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Feb 8, 2018 21:08
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Baronjutter posted:19M in upper management. It's retail, he probably makes $10/hour.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:10
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You know what managers hate? Having to manage their employees instead of managing work. Someone marching into their office with an obvious desire to tattle on their colleague falls squarely within the former and she will now always be the person who did that. She needs to find a new job, the whole company knows she's toxic now.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:10
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TheScott2K posted:You know what managers hate? Having to manage their employees instead of managing work. Someone marching into their office with an obvious desire to tattle on their colleague falls squarely within the former and she will now always be the person who did that. She needs to find a new job, the whole company knows she's toxic now. Almost as much as they hate employees going over the heads of the middle management to do it, without any good reason to do so.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:13
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The main issue is pretty obviously that she did not care about whether or not the work was done, she only cared about him getting in trouble for it not being done Bluntly, she wasn't his manager and it's none of her loving business whether his stuff is done or not, so she'll probably be hosed over by everyone hating her now
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Feb 8, 2018 21:13
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hawowanlawow posted:no idea, looks like an open and shut case. the wife is a baby *bzzzzzzzzt* The correct answer was: quote:I had planned on getting her flowers and cooking a nice candlelit dinner, maybe a movie, then giving her a full body massage and oral. People questioning if he considered giving her oral a ‘special birthday gift’. The majority were slap-fighting between ‘wife is a whiny baby’ vs ‘why couldn’t you have gotten her a card and flowers or some candy or some poo poo day of?’
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Feb 8, 2018 21:20
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LadyPictureShow posted:*bzzzzzzzzt* The correct answer was: Yeah I don't know why he considered any of that a "surprise gift" that he had to keep her in suspense for when she was clearly feeling bummed on her birthday. She sounds a little whiny, but goddamn dude try A LITTLE for your wife's birthday.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:24
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chitoryu12 posted:Also in the other ballot story, a girl slowly starts to realize that her dad may be involved in organized crime. She said "washroom". I'm gonna say Canada.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:26
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I'll never understand the mindset of celebrating on the literal day - I care a lot more about the sentiment of a partner doing something special for me than which day it occurs. That doesn't mean I can't like, cope with a partner who does value that, but I think it'll always be strange. Like I had a friend get married on thanksgiving and my family was all totally cool with just doing thanksgiving the next weekend because like, the fun shared experience is what matters, not the day of the week, but apparently it created a shitstorm for other invitees.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:26
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LadyPictureShow posted:*bzzzzzzzzt* The correct answer was: Yeah that is like the bare minimum of what she should get on her birthday, and none of that is a gift. Nor would flowers or a card be. I mean, you can't come up with ANYTHING? JFC how are you married to someone and you don't even know how to get her a cheap but thoughtful gift?
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Feb 8, 2018 21:26
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Yeah how much importance people attach to the actual day of celebration vs having a celebration seems to vary wildly between people. Seems like the best route is to find out which way your partner sees it and do that on their day.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:27
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girl pants posted:She said "washroom". I'm gonna say Canada. Really nice poutine stand you got here. Be a real shame if something happens to it, eh.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:27
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La Brea Carpet posted:Really nice poutine stand you got here. Be a real shame if something happens to it, eh. Watch out boys, we're about to have a donnybrook!
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Feb 8, 2018 21:28
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LadyPictureShow posted:*bzzzzzzzzt* The correct answer was: Yeah, this jumped out at me too. Oral once a year, what a great sex partner!
