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My wife was 13 when I was 19.
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My wife was 9 when I was 11 and she never lets me forget
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Jul 2, 2018 20:58
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Motronic posted:Yes, I'm 3 months older than her. Obviously I'm just being pedantic about the phrasing of what I responded to. 
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Jul 2, 2018 20:59
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my wife is 5 years older than me and shes really insecure about being the older one
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Jul 2, 2018 21:03
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Doc Hawkins posted:I find it very hard to think of people I met when they were a child as anything but a child, so I would i am a college professor and sometimes people will ask me "so, you ever get any students coming on to you? what did you do? [hint hint]" and the like. i've had some acquaintances get really creepy and lecherous as they imagine what it must be like to be a young man in a position of power over all these 19 year old girls. the answer is: 1) yes, i have had students come on to me, and 2) nothing, because the teacher-student relationship (with undergrads anyway) is much more like being their parent than their colleague. romance doesn't enter the picture when your interactions are exasperatedly correcting their spelling in a terrible zero-effort essay for the fifth time or yelling at them to throw away their drat empty kombucha bottles before they leave the classroom while they giggle about how they drank wine out of red cups the previous night.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:03
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at such a relationship.
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tactlessbastard posted:I think if you spend more than a second to rules-lawyer about appropriate age gaps you should be locked away in an abbey or convent as appropriate Yeah, it’s less about the age, and more about taking advantage of someone’s lack of life experience. Don’t do creepy stuff like that, how hard is this?
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Jul 2, 2018 21:04
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Pick posted:I’ve known two profs who did it as well and there were no repercussions even though the grad students were still active students. Will wonders never cease. graduate students are a different situation because they're usually adults (real adults, not teenagers who can vote) and they're working at a professional level in the same field as the professor. it's still an inappropriate relationship because of the power imbalance but i can see how those conditions can lead to personal closeness or more. you could even argue that if the student and the professor are in different departments, so the professor has no direct power over their grades or the granting of the degree, that there's no good reason for a relationship to be prohibited other than ick factor. hell, my best friend as a child was the son of a grad student who'd slept with her 20-years-senior professor and gotten knocked up. he did not have a particularly happy home life the reason there are no repercussions is because it's insanely hard to fire a tenured professor even if they do something blatantly wrong. one prof not in my department was caught swimming naked with his 22-year-old (also male) graduate student in the gym pool after hours and they just gave him a year-long sabbatical. Sagebrush fucked around with this message at 21:11 on Jul 2, 2018 |
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Jul 2, 2018 21:09
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My high school had a teacher who crossed the line from "live-in relationship with a former student" to "actually sleeping with seniors. No repercussions that I ever heard off. Being the best in the state in his field apparently helped. On a lighter note, my furnace and I ran into a former teacher of mine a couple of years after graduation. In an adult bookstore. Poor bastard looked like he wanted to die right then and there. No, I didn't say anything.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:10
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i ran into a gaggle of my students as i was coming out of a victoria's secret once meh
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Jul 2, 2018 21:13
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mllaneza posted:On a lighter note, my furnace and I ran into a former teacher of mine a couple of years after graduation. I'm glad you found someone to keep you warm at night.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:16
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When I was in middle school, a group of us were walking past the mall Victoria's Secret when our 60something unattractive science teacher was walking out. This was also in the 1990s when, at least in our area, Victoria's Secrets were new and unimaginably scandalous. Our reaction was not "meh"
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Jul 2, 2018 21:16
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i like nice words
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Tanith posted:I'm glad you found someone to keep you warm at night.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:20
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I first met my wife when she was 69 and I was 4 and 1/5ths old. It was very nice.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:30
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I avoid meeting anyone, now I can date whoever with plausible deniability. 
