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My boyfriend(26 M) asked for an open relationship while we were fighting. An old love interest of him has just come back into his life. I (26 F) said no, but I'm worried. My boyfriend (26 M) asked for an open relationship while we were fighting. I (26 F) said no, he fought it for a while, and then he decided he wants to be with me and work it out. An old love interest of his has just come back into his life, and he admitted that that played a part in his decision to ask for an open relationship. He was the one who was insistent on a monogamous relationship with me when we started dating. This old love interest had cut him out of her life for years and just initiated contact, so the fact that his feelings were still strong enough to ask for an open relationship is worrying to me. He keeps insisting it was just a bad suggestion, but now I feel like I would be anxious all the time about our relationship. I'd even feel worried about fighting with him, because I fear he'd just run off to her, or some other woman. Am I over reacting? How would you feel in this situation? What would you do? Edit: So this woman and he never actually dated. They were all 21, and she was the best friend of his girlfriend at the time. The two were very close, and were into each other, but never acted on, at least physically. He opened up about his feelings to his girlfriend during a rough phase (!). Things were hard for some time, but they finally did manage to move on from it. But they broke up later, and this was definitely one of many things that influenced that decision. The other woman decided that her friendship with his ex was more important, and cut him out of her life for two years. She just reconnected online, and it feels like a dam of feelings opened up for him. He said they've "never had a chance to explore their romantic connection". While they were chatting, she said she'd been single for a long time, and he said he "kinda but not really flirted" by responding with "Well drat, you should have told me a while ago when I was single, we could have tried dating then." (Reddit this is flirting, right?) They both laughed about it and went on to talk about other things. He says he feels a little guilty for responding like that. Since then, he's agreed that the suggestion he made was a terrible one, but I somehow feel like he is saying that only because of my hard no, and not because he actually feels that way. TL;DR: I said turned down my boyfriend's request to open the relationship, which he made while we were fighting. He wants to stay and work on things. But I fear he will resent me, and that I am going to feel very anxious all the time, moving forward. What would you do in this situation?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:TL;DR: I said turned down my boyfriend's request to open the relationship, which he made while we were fighting. He wants to stay and work on things. But I fear he will resent me, and that I am going to feel very anxious all the time, moving forward. What would you do in this situation? Here is a tip which will save millions of people from heartache, and will also get /r/relationships down to about three posts per week: If your significant other so much as mentions an open relationship, and is more than about 2% serious, sever immediately unless you are 100% into it.
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I love that 2/3 of her post is explaining why his impression of her was wrong and she's not a crazy party girl and is totally the person for him, which I'm sure he'll realize when she waltzes back into his life six years later with the explicit intention of wrecking his marriage.
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Open Relationships: It is not by my hand I was once again given flesh. I was called here by human who wish to pay me compersion. Pete: Compersion? You steal human’s love and make them your slaves! Open Relationship: Perhaps the same could be said of all relationships!
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What is a man, but a miserable little pile of texts to younger coworkers?
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Hmm, he did or nearly cheat with this woman during his last relationship how do I save this one 
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I [45F] fear my [24M] son is going to be alone in old age and he won't talk about it.quote:My son has always been able to keep a few friends, but I worry as they get married off he will end up all alone. I know he is an adult that can make his own choices and that if he doesn't want to tell me it's his right. However as his mother I don't want him to end up depressed. His father also agrees with me that our son needs to put himself out there more and put real amounts of effort into dating. It's just been hard for some reason to convince our son to date and we are really worried he will be alone one day.
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May 30, 2018 03:34
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Esoteric Scientist posted:I [45F] fear my [24M] son is going to be alone in old age and he won't talk about it. Same.
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Esoteric Scientist posted:I [45F] fear my [24M] son is going to be alone in old age and he won't talk about it. The son's problem is the 45 year old living not only her life but his life too I like how when she thought he was straight she broke up his relationship by interfering and then told him not to date, then she became concerned about the lack of dating and thought he was gay, so she started worrying about how he'll get AIDS and went snooping on his pc. When she went snooping thinking he was gay, she found out he was straight by finding porn and punished him for it, and now is concerned that he is not interested in romance. Like at each point her biggest concern is "what if he's making poor decisions" instead of the way that she is raging nuclear war on this kid Ham Sandwiches fucked around with this message at 03:42 on May 30, 2018 |
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May 30, 2018 03:40
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Estás minute natural most of the apps eggs. If mother, and stay up a Heister car before it very honest. It comes from a place of concern, the DeLuth not through the clocks do it with me without them.
