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LadyPictureShow posted:I’d say calling her family would be the first move after getting out of harm’s way and going from there, but a few years ago I called my dad because I was panicking about something that wasn’t actually happening (trazadone was reacting with my antidepressants) and he just proceeded to insult me and tell me that I sounded like ‘I was at the end of my rope and needed to be locked up’; which did the opposite of making me go to a doctor of the ER. You just gotta boot strap your way through mental health issues, don't you know? edit: oops new page. Some content quote:Boyfriend (25M) got asked out for coffee by a girl (20s?) he met while ordering food who is from his home country, I'd (25F) like it to be clear before they meet up that it's not a date. He thinks this is unreasonable. Thoughts?Relationships It would be pretty awkward to specify something is not date, at the same time I don't know what this guys plan really is. Shnag fucked around with this message at 17:01 on Aug 28, 2018 |
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quote:If she's this worried about you cheating, I wonder if SHE'S cheating. A lot of times cheaters obsess over their partners cheating, either because they feel guilty or else they assume everyone cheats and they want to catch you first... Maybe SHE'S the immortal insect person, it's normal to accuse others first.
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Lockback posted:Maybe SHE'S the immortal insect person, it's normal to accuse others first.
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*bug beautiful woman
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Yawgmoth posted:smh if u wouldnt date a bug girl Gonna suck when your penis cant penetrate her abdomens exoskeleton and she starts unfavorably comparing you to her ex
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Wanna caress that carapace.
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GRINDCORE MEGGIDO posted:23m with 22f, wife went psycho tonight. This guy is obviously a huge idiot for not involving police right away. There should be a level of police intervention where they just come and semi-violently shake you. For like 30 uninterrupted, solid seconds. Then after the 30 seconds, you get told why you are a moron. "Sir, I just shook the gently caress out of you because you didn't call the police after your wife had a schizophrenic break. That was stupid as hell. Please refrain from being so stupid in the future". Being recklessly idiotic isn't a crime, per se. But we need to make it clear to these people that what they did wasn't ok and reflected poorly on them as an individual. Hence, you shake them, a LOT. Officially.
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"there should be a level of police intervention where they're actually, officially SUPPOSED to assault you" is the whitest thing I've read today
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InediblePenguin posted:"there should be a level of police intervention where they're actually, officially SUPPOSED to assault you" is the whitest thing I've read today Is joke
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Maybe if the cops got to go rough up annoying people at the behest of their relatives all the time they wouldn't go shoot black teenagers?
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"Ugh this job is killing me" "Wow I cant believe you're accusing your employer of attempted murder that's real hosed up"
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Ahhhh....young idiots.quote:[22/f] my boyfriend asked an amateur porn poster for nudes but he thought I’d be okay with it And my favorite comment: quote:So eager
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Shnag posted:You just gotta boot strap your way through mental health issues, don't you know? A few weeks ago, my girlfriend met a girl adopted from the European country right next to hers. Adopted girl proceeded to drunkenly hit on my girlfriend and exchange numbers. The key is to discuss boundaries and have trust with your partner. I trust my girlfriend not to have an affair with adopted European girl. Whether this girl can trust her boyfriend, I think, depends entirely upon where the boyfriend is from. France? He's planning a menagerie a trios. Belgian? Don't trust a country that surrenders to Germany rather than fight it out. Germany? He won't cheat. Austria? Perfidious things come out of perfidious Austria. Eastern European? Time to send him to men's school.
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It’s been a long day of computer touching, so let’s start with a downer Girlfriend [24F] had a mean, physically abusive PoS of a father and is insecure about scars he left her. How do I [25M] reassure her? quote:u/MaterialTechnician This is a person who genuinely needs therapy, you need to support her and respect her boundaries, which you look like you’re doing. Keep at it.
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Commenters are reading a lot into this one and tearing into him: My girlfriend [27F] of three years remodeled my [29M] apartment while I was on a business trip. I hate it but don't know how to tell her I want to undo most of the changes. quote:\u/ky_homme I think the girlfriend probably should have consulted a hell of a lot more before doing a DIY SOS.
