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Doggles posted:Is this a violation of trust? Am I overreacting? How the gently caress is a 22 year old able to split a down payment and mortgage?
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This is why you don't date someone who has been an adult twice as long as you have. They can do outrageously stupid or lovely stuff that will drag you down with them and you'll be too inexperienced or naive to see it until it's too late. If they were both 29 then she would have caught on and bailed from this poo poo before throwing down on the mortgage. If they were both 22 then they probably wouldn't have been able to buy a house and the relationship would just flame out without permanent damage. But when your hitch your fortunes to an older person who is supposed to be responsible but is actually a shithead, you will absolutely pay for their idiocy.
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fruit on the bottom posted:[AL] Apartment construction has me trapped inside a few days before I plan to move out Isn't the answer 'move into your new place and leave your few piece of large furniture behind, and arrange in writing with the landlord to have them delivered at the earliest possible time at his expense. Take photos of everything' or 'Email your landlord and tell him what has happened is unacceptable, and he needs to find a way to remove your poo poo or you're going to turn his life into a legal headache'?
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ReadingZucchini posted:This is hilariously awful but I hope that you haven't extrapolated all of that from a single data point. Seroquel really does make you crave carbs/sugar. I guess my brain took it to the extreme. Youre right. It actually is pretty hilarious when you wake up with half a sheet cake mashed to your chest with the frosting. The best was when I took a great big bag of frozen strawberry pie filling into bed with me. That poo poo made an unholy mess. I woke up that morning like "OH MY GOD I'VE BEEN STABBED!!"
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Benagain posted:How the gently caress is a 22 year old able to split a down payment and mortgage? Maybe the  was born with financial gifts
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Facebook is serious business, you guys. My GF [35F] still has a bunch of pictures (20+) with her ex up on Facebook. I [26M] have been dating her for 6 months and she has one pic of me and her. quote:I brought it up to her that it makes me feel weird that she still has those pictures up, but I didn't ask her to delete them or anything. I honestly don't care. It's in the past and they broke up around 6 months before I met her. She said it's unrealistic to think she would go back and delete them because it's in the past. But we've been dating for ~ 6 months now and she has only posted one pic of me and her on Facebook. She posted two to my wall or whatever it's called but only one on hers, in which she didn't identify me as her BF.
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Doggles posted:Facebook is serious business, you guys. Delete that poo poo! Or even better: Burn the whole computer in front of your bf. Or just leave her 
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Oct 26, 2017 20:23
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almightyerin posted:The best was when I took a great big bag of frozen strawberry pie filling into bed with me. That poo poo made an unholy mess. I woke up that morning like "OH MY GOD I'VE BEEN STABBED!!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YuoToHKCas4
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Oct 26, 2017 20:45
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Doggles posted:Facebook is serious business, you guys. The more serious issue here is that it's been 6 months and she hasn't told her parents about him at all. People grow out of posting a ton on FB as they get older, which may be contributing to the lack of posts with him? Deleting old photos is a personal thing, and different people feel differently about it and there's valid points to both options depending on how things end, but I don't think the pictures are the real issue here.
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almightyerin posted:Seroquel really does make you crave carbs/sugar. I guess my brain took it to the extreme. I'm imagining The Godfather except with a pie instead of a horse. E: oh, sorry, spoilers for The Godfather, someone fucks a horse in their sleep
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Doc Hawkins posted:I'm imagining The Godfather except with a pie instead of a horse. I think I’ve seen this. Trump asks Pence to be his VP and Pence says no so Trump makes him an offer he can’t refuse.