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quote:worried me at the time because my first thought was my son was gay and at a higher risk of getting aids or other STD. Then his sister told me that my son has been telling people he is asexual. I had to look this one up on the internet because I thought it was some type of slang for being gay or homosexual. Man, that lede was buried loving deep
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Pick posted:Estás minute natural most of the apps eggs. If mother, and stay up a Heister car before it very honest. It comes from a place of concern, the DeLuth not through the clocks do it with me without them. English. I your understand don't
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My (21f) close friend (18f) is dating a 38 year old man and I don't know how to warn her about itquote:My friend met this man through Tinder (my fault because I showed her the app) and got a few fun dates from it. She then matched with this 38 yealt old man (because she was joking around with the app) and he somehow got her interest. I bolded the parts that make her a really great friend. The best app to introduce your 18 year old, inexperienced virgin friend to is tinder. Well done.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:My (21f) close friend (18f) is dating a 38 year old man and I don't know how to warn her about it quote:He's odd to say the least. They went on a first date and he was very particular about what she had to wear and how and what to eat. So much to the point that he bought her make up and clothes to change to and put on (and she obliged??) He also told her upfront he wanted her to be skinnier and at the end of the date he asked her to be his gf? She accepted (?) There isn’t a loving  large enough to encompass the internal screaming within my heart right now.
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Hellblazer187 posted:What the gently caress is skinship? Barudak posted:It is a weird translation of an asian term that encompsses all forms of physical intimacy between two individuals, ranging from hand holding to actual loving. It's originally a Japanese term and a pretty commonly used one, and through Japanese it also became used in Korea. For both of them it's rendered as close to the English as possible in each language. The origin is apparently some term one American lady made up during discussion at a World Health Organization seminar in 1953, and a Japanese child psychologist liked it so he brought it back and used it in him books. It was originally used in the context of physical intimacy with children and how it affects their development, etc. but at some point it spread to physical intimacy between adults as well. Generally it have overtly sexual overtones, but "skinship" between adults obviously can be flirtatious depending on the context. Because the actual term was coined by an American, but only became popular in Japan and then Korea, it's debated whether or not the term is English in origin or Japanese. Edit: Is should note that in Japanese it's generally not used in overtly sexual contexts, but could have different nuance in Korea. Also it's not really a translation, so much as the Japanese and Korean versions are transliterations of the original English term. Japanese: スキンシップ Sukinshippu Korean: 스킨십 Seukinsip LimburgLimbo fucked around with this message at 04:18 on May 30, 2018 |
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:Man, that lede was buried loving deep From the comments: quote:The replies I've gotten here are just beyond horrible. I have worked my butt off and tried to do what I thought was right. As I was raised to believe everyone needs a life long partner even if they aren't rich or the most popular. Yet people are attacking me with such crude foul language.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:Ok this is maybe too many in a row but I don't understand why this lady is with this dude, I'm not seeing any upside, and the whole "I'm confused, what should I do" tone is hard to reconcile with the content The mom thing is weird but stay the gently caress away from gamblers. They will 100% destroy your family finances sooner or later.
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Esoteric Scientist posted:I [45F] fear my [24M] son is going to be alone in old age and he won't talk about it. Jfc, lady. Leave your volcel son alone. No wonder he thinks women are awful. Reading your poo poo makes me uncormfable. Peaceful Anarchy posted:Look deeper. She's given him an eating disorder. Good job, over-controlling, under-educated mom. Bored fucked around with this message at 05:52 on May 30, 2018 |
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I [28M] saw my girlfriend [20F] online on a dating site. She says it's no big deal and I'm overreacting. Am I?quote:I was having a guy's night last weekend and one of my buddies had just joined an online dating site (the same one I met my gf on). He was browsing on his phone and I saw my girlfriend was online on the site at midnight on a Friday night. Like, she might have a leg to stand up if she owned up to it being a suspicious and lovely thing to do instead of doubling down on defending it. According to the comments he already Pete'd her.  bonus round: I (27F) sucked off another guy (18M) while my BF (32M) hosed me. quote:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We've had threesomes with other women before (he learned I was bi and suggested it, saying it was hot). He recently suggested I suck someone off while he fucks me. Came for the humblebrag, stayed for the buried lede(s).
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Ham Sandwiches posted:My (21f) close friend (18f) is dating a 38 year old man and I don't know how to warn her about it chick introduced their younger friend to tinder so that they could watch younger friend strike out and make fun of them younger friend found sugar daddy and wants to get her sex on older friend freaked the gently caress out because holy poo poo humans are sexual creatures what the gently caress did they just unleash
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I’m[26f] my bf’s[25m] second monogamous relationship and he isn’t doing it rightquote:Lol so..... my boyfriend is used to casually sleeping with his friends or being in open relationships which is totally cool, whatever, but I’m strictly monogamous. We talked that through before we decided to be official, he said he wanted to be monogamous with me. We didn’t talk through boundaries word for word because I figured monogamy implied nothing romantic or sexual with anyone else but me. We went to a party over the weekend and I left early. Ever since that night I’ve had a hunch something was wrong. I’ve been having crazy dreams, and he’s been acting way different. I finally broke down and went through his fb messages and found a convo between him and one of his good female friends. She was telling him to tell me about them kissing that night or she was going to tell me. He didn’t want to tell me, saying it was nothing but friends kissing and that he knew it would bother me if I found out and he doesn’t want to ruin our relationship by telling me. I think he knows it was cheating and he’s trying to hide it under the guise of “friendly kissing”. I don’t think she’s going to go through with telling me on her own, and I know he won’t tell me either so I can’t really confront him on this without admitting I went through his private messages. I don’t even know how to proceed knowing what I know. I can’t tell how mad I am or what I even feel about the situation, but wow it made a hell of a difference reading how bad she felt about it. I can tell he’s struggling carrying this dirty little secret because he’s 100% on edge 24/7, I don’t know if I should wait and see if the guilt chips away at him, or if I should just go ahead and confront him. I don’t even know what I’m doing on here, I guess I just want to see what you guys would do in my shoes and/or other thoughts and opinions on this. Thanks. LOL at the understatement in the title. Comedy option: check out of relationship, wait until the guilt crushes his soul and he confesses, tell him you knew all along and dump him. 
