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DACK FAYDEN posted:if I was her I'd go, and if she saw me I'd say something like "I'm here to show my support, since I knew people were going to come to protest" In a best case scenario, she realizes her parent’s beliefs are incongruent with her friend and reality and becomes better for it. In the worst case, it just reinforces those beliefs. In the fun scenario, she just starts repeating the last thing she said over and over and then smoke comes out of her ears.
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YeahTubaMike posted:i think that being friends with people who have way WAY different personal beliefs than you might be a white people thing Maybe, but being friends with people who think your very existence is an affront to God is a spineless people thing.
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hevnz 2 murgatroyd posted:God is a spineless people thing.
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Nessa posted:A dirty house can really kill any motivation to keep yourself clean. It can kill motivation to do anything at all and is a huge source of stress and depression. Sometimes I get paranoid that I smell bad but no one will tell me, just avoid me. I can ask my wife, but what if she just doesn't smell it anymore? I try to live by the rule that if you can smell yourself, even a little bit, you smell a lot to other people. There really should be some kind of service you can go to, though.
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Beachcomber posted:Sometimes I get paranoid that I smell bad but no one will tell me, just avoid me. I can ask my wife, but what if she just doesn't smell it anymore? do your genitals smell is really all that matters.
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if you shower and put on clean clothes before leaving the house you shouldn't smell bad unless like you have some sort of medial condition. It's not really a difficult thing to achieve.
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La Brea Carpet posted:Recently invited a girl over and it went terrible, please help The random Capitalization is making me think of the otter guy, I Don't remember his Name.
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From /r/legaladvice we have peak Florida Man! [FL] My neighbor has basically booby trapped his front yard, what can I legally do about it? quote:So I live in a house in a south Florida suburb where the streets are wide enough to allow street parking (legally) for guests as most houses only have a small driveway to fit a couple cars tops. This has never been an issue in the 3 years I've lived here but lately my neighbor has gotten really obsessed about people driving "up his lawn" and scuffing his grass when they park and this week decided to do something about it.
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YeahTubaMike posted:i think that being friends with people who have way WAY different personal beliefs than you might be a white people thing It's an extremely white thing. Viewing "political differences" as some minor academic issue is something that takes enormous privilege, to be so insulated from politics that it's all just not worth ruining a friendship over. I mean everyone's entitled to their views and it's wrong to fall out over that, if you decide not to hang out with people based on something so minor as politics you're clearly only comfortable in a political echo chamber. Like I've just stopped hanging out with some friends because they got huge into Jordan Peterson, "race realism", and steer every possible subject into a rant about "those loving SJW's". When I mention that to some people they're extremely shocked, like how could I let something as minor as politics get in the way of hanging out with someone I otherwise find fun???
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In regards to Pride, do people really protest that stuff? I mean, it's been ages since I went to pride myself, but it covers several streets and it's in a huge City Park, so I guess there could be protesters but most people would never notice them. I remember, almost 20 years ago, when I wasn't entirely sure I was gay or not, I was at college, and saw some flyer for a gay-straight Alliance Club. I decided to check it out, but while I was waiting in the hallway about 10 minutes before the meeting started, I saw a girl I knew from several of my classes. I internally panicked, especially when she came over, also looking somewhat unsure, and we shot the poo poo for a few minutes before she finally asked what I was doing there, in this big empty hallway. I made up something like, oh I'm here because I don't think gay people should be treated the way they are and they should be able to get married and all. Her face lit up, and then she too said yeah I'm here for the gay meeting but none of my friends or family know. As for politics, I find it pretty easy to cut people out, if they say they admire president Trump or Mike Pence, even after I asked them about the whole gay conversion thing, or the abortion thing etc. People who tell me that they love the sinner but hate the sin, can go die in a fire. I don't want to be in a political Echo chamber, but nor do I have to surround myself with people that wouldn't piss on a fire to put me out.
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Cowslips Warren posted:In regards to Pride, do people really protest that stuff? I mean, it's been ages since I went to pride myself, but it covers several streets and it's in a huge City Park, so I guess there could be protesters but most people would never notice them. Pick posted:Pride is corporate af
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dudeness posted:The random Capitalization is making me think of the otter guy, I Don't remember his Name. Enhydra Lutis, I think. IIRC it was just an Avshalom alt which really just convinced that everything beautiful in this world is a lie.
