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therobit posted:That was the full text. Still, don't gently caress without wrapping it up if you aren't OK with some possibility of a baby. There's still some small chance if you do wrap it up. People who have hetero PiV sex need to come to terms with the possibility that a pregnancy might result. And men additionally need to come to terms with the fact that they can't control whether or not their partner aborts. It seems like OP has done all that, so he's fine.
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I think something we need to make clear to teenage boys is that even if they communicate their desires in plain terms and use the best protection available to them that choosing to have sex is still agreeing to be responsible for kids. After all, the stats on unwanted pregnancies decrease in areas where abstinence only education is pursued and the laws and healthcare do their best to force women to have kids they don't want.
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But we can agree that this particular kid seemed to already know that? I’m pretty pleased he seems down with taking financial responsibility, if nothing else.
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Oct 16, 2017 07:50
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Yeah dude is handling this the right way
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Oct 16, 2017 08:04
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Yeah, this dudes all class.     Go read the thread. Dude makes less then minimum wage and from what I can gather from your backwards legal system he is probably going to end up in jail.
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Anybody know how/if there's an archived version of this one before the post was removed? https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/2nb4lq/i_28f_dont_want_to_go_to_a_friends_24f_wedding/ The comments section is insane (birth control lies, the subject of the OP's ire finds and starts posting in the thread, the wedding is more than a year away, etc.), and I'm dying to see if there's a way to reverse find the OP.
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Xik posted:Go read the thread. Dude makes less then minimum wage and from what I can gather from your backwards legal system he is probably going to end up in jail. He’s 18, right? I mean, yes, way more horrid than I had hoped. Sure. Yes. Even at his most douche-like, though, he still claims he’s willing to pay whatever amount the law can drag out of him. AND NOT A PENNY MORE. That’s! yeah. Okay, you win. e: He IS young though. I’m so torn here. Even taking SOME responsibility puts him head-and-shoulders above most. burial fucked around with this message at 08:45 on Oct 16, 2017 |
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ArbitraryC posted:I think something we need to make clear to teenage boys is that even if they communicate their desires in plain terms and use the best protection available to them that choosing to have sex is still agreeing to be responsible for kids. I really don't understand what you're trying to say here. What do you think we should be telling boys? If you have PiV sex as a guy a kid may result and there's nothing you can do about it after the fact. It's not what most guys would prefer but it's how the world works. It also really doesn't have anything to do with abstinence only education or health care.
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Xik posted:Go read the thread. Dude makes less then minimum wage and from what I can gather from your backwards legal system he is probably going to end up in jail.
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Meme Emulator posted:I asked my husband to open our relationship. He's been sleeping with transexuals ever since and I don't know how to feel. (self.polyamory) Where is he finding all these transgirls asking for a friend
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Oct 16, 2017 10:01
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Zzulu posted:Where is he finding all these transgirls I would bet a dollar that there is an app for that.. Or just try your luck with Grindr for now 
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Oct 16, 2017 13:20
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Like I said earlier, he’s probably paying them, because how many 20 year olds of any stripe are going to want to come over and gently caress some 50yo dude with his wife (and kids?!) in the House?
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Clark Nova posted:Like I said earlier, he’s probably paying them, because how many 20 year olds of any stripe are going to want to come over and gently caress some 50yo dude with his wife (and kids?!) in the House?
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There are a TON of early 20s trans sex workers, though, because it is often one of the easiest ways for them to make money when legitimate employment remains absurdly hard for them to obtain. Partially because of this, trans women have one of the highest rates of HIV infection out of any other demographic. (IV drug use is also a major factor, which is probably also a consequence of poverty) This is another good reason for his wife to be upset, but she still can't get past the penis
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I know weäre all super progressive here but your husband banging transexuals would be something most people on this planet would have a hard time gettin past we're just not there yet where it is totally normal bros
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Zzulu posted:I know weäre all super progressive here but your husband banging transexuals would be something most people on this planet would have a hard time gettin past I understand having a hard time wrapping your head around it, just, there's a lot more going on here worth getting mad about than "ew, she's got a penis?!?!" Her adding a bunch of qualifiers about how she's totally not transphobic while using multiple slurs to describe them isn't helping her point
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Something tells me that his ability to find a bunch of trans girls willing to sleep with him may not be as new of a situation as she thinks, and that perhaps his tendency to 'work late' or go on trips for work has been curtailed as of late.
