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Dear Reddit, my friend told me he would kill me last, but now it looks like he lied. What can I do to repair this relationship?
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# ? Jan 12, 2018 23:51 |
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# ? Jun 4, 2024 06:00 |
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CheesyDog posted:If I were glove wife I'd have to make him try to take off my bra wearing those huge ski gloves guess what's replacing foreplay
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# ? Jan 12, 2018 23:52 |
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Rubellavator posted:Definitely expected this to be about him being a loud alcoholic rear end in a top hat when gaming. I like to subvert expectations How do I [27F] ask my girlfriend [31F] to ease up on the affection? quote:Lately, my girlfriend has been acting really weird; she's been extra affectionate and it is driving me crazy!! These days I am actually dreading coming home (we live together) because when I do, my gf acts like she hasn't seen me in a week. She'll run to the door, greet me with a slow and cutesey "...hiiiii.....I miiiiiissed you" and then give me a hug where her arms go underneath my shirt and lasts like 10 seconds. She'll go in for at least 3 kisses during this hug. This is all before I've even closed the door or taken off my coat. I'll give her a hug back, but if it's not up to her standards she goes "what, are you not happy to see me? I'm so happy to see you! Awwww pouty face". Over the next five minutes I'll probably get another hug and 10 kisses. quote:Well, a little over a month ago we got into a huge fight and I was thinking about breaking up. I said that I needed some space, so she actually really cut down on the hugging/kissing/holding hands then. But then after I said that I'll try and give it another shot to feel close to her again, that's when she started doing all this weird stuff. So I guess she's actign like this because I said I wanted to break up before? But really all it's doing is pushing me further away because it's so over the top quote:You're right. I guess I'm just scared because she always manages to make me feel so guilty about stuff like this. She frequently pulls the "you don't love me as much as I love you" card on me. So if she is showing all this weird affection as a way to show that she feels close to me and doesn't want me to leave, me telling her to chill out would be like saying I don't like you go away. quote:When she's mad there's a lot of yelling, when she's really mad she'll break things. I just never know how to deal with it and everything I do is wrong. She doesn't listen to reason when she is angry and says mean poo poo and then later on say she didn't mean it. These days I actually do just ignore it and not do anything, since I'm tired of it and anything I do will be wrong anyway so what's the point. Hmmm... quote:The reason that I was close to breaking up with her in the past is because I don't like how she reacts when she is upset and she seems to get upset at the smallest things. She'll usually break random things, but also purposely break cards and gifts I've given her to hurt my feelings. And yes, she has hit me in the past. I eventually changed my mind about breaking up because she said she was going to start therapy and take medication. Yeah, I think you should go back to plan A.
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# ? Jan 12, 2018 23:58 |
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borderline/bipolar personality disorder are real yo
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# ? Jan 12, 2018 23:59 |
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 00:21 |
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Weren't people jailed for carving graffiti into the Colosseum?
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 00:25 |
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What happened to the dude whose girlfriend never opened his gift but claimed she did, and wouldn't let him open the box either? I found that really puzzling.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 00:32 |
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porkswordonboard posted:What happened to the dude whose girlfriend never opened his gift but claimed she did, and wouldn't let him open the box either? I found that really puzzling. Yeah, either outcome is really weird. If she didn't open it why not just say she forgot about it? Why the lies about the necklace being in the shop or getting cleaned or what ever? Why seal the box back up to look like an unopened package? Why are people so weird and continue to date when there's no trust and crazy mind games going on?
