datajugend posted:

qualified for mensa but doesnt know what to do.

tote up a bags posted:

oh now THAT'S a

CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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Absurd Alhazred posted:

My boyfriend [32 M] tells me [26 F] that I should just stop acting dumb if I don't want to be verbally abused


Slapstick is the way to go: "woopsy, I totally by accident spilled this pot full of boiling oil on you because I'm SO STUPID I didn't realize I should only use a little bit and I'm SUCH AN AIRHEAD I couldn't remember the number for 911."

CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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Absurd Alhazred posted:

My boyfriend [32 M] tells me [26 F] that I should just stop acting dumb if I don't want to be verbally abused


Slapstick is the way to go: "woopsy, I totally by accident spilled this pot full of boiling oil on you because I'm SO STUPID I didn't realize I should only use a little bit and I'm SUCH AN AIRHEAD I couldn't remember the number for 911."

Pirate Radar posted:

We know the IQ cutoff for MENSA is 132 (on the Stanford-Binet), what’s the cutoff for the murder society?

CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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Salty Josh posted:

Join MENSA and be happy.

PHIZ KALIFA posted:

an ex pushed me to take the test with her, we both passed, but she quickly stopped paying dues once she realized it was a scam. i am not so clever. a few months after we broke up i got into an argument with a libertarian on the MENSA forums whose avatar was his actual bloated double-chin having top-hat wearing rear end-face, whose main philosophical talking point (in every argument, no matter how tangential) was that poor kids don't deserve food. he eventually admitted that his parents used food stamps when he was growing up, and i replied that his grotesque corpulence was all the proof he should need about the program's efficacy. they banned me for that, which was as good an excuse as anything to gently caress off from that bunch of pricks forever.

normally i don't condone fatshaming but if one argues in favor of starving poor kids, especially from a former fat kid, it should be legal to fry one's head in butter. fuckin crucify me for this belief if y'all must, i gladly accept my martyrdom.

Danaru posted:

Holy gently caress what a perfect time for spoiler tags

Saeku posted:

Pulling the classic Prince Harry!

I saw some folks in WWII Japanese uniforms outside one of these cons getting some sense talked into them by the cops. Nerds are idiots about WII.

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I [31 M] hooked up with a poster [~28? F] from a forum I visit and she's angry I got a job offer in her ciuty

Hi all, this is a little weird so please bear with me.

I'm a member of a small web forum (not a subreddit!) that you probably haven't heard of. It's an older community and many people have posted there for years.

Anyways, there's one poster I've always clashed with. Not knock down drag out flame wars, but we'd often disagree and have long back and forth over PM :-)

Anyways, I live in a large East Coast city, and this is known to most of our little community. I posted that I'd be visiting her city in a thread about it and asked for ideas on things to do there.

She ended up PMing me and offering to show me around. We ended up actually getting along really well. We both like to troll a little, and she had a wicked sense of humor - picture Darlene from Mr. Robot, but she also hates hipsters and isn't a brunette. Long story short we hit it off - we grabbed some donuts then went to a bar and eventually I commented it was late and I should head back to my hotel, she offered to show me some unique artwork she owns and we ended up having sex at her place.

The next day I caught a flight back... she gave me a ride to the airport. We made out a little in the car.

The thing is, the story about being on vacation but that wasn't entirely true - I'd interviewed for a job nearby and stayed for the weekend. I reached out to tell her I had a fun time and I'd been offered a job moving to her city so maybe we could hang out more.

She blew her lid and made several disparaging remarks about me... I'm a software engineer and I suspect she's on the spectrum and kind of self hating, she made a bunch of comments about how men are trash, engineers are evil autists who suck the emotional labor out of you how she just wanted hosed by a "real man" but apparently I'm not that since I'm talking about going to brunch like some gay guy she knows (brunch is delicious and not at all gay in fact brunch has no sexual preference)

What should I do? Should I try to reach out to her, maybe hang out as friends? Just cut ties? Out her as a mean person?

