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ArbitraryC posted:I always thought it was funny that there existed a "sexuality" that was basically progressive approved slut shaming. loving same. Lol "I can find people attractive and not want to gently caress them if they have a poo poo personality." E my god that's a terrible snipe. Can someone find more wedding horror stories? Those are fun.
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Scathach posted:loving same. Lol "I can find people attractive and not want to gently caress them if they have a poo poo personality." My husband [30/M] and I [26F] drove out two hours yesterday to see my mother in law [50s/F] at a wedding reception of distant relatives we don’t know and she spent the time with us lecturing us (mostly me) on our parenting [2/M] quote:Background: my MIL lives about a 14 hour drive away from us. We went out to visit her this spring, and my husband Skype calls with her every week or two so she can see our toddler. She called my husband up a few weeks ago to tell him that we need to stop putting our almost 2 year old on timeout because it’s emotionally damaging him. (I had told her during a previous call that I put him in another room and close the door for up to one minute when he hits me.) When my husband let me know his mom wanted us to stop doing the timeouts I’ll admit I felt a little bad but I always promised myself I would listen when other people had concerns about my parenting, so I said I’d try to find a better way to deal with the situation. My husband felt really bad so he said he’d read a parenting book and help find a solution. He bought a few and started reading them. I have only done the timeout once or twice since then instead of multiple times as day, and am still looking for a viable replacement.
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Sep 2, 2018 01:37
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I like how the MiL is arrogant enough to tell mom she's wrong but never seems to offer any contrasting suggestions.
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I (F32) was de-bridesmaided by a friend. What should I do? I had been close friends with a girl since school and was honored when she asked me to be her bridesmaid when she got engaged. She has a very controlling, gay, male best friend who I was also friendly with. I met them for lunch recently and met his husband for the first time and mentioned offhand to my friend (the one getting married) that I found the husband irritating. A few months later I got a cryptic message from her saying that she was concerned that I don’t get on with her friends (I’ve never had an issue with any of them before) and that she felt I had pressured her into making me a bridesmaid. She said she no longer wanted me to be a bridesmaid for her. We never spoke about it but she apologised via message a few months later. I ended up attending her wedding and bachelorette party and she sent me a note thanking me and saying how much she appreciated it. A few years went by but it still bothered me so I spoke to her about it over coffee recently. She said she went a bit nuts about the wedding, was feeling very stressed and her gay best friend had been putting pressure on her about me not liking his husband. I mentioned that I find her best friend very controlling (he is - he’s an extremely manipulative drug addict). She said she doesn’t see him that way. She’s not spoken to me since and I sort of feel like the friendship is over. I’m not sure if I should Accept it and accept that we have outgrown each other or if I should make another effort to speak to her and apologise for my bluntness. I know I am quite outspoken but believe you should be able to be honest with your close friends. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Tl;dr my friend de-bridemaided me and never spoke to me about it. A few years later, we discussed it but I mentioned I find her best friend controlling and she has not spoken to me since. Should I accept the friendship is over or try and make amends with her again?
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My (20F) coworker (25m) is spreading lies about me in the companyquote:I’ve been at an entry level position for about 6 months now to get me through college. I love my job and all of the staff, and we recently (2 weeks ago) hired a new guy who has been extremely disrespectful towards me.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Is our (20F & 14F) dad (50M) going through his midlife crisis? Yea man your daddio is hella woke.
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My [29M] best friend [29M] passed away 2 months ago. I planned on proposing to my gf [26F] this fall but now I don't feel ready. Gf thinks I'm making excuses and threatens break-up.quote:We've been dating for almost 3 years as of this December. A year and a half ago we had a huge fight concerning where our relationship is going. My gf wanted to get engaged around the 2 year mark but I didn't feel like we were at that stage yet. We had some issues from earlier that we were still working through and I told her I needed to feel like we were past those issues first. The issues were from both of us. She needed me to be more transparent about my feelings but I also needed her to be less temper-driven and reactive.
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LadyPictureShow posted:My husband [30/M] and I [26F] drove out two hours yesterday to see my mother in law [50s/F] at a wedding reception of distant relatives we don’t know and she spent the time with us lecturing us (mostly me) on our parenting [2/M] 'Fine, I'll start hitting him.' *Dial tone* Cowslips Warren posted:
The word you're looking for is family. It's called a family
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Sep 2, 2018 03:31
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Warbadger posted:I wonder what this relationship looks like from the professor's point of view. I get a bit of a creepy proto-stalker vibe from it. The entire post just screams “I am a literal autist who isn’t even trying to develop social skills”.
