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Draxion posted:A couple people were fretting over oh she'll get hurt if you don't, but "start divorce proceedings" was the overwhelming opinion and he mostly just ignored it because change is scary. If the replies at this point arent "OP I am willing to drive to your house and euthanize you" people are no longer giving the correct advice.
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chemtrail huffer posted:(update) My (28m) wife (32f) told me she didn't want to see me and focus on her "prison family" while inside. Things are so much worse. I'm devastated. IIRC some people looked into this and her "DUI" involved nearly killing a family, he should have been divorcing her from that alone
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ND63UPelkIw Edit: This was the wrong thread but still somehow fits.
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Rubellavator posted:IIRC some people looked into this and her "DUI" involved nearly killing a family, he should have been divorcing her from that alone Yeah, I think she'd had multiple DUIs before and this one involved her hitting some parked cars, driving away, and then hitting a minivan that had a bunch of kids in it like 10 seconds prior.
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"but I love her" - a retarded man, an idiot. Allow Barudak to kill him
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Girlfriend with her webcamshows My girlfriend(21F) whom Im(22M) with almost 8months developed a new hobby of doing webcam show . Its almost 3months since this started and she does not plan on stopping . Upon asking her she said its for fun but I cannot imagine how this is fun . This started after we got together and never happened before . She is hot and curvy so other guys are quite pleased with her shows, they sometimes gift her things as well . I dont know how to feel about this and what to do about it and need help as to understand why she does and what can I do about it . TL;DR - Gf is into webcam shows and finds it amusing .
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My [20M] sister [21F] is making me very uncomfortable at home. I came back from university for the holidays. Ever since then, my sister has been emotionally tormenting me every single day. For example, she will say stuff like "I know what you do at university." "I know what kind of disgusting people you hang out with." "Tell mum and dad about everything before I tell them." I have no idea what she is referencing. I feel like she wants me to confess to something. She has always been very suspicious and paranoid. Recently, everytime I go outside the house or take a shower ..., she searches my room. I noticed that my clothes are moved and stuff has been moved from underneath the bed. When I lock my door, she constantly verbally insults me. If I swear when I doing something, for example, I say gently caress when I burn my finger or something. She tells me not to swear and she verbally insults me a lot - saying stuff like "you are a degenerate / you are disgusting / your friends are horrible / you surround yourself with horrible people." Today, I went out the house and when I came back, my room key was missing. I asked her if she had it - she said no. I called my parents. My father came home and said to her to give me my room key and eventually she gave it up. I feel very controlled and monitored in my house now. My privacy is non-existent and I am continually verbally assaulted by my sister. This is compounded by the fact that she tells me parents everyday that I take drugs / I have terrible friends... (all lies). Please help me - what should I do? I want to address this issue with my parents - what should I say to them when I manage to get them to sit down. TLDR: my sister verbally assaults me / gaslights me / monitors me / tries to control me and accuses me of stuff in hopes that I confess to something. How should I address this with my parents?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Girlfriend with her webcamshows Dump her then jack off to her shows instead
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My (18F) dad (50M) watches porn while I'm sitting in the same room. Tl;dr my dad watches porn and masturbates while I'm in the same room as him. I don't know if I should ignore it or tell someone? I'm really embarresed. I notice my dad and I getting more and more distant. I'm afraid to go downstairs when my mom isn't there because I know I will caught him masturbating. One time I was sitting in the living room watching tv and my dad was on his laptop (my mom was upstairs), and all of the sudden I heard loud moans coming from his headset. It made me feel very gross and I went upstairs. Other times I hear him in the kitchen jerking off while he is just a couple meters away from me. Right now it has reached a point that I'm in my room most of the time. I don't know what to do, or who to tell. Edit: This has been going on for a long time. I remember when I was really young he would do this when I was laying in bed and when my door was open and he was in his office (his door was open as well) he would be playing porn for a long time. Of course I couldn't sleep, and this happened a lot. One day I told my mom about it (she has depression) and she did confront my dad, but it got laughed off. (Just a reminder that my mom and I don't have a great relationship) I went to therapists but didn't get any practical help. Even when my situation at home was so bad , I never got placed out of my home. Also my family doesn't talk to me anymore even though they know my mom is mentally ill. So they won't be much of a help. My dad also makes often weird comments about my body. Such as how my butt or boobs look. But it's always "a joke". Does anyone have advice for me? P.s I live in The Netherlands (Sorry for my grammar)
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (18F) dad (50M) watches porn while I'm sitting in the same room. Cut off his dick
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Dr. S.O. Feelgood posted:Yeah, I think she'd had multiple DUIs before and this one involved her hitting some parked cars, driving away, and then hitting a minivan that had a bunch of kids in it like 10 seconds prior. When I read that post, my first thought was that her case must have been something like that - I've never heard of someone (in the US, that is) serving 18 months for a first-time DUI with no injuries or property damage.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (18F) dad (50M) watches porn while I'm sitting in the same room. I bought drugs from an old dude who had two paused big black cock pornos on each of his big screen TVs once it was really weird
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quote:Not necessarily the focus, just an example of behavior. Her dad, uncles, grandpas, etc. Have all talked to her, she doesnt budge. ’Sending the menfolk around for a chat' doesn't mean they go talk to the damsel, maroons.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (18F) dad (50M) watches porn while I'm sitting in the same room. Nice. That's a real power move. Dad's the king of the castle.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (18F) dad (50M) watches porn while I'm sitting in the same room. punch his boner lol
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (18F) dad (50M) watches porn while I'm sitting in the same room. Pretend to get a boyfriend, or get a boyfriend. Men only back off if they think another man has a claim.