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Feb 8, 2018 21:29
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In searching for "judgment", we have a middle-aged woman behaving like a scorned college girl and some very bizarre nicknames. (Obviously a throwaway) Me (40F) gf I’ll refer to her as Tuna (42f) her husband I’ll refer to him as jellyfish (45m) I was dating jellyfish, Tuna found out we broke up. Now dating Tuna. Tuna wants me to do things I don’t think I can do. Advice not judgment plz. Sorry long (NSFW) quote:TLDR AT BOTTOM.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:39
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La Brea Carpet posted:Really nice poutine stand you got here. Be a real shame if something happens to it, eh. *nervously hands over $5000 protection money in a manila envelope* *it's Canadian Tire money* girl pants fucked around with this message at 21:43 on Feb 8, 2018 |
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Feb 8, 2018 21:39
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30s [M/F] couple is getting married soon. He has a secret child 1[M]. Should I 30s [F] inform the bride?quote:I need advice. I have an acquaintance who is currently engaged to his girlfriend of 2+years. Wedding is less than 2 months away. I don’t know the bride at all. However, the groom has a secret 1 year old son that his soon to be wife knows nothing about.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:39
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Doggles posted:30s [M/F] couple is getting married soon. He has a secret child 1[M]. Should I 30s [F] inform the bride? This seems like a reasonable case to provide a heads up, to me
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Feb 8, 2018 21:41
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Doggles posted:30s [M/F] couple is getting married soon. He has a secret child 1[M]. Should I 30s [F] inform the bride? She might not believe you, so Id bring your daughters paternity test with you.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:45
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Does HE know about it? Not clear
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Feb 8, 2018 21:47
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La Brea Carpet posted:My table's Dungeon Master [20/30?M] thinks that I'm [20F] being too sensitive to his jokes  this GMIf a player tells you poo poo makes them uncomfortable, you listen and change accordingly, since people are there to have a good time. As GM you’re in control of the tone and subject matter. The other option is you tell them that things aren’t going to change and you politely ask them to not play again. Admiral Ray posted:
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Feb 8, 2018 21:47
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Doggles posted:30s [M/F] couple is getting married soon. He has a secret child 1[M]. Should I 30s [F] inform the bride? Oh hey the one real place to get involved in someone else’s life. Innocuously ask ‘How are you dealing with his child?’ and run for the hills.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:47
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I (20 F) think I might be in an abusive relationship with my boyfriend (34 M) but I don't trust my own judgment anymore. Don't know what to do. Hmmm, let's see what she's unsure is abuse. quote:I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. I know that sounds bad, but he made sure we didn't have sex until I was 18. A year ago, I moved in with him. I don't think I'm happy anymore.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:48
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Golly gosh gee reddit he screams at me constantly, snoops on my poo poo, controls my weight, and is trying to isolate me from my family but he's never actually hit me what do I do
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Feb 8, 2018 21:56
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girl pants posted:Golly gosh gee reddit he screams at me constantly, snoops on my poo poo, controls my weight, and is trying to isolate me from my family but he's never actually hit me what do I do Kill him
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Feb 8, 2018 21:57
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chitoryu12 posted:In searching for "judgment", we have a middle-aged woman behaving like a scorned college girl and some very bizarre nicknames. Drop her off at a swinger's party and let her enjoy being the most popular person there. Alternate take: wife is playing the long game and is trying to push the OP into doing something terrible.
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Feb 8, 2018 21:58
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I'll never understand the mindset of celebrating on the literal day - I care a lot more about the sentiment of a partner doing something special for me than which day it occurs. That doesn't mean I can't like, cope with a partner who does value that, but I think it'll always be strange. Like I had a friend get married on thanksgiving and my family was all totally cool with just doing thanksgiving the next weekend because like, the fun shared experience is what matters, not the day of the week, but apparently it created a shitstorm for other invitees. I’ve got a pretty lax opinion on celebrating on the actual day too since family members had this weird tendency to die or get hospitalized leading up to my birthday (probably so they don’t have to get me gifts   doo hoo hoo!)I think it’s more BS to just not do anything to acknowledge a birthday on the day even if you’re not celebrating then and there; even a big ol hug and a card saying ‘I love you! Can’t wait to surprise you this weekend!’ because oh, the plans got backed up. Sorry if I’ve mentioned it before, but my mother died a few days before my 25th birthday, and my dad felt like complete poo poo because the first thing he did the morning of the funeral was make sure we were up to get ready for the service and then wished me a happy birthday, and didn’t have like cake or gifts or anything. I was like ‘let’s hug and sort it out later, NBD’. Unfortunately, when people said it’s so sad your mother’s not here for your birthday’, my lame joke of ‘Well, I mean, she technically is...’ did not draw any laughs.
