

Beachcomber posted:

These things exist for the same reason people eat at McDonald's in Italy. They know they're going to get something they like with no surprises and with a certain standard of quality.


I have no nostalgia for Disney parks. I was never taken to one as a child. The first time I was obligated to go to one I was 25 and I was certain it would be a miserable, hot, long lined, over-capitalist nightmare. My wife and I had no kids and there were no kids in our party.

I was wrong.

The first thing I want to mention is that DisneyLAND and Disney World are entirely different beasts. At Disneyland it is feasible to just pop in for a few hours, grab a snack, ride a thing, and pop back out. Disney World you're committing at least 3/4 of your day or your wasting your time. Also, Disneyland has more attractions than all of Disney World's four parks put together in a space smaller than Disney World's Magic Kingdom. Also, Disneyland has alcohol. (Well, California Adventure, but it's right there)

Anyway, the main thing I was not expecting in any of the parks was the attention to detail in the theming. It didn't make me feel like I was in the jungle, but it made me feel like I was in what 1950s people thought the jungle was like, if that makes any sense. The food, if you do the research (I always do) is good). The lines aren't that bad if you have a plan and get there at opening. It's really the feelings though.

The haunted mansion is a genuinely spooky haunted house. It isn't scary or frightening or horrifying. It's spooky and fun.

The jungle cruise is a feast of animal-themed dad jokes and every skipper has their own selection and delivery. I sometimes ride this three times in a row if the line's short.

Pirates of the Caribbean. I wish to hell I'd been to Disney before they added Jack loving Sparrow to "improve" the ride. Its a cool, enchanting ride that does a good job building an atmosphere until Jack Sparrow takes it away from you.

I like the animals on the Big Thunder Mountain Railroad.

Other things to like:
Dole Whips
Trader Sam's
Beignets/Nutella waffles depending on coast
Fireworks
Parades


Oh. And not having kids means you can take your time and do whatever you want. Sit and people watch. Whatever.

This sounds awful and if I need a Dole whip that bad I will gladly go back to Honolulu to retrieve it from the source. I can find very high quality food both locally and abroad without going to a theme park. Same for basically every last one of your "other things to like".

DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!
tbf theme parks aren't geared toward people who live in an area with anything interesting at all

it's basically a sanitized place you can have "big city" experiences but also cartoons!

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos
Me [29F] at a newish job, managing data for an all-male engineer team [20-70M] are treating me like a secretary. How do I tactfully establish boundaries?

quote:

Hey all!
I thought this might be a good place to reach out for advice. I'm fairly new, as a data management specialist for a team of engineers. I just graduated with a CTIS degree and was excited to land a job so quickly with such an established company, but the novelty is quickly wearing off because of the treatment I'm receiving from several members of my team.

The team is fairly young at this company and expanded quickly in the last year. Twelve months ago this group wasn't a requirement for the company but government standards have changed and it had to be added and rapidly expanded from 3 engineers to 11 in that time. The huge workload on them meant they were generating a lot of data that needs to be maintained, properly stored, etc. which created the need for my position as well.

I think some of these confusions come from the team just not knowing how to utilize my support (yes I am there to support them, but not the way they are trying to use my skills) since this is a brand new position, combined with general, standard office misogyny. Also, because it's my first job outside of the food service industry and after graduating, I wasn't sure in the beginning what was appropriate so I've been a "yes woman" until now.

Now that I have a better idea of my role, some of the guys are pushing it too far and I want to establish boundaries. Some examples of what I'm talking about include:

1) Manager emailing me to tell me to schedule a meeting, that has nothing to do with my work, and I'm not supposed to attend. We schedule meetings via Outlook so he could have scheduled it himself in the time he took to send that email would. That said, he's my manager, so I'm not going to rock that boat too much.

2) While this was a joke, and I don't hold anything against this person for it, it revealed how I'm coming across to people. One older engineer told me he could really use some coffee and we laughed about it. He is the person that envisioned my role, pushing for it's creation, and has expressed his frustration at how I'm being used for menial tasks instead of being allowed to support the team the way he imagined.

3) I run weekly reports on documents/submittals that are due, asking for updates from each engineer on their progress and when we can expect them to have them turned in. I also track down missing/overdue items from external support keeping internal workflow moving. NOBODY RESPONDS TO MY EMAILS except the last engineer I was speaking of. So I have to wait a reasonable amount of time and track down these guys in person who reluctantly give me updates. Several of them get indignant and cut me off and pedal excuses when I do this.

4) One of those people sent me an email last week TELLING me to print out his PTO form, have our manager sign it, and send it into Payroll for him. I just forwarded it straight to my manager and said I wasn't comfortable putting my hands in other peoples' payroll activities and that he should handle it (first time I've stood up for myself so far). In a phone meeting with him and my manager later on other topics, this engineer forgot to run a report needed for the meeting, but I'd already done it. My manager said, "see, [thebirdabides] DOES help you" which leads me to believe that a conversation about that took place.