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What are you talking about "multiple slurs," literally the only thing she called them is "trans girls." She wasn't judgey or "ew" about them, she's just worried her husband is "ew" about her.
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Anne Whateley posted:What are you talking about "multiple slurs," literally the only thing she called them is "trans girls." She wasn't judgey or "ew" about them, she's just worried her husband is "ew" about her. Meme Emulator posted:I asked my husband to open our relationship. He's been sleeping with transexuals ever since and I don't know how to feel. (self.polyamory) So, I guess it's only two lovely things she says? My bad. In before somebody comes in to "Um, actually, Transexual totally is not a slur because..." me
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Oct 16, 2017 15:09
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How is transexual are slur? It's the loving definition
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Whorelord posted:How is transexual are slur? It's the loving definition  The word you are looking for is transgender
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Mirthless posted:So, I guess it's only two lovely things she says? My bad.
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Anne Whateley posted:okay I was just looking at the post itself where she says "trans girl" half a dozen times and "transsexual" (which yeah is deprecated) not at all. I guess we're both wrong Yeah, sorry! I definitely overstated it
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Mirthless posted:
Just checking, you are aware that has become settled terminology among trans people within the last decade right? Most people literally do not know this stuff.
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Patrick Spens posted:Just checking, you are aware that has become settled terminology among trans people within the last decade right? Most people literally do not know this stuff. Edit: I'm getting worked up over this and I guess it wasn't as known as I thought, just keep it in mind guys If Jefferson Beauregard Sessions can get it right nobody else has an excuse Mirthless fucked around with this message at 15:26 on Oct 16, 2017 |
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Oct 16, 2017 15:18
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I didn't honestly know "transexual" is a bad word nw
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Me either. I'm not hip to the lingo.
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ArbitraryC posted:what's the full text cause if he's willing to pay child support and communicated from the beginning he had no interest in a kid I don't think he's the pos here at all. tricking someone into having sex with you under false pretenses is sexual assault if he'd agreed to use a condom and didn't, he'd be guilty of sexual assault. if he'd lied about his religion he'd be guilty of sexual assault. if he had a twin brother and banged the twin's wife while she was under the pretense he is the brother, it's sexual assault but a guy clearly communicates he does not wish to have children, and only wants to have sex with partners who would abort if other measures failed, and he's a jerk for saying "well, I told you I don't want kids, have fun raising them on your own" and he's a deadbeat, not a victim 
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If you're getting worked up over a 50 year old woman using the term transsexual I honestly don't know what the gently caress to tell you Not every person ever has an updating dictionary installed that keeps them up to date on the latest woke terminology, and not every use of a badwrong word is an intentional slight against someone else All these things said, she opened up the relationship and got owned, and thus there is nothing we can have for her but derision. Also, oh man oh geeze we're getting into the subject of male reproductive agency relative to post-conception birth control measures, this conversation always goes well. Generally, I feel like a man should have the ability to give up all rights to a child at conception if it was clear he had no interest in ever having a child and has no interest being in that child's life, with no allowed visitation or any parental rights towards the child whatsoever, but I'm not a lawyer and I'm sure that sort of law being put in place could be abused to hell and back. Also, should have to offer to pay for abortion first, if woman doesn't wanna and there would be no medical issues incurred from doing so blah blah blah you get what I'm saying. Blade Runner fucked around with this message at 15:43 on Oct 16, 2017 |
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Blade Runner posted:Generally, I feel like a man should have the ability to give up all rights to a child at conception if it was clear he had no interest in ever having a child and has no interest being in that child's life, with no allowed visitation or any parental rights towards the child whatsoever, but I'm not a lawyer and I'm sure that sort of law being put in place could be abused to hell and back. The state and the law don't give two shits about what the parents want or wanted, they only care about ensuring the maximum amount of feasible support for the child, which is as it should be.