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almightyerin posted:That jacked up med they put me on made me literally eat in my sleep. Like entire cakes in one go. I'd wake up with all kinds of food smashed all over me. Seriously. gently caress any medication that reprograms your brain. You sure it wasn't Ambien? e: ohhhh seroquel. Yeah, that's not just a commonly prescribed SSRI, it's kinda hardcore. HoAssHo fucked around with this message at 22:01 on Oct 26, 2017 |
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Is it possible for me (23f) to be in love with two guys at once?quote:I have no clue where to start... I've been with my current boyfriend (he's 26) for 18 months now. We have a pretty good relationship, and we've been living together for a few months now. I moved in with him because I was serious about having a future with him. But for the past few weeks I've been developing feelings for another guy. (He's also 23). We started talking and I thought I could definitely use another friend since I'm new to the area. It started innocently enough. He asked to hang out and we had a great time. I immediately told him I had a kid and I lied and said I was living with my ex (I only lied because I thought it would really make this guy not want to date me.) Except he immediately accepted all of that. We started texting on the daily. His parents invited me over to dinner and they were just amazing people. We all drank wine and laughed at dumb jokes. We just talked about anything and everything for hours and it was amazing what an instant connection we had. I got home and felt really bad, I didn't physically cheat, but realizing I had a crush on this guy made me feel guilty. I just thought maybe once feelings get really comfortable and the honey moon phase dies in one relationship, that crushes are just to be expected. But this is tearing me apart because I've been lying to both people I care about in my life because I have no clue what to do. My head says to cut this guy off like a sore and move on with my life. But he is everything my current relationship lacks. I actually made a pro/con list. Current boyfriend is my stable/safe love. I could trust him with my life. He is my rock. But the cons are just sometimes I feel like we're too different. He's an introverted, down to earth, but boring human being. Our sex life is just okay, but is so infrequent these days. Some nights we just sit in silence and it bothers me. This current guy shook up everything for me. He's silly, adorable, a good texter, and our personalities are the same. He makes me feel the butterflies, he makes me smile when I'm feeling down, he's so much fun to hang out with and talk to. I know from one drunk text session that he's kinky, so sex would be fun and exciting again. I think about them both all the time, and it's so hard because I know I have feelings for both. I wish I could be in an open relationship, but sadly my current boyfriend has made it clear that's not something he's okay with. Part of me wants to take a break, but since I live with my boyfriend, it would be really hard. I have no clue how to proceed. I want both people in my life because they both make me happy in different ways. gently caress you im not formatting that.
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fruit on the bottom posted:an open relationship, but sadly my current boyfriend has made it clear that's not something he's okay with.
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quote:But this is tearing me apart because I've been lying to both people I care about in my life because I have no clue what to do No you're lying to them because you're a selfish rear end in a top hat that doesn't actually care about either of them. Also lol at "I am considering a break" as her way of getting around her boyfriend's explicit desire to not have an open relationship while still trying to keep him as a backup guy who can help pay her rent. What an awful human being.
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OP has naturally not responded to any of the people pointing out how terrible she is being and instead has simply opened up a second thread titled: Do I (23f) need a break, open relationship, or something else?
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ArbitraryC posted:OP has naturally not responded to any of the people pointing out how terrible she is being and instead has simply opened up a second thread titled: Wow, what a shitstain. She should break up with the boyfriend because it will be the best thing that ever happened to him.
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Roommate won't clean since cutting her hairquote:My (25F) roommate (30F) cut her hair about a month ago and now refuses to vacuum our apartment because she thinks that the only thing the vacuum does is pick up hair. This is obviously irrational and I have tried to speak with her about it but she thinks that I am being ridiculous by wanting her to clean up after me (because I have long hair). Admittedly, I lose more hair than her but I think that we can all agree that vacuums are not just for cleaning up hair. At first I found this situation comical but now it is getting on my nerves and I find myself feeling resentful. I'm hoping the Reddit community may be able to offer some advice...or at the very least somebody will get a chuckle out of my roommate's ludicrous logic.
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almightyerin posted:That jacked up med they put me on made me literally eat in my sleep. Like entire cakes in one go. I'd wake up with all kinds of food smashed all over me. Seriously. gently caress any medication that reprograms your brain. Honestly that sounds like if they marketed it as a recreational drug they'd make a fuckin' killing.
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Wow, what a shitstain. She should break up with the boyfriend because it will be the best thing that ever happened to him. Ideally she would come clean to both of them and they'd both dump her but I think she's made it quite obvious she doesn't care about anyone other than her and will continue to lie as long as it benefits her, no matter their expense.