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 00:44 |
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porkswordonboard posted:What happened to the dude whose girlfriend never opened his gift but claimed she did, and wouldn't let him open the box either? I found that really puzzling. If I've learned anything, it's something deeply sinister and concerning.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 00:46 |
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porkswordonboard posted:What happened to the dude whose girlfriend never opened his gift but claimed she did, and wouldn't let him open the box either? I found that really puzzling. Inside is a framed picture of a frail old woman. She always knew that the instant his trust in her ran out, so too would her time on this Earth.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:08 |
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porkswordonboard posted:What happened to the dude whose girlfriend never opened his gift but claimed she did, and wouldn't let him open the box either? I found that really puzzling. It is a cat, and she is too afraid to re-open the box for fear of either finding a dead cat, or a cat dead-set on vengeance for it's attempted poisoning
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:09 |
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It’s a tinier version of their apartment complete with a tiny version of him opening a small box in a drawer
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:11 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:It’s a tinier version of their apartment complete with a tiny version of him opening a small box in a drawer Ugh I hated the first dozen seasons of CSI
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:13 |
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The tiny man turns his head and looks toward you. Almost by instinct you turn your head and look to the ceiling.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:16 |
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dear strong bad, how do you gently caress with boxing gloves on
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:23 |
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Lol, good luck getting this through airport security when your study abroad program ends and you go home.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:29 |
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I'm gonna pretend she wants advice on how to transport it back to America. My answer is buy a bong and remove the critical parts and glue them to the skull then when customs asks what it is you can just say it's a novelty bong. No one would ever suspect it to be a real skull.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:32 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:I’m curious if you know of any articles or could recommend a book discussing medical anthropology, because that’s honestly pretty interesting. I’ve been on antidepressants/mood stabilizers on and off since my teens (regularly for the past seven or so years, but with a lot of switching/titrating etc) and a lot of the time it felt like my doctors didn’t actually give a poo poo about figuring out the root problem and focused on ‘well, if you don’t feel the meds are working, let’s just increase the dose/add a supplemental secondary med’, sometimes with disastrous results. You might need a better psychiatrist. Mine always is very careful to determine what's my brain being broken and what's a reaction to a problem in my life. I got lucky though and hit on a good one right away. Streak posted:borderline/bipolar personality disorder are real yo Not the same thing! This one definitely rings my Borderline alarm though. She's just so into attention.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:37 |
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Anony Mouse posted:Myself and gf of 1 year (23M/F): I watched her beat the poo poo out of a man who wanted to hurt her and stay happy about it. I just can’t look at her the same since This is the best thing I've read in weeks. "It's not the guilt that haunts me, it's knowing that my girlfriend could shred me like paper if I step too far out of line..."
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:52 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:You might need a better psychiatrist. Mine always is very careful to determine what's my brain being broken and what's a reaction to a problem in my life. I got lucky though and hit on a good one right away. I got really distrustful of psychs/counselors for a while there, especially after a sleep med interacted badly with an anti-depressant and once I was out of the ER all the Psych said was ‘I’m sorry to hear that’ when I said ‘yeah I had all the symptoms except coma and death’. My docs are cool and not lovely these days, but still; fuckin hell.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:55 |
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Yeah, medications are serious and feeling like a zombie on a medication or having a bad reaction is something that should be addressed. Unfortunately some conditions can still be hard to medicate for so doctors will settle for 'kind of works, makes you feel like poo poo' over 'not on meds, severe danger to self'.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 01:58 |
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TheSpiritFox posted:Girlfriend badass, so what This is the best thing I've read in weeks. "It's not the guilt that haunts me, it's knowing that my girlfriend could shred me like paper if I step too far out of line..." [/quote] They're going to end up going to the gym and studying martial arts obsessively. Gotta stay one step ahead. Or buy matching outfits and spend their nights hunting down sex offenders and roughly loving each other on rooftops. Could go either way.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 02:29 |
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Help? But also just venting. (self.dating)quote:This past weekend I met a guy and we kind of hit it off. We ended up having sex and he gave me his number, telling me to text him to hang out. When I did he was very cold and distant.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 04:20 |
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She just cat personed him
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 04:53 |
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maskenfreiheit posted:Help? But also just venting. (self.dating) It was an enjoyable hookup. You both had fun, but now it's time to move on. Just leave the dude alone. There are thousands of other fish in the sea.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:09 |
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:It was an enjoyable hookup. You both had fun, but now it's time to move on. Just leave the dude alone. There are thousands of other fish in the sea. was it tho? I mean if were as described from the switched perspective and it was clear the girl didn't want anything to do afterwards I don't think anyone would go "but the signs were all clear!". Ignoring the patter in between we know the dude was drunk, she went after him, and he was upset in the aftermath. Everything else is just fluff to make the OP feel better about their actions.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:15 |
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ArbitraryC posted:was it tho? I mean if were as described from the switched perspective and it was clear the girl didn't want anything to do afterwards I don't think anyone would go "but the signs were all clear!".