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Milotic posted:Commenters are reading a lot into this one and tearing into him: I'm reminded of the guy who told his housesitting friend to make himself at home and the guy ate hundreds of dollars worth of groceries over a week. Sitcom style misunderstandings are never as funny firsthand.
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Chaosfirev posted:Is joke yeah, and it's a really white joke
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Milotic posted:It’s been a long day of computer touching, so let’s start with a downer
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Milotic posted:Commenters are reading a lot into this one and tearing into him: Either he was on a super long business trip or she is one efficient decorator, it takes me and the wife like a month to pick out a new lamp.
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Milotic posted:Commenters are reading a lot into this one and tearing into him: It's possible he's overexaggerating but at face value this does seem like a lot. He might be being a bit selfish for wanting to keep the "man cave" but she was also selfish in changing everything to be what only she wanted.
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I think what youre all skipping over is neither of these two people understand finances even a little bit.
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My [M 50s] wife [F 50s] of 23 years is under investigation for inappropriate relationship with a student. We both teach at the same university. Like the title says, my wife is currently the subject of an investigation into one of her graduate students' allegations that my wife behaved inappropriately towards her. The student is 24. My wife has been placed on leave until the conclusions of the investigation. The accusations include "sexting" from my wife to the student, suggestion that she might receive better letters of recommendation from my wife in exchange for sexual favors, unprofessional settings for meetings ostensibly about the student's upcoming MA thesis proposal (bars, our house when I was away for a weekend), and inappropriate physical contact like massages and comparing bra sizes. From what I understand, things went south as soon as my wife made sex a condition of the recommendation letters. That was the point where the student reported everything. I don't know to what extent everything before then was consensual. Usually in these cases, students can appear to be freely participating but in reality they feel pressured to go along with it to protect their grades and careers. There is a power imbalance. My wife swears it was consensual and that the student initated it. You can rest assured I do not take that at face value. Like the title says, I'm also a professor at this school, although in a very different department. I'm not oblivious to the reality of inappropriate relationships between students and the older people who are supposed to be their mentors. The reality is that there is an undeniable element of coercion at play. I have asked my wife to stay elsewhere while this is sorted out because I have a lot of thinking to do. Regardless of what the committee concludes, my wife definitively cheated. From there the additional possibilities only get worse. I'm more or less decided that I'll soon be speaking to a divorce lawyer. My question is not about what to do with my wife, but with my colleagues. It's known that we're married. I imagine it's known in her department why she is on leave. The fall semester is about to start, and I'm dreading being the subject of gossip. My reputation will now be "the husband of that woman who harassed her student." Or, among a sympathetic minority in her department, perhaps "the guy who divorced his wife over a false allegation." I'm wary of talking about this with anyone I know in my personal life. I'm a pretty private person. I keep a strong boundary between my personal and professional lives. Unfortunately this situation has probably broken that down. I'd be grateful for any advice on how to respond to anyone at school who brings this up. Lastly, and I'm not sure it even matters now, but there's the issue of all the ways my wife broke my trust. It's not just the cheating, it's also how she always presented herself as someone ethically offended by teacher-student relationships. She had never given me reason to think she was anything other than staunchly opposed, as you'd hope and expect from anyone working in education. I feel she betrayed me in terms of her values, not just her fidelity. Leading me for years to think she believed something that she then acted opposite of. She also kept her sexual orientation a secret from me - she always identified as straight, didn't give any signs contrary. Is it even worth trying to make sense of who she is as a person given all those deceptions? I feel completely lost underneath the anger, like I never actually knew her. I don't understand it. TL;DR: My wife is under investigation for having an inappropriate relationship with a student. I'm struggling with how to navigate it with colleagues who know both of us. I'm also struggling with figuring out my wife's true character.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [M 50s] wife [F 50s] of 23 years is under investigation for inappropriate relationship with a student. We both teach at the same university. Dude! ask for a threesome!
