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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Uh yeah, they're criticizing sexual abusers and other gross dudes they've been with to warn off their friend, not complaining about cock size or how they never orgasm with a particular partner. They're really good people who are trying to fight back against awful dudes their age and save another person. Her boyfriend is being an idiot and probably thinks it's okay to defend rapists because they aren't "bad guys". That post has to be written with the deliberate intention to mislead. The original post has her and her friends going through every guy in town saying simply don't bother, not worth your time or giving star ratings using the phrases 'bad sex' and 'awful in bed', self-describing it as just having a laugh. Then the clarification is "well actually what we meant was rapey stuff" and we were warning her. Like the first post it is completely reasonable to think that they are just rating guy's performance in a way that would be considered lovely regardless of the gender of the speaker, then the clarification completely reverses the meaning and is at odds with the initial description.
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Midnight Voyager posted:Let's just say that the pastor who wrote Reefer Madness pronounced it "MariHUUana" very distinctly and I hear him saying that in my head every time someone spells it with an H. marruh-HWANnuh
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"Awful in bed" and "bad sex" often does mean rapey poo poo like "surprise it's choking time" "Not worth your time" often does mean "won't help you get off" or "won't use a condom"
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Boyfriend (30M) distant after discovering old video of me (29F) Thought I knew where this one was going to go but wow did it take a turn.... quote:I am quite ashamed of this and am scared to write about it here but I have no one to talk to.  And maybe don’t date people who watch that kind of stuff as porn?
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Anne Whateley posted:"Awful in bed" and "bad sex" often does mean rapey poo poo like "surprise it's choking time" Just lol if you never passed out midgasm because she didn't loosen the belt in time.
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Anne Whateley posted:"Awful in bed" and "bad sex" often does mean rapey poo poo like "surprise it's choking time" I'm not an expert on the tone with which women usually discuss issues of consent but I can say with certainty that the majority of men will interpret a group of women laughingly rating their sex partners in vague terms to not be about such matters unless specifically stated. In the same way that if you walked in on a group of men flippantly describing women they have known with a rating out of ten you aren't going to be charitable in your assumptions of what they are rating on.
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revmoo posted:I'm not even here to discuss voter ID. I didn't mention it to derail the thread, I brought it up to draw attention to the point that literally just having differing views is enough to be labeled a nazi by folks on the American left, which some of you dutifully jumped in to help me underscore my point. You had a lot of good feedback that you should consider. You're not right. edit: it was mostly polite and then you doubled down
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It's common enough that in my experience it doesn't get discussed in hushed voices like "oh my god...can you believe he choked me????" In my experience it's more like "seriously? another weirdo? next!" Stuff like that, gross condom poo poo, may not even have been perceived as consent issues, just a bad time (although maybe this year it's changing?) e: I mean I can definitely understand people misunderstanding from the original post, for sure. But I don't think it was necessarily a deliberate intention to mislead.
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Moon Atari posted:That post has to be written with the deliberate intention to mislead. The original post has her and her friends going through every guy in town saying simply don't bother, not worth your time or giving star ratings using the phrases 'bad sex' and 'awful in bed', self-describing it as just having a laugh. Then the clarification is "well actually what we meant was rapey stuff" and we were warning her. Like the first post it is completely reasonable to think that they are just rating guy's performance in a way that would be considered lovely regardless of the gender of the speaker, then the clarification completely reverses the meaning and is at odds with the initial description. beep boop greetings fellow Post-O-Tron, how goes your study of the communication habits of the hyu-mins
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Anne Whateley posted:It's common enough that in my experience it doesn't get discussed in hushed voices like "oh my god...can you believe he choked me????" In my experience it's more like "seriously? another weirdo? next!" Stuff like that, gross condom poo poo, may not even have been perceived as consent issues, just a bad time (although maybe this year it's changing?) His dick just wasn't big enough
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CannonFodder posted:So Weedlord Bonerhitler was taken so you had to take Marijuanaduke Erectionstalin? don't doxx me
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Anne Whateley posted:It's common enough that in my experience it doesn't get discussed in hushed voices like "oh my god...can you believe he choked me????" In my experience it's more like "seriously? another weirdo? next!" Stuff like that, gross condom poo poo, may not even have been perceived as consent issues, just a bad time (although maybe this year it's changing?) Yeah, sharing about creepy guys in a light way is something I've done many times. Not just guys I've had sex with, but warning new girls at work about "that guy you don't want to work with alone", warning friends at the bar about "that guy you don't want to buy you drinks or corner you alone" or even just general stories about "that guy who I really gives me a weird vibe, you know? And the stories he tells about his ex just throws up red flags".
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Araenna posted:Yeah, sharing about creepy guys in a light way is something I've done many times. Not just guys I've had sex with, but warning new girls at work about "that guy you don't want to work with alone", warning friends at the bar about "that guy you don't want to buy you drinks or corner you alone" or even just general stories about "that guy who I really gives me a weird vibe, you know? And the stories he tells about his ex just throws up red flags". So I guess you're a marvelous catch yourself eh? (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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Jan 3, 2019 04:48
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Salty Josh posted:So I guess you're a marvelous catch yourself eh? Eh, what?
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Salty Josh posted:So I guess you're a marvelous catch yourself eh? Way to tag yourself as a scumbag rapist
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Salty Josh posted:So I guess you're a marvelous catch yourself eh? all your early posts in this thread are you autofellating about how much you respect women and how kind everyone is to each other in the god-fearing rural south who’da thunk you’d turn out to be a mysogynistic piece of poo poo
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OMGVBFLOL posted:all your early posts in this thread are you autofellating about how much you respect women and how kind everyone is to each other in the god-fearing rural south I definately never said I respect anyone. Yes, I am a knuckledragger. But an honest one.