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Hey hey heeey it was only some buddy tongue, chill ffs
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Anony Mouse posted:I’m[26f] my bf’s[25m] second monogamous relationship and he isn’t doing it right I like this option, because my first instinct is to side with 26f. On the other hand, I am getting tired of these “He’s totally used to just loving literally every woman he knows all the time without rules or reserations, but we talked about it, and he’s going to be monogamous with me” stories. Half of me is all, “You’re getting exactly what you signed up for. An actual, literal child who has never had a relationship more serious than the one she has with her imaginary tea party guests would have seen this coming from a mile away.”
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My Imaginary GF posted:chick introduced their younger friend to tinder so that they could watch younger friend strike out and make fun of them That's a p odd hot take, I know goons are old and think of tinder as the casual sex app but it's a p common way for college aged people to start dating in 2018. Sounds like older friend is legit concerned a weird older guy is taking advantage of her friend's inexperience. Esoteric Scientist posted:I [45F] fear my [24M] son is going to be alone in old age and he won't talk about it. Mom is overbearing and offensive but it's really not that strange to worry that your virgoon son is missing out on some of the best parts in life. Maybe the dude is legit asexual but personally I'd put more money on him being gay and unwilling to tell his parents about it (for obvious reasons) or just being awkward and anxious in general at the prospect and not wanting to talk with his overbearing mom about it (again for obvious reasons).
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Yeah her whole post is just "wow I really hosed up raising my son, just really beefed it. how can I continue to gently caress up worse?"
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ArbitraryC posted:That's a p odd hot take, I know goons are old and think of tinder as the casual sex app but it's a p common way for college aged people to start dating in 2018. Sounds like older friend is legit concerned a weird older guy is taking advantage of her friend's inexperience. Might want to strap down, because it seems like MIGF here has taken the hot take train from D&D to dating. And if memory serves correctly, boy howdy, is that a wild ride.
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if my mom made a profile on a dating site for me and just gave girls my info i would probably shut down too Interests/hobbies: - family - helping my mother around the house - the sun - mothers smile - taking the garbage out - rubbing mothers shoulders - rubbing mothers feet - not lookin at porn because i respect my mother - brushing mothers hairs - collage - mother -swimming with seals (mother helps with hand stuff) datajugend fucked around with this message at 14:04 on May 30, 2018 |
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If homeboy is anything like me, it's equal parts various body issues, general insecurity/anxiety, and a firmly deep-seated belief that any person showing interest in me could do so much better than me, and in fact deserves better than to have to deal with my bullshit for any length of time; driving then away is for their own good. I'm aware this isn't a healthy mindset, yes. 
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Malachite_Dragon posted:If homeboy is anything like me, it's equal parts various body issues, general insecurity/anxiety, and a firmly deep-seated belief that any person showing interest in me could do so much better than me, and in fact deserves better than to have to deal with my bullshit for any length of time; driving then away is for their own good. Here's a pro tip: they don't. They are just as contemptible as you
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quote:He recently suggested I suck someone off while he fucks me.
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Dear Prudie posted:I’m an ex-military guy using the GI Bill to attend college. I’m looking to enter the tech field and landed a great internship at a well-known tech company. During introductions, I let people know that prior to entering college, I worked in military intelligence and had learned an East Asian language as part of my job. This attracted the interest of a senior project manager in my office who is also an ex-military linguist, but who had learned a different East Asian language. We struck up a conversation, and he revealed that he was working on a “side project” that could use my language skills. Being eager to impress, I readily volunteered, and he asked me to come over to his place that evening. However, when I arrived I was mortified to learn that his “side project” was adding English subtitles to animated porn films for some website he runs! Not wanting to lose the internship, I awkwardly translated a few lines for him, then made up some excuse to leave. Now I have an email from him asking when I am free again to help! I worry if I say no, I’ll risk upsetting somebody who could potentially sabotage my career, but I also don’t want to spend my evenings translating tentacle porn and god knows what else for this weirdo! If I were a woman, I think this would be sexual harassment, but what the hell is this if you’re a guy?
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loving lol, that’s a new one.
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Ugh, now when I see porn with subtitles I gotta salute? Ive only got so many hands!
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datajugend posted:if my mom made a profile on a dating site for me and just gave girls my info i would probably shut down too How did you get Mike Pence's Tinder?
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fruit on the bottom posted:Eh, what region?
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