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LadyPictureShow posted:My [29M] best friend [29M] passed away 2 months ago. I planned on proposing to my gf [26F] this fall but now I don't feel ready. Gf thinks I'm making excuses and threatens break-up. On one hand she sounds pretty insensitive on the other hand he sounds like he's been incredibly indecisive about their future this whole time and it's wearing thin. Couple redditors commented they had unfortunate deaths in friends/family before their weddings but didn't just bail on all their plans because they already knew they wanted to be with their spouse. OP is understandably sad but it still sorta comes across as an excuse tbh.
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Haifisch posted:My (20F) coworker (25m) is spreading lies about me in the company HR now. Don't walk. Run.
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My [26F] boss [50sM] made me feel bad because I gave another person [40sM] snacks.[new] I recently came back from a week-long trip to Europe, and brought back a ton of snacks and small gifts for my coworkers and my boss. I handed out all the small gifts this week. I gave my boss, Alex [50sM], a lot of stuff -- a small bag filled with little snacks and trinkets that I thought he'd like. I also gave another department head, Brian [40sM], a small bag filled with snacks. Some background information: my department is around ~50 people, and as cliche as it sounds, we're definitely like a dysfunctional family. Alex and I are extremely close -- we often spend a lot of time joking around and chatting. I can honestly say that I'm probably his favorite employee. Brian is a relatively new hire -- within the past 6 months, and he heads a department that's a lot larger than ours. We became friendly with each other before I left for my trip. I'm a non-managerial staffer. On Friday morning, Brian was telling another staffer in our department about some of the snacks I gave him and how much he enjoyed them. It was a little awkward, because he seemed to be under the impression that I'd given everyone a bunch of snacks, and it wasn't the case -- I'd given a few things to some people, but not to the level I'd given to Alex/Brian. I gave him the *stop talking* look and Brian stopped talking about the snacks and walked off. A few hours later, Alex comes barging into my office. He jokingly started talking about how he thought it was unfair that Brian got the same amount of snacks as he did, when Alex was my boss and Brian was a new hire that I didn't even know that well. I laughed it off, and was honestly confused... so Alex explained to me that Brian had called him up -- according to Alex, the conversation started with Brian asking, "Hey, did you get a goodie bag from Interesting_Cod?" They then began to compare what I had given each of them, and how many. They then realized that I had given them both the same amount of snacks. Apparently, they brought all their snacks to Alex's office and compared what I'd given them one by one. Later, I realized that Alex was actually annoyed by this. He brought it up 10+ times over the course of the day, even bringing in other staff members into it and asking them: "Here's a scenario I want you to consider and answer me honestly: if you went on a trip and brought back snacks, would you give your direct boss the same amount of snacks as the head of another department?" This literally went on for hours. I tried to explain to him that I honestly hadn't even counted or even thought of it that way... and that in reality, I'd hastily thrown together both packs without too much thought. I even tried to apologize, but he wouldn't accept it. I was honestly nearly in tears because I was so upset, so I avoided Alex for most of the day -- he finally came by and told me that it was okay and that he was "kidding," but I could tell he was actually upset by what happened. Honestly, I'm still pretty annoyed by this and I'm wondering why the gently caress Brian was calling just to have a snack comparison contest. I still feel uncomfortable by the whole thing but I want Alex to be okay about it and understand that I didn't mean any harm. What should I do next? Also, my apologies for this childish rear end middle school poo poo you had to read through TL:DR; my boss got mad at me for giving another boss the same amount of snacks as him.