I feel like if the genders were reversed this would be really lovely behavior. I'm struggling to describe this without being too detailed since she's from not a huge city but picture Darlene from Mr Robot and that guy who spoke chinese she hosed in the bathroom and later was dating but always made mean comments to any time he was kind or loving

Anyways, I'm feeling conflicted and sad. What do I do?

TL;DR: I told a hookup from a forum I go to I wasn't on a vacation but a job interview and I'd be moving to her city. She flipped out and insulted me. How do I respond? Should I out her toxic behavior to our closeknit online community?

insufficient guns posted:

Salty Josh posted:

I was qualified for it as a kid, don't think I could do so now.

That fat guy seems like a real piece of poo poo.

CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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insufficient guns posted:

Which one of you is this

Megillah Gorilla posted:

And wow, just like that, all my sympathy for this woman evaporated.

CheesyDog posted:

Ex sent pictures to my employer trying to get me fired, what recourse do I have? Ontario

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dudeness posted:

The only thing I remember from my gifted classes ( elementary school) was that we had the option to dissect a pig fetus which I chose not to do because the classes were only during lunchtime.

Congrats to the heartless bastards that could do that and still enjoy their tater tots.

Barudak posted:

I was in a gifted program as a kid and encouraged to join Mensa but that seemed like work and money spent for literally no payoff but smug self satisfaction and even as a child I knew you cant pay bills with that.


Yeah it was amazing and suddenly Im extremely pro a specific subset of people sharing nudes with vindictive partners.

tactlessbastard posted:

I got invited to some brains thing at Duke and my mom threw it out because 'gently caress Duke' which I mean I get it now but at the time I was very sad that I had brought such shame into the house.

Barudak posted:

I got poo poo for John Hopkins program and had to take computer quizzes at lunch time so after like a week I just started reading other books in the room which turned out to be 1st edition AD&D modules and when thats more engaging than whatever you’re supposed to be learning you have failed as an educator.

tactlessbastard posted:

Maybe I dodged a bullet there

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u/atatatapace
I was with my ex for almost five years. We’d planned marriage and often talked about spending the rest of our lives together.

One day I used his laptop and found child porn. Pictures and videos. I didn’t talk to him about it (I was kind of numb at first and for maybe 45 minutes I was dry-heaving and didn’t know what to do) but I went to the sheriff’s office with the laptop.

After I made the police report and he was arrested, I moved out and got a studio apartment. He was given time served and five years probation. He has to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.

It’s been almost two years since that happened and I have so much trouble trusting anybody. I thought my ex was the one. I had complete trust in him. I feel like an absolute moron for becoming so invested in such a piece of poo poo.

Dating now is hard because I worry this might happen again. But I’m desperate for a partner. I question my own judgment.

Tl;dr- I guess my question is - am I being a snowflake for considering therapy for this? The girls in the videos he had... they’re the actual victims. I feel over-sensitive. I just don’t know if I need to suck it up and move on or see a professional. I feel like kind of a dumbass for still being so hung up on this and still being unable to trust anyone since then.

Milotic posted:

am I being a snowflake for considering therapy for this?

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u/SensitiveFile
My family was always very tight-knit when I was growing up.

The five of us were always doing something together. Mom took my sister and I on spa dates once a month, dad frequently took us all camping or out to dinner on the weekend.

Every summer since I can remember we have always gone on some big road trip. My favorite memories usually involve being packed in Dad’s truck with my siblings watching mile marker infinity slip by in Southern Nebraska.

Anway, married now [to 28m] if that matters. I’ve been seeing my now-husband for six years, so it was hardly out of the blue when we got married last January. My parents and siblings all seemed to love him. After we’d been dating for a while Dad invited him along on some of our camping trips, he was a frequent guest at their house for dinner.

Mom and Dad were thrilled for me when he proposed and Dad even went as far as telling my husband he was relieved I was marrying someone like him.

So I don’t know what gives.

Like, as soon as I tied the knot it was like I got kicked out of the family. Mom didn’t call to invite me to spa day with her and my sister anymore. I have paid my own way on those since I’ve been financially independent, so it can’t be a money thing, and I’ve gone with them at least monthly. I always thought we had a great time!

