Kuros posted:

Would It Be Selfish Or Rude For Me (15F) To Ask My Court (15-22F) To Pay For Their Own Dresses?


First World Problems.

Barudak posted:

Plus most Sweet 16s lack the critical Tio who knows how to play every hit on the accordian

Baronjutter posted:

Yeah it's roots are in weirds sex/purity things. Dads will also have weird mock wedding ceremonies where their daughter pledges to only gently caress when and who dad approves of.

ArbitraryC posted:

Looks like this is update


My two guesses from reading the first post was
1. Biodad actually abusive, mom left because she was afraid of him/raising daughter with him
2. Dad she was raised by was dating mom at the time, she picked him and made up the backstory as an easy out to not deal with court and complications over raising kid

Looks like it was #2

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Hi everyone!

After reading about the benefits of Yoni massage, my wife has asked me if she can try it. It is supposedly like a tantric and semi/erotic massage which focuses on the female “private parts” areas.

To me this kinda sounds like the female equivalent of “Happy Ending”!!! The thing is though that the places that offer this type of thing seem to be more professional looking than a “rub and tug” spot.

I was kind of shocked to learn that this stuff is even legal never mind becoming more common? Isn’t this pretty much prostitution targeting women instead of men?

Anyways, to me it seems like my wife is asking for my permission to cheat on me with a “massage therapist” aka a “Yoni prostitute”. She seems to think it’s more of a therapeutic thing and just refers me to a few articles where female authors attest to having this done and feeling incredibly de-stressed, amazed, and in a few cases life changing.

Am I being a controlling husband if I don’t condone her going? And if I do let her go, would I be justified in getting a “happy ending” type massage myself? Thanks in advance for reading and I truly appreciate any insight into the situation from both male and female redditors.

TLDR: 30F wife wants Yoni massage and I (31M) feel uncomfortable about agreeing.

InediblePenguin posted:

When you talk about how states should have been allowed to secede you're implicitly saying it would have been fair to continue slavery in exchange for you being able to socially distance yourself from rednecks

Trauma Dog 3000 posted:

I've got a pair of purity balls for you right here

extra row of teeth posted:

Honey I want to get finger blaste-I mean receive a relaxing massage with many health benefits

How bad is this guy's finger game if she's looking to go to a new-agey massage parlor?

La Brea Carpet posted:

My wife [30F] wants to get a Yoni Massage. Can this be considered cheating on me [31M]?

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Am I being a controlling husband if I don’t condone her going? And if I do let her go, would I be justified in getting a “happy ending” type massage myself? Thanks in advance for reading and I truly appreciate any insight into the situation from both male and female redditors.

LGD posted:

Sorry, but it’s a big world out there and someday you’ll find that special someone

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This sounds stupid so here goes.

2 years before I started dating my current gf, I slept with a woman I met through mutual friends. Apparently this woman is now my gf's yoga teacher. This came to light when I dropped her off at the studio one time and the yoga teacher said hi to me. My gf asked how I knew her and I was honest because I didn't want her finding out some other way and feeling like she can't trust me, so I told her we had a one-night stand like 4 years ago. We also still have some mutual friends so I've seen her at house parties like very occasionally. I definitely don't consider us friends.

Well my gf seemed fine at the time. After like 2 weeks tho, she came home one day and just blew up at me, called me disgusting, a sex addict, etc. I was so confused. I eventually found out that apparently gf has seen several other guys hitting on her yoga teacher and she thought they were so pathetic and desperate and all she could think about was how I was probably like those guys. She's literally getting mad at me for "potentially" being a creep because she's seen creeps hang around the yoga teacher in present day.

I tell her she's being really immature and unfair and she blows up at me more. She accuses me of being the kind of shallow guy who's only after hot, dumb women. She says she expected more from me. Anyways she still goes to yoga like every week and every week she gets mad at me in the same way. I ask her why she still goes if she hates that teacher so much and she says she wants to get her money's worth because she already paid for the classes up front. Still, I have like 5 more weeks of angry gf to look forward to and it doesn't make me feel good.

What can I do at this point? Is it even worth it arguing with her anymore? Why is she doing this?

tlrdr: Gf is mad at me for sleeping with her yoga teacher years before I met her. Gf accuses me of being a sex-addict and creepy perv because those are the kinds of guys she sees going after the yoga teacher. I'm sick of it, she refuses to stop going to that class and still gets mad at me. What can I do?