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It was Avshalom but she owns, she’s like the best writer on the forums
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I know but I wanted it to be real very much
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My (30F) boyfriend (28M) inadvertently said something to my dad which caused my dad (63M) to commit suicide. I am not sure how to comfort him, or how to deal with this at all. So my mom died from a heart attack earlier this year, completely out of the blue. Obviously me and my dad were distraught. My dad moved into the town I live in and we sort of reignited our friendship after not talking much the past 5 years. He also became really good friends with my boyfriend, who he liked a lot. One night, my boyfriend and my dad and me all went to a bar and we just hung out, then we went back to my apartment and I fell asleep. Apparently my dad and my boyfriend got into some deep discussion about life and stuff. My dad prompted the conversation. The conversation apparently went towards how my dad was supposed to live a normal life after my mom died, and my boyfriend in an attempt to comfort him said that his dad died as well and his mom lived a normal happy life after, even if it wasn't entirely the same. Apparently my dad started asking what her life was like and my boyfriend just said she spends most of her time alone with her hobbies and her job and that she has a few friends. My bf said my dad looked sad after that, then he left. He took his car and drove about 4 miles away to the side of the road, and shot himself. He wrote a suicide note on his phone for us to read about how he could not stand the idea of just living by himself without his wife. He said that he tried to stay happy and alive but that he recently has thought about what his life might be like, alone in the future, and it scared him too much. In the note, he apparently said a few things which were similar to what my bf described his mother as being like, and he described how he didn't want to be like that, and that it wasn't worth it. Apparently the gunshot was heard at around 12:05, meaning he shot himself only 30 minutes after leaving our apartment. The note was written at 11:59. Obviously I was devastated for days after. I didn't know my dad very well really, he wasn't around for the first 20 years of my life because he was in and out of jail (organized crime and what not) and even after that I only spent a tiny bit of a time with him. Then we got into a big fight over something and I sort of cut off most communication until my mom died. But the past few months I got to know him better than all of the years past combined. I realized I knew such a small amount about his life really, I knew he was an emigrant from northern Ireland and lived through the troubles but he never talked about that much. I learned he was a hardline marxist, something I also never knew. It was interesting really talking to him more for the first time in my life. Regardless, my own mourning over this is not the topic of the post. My boyfriend is insanely distraught over this. When he found out he locked himself in the bathroom and didn't speak for like an hour. Then he told me the conversation he had with my dad, and I realized why he was so unbelievably horrified at this. He feels like he caused this. He read the suicide note, and how much it correlated with his own story of how he described his mom. He just emotionally burst out into tears and left our apartment and didn't come back for hours. Its been 5 days since. He hasn't really gotten better. But he told me he doesn't want to focus on himself because it was my dad, not his dad. But I could literally see in his face how hard this is for him, I don't even know how I would feel in this case. That would devastate me to know what I said caused a man to commit suicide. I saw his hands literally shaking while he was eating dinner and then he randomly got up and went to his room without saying a word. He then took two days off of work to stay in the house all day. I told him he should go to therapy, he said he can't afford it, and that he is fine, and that I should be the one upset, and that he is just being a baby and that he will get over it. I told him, please do not downplay how terrible this is just because it was my dad and not yours. I would be absolutely loving torn apart if my words accidentally lead to someone commiting suicide. I told him it isn't his fault, and that he likely was suicidal beforehand. But he cried again and mentioned in the suicide note he says he was 'happy and was coming to terms' before a 'recent revelation' made him realize how lonely he was going to be without his wife. He said that made him horrified, and confirmed it was his words that lead my dad to suicide. I wasn't even sure what to say. He was right. Even if he was trying to cheer up my dad, its obvious that what he said was the catalyst that lead to him killing himself. I didn't tell him that, but still. My boyfriend kind of broke down and said "I feel like I loving killed him" and I just told him no, no, no you didn't do that at all. He said he knows, but he cant help but feel that way. What do I do? How do I deal with this? I just... idk, I feel terrible. I am sad about my dad but to be honest I barely even knew the man that well, and the times I did see him were mostly negative encounters growing up. I almost feel like he is way more broken up about this entire situation than me. TL;DR - - my boyfriend said something to my dad which became the catalyst which resulted in my dad killing himself. My boyfriend is absolutely destroyed by this.
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That would fuckin' destroy me too but I'd also have buried it deep inside and put on a fantastic act comforting my girlfriend whose father died.
