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Midnight Voyager posted:I never said they should try to fix it. But interacting like a person you are talking to who understands what you are saying. "Oh, that's your next door neighbor, right?" "Oh, that sucks," loving conversation filler that you have in an actual conversation and not a monologue. It also needs a bare minimum of consideration from the person telling the story to clarify points that the other person doesn't seem to know (Who's Brenda?) or move on when the other person indicates they know the basics of their job. I mean I hate being stuck on the phone too but something isn't gelling between "she tells me every detail" and "I have no idea who any of these people are". Maybe if he listened instead of fuming about his girlfriend taking up his time he'd remember some of those names. He says it can be anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes!
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Absurd Alhazred posted:On the other hand, I've met way too many women, exclusively in the US and Canada, who are dead-set against receiving oral. Never happened in Israel, or with women who came here from overseas. A huge number of men are loving teeerrrrrible at oral, presumably due to total disinterest in female anatomy or desire. There are way too many dudes who think jamming a tongue into a girl's urethra makes her insta-horny and agreeable to anything. I don't know any girls who've sworn off oral entirely but it's definitely a red flag if a guy keeps bragging about his oral skills and wants to go immediately to oral the minute the netflix app opens. I could definitely see telling a guy I was anti-oral if it was the only way to keep him from chewing my labia off. Women who don't enjoy pushy, painful oral aren't puritanical about their bodies, they're in touch with their bodies. Once again, this thread blames women.
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Tender Bender posted:I mean I hate being stuck on the phone too but something isn't gelling between "she tells me every detail" and "I have no idea who any of these people are". Maybe if he listened instead of fuming about his girlfriend taking up his time he'd remember some of those names. He says it can be anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes! He explains that she repeats stuff he already knows while not telling him relevant information that he doesn't know. It's not that he isn't listening, it's that she's completely ignoring her audience. Galaxy Brain posted:A huge number of men are loving teeerrrrrible at oral, presumably due to total disinterest in female anatomy or desire. There are way too many dudes who think jamming a tongue into a girl's urethra makes her insta-horny and agreeable to anything. I don't know any girls who've sworn off oral entirely but it's definitely a red flag if a guy keeps bragging about his oral skills and wants to go immediately to oral the minute the netflix app opens. I could definitely see telling a guy I was anti-oral if it was the only way to keep him from chewing my labia off. No, I'm sorry, I'm comparing women from this country to women from Israel and a few other countries, who are just as uninterested in men being pushy or making them feel bad in bed. The women in this country who have told me they had no interest in receiving oral sex would go on to ask to have anal sex or light bondage or fingering, so I don't think it's an issue of them being afraid of poor skill levels or whatever, it's that there's an American hangup about it. I don't care whose "fault" it is, maybe American men are especially bad at oral sex while simultaneously being okay at the other types of sex, maybe it's the media, whatever it is, it's a distinctive thing about the US, it stands out. Absurd Alhazred fucked around with this message at 03:48 on Feb 18, 2018 |
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Pvt.Scott posted:They could just assert themselves and say “no thanks,” but that’d take effort and a spine, two areas most /r men are deficient in. Social pressure doesn't exist. Just assert yourself. There's no such thing as other people. Defying the norm never has consequences. Every face-to-face conversation is exactly as easy as typing words on a dead comedy forum.
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Galaxy Brain posted:A huge number of men are loving teeerrrrrible at oral, presumably due to total disinterest in female anatomy or desire. There are way too many dudes who think jamming a tongue into a girl's urethra makes her insta-horny and agreeable to anything. I don't know any girls who've sworn off oral entirely but it's definitely a red flag if a guy keeps bragging about his oral skills and wants to go immediately to oral the minute the netflix app opens. I could definitely see telling a guy I was anti-oral if it was the only way to keep him from chewing my labia off. I've had multiple male partners comment like "oh you don't like oral," and with age I have gone from "not really," to "not from you."
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quote:My (25f) FWB (30m) did something that I find more weird than sexy and I don't know how to respond. Not sure whether this is a misplaced "I like watching her -> she'll like watching me!" or worse. Probably worse.
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13Pandora13 posted:Not sure whether this is a misplaced "I like watching her -> she'll like watching me!" or worse. Probably worse. Charitably he might get off on humiliation? In which case embarrass the gently caress out of him, OP.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:He explains that she repeats stuff he already knows while not telling him relevant information that he doesn't know. It's not that he isn't listening, it's that she's completely ignoring her audience. As a woman with a history of giving oral to women, from Israel and the US and a few other countries, my experience is that American women seem more anxious about receiving oral - more anxious about how they smell, look, etc. There's some anecdata for you.
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WrenP-Complete posted:As a woman with a history of giving oral to women, from Israel and the US and a few other countries, my experience is that American women seem more anxious about receiving oral - more anxious about how they smell, look, etc. There's some anecdata for you. Validation, yay! But also too bad for people feeling self-conscious about their bodies, booh.