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Blade Runner posted:Also, oh man oh geeze we're getting into the subject of male reproductive agency relative to post-conception birth control measures, this conversation always goes well. Generally, I feel like a man should have the ability to give up all rights to a child at conception if it was clear he had no interest in ever having a child and has no interest being in that child's life, with no allowed visitation or any parental rights towards the child whatsoever, but I'm not a lawyer and I'm sure that sort of law being put in place could be abused to hell and back. Also, should have to offer to pay for abortion first, if woman doesn't wanna and there would be no medical issues incurred from doing so blah blah blah you get what I'm saying. Yeah, that's the issue... it would be abused. There's not really a good solution. After all, the kid didn't decide to be born. You might be able to figure out some sort of penalty for the mother though (or open up civil action). But there's have to be a pretty high standard of proof (like text messages or recorded audio discussing what would be done if birth control failed).
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LadyPictureShow posted:Anybody know how/if there's an archived version of this one before the post was removed? Couldn't figure it out but there's an update about it that's also been deleted. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/2oe9li/updatei_28f_dont_want_to_go_to_a_friends_24f/ Lots of choice things in that one quoted from the deleted post.
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My [45F] husband [46M] took our 18 year old son to see a prostitute because he felt like it would be a boost to his romantic life, what should I do?Relationships (self.relationships)quote:So my husband and I have a 18 year old son who is a senior in high school. It’s no question to anyone that has met my son that he’s not exactly slated to be on the cover of GQ and he's fairly quiet and reserved. But we’ve never been worried about that and we both love him dearly. He’s a good self-motivated kid who rarely gets in trouble, gets good grades, and we are not one bit worried about his future. I wouldn't trade my son for anyone else.
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maskenfreiheit posted:Yeah, that's the issue... it would be abused. There's not really a good solution. The internet has really internalized the idea that the scope of one's responsibilities only extends as far as they want or expect it to, but that's not how it works, or even good. You take risks, you accept the consequences of those risks. Its called "tough poo poo."
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maskenfreiheit posted:My [45F] husband [46M] took our 18 year old son to see a prostitute because he felt like it would be a boost to his romantic life, what should I do?Relationships (self.relationships) Sorry, ignoring everything in this story to laugh at how she sent her 18 year old son to his room and he did it.
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Your husband is fighting the incel menace, this is goodblarzgh posted:The internet has really internalized the idea that the scope of one's responsibilities only extends as far as they want or expect it to, but that's not how it works, or even good. This is an argument used against abortion a lot. There are obvious other things that go on with a woman's body changing over pregnancy and her having to carry a human life for 9 months, but the primary thrust(heh) of a "You did the gently caress crimes, you do the pregnancy times." argument is the same.
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that's a loving A+ father right there, drat e: the actual events are of debatable ethics but I gotta say his intentions were pretty spot on as far as "if you get sex over with maybe you won't fixate so hard on women as sex objects" IMO
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Blade Runner posted:This is an argument used against abortion a lot. There are obvious other things that go on with a woman's body changing over pregnancy and her having to carry a human life for 9 months, but the primary thrust(heh) of a "You did the gently caress crimes, you do the pregnancy times." argument is the same. Once its a baby human, its not your body anymore.
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Barudak posted:Sorry, ignoring everything in this story to laugh at how she sent her 18 year old son to his room and he did it. It's cool how the dad is trying to help the kid feel more capable of succeeding in the world and the mom's first step is "go back to your room while your parents deal with this", thanking him for his honesty like he's still a child, lmao
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blarzgh posted:Once its a baby human, its not your body anymore. Sure, but again, the argument vis a vis "If you didn't want a kid, you shouldn't have hosed." equally applies to abortion, so it just doesn't strike me as at all compelling.
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