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Smirking_Serpent posted:
this is the coolest sentence ive ever read in my life
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Would the police do anything for that woman who's losing her mind? She's get her poo poo together to put a show on for the cops, or try to incriminate her partner. I remember a goon here had a whole E/N thread about his wife going insane and seeming totally out of it, but managing to get her poo poo together enough to file false reports and accuse him of being the dangerous abusive one. When she's punching the wall until her knuckles bleed though, maybe you should really call someone. It can really depend on the police force too. The police in my city are quite trained for dealing with mental health issues, while others might result in her being violently arrested, or her making some poo poo up and getting him violently arrested. If either of them aren't white, good chance of getting shot too. Hell, the police straight up executed a mentally ill young girl recently whose parents called the police to stop her from self-harm. The cops came in fully aware of her medical situation and that she was only a danger to herself, saw she might have something sharp and wasn't instantly listening to their orders to stop being mentally ill, and decided execution was the best strategy. That whole story made me so depressed because we've decided as a society that having a robust mental health system with the power to actually help people that are losing their minds BEFORE they hit rock bottom is oppressive and they deserve the "dignity" to have their life slowly crumble around them as they drive away everyone they love and end up on the street self-medicating in misery. Baronjutter fucked around with this message at 20:31 on Aug 28, 2018 |
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Woman who sits in the next row over at work who doesn't seem like the twitter/reddit type is talking about the $1500 wedding gift lady. It's going viral!
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Hi main concern in the middle of a divorce precipitated by his wife trying to cheat on him is his personal reputation? Kudos for coolness in the midst of adversity I guess.
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Rubellavator posted:Woman who sits in the next row over at work who doesn't seem like the twitter/reddit type is talking about the $1500 wedding gift lady. It's going viral! I saw it on a grognard forum full of olds. They are all humble bragging about how little they spent on their weddings.
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Xenocides posted:Ahhhh....young idiots. help???
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Yawgmoth posted:guys I told my boyfriend that being a porn star is no big deal and nudes are just pictures, then blew up on him when he almost got nudes from a porn star??? It seemed like a classic case of "it's okay when I do it but not when you do it" at first but the resolution made it seem like a regular garden-variety "this idea sounded cool in theory but then in practice it was terrible and I hate myself for thinking it" type deal
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Rubellavator posted:I'm reminded of the guy who told his housesitting friend to make himself at home and the guy ate hundreds of dollars worth of groceries over a week. I once housecat for a member of my temple. I didn't dare touch their food/drink, even tho they told me anything in the fridge was fair game. Know why? Leverage. We went to temple together, I was new to the community, and they belonged to one of the top five wealthiest families in the state. I wanted to impress that person to develop a future max donor relationship.
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Rubellavator posted:Woman who sits in the next row over at work who doesn't seem like the twitter/reddit type is talking about the $1500 wedding gift lady. It's going viral! My brother tells me it was on NPR this morning
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Xenocides posted:I saw it on a grognard forum full of olds. They are all humble bragging about how little they spent on their weddings. Yeah, I saw it in BFC too.
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My Imaginary GF posted:I once housecat for a member of my temple. I didn't dare touch their food/drink, even tho they told me anything in the fridge was fair game. Know why? So do you meow your way into or out of rooms, or both in this situation
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Ebola Roulette posted:All the OP said was that she didn't want people overstaying their welcome when they visit the newborn and that she didn't want people in the delivery room. Her mom immediately flips out and cries about being alienated from a relationship with a 12 week old fetus and accuses OP of being crazy. I don't think OP is the exhausting one. the OP's writing style sure is loving exhausting
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [M 50s] wife [F 50s] of 23 years is under investigation for inappropriate relationship with a student. We both teach at the same university. This is now my favourite episode of Frasier.
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Subjunctive posted:Yeah, I saw it in BFC too.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [M 50s] wife [F 50s] of 23 years is under investigation for inappropriate relationship with a student. We both teach at the same university. It's not an allegation if she already swears everything was "consensual" It's not like she's denying it and I dont know anyone outside of friends with HUGE blinders on who would judge this dude for leaving her.
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Chaosfirev posted:It's not like she's denying it and I dont know anyone outside of friends with HUGE blinders on who would judge this dude for leaving her. Thats sort of the thing with sexual abuse stuff - everyone has blinders on for people they care about and are friends with.
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My Imaginary GF posted:I once housecat for a member of my temple.
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