La Brea Carpet posted:

Gf [25F] is mad I [26M] slept with her yoga teacher before we met. She still goes to yoga, but now she gets incredibly angry at me afterwards.

extra row of teeth posted:

How does this high school bullshit still happen to people in their mid 20s?!

Every other post seems to star some man or woman-child who blows up at poo poo you should have figured out by age 20 the absolute latest

CheesyDog posted:

Catalina posted:

For it to be truly equivalent, he's going to have to get a New Age prostate massage.

La Brea Carpet posted:

My wife [30F] wants to get a Yoni Massage. Can this be considered cheating on me [31M]?

Catalina posted:

For it to be truly equivalent, he's going to have to get a New Age prostate massage.

Lonely lady posted:

When you are both ready to begin the massage, the woman lies on her back with one pillow under her head and another under her hips to elevate her pelvis. She bends her knees and opens her legs to expose her Yoni. Sit comfortably between her legs with your legs crossed. You may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion.

Begin by massaging other parts of her body to encourage her to relax. Gently, but firmly, massage her legs, thighs, stomach, breasts and arms before venturing toward the Yoni. Next, massage the pubic bone area and then move down to the inner thigh area. Do this motion at least nine times. Then, with the right hand (the right hand is used to balance the polarity of Tantra), apply a high-quality oil or lubricant to the mound of the Yoni, pouring just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni.

Gently rub the oil on the outer lips of the Yoni at least nine times. With the thumb and index finger, gently squeeze each lip of the Yoni, sliding the fingers up and down the entire length of each lip. Then, carefully repeat this process with each inner lip of the vagina varying the pressure and speed of touch according to your partner’s preferences.

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TL;DR: Boyfriend has done so many things to me, physically; verbally; and emotionally, that it has absolutely drained the life out of me and I am no longer who I used to be. I can't find the will to break up with him because I'm deeply in love. Please give me your perspective on his actions, and whether or not I have the right to feel angry and betrayed.
I will try to be as concise as possible. I'm sorry for my bad english. It's my second language, and it's 3 AM.

Background: My boyfriend, Gerald and I have been dating for 2 years. We met while we were both in high school, and the attraction between us was surreal. I lost my virginity to him, and he basically is my first, real boyfriend. We currently live together with our 1 year old cat. I am a freshman in college that had a minimum wage job, and he works full-time at a job that pays slightly more than minimum wage.

I feel like I am just in this relationship because I feel obligated to take care of him. He is basically living paycheck to paycheck. I have been depressed for 2 months, and I suddenly quit university and my job due to not being mentally stable. (Will explain in a little bit) Back when I had a job, I would pay for almost everything and I would buy him every clothing item he wanted because I know he didn't have much to spend on himself. He grew up in an abusive family, and I wanted him to have the life he never had: unconditional love and support. I supported both of us, and even paid for his share of the rent ($600) when he couldn't. More than once, he told me he couldn't give me his share of rent. He couldn't pay May's rent and gave me $300 2 weeks after, and the rest of the money the following month. This hosed me up financially and emotionally in so many ways. I was a college freshman who relied on a minimum wage job and financial aid, so paying $1,200 for rent was loving ridiculous. I had to balance a 13 unit course load and 35 hours of work. My schedule didn't even fit homework and I failed the easiest English 101 (4 homeworks, 12 journal entries, no midterm, 1 final for the entire semester. Oh, our book was 40 pages in total, by the way.) with the most lenient professor in the entire English department because I couldn't get up at 8 AM and I didn't have time the day before to do her homework. How loving embarrassing. I basically finished work at 11 PM, and had classes the next day at 8 AM. After class, go to work, and repeat. I skipped so many classes just to catch up on sleep.

My grandparent died very recently, and I fell into major depression and I have considered suicide many times. He was my only father figure, and even better, I lost him on my birthday. It's been only 2 months since he has passed, and there hasn't been a day where I have not cried. He doesn't know that I still cry to this day. I quit my job, and I dropped out of college. I am basically just at home now, but I have been actively trying to get a job because he keeps guilt-tripping me about him being the only bread-winner. I have reminded him that I have supported us for the past year and half, and he claims he understands, but he still keeps making condescending comments. Just recently, his cousin asked him to take a day off to spend some time with family, and he responded with "I can't take the day off. I have no one! I'm my only source of income, and I'm basically supporting myself. I have no one by my side." while I was right next to him and he knew I was listening to his conversation. This hurt so much. I feel like he doesn't understand the impact of my grandpa's death to me, and completely disregarded my support for the past 2 years. I feel the need to just work through the pain just to make him happy but he hasn't even provided me any emotional support. In addition, he told me he wouldn't feel bad if I killed myself because he thinks suicide is a coward's way out and I was stupid for even considering it. These were his actual words.