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LadyPictureShow posted:They pull that poo poo even in the worst restaurants. My first job was a summer job at an Italian restaurant. I found out the place was failing and nobody gave a poo poo about the job anymore. Good.
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Downers like that should get a fuckin’ week probe.
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chitoryu12 posted:Should I (25F) talk to my transgender girlfriend (28F) about her wig? This is actually a very  problem. Thank you for posting it. I hope there is an update where the OP tells her fiancée how awful she feels that the fiancée feels the need to hide something so superficial when she loves her no matter what. And the fiancée is happy and relieved and they live happily ever after, always being considerate of eachothers emotions.Sorry if this is a double post. I'm on my phone and obviously several pages behind.
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I call bullshit on Dad’s note. No one goes from “perfectly content” to “immediate suicide” over the course of one conversation.
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Haifisch posted:I [19/F] want to go to Pride this year, but I'm worried about seeing my friend [20/F] there Now kiss
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fruit on the bottom posted:I call bullshit on Dad’s note. No one goes from “perfectly content” to “immediate suicide” over the course of one conversation. It's certainly in the realm of the possible. He was likely feeling suicidal for awhile and then an introspective conversation made up his mind
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QuarkJets posted:It's certainly in the realm of the possible. He was likely feeling suicidal for awhile and then an introspective conversation made up his mind That’s what I mean though, he would have already been in the realm.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (30F) boyfriend (28M) inadvertently said something to my dad which caused my dad (63M) to commit suicide. I am not sure how to comfort him, or how to deal with this at all. The ultimate own
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fruit on the bottom posted:I call bullshit on Dad’s note. No one goes from “perfectly content” to “immediate suicide” over the course of one conversation. Dunno, seemed to happen to Anthony Bourdain
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Nobody ever really knows what’s going through other people’s minds. We all put on a mask every morning and mouth platitudes and smile and so forth, but inside all hell can be breaking loose. I think about suicide every single day of my life, but pretty much everyone who knows me would think I was a cheerful guy, only my GF and my best friend know otherwise, and I only tell them a small portion of my real feelings. The recent spate of famous celebrities and musicians taking their own lives makes me think I’m not the only one who does this.
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somebody mentioned they were watching Parts Unknown and Bourdain 'joked' a lot about suicide. things like that aren't actionable by themselves but it's not impossible he kinda faked being in a good mood for the cameras, friends, and family
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fruit on the bottom posted:I call bullshit on Dad’s note. No one goes from “perfectly content” to “immediate suicide” over the course of one conversation. That was also very jarring to me as well. Ah you described retired life to me, wait, nobody said it was boring  and something about the bf locking himself in the bathroom for an hour was weird too idk
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fruit on the bottom posted:In a best case scenario, she realizes her parent’s beliefs are incongruent with her friend and reality and becomes better for it. I've known quite a few people this happened to. They were super homophobic until they learned that a close friend of theirs was gay, and realized that gay people aren't like their preacher (and often, parents) describe them to be. Actually meeting and getting to know minorities does a lot to dispel those attitudes. Though it's not guaranteed, of course. I say go for it and find out which kind of person the friend is.
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Can I just ask that if you're posting a giant rear end wall of text and its some wretched story with no advice to give where a family takes turn suiciding over pokemon or w/eva , that maybe as a courtesy toss some kind of heads up somewhere for those who find those stories dull, namaste
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I’m (23 M) starting to feel put off by my girlfriends (23 F) sexual desires (self.relationship_advice)quote:Me and my GF have been together officially for about 2 months now. But we were basically living as a couple being together nearly 24/7 for 6 months now. Before that, we were best friends for 3 years.
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My GF wanted to have sex with a stranger for money. I wanted to have a threesome. Which is worse? u/BritOnTheEdge quote:So my GF and I had a minor fight. We've previously discussed having threesomes. I'm not wholly against either 2 guys or 2 girls, though we did discuss that 2 girls would mean I would still only have actual sex with her, which was fine.
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My parents[58f, 59m] are giving me[25f] an ultimatum concerning my fiancee's[23f] leg hair.quote:Hi all. I'm facing a bit of a dilemma centering around the upcoming 4th of July weekend. :shhh: It's not about the leg hair
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CheesyDog posted:My GF wanted to have sex with a stranger for money. I wanted to have a threesome. Which is worse? It’s always a good sign when your significant other says “I want to be self-destructive.”
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