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:26 |
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PetraCore posted:Wait, didn't the other party go after the OP, and then feel bad later? That's the confusing part to me. OP "expressed initial interest" and followed him into his room after presumably some sort of party that took place where he lived while he was drunk. I mean everything she said afterwards suggest he was also enthusiastic about the encounter up to the point it happened, but considering he mysteriously vanished in the middle of the night to cry about it, went awol with her when she tried to contact him afterwards, and said to his own friends he felt like it's not what he wanted, I dunno if we should trust the "this is totally what they wanted" narrator. ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 06:32 on Jan 13, 2018 |
# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:30 |
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She: Asked to talk Asked to cuddle He: Asked her to close the door Started touching her Asked to cuddle naked Asked her to go down on him Fingered her Said he wanted to gently caress her (and did) Gave her his number afterward Asked her to text him to hang out again The only thing she can do to be safer is develop a personal limit of 1 beer = drunk don't approach. Dude definitely has some weird poo poo going on though.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:30 |
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Anne Whateley posted:She: that's if you take everything she said at complete face value in the wake of him feeling hurt and wanting nothing to do with her. If there were a reddit post from a dude who was like "I was at this chick's house party, followed her into her room, she was totally jonesin for me but cried fowl the next morning" would you really just accept his account of what happened leading up to the encounter? Dude literally wandered off at 3am when he sobered up and woke up to get away from her, by her own admission.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:34 |
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If the dude were like "I kept making moves, she was quiet but I could tell she was into it," I'd be like uhhhhhh. If the dude were like "Then she grabbed my dick, then she asked if we could get naked, then she asked if I'd go down on her," that's a lot harder. If he were telling it to the cops or something, I'd be more skeptical, but what would be the motivation to completely make up everything for reddit? If you think the post is real at all, you kind of have to accept the basic factual events imo.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:38 |
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Well... it's obvious the guy feels bad about it. It doesn't necessarily mean she was predatory, maybe he was just way more drunk than she realized if she didn't know him, but you're right that the reaction is important.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:38 |
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She's obviously very ugly there's no other explanation
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:40 |
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People drink and have sex all the time. If they are lucid, not slurring or stumbling, and seem normal it is OK. If they are visibly impaired or asleep it is a no go. It doesn't sound like she pressured him or like he was too drunk to consent.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:42 |
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Anne Whateley posted:If the dude were like "I kept making moves, she was quiet but I could tell she was into it," I'd be like uhhhhhh. If the dude were like "Then she grabbed my dick, then she asked if we could get naked, then she asked if I'd go down on her," that's a lot harder. I'm not saying the dude should go to campus or police about the encounter, but i wouldn't say that if the situation was reversed either. I think it's possible people can be taken advantage of in a grey area of drunken hookups where no one intended to take advantage of the other person but I would say we should generally believe the victim in the aftermath where they say they weren't really into it and don't want anything to do with the other person. What we do know from her own account is she was into him during a party, followed him into his personal space in the aftermath, allegedly had sex consensually, when he woke up after sobering up he removed himself from the situation, wanted nothing to do with her in the morning, and told his friends he felt like he was taken advantage of. All the signs of her pushing things too far are there by her own admission and her only defense is a grey area of what she claims he said/did leading up to the sex itself. ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 06:50 on Jan 13, 2018 |
# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:47 |
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I would also think she'd be more likely to lie about the events if her question was like "this was reported to my school, now how do I get out of trouble?" But it's not, she seems genuinely really upset she might have hurt him, and her question is, given that she already did XYZ, what can she do better in the future. If she's making up the events, then the answers she gets wouldn't be helpful to answer that question, making the post pointless. I didn't say he was lying or anything like that, I don't think he was. I do think he has some weird poo poo going on, which is what I said. e: That's a hell of an edit. If you assume she was lying about all the facts, why not go ahead and assume he was blackout drunk, couldn't carry a conversation, and became unconscious halfway through? Anne Whateley fucked around with this message at 06:54 on Jan 13, 2018 |
# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:51 |
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My [22M] girlfriend [22F] constantly asks for piggyback rides and its exhausting.quote:My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now and I really don’t have very many complaints. We seem compatible together and I really think this can be a long term thing.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:54 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My [22M] girlfriend [2F] constantly asks for piggyback rides and its exhausting.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:57 |
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Anne Whateley posted:e: That's a hell of an edit. Why not go ahead and assume he was blackout drunk, couldn't carry a conversation, and became unconscious halfway through? i'm not assuming anything it's by her own words. Literally everything there for someone taking advantage of a drunk person to have sex is in that post, including the regretful aftermath. The only mitigating factor is that she claimed once she was in his room with him he was the one pursuing it, which is something someone who sexually assaulted another person would say to cover their rear end. The thing that really stood out to me was him bouncing from his own room in the middle of the night because he was already clearly upset about it as the booze wore off.
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 06:57 |
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# ? Jun 4, 2024 06:00 |
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Can I borrow your poop knife bro why did nobody else go insane with laughter over poop knife man
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# ? Jan 13, 2018 07:03 |