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I have a secondary problem where oral makes me think of the opening to my favorite episode of Ugly Americans, where the wizard is giving a mermaid oral sex in a jacuzzi and when she gasps (seeing the evil nega-wizard) the wizard pops up to the surface wearing snorkeling gear and goes "what's wrong, did I lick the wrong flap??" Slays me every time.
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13Pandora13 posted:Not sure whether this is a misplaced "I like watching her -> she'll like watching me!" or worse. Probably worse. I don't want this story to get lost in all the pussy tongueing talk. This guy is a real special boy.
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WrenP-Complete posted:As a woman with a history of giving oral to women, from Israel and the US and a few other countries, my experience is that American women seem more anxious about receiving oral - more anxious about how they smell, look, etc. There's some anecdata for you. It's all well and good to tell us to lighten up, but especially if we're younger, we're very likely to encounter male partners who have been educated primarily by porn and don't know what to do with a woman who isn't presented as a product, and it's also all well and good to tell us to just kick 'em to the curb, but it's hard to communicate exactly how loving demoralizing it is to be in an intimate situation with someone who's actively reinforcing all your lifelong self-hating indoctrination. [edit: Oops, thought I was replying to Absurd Alhazred. Mea culpa, points stand.] spite house fucked around with this message at 04:42 on Feb 18, 2018 |
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WrenP-Complete posted:As a woman with a history of giving oral to women, from Israel and the US and a few other countries, my experience is that American women seem more anxious about receiving oral - more anxious about how they smell, look, etc. There's some anecdata for you. Doritos Corporation just told American women they need chips that don't crunch or make bag noise to feel feminine while snacking/so nobody knows you eat so yeah I'd say hatred of women is pretty deeply embedded in this country.
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quote:My wife [29F] wants us to give up our child for adoption; I [30M] can either support her or leave IDK dude maybe a huge sudden shift and wanting to get rid of a planned baby late in the game is signs of a major hormonal or emotional issue and she needs to see a doctor ASAP but by all means, ask Reddit first.
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spite house posted:It's because we're taught to hate ourselves from birth, to make us more likely to purchase products which supposedly fix the things we hate. Also because we're encouraged to present ourselves as consumer goods, top-of-the-line and without fault or flaw, or else risk being alone and unloved forever. We're a thoroughly commodified population. just wait until someone finds out you have a Pube
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Anne Whateley posted:e: no I won't finger you instead, everyone knows women love oral so much more, it's their favorite thing Okay, this conversation’s probably gone on long enough, but I guess I can’t help myself: Instead? I can’t speak for the experiences of other men, and I certainly can’t speak for women, but I thought it was fairly standard practice to combine the two activities, at least after a little bit. Why the hell wouldn’t you? (barring your partner saying “I’d rather you not.”)
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This thread is so illuminating, I had no idea people spent so much time fretting about whether women want oral sex or not. I hate getting oral but that's because I've never had a partner that was any good at it and it loving sucks to be stuck with men that can't perform and it's easier to give a blanket "I don't like that" and take it off the table. It's better than spinning a roulette wheel on the random hook up on whether or not he knows that he shouldn't bite you.
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lemon-lyme disease posted:Okay, this conversation’s probably gone on long enough, but I guess I can’t help myself: Because you're an inexperienced newbie who hasn't had enough practice to be able to do both at once without overloading his poor, stupid, sex-riddled brain? Like me I love giving oral sex to the point that I'm perfectly happy to do it without reciprocation but I'm still at the stage where I have to concentrate at least a little on what I'm doing, and bringing a hand in just throws me off entirely at this stage. Malachite_Dragon fucked around with this message at 04:41 on Feb 18, 2018 |
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13Pandora13 posted:Not sure whether this is a misplaced "I like watching her -> she'll like watching me!" or worse. Probably worse. He's hoping she will get a sex doll, they can put their phones in the face area and Skype. He should look into the Chinese dildo Facebook "Cracked" wrote about a few years ago. Pick posted:I have a secondary problem where oral makes me think of the opening to my favorite episode of Ugly Americans, where the wizard is giving a mermaid oral sex in a jacuzzi and when she gasps (seeing the evil nega-wizard) the wizard pops up to the surface wearing snorkeling gear and goes "what's wrong, did I lick the wrong flap??" I was so sad that it got canceled. What a loving brilliant show. One of our fellow goons worked on it, so they would give us insight on the animation process for each episode in the TVIV thread. Bored fucked around with this message at 04:46 on Feb 18, 2018 |
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HIJK posted:This thread is so illuminating, I had no idea people spent so much time fretting about whether women want oral sex or not. I hate getting oral but that's because I've never had a partner that was any good at it and it loving sucks to be stuck with men that can't perform and it's easier to give a blanket "I don't like that" and take it off the table. It's better than spinning a roulette wheel on the random hook up on whether or not he knows that he shouldn't bite you. then why did you spruce up the ol' bin with a lil jelly bean?