5) Yesterday a younger engineer TOLD me to update his attempt to escalate an issue to upper management, despite the fact that for on-site engineers, this is their own responsibility. I do this for folks off-site, because they can't access most of our drives to provide adequate information. I responded, and cc'd the manager, that I would do it this time but for future reference, according to procedure, it's his responsibility (second time I've stood up for myself). It was 5 o'clock on Friday so I left right after that.

I probably should have stayed, though, because now I'm anxious that I'm pushing it. I guess I need guidance on how to proceed. Should I continue with these methods? I don't want to risk my job, but this I did not sign up to be a secretary (nothing wrong with secretary work, it's just not what I signed up for). I'm even considering transferring elsewhere in the company once I hit 6 months because this appears to be confined to just my team, at least to this extent.

Thanks everybody!

EDIT: Adding another incident. In an email exchange between a different department's representative and my manager that I was CC'd on, the other guy said, "have your admin schedule a meeting and release this workflow". So this perception of my position is bleeding and I strongly believe it needs to be reigned in if I hope to advance within my field.

TL;DR: Only woman on an all-male team, how do I keep them from treating me like a secretary, when that's not my job description.

When you come in tomorrow, take a knife and stab the biggest dork you see. Only way they'll respect you.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

P-Mack posted:

Seriously the food at the good Disney restaurants is amazing, and the resorts do a great job on all the little things. The people who never vacation anywhere else are weird but it's still a lot of fun for adults with or without kids.

People are surprised I've never been to one, since I like Disney stuff, but that said I don't own any Disney merchandise, I own animation cels and stuff though, idk it feels different :shrug:

For this thread's amusement, I'll mention I in particular collect feature animation cels that feature horses.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Look as long as you dont stalk park employees to figure out who has the Disney Pins you dont have yet, youre probably not fully insane.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

Barudak posted:

Look as long as you dont stalk park employees to figure out who has the Disney Pins you dont have yet, youre probably not fully insane.

I own one of the roughs from the animation sequence where Aladdin is being squeezed by Jafar as a snake, and it is 1) beautifully roughed by the peerless Glen Keane and 2) aladdin looks slightly orgasmic and since the internet has made it clear to me that horrible perverts will pay any amount of money to celebrate their pervert thing, and this pervert thing is a one of a kind art piece, that once the pervert-locating marketing algorithms are perfected, I will make a fat stack of cash on its resale

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

Pick posted:

I own one of the roughs from the animation sequence where Aladdin is being squeezed by Jafar as a snake, and it is 1) beautifully roughed by the peerless Glen Keane and 2) aladdin looks slightly orgasmic and since the internet has made it clear to me that horrible perverts will pay any amount of money to celebrate their pervert thing, and this pervert thing is a one of a kind art piece, that once the pervert-locating marketing algorithms are perfected, I will make a fat stack of cash on its resale

The logical conclusion of the goon obsession with what weird internet people masturbate to is profit

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos

Pick posted:

I own one of the roughs from the animation sequence where Aladdin is being squeezed by Jafar as a snake, and it is 1) beautifully roughed by the peerless Glen Keane and 2) aladdin looks slightly orgasmic and since the internet has made it clear to me that horrible perverts will pay any amount of money to celebrate their pervert thing, and this pervert thing is a one of a kind art piece, that once the pervert-locating marketing algorithms are perfected, I will make a fat stack of cash on its resale

Seems to me like an acceptable dowry.

Pvt.Scott
Feb 16, 2007

What God wants, God gets, God help us all

Pick posted:

People are surprised I've never been to one, since I like Disney stuff, but that said I don't own any Disney merchandise, I own animation cels and stuff though, idk it feels different :shrug:

For this thread's amusement, I'll mention I in particular collect feature animation cels that feature horses.

Is it cels of Sunflower from Fantasia?

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

Pvt.Scott posted:

Is it cels of Sunflower from Fantasia?

No, but Animation Sensations had one of the production drawings of her for sale, and I missed it :argh:.

Irony is big now, this would definitely be a Portland flip.



Meanwhile, you just know the kind of person who ate the markup on this one:

Pick fucked around with this message at 03:35 on Sep 17, 2017

Pvt.Scott
Feb 16, 2007

What God wants, God gets, God help us all
Robin Hood is the best Disney film.

burial
Sep 13, 2002

actually, that won't be necessary.
Every town truly does have its ups and downs.

cumshitter
Sep 27, 2005

by Fluffdaddy
One of the guys at my office has some old stock certificates framed on his wall and the Disney one is pretty cool. IIRC it has Walt at his desk and a bunch of Disney characters around it.

Also if you ever find old certificates in a dead relative's stuff you can mail it off to your brokerage to claim it. Not sure if they'll send it back.

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Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

cumshitter posted:

One of the guys at my office has some old stock certificates framed on his wall and the Disney one is pretty cool. IIRC it has Walt at his desk and a bunch of Disney characters around it.

Also if you ever find old certificates in a dead relative's stuff you can mail it off to your brokerage to claim it. Not sure if they'll send it back.

They don't send it back. The Disney ones are collector's items btw.

get into the gbs retirement thread man, why aren't you there

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