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CheesyDog posted:ah the funny fakepost that is a little too real Lolol “misunderstanding” this isn’t a “gay sex orgy” it’s just “dudes masturbating in a circle together looking at each other’s dongs” which is totally fine and cool, Wife.
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assuming he's gay is actually the more charitable reaction than believing the insane scenario brought on by a porn addiction he lays out in that post
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Drug Group Chatquote:So at my university I am the owner of a group chat where around 350 kids sell and buy drugs from each other. If I don't sell drugs or tell anyone to sell them could I be in legal trouble just for being the owner of it? Is you taking notes on a mother fuckin' criminal conspiracy?
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Man, I need an ejaculation catch phrase. Maybe "Wow! It came out the front this time!" I dunno, gotta keep workshopping it. That guy and his friends are light years ahead of the rest of the population. It's gonna take a lot of work to catch up.
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Leon Einstein posted:These last few stories have been doozies. Just having a bunch of dudes come over to j/o and eat chips and play Nintendo. What wife wouldn't understand that? That one's a copypasta: https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100514054804AA9tZbR&guccounter=1
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kimbo305 posted:That one's a copypasta: geez, next time tell us santa isn't real
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cumshitter posted:Man, I need an ejaculation catch phrase. Maybe "Wow! It came out the front this time!" I dunno, gotta keep workshopping it. That guy and his friends are light years ahead of the rest of the population. It's gonna take a lot of work to catch up. i think you already have a perfectly fine catch phrase right under your avatar buddy
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29F, I lost my boyfriend to MGTOWquote:It all started on Thanksgiving. We were doing well when he (26M) went to his home town for a wedding. During that time he went dead silent on me. I didn't think too much about it because I figured he was busy. He was back in town with old friends, so I'm sure he wanted to catch up on old times. All of a sudden when he comes back in town he's being really curt with me. After begging him to come see me we finally went out like we used to do, but during that time he started spouting off about horrid marriage statistics, and how women have expectations that are unrealistic now. I've never done anything to him, we've never even talked about the idea of marriage. I mean, we've only been seeing each other since August, so why would we? I didn't understand where any of this was coming from. finally he tells me that he can't date anymore because he has to remain single after having his eyes opened by this movement. The comments are a huge poo poo show since the post was crossposted to r/mgtow
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bubblebee posted:29F, I lost my boyfriend to MGTOW Her boyfriend is obviously a chud, but just LOL at her whining about it being unfair that he's leaving her over some bullshit movement. Lady, you just dodged a bullet, thank the Elder Gods and move on with your life.