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A familiar story with a tragic twist-ending My [32 M] GF [22 F] is on a three-day work conference, and I feel hasn't communicated much during that time. Or am I being too overbearing? quote:My girlfriend works for a large company (50,000+ employees) and was selected as a top performer to go on a work vacation (basically a 4-day drinking fest in a tropical location, with a few activities thrown in). Naturally I was ecstatic for her, and really happy her talents at work were being recognised. she didn’t break up with him
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I know we've had some overbearing people with regards to communication but imo it would be weird to not be pretty proactive about messaging someone when you're gone on a trip like that. My gf just went to a conference a week or so ago and she messaged me a lot because you know, she missed me. Just normal stuff like what she was doing that day or what cool places she saw/ate at, I dunno that just seems natural and not something you need to have a conversation about doing. setting that aside tho lol breakup that agegap is gross.
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coronatae posted:I found something fun in the JustNoMIL sub, originally posted to r/relationships but removed for formatting errors and such. 
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fruit on the bottom posted:A familiar story with a tragic twist-ending But: quote:She came back this evening, apologised for not phoning, but said she was happy I gave her the space to be herself. There's at least a 25% chance she cheated during the conference.
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That guy is obviously extremely insecure about the age gap and already freaking out from fantasies on what his gf is doing when she's not with him, this will only escalate. While I understand his need for contact and communicating it to his gf, there's already some red flag poo poo going on in his head that he will either have to get over or it will become a self-fulfilled prophecy and ruin their relationship.
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I had a buddy who wouldn't stop talking to me about his GF going to Burning Man and wondering if she cheated on him for her entire vacation. It got to the point where I said I wasn't going to talk about it anymore. Surprise surprise, he was cheating on her and using coke to hook up with girls at parties.
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Me [28/F] with my mother [44/F] forced us to be chronically homeless and on the run. I want to cut her out but feel tremendously guilty about doing so.quote:My mother got pregnant at 16 and had me and then my brother at 18. My father was a high school football star. He lives in a different part of town and has a good, blue collar job and a nice family. My mother never really put us in contact. She'd cash support payments and lose the cash in an hour or two.
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quote:My [32 M] GF [22 F] is on a three-day sexcation with her boss, and I feel hasn't communicated much during that time. Or am I being too overbearing?
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You know, she’s clearly a broken individual but I find that there are a handful of things that affect my sympathy. For example, if she had given away her own things instead of the kid’s. Or if she had shown remorse or apologized. Or even left them with the aunt. There are many times when a parent’s best isn’t enough, but you can only do your best. Grace, forgiveness, and healing are the only way to mend that wound in our communal brokenness. OTOH you can go ahead and kill this lady.
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Haifisch posted:Me [28/F] with my mother [44/F] forced us to be chronically homeless and on the run. I want to cut her out but feel tremendously guilty about doing so. gotta cut her out. if your parents are grossly dysfunctional and they gave you an awful childhood, this pattern will persist into adulthood and beyond until one of you is dead. you have to cut them out because otherwise they'll keep showing up and dragging you back down again if she was robbing her children to stay afloat she'll have no hesitation doing the same to her adult children
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Jesus Christ, $39500 on lotto tickets.
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What if I bought a lottery ticket for every possible combination of numbers? Who's stupid then, huh?
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Olanphonia posted:Jesus Christ, $39500 on lotto tickets. "You can't win if you don't play" I say as I decide to not feed or shelter my children without them forcefully taking money from me
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quote:I (F35) threw away old photos of my husband (M44) with his late wife years ago. He just found out and hates me for it. Oh my god.
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Olanphonia posted:Jesus Christ, $39500 on lotto tickets. That’s the problem with goons. You ignore half the details to fit the narrative that you want to see in the story. You’re harping on the $39450 she spent but completely overlooking the fact that she won $300!
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almightyerin posted:Oh my god. I… I don’t... no. NO
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fruit on the bottom posted:That’s the problem with goons. You ignore half the details to fit the narrative that you want to see in the story. You’re harping on the $39450 she spent but completely overlooking the fact that she won $300! If you think about it she really only spent $39150 on the tickets. almightyerin posted:Oh my god. no one here will ever screw up as badly as this woman screwed up, holy poo poo
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Olanphonia posted:Jesus Christ, $39500 on lotto tickets. You haven't felt that weird combination of pity and disgust until you've watched someone throw away tens of thousands on scratch off lottery tickets over a period of a few months Hell my company owns a store and there's an old lady who comes in and drops like a grand on the drat things in one go every week 
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