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Jul 2, 2018 21:32
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blugu64 posted:Yeah, it’s less about the age, and more about taking advantage of someone’s lack of life experience. My brother in law is 12 years older than my sister, and their relationship is pretty drat great. I think that it helps that hes a country boy and she grew up as a city girl. Two adorable nieces with a third on the way! And the two now act so kind to each other, the 4 year old is such a helpful big sister who is patient and loving of her 2 year old younger one! Sometimes, like in my brother in laws case, it takes a few failed relations to mature and settle down with a nice, if a bit immature, girl.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:34
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VS doesn't even sell scandalous lingerie. They mostly sell lotion, body spray, and Pink sweatsuits. Their poo poo is wack. My wife does get free panties from there every few months for being on their email list, but they're not anything special. I view them as lingerie for the same type of woman that thinks a Coach purse makes her fancy. Leon Einstein fucked around with this message at 21:37 on Jul 2, 2018 |
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Jul 2, 2018 21:35
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Tenure should protect your political opinions not poo poo work and sex pestery
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Jul 2, 2018 21:37
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Pick posted:Tenure should protect your political opinions not poo poo work and sex pestery
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Jul 2, 2018 21:38
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My wife is a day older than me and I give her so much poo poo for cradle robbing.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:39
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Leon Einstein posted:VS doesn't even sell scandalous lingerie. They mostly sell lotion, body spray, and Pink sweatsuits. Their poo poo is wack.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:41
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When I was 12 or so, my sister showed me that Axl Rose's girlfriend (Stephanie Hunter) was in the Frederick's of Hollywood catalogs and left it out. My mom had a serious talk with me about whether I was looking at the catalog, BUT SHE WASN'T MAD ABOUT IT.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:44
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Lasca posted:Yeea it just comes off as creepy. Yikes! My parents were teachers, and if there was ever a teacher that got together with a former student (only happened a few times), their name was mud forever. In an odd twist, I met my boyfriend’s aunt once and during small talk I mentioned where I’d grown up and what my parents did. She asked ‘Ask your father if he ever worked with Joe Kenny. I’m close friends with his second wife’s aunt’. So I asked, and my dad said ‘yes, and he was a DOG. Infidelity and left his wife and kids for a former student.’ She said, ‘yep that’s him alright’. But the infidelity part was (apparently) his wife was closeted so they stayed together to raise the two kids, and she let him go get his rocks off wherever he wanted. They split up when the kids were either HS or college aged. Relayed that to my dad, and his stumped response was ‘that’s still disgusting he got together with a former student’.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:45
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My brother in law is 18 years older than my wife's sister and he's weird and controlling. She doesn't seem capable of managing her own life either so I dunno...glad they're on the other side of the country.
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Jul 2, 2018 21:46
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I'm a 700 year old vampire engaged to an 18 year old girl, ama
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Jul 2, 2018 21:48
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Olanphonia posted:I'm a 700 year old vampire engaged to an 18 year old girl, ama of all the religions in the world, whyd ya choose mormonism and not some fun eastern european orthodox saint worship? TheScott2K posted:My brother in law is 18 years older than my wife's sister and he's weird and controlling. She doesn't seem capable of managing her own life either so I dunno...glad they're on the other side of the country. the BIL is super chill, in that slow country minnesotan farm kinda way. he's out of state 5 days of the week workn loggin/construction and drives home every weekend to see his babies my SO is super excited to go visit them on a weekend because the brother in law promised to let her go shoot'n in his quary!
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Jul 2, 2018 21:57
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Late to the game but Macy’s is hit or miss given that so many of their stores were bulk acquisitions. There are some amazing acquired Macy’s (The old Marshall Fields in Chicago, the Wanamakers in Philadelphia), but a lot of their stores are kinda crappy. Nordstrom is better in almost every other case (but I find their flagship store to be surprisingly meh). I’m just pissed about the whole Joseph Abboud deal because Nordstrom carried a wide selection, JOseph Abboud were the only suit that would reliably fit the frame of my shoulders, and if your jacket/suit doesn’t match the frame of your shoulders, YLLS. Jeza posted:Take a trip to SE Asia and just spend all your cash on buckets of tailoring rather than sleaze. loquacius posted:I'd bet good money that anyone who thinks it's a red flag to shop at Dollar Tree and not have an iPhone has never had to worry about money in their life My wife graduated college when I finished my freshman year of high school. Hey, someone has to take the Christmas Cakes! (The irony is everyone thinks she looks younger than I do, probably better too.)
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Jul 2, 2018 21:59
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Nonvalueadded User posted:Late to the game but Macy’s is hit or miss given that so many of their stores were bulk acquisitions. There are some amazing acquired Macy’s (The old Marshall Fields in Chicago, the Wanamakers in Philadelphia), but a lot of their stores are kinda crappy. Nordstrom is better in almost every other case (but I find their flagship store to be surprisingly meh). I’m just pissed about the whole Joseph Abboud deal because Nordstrom carried a wide selection, JOseph Abboud were the only suit that would reliably fit the frame of my shoulders, and if your jacket/suit doesn’t match the frame of your shoulders, YLLS. The original Macy's on 34th Street in Manhattan is pretty great. They have a huge stock of low to high-end clothes, so you can get jeans at every point from Levis to AllSaints and Diesel. I like their American Rag stuff. Comfortable plaids and nice button-up summer shirts. I got one with tiny snow cones on it.
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Jul 2, 2018 22:07
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chitoryu12 posted:The original Macy's on 34th Street in Manhattan is pretty great. They have a huge stock of low to high-end clothes, so you can get jeans at every point from Levis to AllSaints and Diesel.