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My girlfriend [29F] befriended my ex-wife [31F] and now says I [31M] need to apologize to my ex before we advance our relationship. I was with my ex-wife for 10 years from 19-29. Our divorce wasn't really an explosive ordeal and I don't harbor any resentment toward her. There were issues on both sides. Ultimately what led to me filing for divorce was her overwhelming insecurities. I literally couldn't be in the same room as another woman without her getting jealous. The night I left she actually accused me of flirting with my sister. Which brings us to now. I've been dating my current girlfriend for about 10 months. I still see my ex at social functions. We have mutual friends and are godparents to some friends' kids she's not out of my life. We definitely aren't close but we can chat politely at a party. My girlfriend has recently begun hanging out with a group of women that sometimes includes my ex. Again, not a problem. I don't mind if they're friends. Until one day she came home after hanging out with them talking about my "poor ex" and how she felt so bad for her and she was just a young, insecure girl who was madly in love with me. I sort of agreed, I mean I don't think my ex was as helpless as my girlfriend seems to think but like I said, I don't think she's the devil. Then my girlfriend said she wants me to apologize to her. We've been talking a lot about the future of our relationship. Moving in together, marriage, the works. My girlfriend says she needs to know that I'm the type of person that would apologize for how things went down with my ex before we advance things. This, I have a problem with. I don't think I should apologize, nor do I want to. I don't blame my ex for how things went down (I mean I do a little bit, but I had my faults, too). But I do think I did the right thing by divorcing her and I'm not sorry about. We had talks after the divorce where I expressed remorse over the general fact of our marriage ending, but I'm not sorry for what I did. My girlfriend says this might be it for us, and it's concerning that I won't just do this to make her happy, and wonders what I won't apologize to her for. I think it's a bigger deal than that. This isn't me agreeing to get Italian for dinner even though I'm not feeling it because it's what she's really craving. I also have no problem apologizing when it's warranted. She wants me to essentially tell my ex that I'm sorry for what I did and apologize for being so wrong. What the hell is that? Am I wrong here? Do I apologize? Or do I let things happen as they happen? TL;DR: My current girlfriend wants me to apologize to my ex-wife before we advance our relationship. I don't want to. Am I being too stubborn?
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Boyfriend [21M] wants to let his ex [20F] live at our place until she gets a job (she just dropped out of college). How do I firmly express that I [21F] am not okay with this? I'll try to keep this short but bear with me guys... My boyfriend of three years is a wonderful guy but sometimes he's too nice for his own good. I'm very appreciative of his kindness, don't get me wrong, but this is definitely over the top. To summarize, my boyfriend's ex from high school recently decided to drop out of community college to pursue her "lifetime dream" of modeling. Now I don't want to poo poo on her but she's never had any real modeling experience. She thinks that having some of her friends do photoshoots with her and posting it on Instagram and her "website" is the equivalent of being a model as a career. She's not even signed with an agency yet and is making zero money. This is horrible planning on her part and it worries me that she threw out her education to do something she has no experience in. According to my boyfriend, after telling her parents the news, they were extremely mad and told her that they would not let her stay with them unless she re-enrolled. So she is currently "homeless" and moneyless. My boyfriend and I are in our final year of school. We don't go to the CC but another school that's very close to her CC. I would say that he and her are still friends (which I am okay with) but they barely talk. We recently just moved into a nice little apartment that we're splitting rent for. Unsurprisingly, she reached out to my boyfriend and asked if he could let her crash for a "couple of days" while she figures out her next steps. She wrote out these long paragraphs about all of her troubles and how her parents have "disowned" her and she has no one to turn to. My boyfriend fell so hard for her poo poo and practically begged me to agree to help her out. And I knew that he was just looking at the situation like helping someone who desperately needed it so I found it really hard to reject his request. I kind of just said I wasn't sure and that I'll think about it. He looked really grateful anyway. That was a lie, of course. I really am not comfortable with her coming at all because of countless reasons. Namely, my boyfriend and her have a long history. Second, I've heard from some of my friends and my boyfriend that she is not the biggest fan of me, meaning she hates my guts. Three, I really doubt that while she's living with us, she'll provide for herself. How do I firmly tell him that I'm not okay with this without sounding like a selfish bitch? Tl;dr: Boyfriend's ex just dropped out of community college to pursue lifelong dream of being a model. Her parents are very upset and are not letting her live with them. She wants to come stay with me and my boyfriend. My boyfriend is fooled by her sob story and wants to agree, but I don't. How do I firmly let him know without seeming selfish and overprotective?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My girlfriend [29F] befriended my ex-wife [31F] and now says I [31M] need to apologize to my ex before we advance our relationship. Its sad to see a spine soften with age, but its just the facts of life.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My girlfriend [29F] befriended my ex-wife [31F] and now says I [31M] need to apologize to my ex before we advance our relationship. Smirking_Serpent posted:Boyfriend [21M] wants to let his ex [20F] live at our place until she gets a job (she just dropped out of college). How do I firmly express that I [21F] am not okay with this? The follow up to both of these is going to be about how they're going to try an open / poly relationship.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My girlfriend [29F] befriended my ex-wife [31F] and now says I [31M] need to apologize to my ex before we advance our relationship. God /r/relationships is like a hot bed for spineless idiots, it's seriously amazing.