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Sep 2, 2018 05:10
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When i read the title i figured it was a "you have to bring enough for the whole class" type of situation but it was so much better
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Sep 2, 2018 05:13
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Can I get in trouble if I report my classmate having child porn and almost assaulting a same sex classmate? New York. University. 3 people are involved. Me (17F), my classmate (18F), and an autistic roommate (18?F). We started school recently and I got roomed with an autistic roommate who’s in a wheelchair (A). She was ok at first but watches porn on full volume at our room a lot. I have to tell her to turn it down or use earbuds. It wasn’t a big problem. Our room is placed so that I can see her computer monitor very clearly but I let her do whatever she wants. I’m not sure how to act near autistic people so I pretty much just greet her and make small conversations. Last week, it was really late at night and I was reading but something caught my attention. Usually her porn doesn’t bother me but I saw some disgusting stuff that I never want to ever see again. I told our RA and they launched an investigation against her. They soon dropped it and chalked it up to her being autistic (wtf?). And that I should just tell her to turn it off if I ever see her watching it again. Then two days ago, I walked into the bathroom. They were the last in line. And I saw A looking under B’s skirt and about to poke B down there. So I was like “A, what the gently caress are you doing” and B realized what A was doing and was horrified. A started crying but I couldn’t understand her. I want to report her to the police but I’m afraid that the university is going to brush it off by using the “autistic” excuse. I’ve seen people on Reddit saying they’re autistic so that means A was fully conscious of what she’s doing and autism is not an excuse, right? I’m so afraid of getting in trouble with the university and I’m not comfortable with rooming with A anymore. What do I do?
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LadyPictureShow posted:My [29M] best friend [29M] passed away 2 months ago. I planned on proposing to my gf [26F] this fall but now I don't feel ready. Gf thinks I'm making excuses and threatens break-up. The weirdest part is that the girlfriend was already actively engaging in relationship-ending levels of fighting with the boyfriend for not being engaged and they had only been dating for 18 months. That seems insane... They just don't seem compatible, and the friend dying does seem a little like an excuse, especially after multiple months. I have a bit of personal experience with this because my best friend killed himself shortly after high school (developed severe schizophrenia in his late teens, I don't talk about it much). That experience, at least on a personal level, didn't cause me to put my life on hold. If anything it taught me that my friends and relationships were of the utmost importance, and needed to be tended to seriously. I don't know, it just sounds like they aren't compatible. If the girlfriend was ready to go to war over the engagement after 18 months, that means she was ready to be engaged after more like 8-12 months. That time line is far too fast for many people, and it's no one's fault, but they should break up.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [26F] boss [50sM] made me feel bad because I gave another person [40sM] snacks.[new] my gf recently came back from visiting her fam in her home country and gave some cool local cookies as a gift. I was at her place soon thereafter and noticed she had a couple more boxes of them, she mentioned they were for other friends/coworkers and I jokingly gave her a hard time for giving me a bulk gift. It was a funny haha thing not like an actual temper tantrum. Her boss totally has a thing for her, thought the gift was "special", and got butthurt when he realized she was just giving stuff to everyone (and more stuff to upper management).
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[CA] Police officer confiscated and ate my lunch and they're refusing to compensate me? On 8/25, my wife and I were sitting in my car eating lunch. It's kind of an upscale drive-in restaurant type place. Together, including tax and tip, our meals cost $77.32. A police office came up to my car and knocked on my window. He explained that a car matching mine's description was involved in a crime in this area. I explained that it wasn't me. I drive a Honda Civic, and there's a lot of honda civics on the road. He asked to search my vehicle and I said no. The police officer called a K9 unit and made my wife and me get out of my car. The police officer claims the K9 alerted to the presence of narcotics, which gave them probable cause to search my vehicle. The office allowed the dog into my car in order to search it. While the dog was in the car, it ate my steak sandwich I had sitting on my dashboard. There were no drugs found, and my wife and I were have not found to have committed any crimes. I requested compensation for the sandwich the dog ate, and was refused. What possible recourse do I have here? this is the universe telling you not to spend $30 on a steak sandwich
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Is there a way I can help the police prevent my husband in [Georgia] from killing someone by driving heavily intoxicated - he has a current DUI bench warrant in [Pennsylvania] My husband and I are separated and he has severe substance abuse problems and mental health problems. He has been in multiple accidents while driving drunk, two severe enough to total the vehicles and land him in the hospital. One Pennsylvania DUI was dropped due to a technicality in the amount of time it took the county to arraign him. The other one is pending with a criminal mischief and he recently skipped town to avoid the hearing and a bench warrant has been issued in Pennsylvania for him. He now lives in Georgia and is working in Savannah. I still have access to his accounts and have tracked his location to know where he's working and I know that he's drinking at the bar he works at multiple nights a week, then other random places, until 5 a.m., before driving two hours back to the small town he is actually staying in. I know the make and model of the car he told me he would be driving down there (it isn't his). I can obviously describe his appearance and I can give his location. I truly believe he will kill himself or someone else if he is not arrested and thrown in jail. I know he is likely to have drugs on him too, just pot if it matters. What can I do from where I'm located in Pennsylvania to help prevent what I'm certain will be casualties as he spirals deeper into his alcoholism? EDIT: Yes he knows I have access to all of his accounts and his location as he's the one who gave me access to them due to his mental health issues during the marriage. I don't know why he hasn't changed the passwords.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:[CA] Police officer confiscated and ate my lunch and they're refusing to compensate me? This comment made me laugh: quote:Your title is confusing. So did the human or the dog officer eat your sandwich? But dude does have a point.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Is there a way I can help the police prevent my husband in [Georgia] from killing someone by driving heavily intoxicated - he has a current DUI bench warrant in [Pennsylvania] Blow his brains out and claim battered wife syndrome.