I cook, I clean, I take care of our cat, I massage him after work, I let him de-stress by always picking out his choice of movie. I feel obligated to do these because he works and he pays for groceries and rent at the moment, but I am so god drat depressed. I don't feel ANY emotional support, and it's the only thing that I crave at the moment. I claim my back hurts, my knee hurts, my head hurts, I don't have the energy right now, I don't feel up for it. He always retorts with, "I've been working blah blah hours. You can't complain. You've been in the house all day." And of course, my favorite, "Why are you so tired/lazy? You don't even do anything."

I've expressed that I want kids in the future when we both are stable enough both financially and emotionally to handle kids, but he isn't sure if he wants any. He says they are expensive and annoying, and while I agree (you know how kids are), I still want kids. But he has hit our cat multiple times (not in a life-threatening way), and I am afraid he might do the same thing to our kid/s if we decide to have any.

He has physically hit me, not once, but twice. I forgot the first time, but I believe it was a punch in the shoulder and I brushed it off, thinking it was a heat in a moment type of thing and he would never do it again. Fast forward to 5 months ago: I don't want to get into details, but we fought in public, and he physically hit me in front of people and passing cars. He ripped his skin off one of his knuckles due to missing me and hitting a parked car instead, and had the audacity to blame ME for it. The same night: he punched me in the face on accident while aiming for my shoulders. The impact was so hard that I felt blood on my tongue, the inside of my cheeks were basically shredded due to the impact with my teeth, and my face was swollen for about a week and a half. I had bruises scattered all over my body.

After the specific incident stated above, he woke me up around 7 AM and started to touch me sexually. He basically pretended that last night didn't happen. I didn't know what to do. I let him get his way because I didn't want to argue and break up with me... again. However, that morning, he has expressed extreme guilt and sadness over the incident, and even told me to hand him over to the cops because what he did was a crime. I felt so bad for him. I didn't break up with him because I don't want him to live with the guilt.

On one occasion, he pushed me while we were fighting and I stepped on his grandmother's picture that had been around for many decades, broke a piece of glass, but the picture was untouched. He brought this up after the death of my grandfather. My feelings shut down and shriveled up. I couldn't believe the insensitivity. I told him he was lucky that he has something personal to remember her by whereas I had no physical remembrance of my grandfather. He said, "That's because you never tried to get one." I yelled back that he had 9 kids AND a widow, all of whom felt grief in a higher magnitude than I, and his kids would come first before his grandkids. It didn't change his mind, and basically said that EVERYTHING, including not having a single thing from my grandfather AND breaking his grandmother's picture, was my fault.

My biggest concern after breaking up is our furniture. I paid for: our ($60) lamp, our ($100+) dresser, our ($100+) bed frame, and accessories such as a toilet cover, plates, cups, rugs, paintings, fans, pillows, pillow covers, bed sheets, duvets, etc. that basically add up to more than $300. He raked up more credit debt than he can afford, but he was already in debt way before we moved in. His current debt is $x,xxx. He loved using his credit card even before we moved in, and was already a couple hundreds away from $x,xxx before he bought some of our furniture. Because he hit that 6-digit amount when we move in together, he thinks I should be partially responsible for helping him with his credit. While I think that he's partially right, he is only responsible for the mattress ($200), the wooden support for the mattress ($???), and the TV ($300). IN ADDITION, he and his sister share the credit card, so his actual debt included his sister's. If I paid for his debt, I would also be paying for his sister's debt which I don't feel comfortable doing. As mentioned earlier, I have already spent a great deal of money. This would mean I will spend more than $2,000 while receiving the bare minimum.

My father hit and yelled at me throughout my entire childhood, so I'm extremely sensitive to loud noises and yelling. The thing is: He yells all the time, has a bad temper, and this gives me severe anxiety. When I try to calm him down, he just gets more mad and just explodes. I just don't react when he gets angry/annoyed anymore. For example: He left to get some groceries, and I parked at an open street spot I saw near our building, not knowing that was his previous spot. He called me, and I told him I found a pretty good parking spot. He asked me if it the spot he parked at earlier, and I said, I don't think so. I told him I'd wait for him in my car to help get the groceries inside the apartment. When he saw where I parked, he raised his voice and told me that that was where he parked. I told him that it's just a parking spot and I'll move my car if he wants me to. He said he was mad because I answered his question wrong. He has bad road rage, and always yells at me while I'm driving. He also recklessly drives my brand new car that was a birthday present from my parents. At one point, he used up all my gas to visit his friend that lived 20 miles away without even telling me while using my car.