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Malachite_Dragon posted:Because you're an inexperienced newbie who hasn't had enough practice to be able to do both at once without overloading his poor, stupid, sex-riddled brain?
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Computer, load holodeck program "Mad Tongue Practice, Level 6" Computer, turn off all safety protocols.
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it weirds a woman out, when you just want to get her off, and her alone. like, i'm going to get you off and you can't touch me, i dont get it.
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All I can say is that I'm glad my early experiences were with someone who liked oral sex and wasn't afraid to give directions.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:All I can say is that I'm glad my early experiences were with someone who liked oral sex and wasn't afraid to give directions. "go away"
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American with foreign born wife, can confirm she's big into receiving, no hang ups or anything.
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Galaxy Brain posted:Social pressure doesn't exist. Just assert yourself. There's no such thing as other people. Defying the norm never has consequences. Every face-to-face conversation is exactly as easy as typing words on a dead comedy forum. I’m glad someone finally understands.
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You seem a bit odd sometimes, but I like and appreciate that this is the response you went with. I thought of the activity depicted, but completely forgot it’s a thing Data ever did. Also, MD, yes. “Not ready to multitask” is a completely valid reason.
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between receiving oral or paying one million dollars, yes, there is obviously an easier way to get a green card
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13Pandora13 posted:Doritos Corporation just told American women they need chips that don't crunch or make bag noise to feel feminine while snacking/so nobody knows you eat so yeah I'd say hatred of women is pretty deeply embedded in this country. I will buy the hell out of these stealth chips. My dog will never know I’m snacking from across the house.
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spite house posted:It's because we're taught to hate ourselves from birth, to make us more likely to purchase products which supposedly fix the things we hate. Also because we're encouraged to present ourselves as consumer goods, top-of-the-line and without fault or flaw, or else risk being alone and unloved forever. We're a thoroughly commodified population. Women: Sort Yourselves Out
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Lime Tonics posted:it weirds a woman out, when you just want to get her off, and her alone. Is this for a whole session? I definitely make sure my wife comes first, because the other way around doesn't work, and she can do multiplies.
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Pick posted:just wait until someone finds out you have a Pube I forget what site I read it on, but--one day this kid (couldn't have been over 15) announced in one thread "Now that woman have evolved to have naked pubes..." I was so embarrassed for him that I had to delete the thread. I wasn't yet cold and cruel enough to watch him get eviscerated. Now, of course, I'd be one of the first to stab him.
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quote:My [26F] boyfriend [28M] made comments about my friend’s discomfort during pregnancy, and I think my reaction is a little over the top. I don’t know what to do.Relationships
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Khazar-khum posted:I forget what site I read it on, but--one day this kid (couldn't have been over 15) announced in one thread "Now that woman have evolved to have naked pubes..." "The Naked Pube" starring r. daneel olivaw v 1.0
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quote:Me [28/F] with my fiance [29 M]. He is terrified of the doctor and it's making me lose my mind.Relationships when these create stones it is sooo gross, you have to pop them like expressing a cat's anal glands
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Anne Whateley posted:Those guys usually finished establishing their routines 10+ years ago, and if you don't come nonstop the problem isn't their routine, it's you, why are you so broken, what's wrong with you, everyone loves this Oh Lord, I had an ex like this once. He didn't do oral because it "wasn't necessary" and his fingering technique could only be described as The Claw. I tried demonstrating what I liked. I tried showing him porn that demonstrated what I liked. I tried direct and indirect feedback. I did hand-over-hand physical prompting. He'd slap my hand away saying I "didn't know what I wanted" and tried to convince me I needed herbal supplements and a therapist to get over my "mental block." He also decided one day that a woman could come from squeezing their breasts alone. We got into a terrible fight one night: : "No, really, I can make you come like this." : "This isn't really my thing, its uncomfortable." : "No, you'll like it, let me try again." *squeezes tits like grapefruits while doing this weird twisting motion* : *makes turntable noises* : "That isn't loving funny!" This is because his previous two girlfriends ended up faking multiple orgasms just to get him to stop. Ladies - if a guy can't get you off and isn't interested in learning how, don't fake it. Stop loving them.
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Get you all up in some gnarly 70’s bush and use her armpit hair for a better grip.
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All you need to do is ask a guy if he wants to push a watermelon out of his dick. That should clarify things for him.
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Dienes posted:Oh Lord, I had an ex like this once. He didn't do oral because it "wasn't necessary" and his fingering technique could only be described as The Claw. I tried demonstrating what I liked. I tried showing him porn that demonstrated what I liked. I tried direct and indirect feedback. I did hand-over-hand physical prompting. He'd slap my hand away saying I "didn't know what I wanted" and tried to convince me I needed herbal supplements and a therapist to get over my "mental block." Pvt.Scott posted:Get you all up in some gnarly 70s bush and use her armpit hair for a better grip. Armpit-hair pulling does not sound like fun. Citation: just did this to myself to see how horrible it would be, did not disappoint!
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