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Sep 2, 2018 06:58
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How the hell do you spend $77 at a drive-in restaurant?
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Depressio111117 posted:How the hell do you spend $77 at a drive-in restaurant? Baby gurl gotta get that mega ultra king size with an extra side of fries and nuggets.
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Depressio111117 posted:How the hell do you spend $77 at a drive-in restaurant? It's California
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Sell your story to the local news and buy a new sandwich.
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Straight White Shark posted:It's California Seriously. I've dropped 40 bucks to eat soup.
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Sep 2, 2018 07:38
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Taima posted:Seriously. I've dropped 40 bucks to eat soup. Did you have to fight the dog for it
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Did you have to fight the dog for it Pathetic, one punch and it's down
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Pick posted:Pathetic, one punch and it's down Someone that has never fought the dog for sustenance ITT
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Dannywilson posted:Someone that has never fought the dog for sustenance ITT he said california so it's either a chihuahua or a corgi
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Basically the strat for this is find a corner, feet up, back and head down with a constant windmilling of feet keeping dog out of your space.
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Dannywilson posted:Basically the strat for this is find a corner, feet up, back and head down with a constant windmilling of feet keeping dog out of your space. Good strat for life in general, really. Find a corner and windmill.
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(24f) Worried about my serious boyfriend’s (24m) creepy brother (22m) My boyfriend, B, is very kind and social, we’ve been dating for almost 3 years and have also lived together most of that time. But he has a slightly younger brother who scares me. He has never spoken to me unless forced to say hello by his mother (he’ll say hello to his brother but not me), has walked in on me while I was changing (butt naked) and said nothing, calls me ‘B’s bitch’ over text even though I’ve never done anything to him except say hello, and he punched my boyfriends first girlfriend in the stomach so hard that she fell over just because he knew her from school and didn’t like her. Recently he has also been encouraging my boyfriend to watch enslavement anime (girls are collared and chained slaves of a man). I know he has no interest in real girls and will basically never speak to one, but I’m afraid he has some hatred as well because of his reactions to other girls and the slave girl thing. Am I wrong to be concerned about this in the long term? I obviously hope to marry my boyfriend and raise kids one day. Does this matter for our relationship at all? We haven’t lived with the brother for a while and never will again. Tl;dr: boyfriends brother is violent, rude, and likes girl enslavement fantasies. I’m kind of scared of him, does it matter in the long run?
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Panfilo posted:I like how the MiL is arrogant enough to tell mom she's wrong but never seems to offer any contrasting suggestions. It's a standard form of bullying; keep lecturing them for doing things wrong, never give them any time to get things right and never offer any positive suggestions, just keep barking like a dog worrying sheep. ArbitraryC posted:I always thought it was funny that there existed a "sexuality" that was basically progressive approved slut shaming. You leave tumblr to fester for long enough and it basically turns into conservative Christianity with different terminology. (and see also above)
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Can I get in trouble if I report my classmate having child porn and almost assaulting a same sex classmate? College authorities are famously terrible with these things, aren't they? Get a lawyer.
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Sep 2, 2018 11:44
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Although I'm wondering if the CP was animated, since the university did nothing. Surely they wouldn't be so dismissive of the real thing... right??
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It's still something you'd want to lawyer up over just so you can show you did absolutely everything you could when the inevitable hammer comes down.
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quote:I allowed my 17 year old sister to move in with me (CT to NY), Dad is threatening me with kidnapping charges [NY] Once again, older siblings best parents.
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And the Updatequote:[Update] I allowed my sister to move in with me, dad tried to say I kidnapped her to avoid child support (CT to NY) (self.legaladvice) "Yes son, you're not asking for the full amount you're entitled to but have you thought about my needs?"
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