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Jul 2, 2018 22:10
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I think you have possibly bigger problems than some bloody feral cat My(21f) ex(20m) took my cat when we broke up and gave them to his new girlfriend. The girlfriend is giving her away and won’t let me have her back for petty reasons. quote:u/chicabiddy123
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Jul 2, 2018 22:25
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I really hope she didn't have that baby.
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Jul 2, 2018 22:29
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Milotic posted:I think you have possibly bigger problems than some bloody feral cat truly, though the world is divided on many an issue, we can all come together to laugh at white trash calling each other skanky bitches for selling the babymama's kittens at wal-mart
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Jul 2, 2018 22:30
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Leon Einstein posted:I really hope she didn't have that baby. Oh she did. She’s posting on breastfeeding subreddits. And she’s struggling, which is fine - even two parents can find raising a baby tough. But why take on a bloody cat in addition? My boyfriend [24 M] often wants my [23 F] help with his "fun" programming projects. I'm starting to get annoyed because it feels like work; I work as a software engineer. quote:u/P33vedprogramm3r I just feign incompetence these days if people ask for software development.
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Jul 2, 2018 22:38
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Milotic posted:Oh she did. She’s posting on breastfeeding subreddits. And she’s struggling, which is fine - even two parents can find raising a baby tough. But why take on a bloody cat in addition? take him up on his offer of a free, indefinite-length camping trip and abandon him in the woods
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Jul 2, 2018 22:40
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I (31F) am an idiot & destroyed my boyfriends (37M) favorite beerquote:I am seriously an idiot. The other day, I went into my boyfriend's liquor cabinet and took out a Sierra Nevada. I stuck it in the freezer to get it cold quickly but completely forgot about it while on the phone.
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Jul 2, 2018 22:46
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Haifisch posted:I (31F) am an idiot & destroyed my boyfriends (37M) favorite beer Initially read this as 13F and it took way to long to realize my error.
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Jul 2, 2018 22:52
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I [25F] am discussing children with my fiancé [36M] - we’re fighting about our future roles. 4 years. Currently, both of us work full time jobs. He earns over twice as much as I do, and he is in school for his second masters. Ever since we’ve been together, we’ve basically fallen into traditional gender roles. I would prefer that we shared more of the household / emotional burden, but since we don’t have kids and he has less free time than I do, it hasn’t bothered me too much up to this point. When it comes to kids, I’m finding out that we are disagreeing in many areas, and it’s got me concerned. For example, I mentioned that I wouldn’t want to start trying for kids until he was done with his masters and had more time to help out / be with his family. He stated that this was ridiculous and meant that I wasn’t a supportive partner. He said his mom would come and live with us for six months to help out. I said I do not want this. I don’t mind if she visits, but I would like us to be co-parents. To be honest, I’m kind of afraid that I will be shouldering all the kid work and he will just swoop in to be the fun dad. His best friend has this relationship. His friend travels 2 weeks out of every month, his mom lives at home, and his wife takes care of everything. More power to her, but I don’t want this. When my fiancé brought them up as an example, and brought up his coworker who has three kids, a new born and is getting a masters as an example, I said I was really happy for them. I told him I know life can throw punches and curve balls, but insomuch as I can choose when / under what circumstances I have a baby, I will. And what I want is a strong co-parent who is involved in the nitty gritty and doesn’t just enjoy the fun parts of kids. What I’m afraid is going to happen is that because he gets frustrated / irritated easily, because he doesn’t deal with a lack of sleep well, because he can’t stand messes, because he can’t stand loud noises, that the whole kid burden is going to be up to me. And then if I bring up that I want him to help more, he will bring over his mother. I’m extremely frustrated and I don’t know how to talk to my fiancé about this without him painting me as an unsupportive partner who doesn’t really want kids. Help? TL;DR - I’m worried that my fiancé and I have fallen so much into traditional gender roles that I will have to shoulder the vast majority of the kid burden and the emotional labor that comes with it. When I try to say things like I want to wait until he finishes his masters, he says I’m not a supportive partner and points out all the people who have families under more stressful situations. I just want a good co-parent. We both work. How can I get through to him / talk to him about this?
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Jul 2, 2018 22:53
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I [25F] am discussing children with my fiancé [36M] - we’re fighting about our future roles. 4 years. it's never 6 months 
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Jul 2, 2018 22:55
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Haifisch posted:I (31F) am an idiot & destroyed my boyfriends (37M) favorite beer it's a loving beer try dating someone whose emotional core isn't built around a beverage
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Jul 2, 2018 22:55
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Sagebrush posted:it's a loving beer 
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Sagebrush posted:it's a loving beer quote:[–]TheCuriosity 122 points 4 months ago
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