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Me 44M, married 20 years wife 46F, just had a weird dream and now I'm broken.quote:TL;DR had a dream of my ex who left me, now can't think of anything else.
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Haifisch posted:Me 44M, married 20 years wife 46F, just had a weird dream and now I'm broken. wow
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Haifisch posted:Me 44M, married 20 years wife 46F, just had a weird dream and now I'm broken. This is honestly heart-wrenching.
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Xik posted:God /r/relationships is like a hot bed for spineless idiots, it's seriously amazing. Who else needs to ask reddit's advice on relationships?
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Is it wrong for my [29F] boyfriend [30F] to masturbate to a co-worker [20sF] he has a crush on? In a monogamous relationship is it acceptable to masturbate to other people you have physical and emotional crushes on, who are present in your everyday life? The facts: My boyfriend [30M] of one year and I [29F] are currently coming towards the end of a several months long-distance, whilst he was temporarily seconded to an office in a different city. The flight distance between us is a couple of hours and we have managed to see each other every three weeks or so. We have previously talked about and defined the boundaries of our relationship but we did not cover the topic of this post. For at least the past two weeks, he has had a crush on one of his co-workers. She is not in his team but in another team with whom they often collaborate and socialise with. For example, they will often all go to lunch together. My boyfriend and his co-worker do not spend one-on-one time together. I remember my boyfriend mentioning her a few weeks ago in relation to a presentation she gave. Separately, he mentioned in passing that he masturbated to other women in his life two or three months ago. This upset me and when I asked for further details he said that it wasn’t women he was close to but ones who were in his life in a more peripheral way, for example, women he had seen around the office. I still felt uncomfortable with it but as I assumed it was purely physical since I believed the implication was that he didn’t know these women I had recently started coming around to accepting it. For one reason and another (more major life issues and being long-distance) we only got around to talking about this issue again this week. I should mention that I brought it up and he didn’t want to talk about it, as he hadn’t before, since to him it is a strict boundary that masturbating and fantasies are a private matter. It emerged this time that when he masturbates to another woman it is because he has a crush on them that relates to their personality as well as a physical attraction i.e. it is both emotional and physical. This was the reason he gave when I asked why he couldn’t just masturbate to strangers. At the moment the focus of his attraction or in his words, his ’crush’, is the above-mentioned co-worker. When I asked he said that he had masturbated thinking of her in the past two weeks. (As a side note, I have been dealing with a major personal event outside the relationship the last couple of weeks when and not feeling up to being sexual and not able to be there for him as much as usual.) We’re struggling to see eye to eye since he believes I am violating his boundary of privacy when it comes to masturbating and fantasies and I believe he is violating the responsibility to prioritise each other and actively shut down feelings for other people if they start to occur. My worries: I am feeling quite anxious as I’m not sure whether I need to work on my insecurities and respect his boundary or whether I should feel upset about this. In my view, monogamy is about making a choice to prioritise your partner and your feelings for them. I accept that sometimes we may sometimes experience feelings for other people but that when we do we have a responsibility to make every effort to ‘shut down’ these feelings. From my perspective, I struggle to understand how masturbating about someone is compatible with this. Initial feelings may be involuntary but just like physically cheating on someone, masturbating about someone is a voluntary action. I also feel misled since my boyfriend initially gave me the impression that masturbating to other women in his life was a purely physical thing whereas it appears it actually relates to where he has a ’crush’ on someone he interacts with. I am also particularly sensitive about this happening in the past few weeks when I have been going through a difficult time. His position: Masturbating is a private activity and we should be free to imagine what we want in that space. In asking him to talk about it I am violating this boundary. He maintains that if the roles were reversed and I was masturbating to a crush on a colleague he would still take the same position. He claims that masturbating or fantasising about his colleague does not ’feed’ his crush and that the crush exists whether or not he does this. He thinks I don’t understand this because our sexualities work differently. He also believes that the crush on his colleague and masturbating over her isn’t relevant to our relationship because it doesn’t affect his feelings for me and he doesn’t intend to act on his crush. He loves me and she loves her boyfriend and in any case they won’t see each other after his secondment is over. In other words, his actions do not involve anyone outside the relationship. Furthermore, since I can never *know* what is going on in his head, it is a pointless discussion. (My rebuttal is that most of the time I cannot know with physical faithfulness either especially since we are currently long distance and I just have to trust him.) Lastly, he thinks I am confusing the issue of privacy of masturbation with the issue of our boundaries of how we interact with others outside the relationship. Who is right? I am disrespecting his boundaries and not understanding his sexuality or is he failing to prioritise his feelings for me and our relationship? [TLDR: boyfriend in monogamous relationship has been masturbating over co-worker who he has a crush (physical and personality) on. Confused about whether I am violating his privacy boundaries or whether he is feeding a crush and therefore not respecting the relationship.]