His friends talk poo poo about me, and passively bully me all the time. This really takes a toll on my mental health since he LOVES being around his friends and insists I spend time with them, not seeing that not a single soul wanted me to be there. The reason why his friends hate me is because he portrays me in a bad light, like I'm the bad guy. I say that I don't like being around Troy, and he makes it seem like I hate Troy, when it's *Troy's actions towards me that makes not want to be around him. His friends think that I'm some sort of controlling, emotionally abusive freak who doesn't want him around his friends and want him all to myself. (Lol. If only they knew.) He never defends me or corrects them, so his friends all have a bad idea of me.

This seems pretty minor, but he lost my 3DS that was a present from my mom when he went overseas. I repeatedly told him to treat it with care, and he just loses it just like that. He didn't even arrive at his destination before losing it. I feel like he has no respect for my belongings, small or big, whatsoever.

I also feel like because I have forgiven him for so many things, he expects me to be forgive him EVERY TIME he does something bad. When I get angry because he did something wrong, he gets angry at ME. He also gets the thrill of embarrassing me in public all the time and thinks it's hilarious. I blew up one day and yelled at him in front of everyone to stop. He has stopped since then, but this behavior annoyed me so much.

Pick posted:

Me [21M] with my girlfriend [21F] 6 months, extremely insecure personal issues[new]

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Catalina posted:

Shift + Control + P, my friend, Shift + Control + P.

Pick posted:

I (19/F) need to know if I'm not crazy for wanting to break it off with my boyfriend (19/M).Relationships

La Brea Carpet posted:

Gf [25F] is mad I [26M] slept with her yoga teacher before we met. She still goes to yoga, but now she gets incredibly angry at me afterwards.

Pick posted:

I (19/F) need to know if I'm not crazy for wanting to break it off with my boyfriend (19/M).Relationships

Pick posted:

I (19/F) need to know if I'm not crazy for wanting to break it off with my boyfriend (19/M).Relationships

La Brea Carpet posted:

My wife [30F] wants to get a Yoni Massage. Can this be considered cheating on me [31M]?

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Gf [25F] is mad I [26M] slept with her yoga teacher before we met. She still goes to yoga, but now she gets incredibly angry at me afterwards.


Break up with her, have sex with the yoga teacher one last time, then move on?

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We had a 3 mth old hedgehog named Porky. We live on the 45th floor of a high rise. My gf let Porky run around in our flat while I was gone and she was making a sandwich or whatever in the kitchen. One of our balcony doors was open for fresh air, and Porky meandered over there and eventually slipped through a gap between the glass and wall. She fell to the sidewalk below.

My gf didn't realize for like 2 hours until she wanted to put Porky back in her cage and couldn't find her. She looked everywhere and eventually put two and two together when she saw the open balcony door. She called me and I came home to help her look. We scoured the sidewalks next to our building before we eventually found Porky kind of misshapen in a bush. She was dead as a doornail.

I was really mad at my gf for being careless with the doors (I always remind her to keep the balcony doors closed if Porky is out) but she INSISTS that she thought hedgehogs could withstand high falls, like cats. She keeps saying that theyre tiny and their quills help absorb the impact? That's apparently why she never thought it was a big deal. She honestly thought she'd find Porky sitting in a bush all confused on the ground and just pick her up and put her back in her cage.

I'm just really mad at my gf right now, and I think it's because she was careless and really stubborn about her weird view on hedgehog survivability from heights. Is this a real thing? Am I right to be mad at her or should I give her some slack for apparently not knowing hedgehogs can die falling 45 stories?

tldr: Girlfriend let our hedgehog run around our 45th floor flat with the balcony door open. Hedgehog slips though gaps and falls to death, gf insists hedgehogs don't normally die from falls like that. I'm mad and confused now. What should we do?

Dr. S.O. Feelgood posted:

Girlfriend [26F] let our hedgehog fall out of a 45th floor window. It died. She keeps saying it was a "freak accident" because hedgehogs usually survive. Is this insane?