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Salty Josh posted:I definately never said I respect anyone. did not expect someone to admit to being a rapist in this thread, yikes
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Salty Josh posted:So I guess you're a marvelous catch yourself eh? You're basically saying "You're as much of a catch as a rapist." Don't be that shitbag. Either that or "hey, who hasn't raped once or twice?"
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Salty Josh posted:I definately never said I respect anyone. That doesn't make it better you dick
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Pirate Radar posted:Eh, what?  Women are sharing info to stay safe "
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OMGVBFLOL posted:all your early posts in this thread are you autofellating about how much you respect women and how kind everyone is to each other in the god-fearing rural south Haha, I went back to see what you were talking about. I'd laugh harder, but I live in the south and I've gotta watch out for guys like this. It's less funny when you're surrounded by it.
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not going into heavy detail over exactly why some dudes are gross seems like the smart bet when you're having a casual drink with friends and don't want the mood to sour with specifics like 'he started choking me during sex and i didn't want it'
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Brother Entropy posted:not going into heavy detail over exactly why some dudes are gross seems like the smart bet when you're having a casual drink with friends and don't want the mood to sour with specifics like 'he started choking me during sex and i didn't want it' Yeah, but even though the first post was vague I definitely got the impression from the way she described their conversation that "bad sex" meant more along the lines of the guys lacking consideration or respect for them. Not "his dick's tiny, lol." The specific details aren't surprising to me at all. Discussing that sort of behavior so casually is an indication of just how common it is, not a "deliberate intention to mislead".
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quote:My (f21) boyfriend (m29) is upset I’m not participating in his mushroom foraging hobby a) I think this is the weirdest thing I have ever seen someone use a throwaway for, and b) bolded line is my favourite.
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cash crab posted:a) I think this is the weirdest thing I have ever seen someone use a throwaway for, and b) bolded line is my favourite. It'd be different if it were truffles. But mushroom hunting seems pretty dumb.
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Pirate Radar posted:When I read “on the first day even the bad kids behaved themselves” it makes me think she’s awful to those children when no one else is watching and just has them terrified of her. I teach elementary and that's the only thing some people have in their toolbag.
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The Iron Rose posted:The take that people with money are worse and less redeemable than violent domestic abusers is pretty legendarily bad hth It's actually 100% correct, money is more efficient at turning people into amoral sociopaths than the genetic flaw which causes Actual Sociopathy.
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cash crab posted:a) I think this is the weirdest thing I have ever seen someone use a throwaway for, and b) bolded line is my favourite. girl is 100% correct to not eat anything this c-spam mod cooks. “i looked at pictures on the internet” god drat
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quote:Wife ran off with kids. No legal process involved at all. Can i pick them up from school? Hmm I wonder why the school and DCFS don't like him... quote:On halloween i sent a message thru text threatening to kill myself and my wife. That's what spurred the dcfs investigation. A mutual friend who was a mandated reporter started this.
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Fallom posted:Hmm I wonder why the school and DCFS don't like him... That dude needs to be thrown in jail. There have been more than enough stories similar to theirs in the news for cops to not take him seriously.
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cash crab posted:My (f21) boyfriend (m29) is upset I’m not participating in his mushroom foraging hobby Maybe he saw The Phantom Thread?
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quote:Im no angel i threatened them phisically and spent a week in the hospital myself. If I'm reading this correctly he physically threatened his ex-girlfriend who responded by hospitalising him. Lady takes no poo poo.
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My husband (26m) is upset and wont talk to me since i (25f) learned i need extensive dental work. We've been together for five years. Up until last year I hadn't been to the dentist in many years. I don't really have a good excuse for not going except I was suicidal and didn't brush for many years and didn't think I would live long enough to suffer the consequences. I have much better dental hygiene now but the damage was already done. I only worked up the courage to go to the dentist again a few months ago when my tooth cracked and I had no choice but to go. I had to have a root canal and crown which were very costly but we were able to afford it. We discussed that I would need more work done when our insurance renewed. So a few days ago I went in for a new patient exam, and it was pretty bad. The dentist quoted me for about five thousand dollars of work that needed to be done to get my teeth back in shape. That's after I already had the 2k dental work from before. We can afford it, technically. We do better than a lot of people. But of course it's still a lot of money. It doesn't need to be done all at once, but it does need to be done this year. I told my husband immediately, and he's been very distant ever since. He won't talk to me except to say that he's upset with me. I can afford to pay the payments for the work but I won't be able to help our family in other ways financially and he's really upset about that. I know it sucks, and I have no idea how to talk to him about it. I don't want my husband to resent me forever but I don't want to lose my teeth. What should I do? TL;DR: Husband hasn't spoken to me in days because I need 5k dollars in dental work. What should I do?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My husband (26m) is upset and wont talk to me since i (25f) learned i need extensive dental work. lol america
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The Lone Badger posted:If I'm reading this correctly he physically threatened his ex-girlfriend who responded by hospitalising him. Lady takes no poo poo. He means he spent time in the hospital after attempting to commit suicide. All I can tell is somebody needs to come save those kids ASAP.
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JFairfax posted:lol america Lots of places have this problem with dental stuff since teeth are magic things that are separate from the rest of medicine somehow. But you can take advantage of medical tourism pretty easily for teeth stuff.
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JFairfax posted:lol america I was gonna say "lol $5K is nothing," but... yeah, I guess this is just as accurate.
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It's a "help, my spouse refuses to brush their teeth ever" post written from the reverse perspective where the money is just the final straw on top of years of putting up with disgusting kisses and refusals to maintain basic hygiene.
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