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I (35 F) found dirty lingerie in my shared closet with my co-habitating boyfriend (38M) I've googled. I know I'm not the first woman in this position. I could still use some internet friends to talk through this with, if you're willing. We've been dating for 2.5 years, living together for a little over a year. There is one closet in our bedroom (his place originally) and the item in question is one of those thongs with no straps (like, a piece of fabric-covered wire that goes in your crack with something shaped like a pantyliner jutting out over your mons. The tackiest loving thing. It's covered in discharge. It was inside my college sweatshirt which was folded and placed in one of those canvas hanging shelving units. So this pussy visor (I mean, right?) is white, as are the canvas shelves, so there IS an off chance that it was already there and obscured somehow and I failed to notice it when I stacked my clothes in there and it got wedged in my sweatshirt. I mean, stranger things have happened I suppose (example: someone got funding to make underwear that involves sticking wire in your butt and then someone else decided to buy it and then my boyfriend actually deigned to have sex with this creature). We have our own laundry, and this vulva spatula isn't even clean anyway, so I don't think this is a laundromat mistake. When I moved in, I did find a woman's earring in the night stand on my side of the bed and tossed it out with a shrug. I know other women have been in his bed before me, and it's not like he's fastidiously neat. The thing looked like it had been there awhile. In the spring, he came back from a weekend in Vegas and I found another tacky earring in his suitcase when I dumped it for laundry. He claimed it must have been stuck in the lining from ages ago. That same couple of weeks he was acting weird -- always wanted to shower before sex, brought his cologne to work. It was only a two week period, and he had an explanation for everything and I was not working at the time so I also chalked my feelings up to just being ultra-obsessive. The thing is, I would truly and honestly never expect this man to sleep with someone behind my back. That's what's giving me pause here. I know if it quacks like a duck...but I just can't see it. I would be extremely hurt but, not shocked, to learn he occasionally flirts very mildly on text messages and social media or out at bars, but I would be *deeply* shocked if he ever did anything physical. AND YET. Who thinks they're going to get cheated on? What the hell, you guys? Confronting him seems like the only option, and then I guess I just decide to believe him or not? This sucks. What do I do? Are you all just reading this and seeing a delusional train wreck in slow motion? TL;DR: I found another woman's dirty lingerie shoved into the folds of my sweatshirt in the closet I share with my boyfriend and I wonder if even entertaining an alternate reality where he didn't cheat on me is silly and delusional.
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My (F17) aunt (F40) impulse bought a photo booth for $7000 and wants me to run her business which she hasn't planned for yet. A couple months back, my aunt was asking how much I was making at my part time job because she knew that I was unsatisfied with my pay. She proposed the idea of me working with a photo booth for parties and if I remember correctly, I didn't accept, but I also didn't refuse because I assumed it was one of her temporary delusions. The photo booth is sitting in her garage right now. It requires a laptop, 43 inch TV (something she doesn't own), photo printer (also something she doesn't own), and a camera (something I own that she wants to use). I don't know what part of her thought it was reasonable to have three teenagers (she's trying to get my sister (F15) and cousin (M16) in on it too) run her business. She was saying about how I could get experience with marketing through publicizing the business and how we could earn up to $500 per event. She then asked us if we were willing to work five five-hour shifts for free in order to pay off the booth first. She did this while wearing a panda onesie. She is EXTREMELY adamant on this but I'm pretty sure that she has no experience with managing a business (she works in cyber security for the army). I'm still reeling from the shock of this entire thing. My dad (M46), her older brother, is somewhat aware of this but I don't think he'll do anything about this. I really don't know how I can back out of something I haven't even expressly said yes to, and I feel like the more I wait, the more I get pushed down into this rabbit hole. She's a close family member of mine, but drat, is this a stretch. TL;DR: Aunt bought a $7000 photo booth and wants me to run a photo booth business for her. Am 17 and definitely not qualified nor willing to do this. Would like to get myself out of this situation with burning as few bridges as possible.
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