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Feb 8, 2018 22:04
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Palpek posted:We haven't had a good self-own in a while:
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Feb 8, 2018 22:06
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Still though, Joe sounds like an rear end in a top hat. He's giving her loving body checks when no one is around and physically intimidating her
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Feb 8, 2018 22:08
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Dienes posted:Drop her off at a swinger's party and let her enjoy being the most popular person there. It would really turn me on if you killed my husband!
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Feb 8, 2018 22:09
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Al Borland Corp. posted:Still though, Joe sounds like an rear end in a top hat. He's giving her loving body checks when no one is around and physically intimidating her
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Feb 8, 2018 22:10
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(20 M) not sure how to bring up turning our relationship into an open one with (21 F) partnerquote:Hey people of reddit, I've been trying to figure out how to bring this up to her without it hurting her feelings or anything. I love her and our son, and have no intentions of ever leaving her. quote:this thought hasn't popped into my head yesterday or anything, i've thought about this for the past 6 months deeply. This is something I honestly want to explore, and if she's up for it I have complete faith and trust in her to be safe with any other partners. And I trust her to back off a person if she gets to emotionally attached to them, like I will do. 
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Feb 8, 2018 22:11
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yeah i missed that part and wouldn't have called him the pete of the workplace if i'd seen that
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Feb 8, 2018 22:12
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Yea physical poo poo is giving up a lot of the high ground and can create bigger problems for management than "a thing was late"
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Feb 8, 2018 22:21
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The_end posted:His belated birthday gift should be divorce papers. "You said holidays and birthdays don't matter after a couple days, so I returned your gift" What an entitled, childish twat that woman is, goddamn. It's not the end of the world to celebrate a birthday a couple days later when it's convenient for both people.
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Feb 8, 2018 22:22
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TheScott2K posted:Yea physical poo poo is giving up a lot of the high ground and can create bigger problems for management than "a thing was late" It's super dumb to do anything of that sort, yeah. I have a feeling it's due to the young age of both people involved (mid 20s, probably first or second job) that they're both handling it so poorly. Like "bump into coworkers" is a thing I've seen dudes do to people they dislike, it's an incredibly dumb move on his part
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Feb 8, 2018 22:24
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He's thinking that his report with the boss makes him untouchable not realizing that getting physical (esp with a female employee) has so many legal ramifications his boss will disown him in a hot second if she breathes a word to HR about it.
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Feb 8, 2018 22:27
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girl pants posted:Golly gosh gee reddit he screams at me constantly, snoops on my poo poo, controls my weight, and is trying to isolate me from my family but he's never actually hit me what do I do Also let's not overlook that she was 16 and he was 30 when they started dating. But it's okay, he waited until she was an adult before loving her!
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Feb 8, 2018 22:29
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Capri Sun Tzu posted:He's thinking that his report with the boss makes him untouchable not realizing that getting physical (esp with a female employee) has so many legal ramifications his boss will disown him in a hot second if she breathes a word to HR about it. It does seem that he's asking her repeatedly to leave him alone and not interact with him, and she won't drop it, so the conflict continues. The whole situation sucks and the way that this lady doubled down on "resolving" the problem a few days after it happened despite no interest is super bad. This guy responding by getting physical is much worse. The whole thing is a shitshow.
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Feb 8, 2018 22:30
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Only if they believe her or they have tapes. She hasn't exactly established credibility wrt complaints about him. I'm not sure what he's supposed to do - it's easy for me to conceive of the OP being merely a foolish busybody, since I heard her side of things, but it looks downright malevolent and targeted from his perspective. I don't know what I'd do in the circumstance but attempting to intimidate her into leaving is, at the very least, about as valid a play as "do nothing and hope management does the right thing". Figuring out a way to get the hostile, career-threatening coworker to leave is the right thing to do even if physical intimidation isn't the right tack.
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Feb 8, 2018 22:30
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