But now I only know about them when my mom posts about it on facebook, usually with a title like “Mom-Daughter spa day!” which kinda twists the knife.

I asked my mom after the first couple times why I didn’t get invited and she said because she figured I wanted to spend my time with my new husband. And I tried telling her that I can afford to soend a coulle hours away from him monthly and she gave me a non-committal “Oh, okay.” But she still doesn’t invite me and it’s makijg me feel like I’m just not supposed to come.

Its the same thing with dinners. It used to be I would go over to their house one night a week for some big family dinner. Dad would make soemthing on the grill, I’d help mom inside. Sometimes my husband would join, but most of the time not, and it was really nice to be just around the family.

But now I don’t get told about those, either. If I ask about having dinner one night a week my parents usually respond something like “Oh, feel free to come by whenever.” And when I show up they just tell me I can hear up something from the fridge, because they already cooked something big a few nights ago without telling me!!

And what really broke me was in early August. I knew we were running out of time before my siblings had to go back to school so one day I texted my brother to ask if mom and dad had said anything about the family trip this year.

Bro responded that they were taking a road trip to a big national park out west. I got a lump in my throat that I had apparently not been informed about this, either, so I asked bro if I was welcome on it. He said he had to ask Dad, then a few hours later hit me back that “They only made reservations for the four of us.”

And I guess that just did it. I called my brother (because I didn’t really know what I would say to mom and dad right then) and begged to know why I was being excluded from all of our old family stuff. My brother told me “I’m not sure, but I think Dad just wants to keep it the [my maiden name]-family trip. You’re not really a [maiden name] anymore. You’re a [my married name] now.”

I don’t think he meant that quite as maliciously as it sounds, but it was still too much to hear and I just hung up the phone so i could go cry.

My (former?) family got back not long ago and their facebook pages are all covered with pics of them having fun together and apparently not missing me one little bit.

I felt a little better for a while because after I went and cried on my husband’s shoulder about all of this he managed to scrape together some time off and took me on a little road trip of our own. It was a wonderful trip and an amazingly sweet thing of him to do, but I’m still so incredibly sad that I’m apparently not a member of my “old” family anymore.

And I feel kinda bad for being sad because my husband is really trying to make me feel better and making dinners with me and he’s gotten me a couple weekends at the spa, and I really do appreciate that, it just doesn’t really help the underlying sadness that my family I guess just doesn’t want me anymore.

Why would my family drop me like this? Just because I’m married? I wanted a bigger family, not a new one! And what can I do to help my husband understand that I do really appreciate his efforts, but he can’t make the hurt of being kicked out of my family just go away?

TL;DR: I got married a few months ago. Ever since I’ve been dropped from pretty much all activities from my previously very tight knit family and they act like I’m not part of their family anymore. Why? How do I address it?

Business Gorillas posted:

Aight this was a fuckin twist I never saw coming

Milotic posted:

I [26f] got married a few months ago. Now it feels like I’ve been kicked out of my “old” family [M56, F55, M19,F17]. This really hurts and I don’t know what to do.


1) Don’t go on holidays without your husband of less than a year. I doubt he’d be too happy
2) If you really want to get your own back, have a baby and never visit for Thanksgiving or Christmas

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u/OllieOllieOddball
I'll give you some background. I'm poly and in an open triad, I [18 NB] have a nonbinary partner [17] and a girlfriend [17]. My partner is totally romantically committed to us but has casual sex (we're ok with that) and my girlfriend has another triad that formed with a lesbian couple [17-ish].I love and support her and I was thinking about dates and how I'd like to get to know her girlfriends and have some knowledge on who they are what they're like when she talks about them. The problem is that there isn't really any good way to set up a date for 5, a movie wouldn't let us talk and only two of the five of us know how to bowl. I plan on taking them to dinner at the cheesecake factory but I don't know what to do after, any ideas? (also this isn't going to end in an orgy, I don't know if you were thinking that but 3 of my friends have already suggested it)

TL;DR: I want to take 4 people out on a date but I have no idea where to take them.

insufficient guns posted:

Which one of you is this