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Me (19M) and my stepsister (19F) want to officially start dating but we don't know how to go about it. My parents divorced when I was 15. Things didn't really change too much because my dad was always away for work or busy with whatever, and me and my mom kept living in our house. I don't really see my dad anymore, sometimes we see each other (once/twice a month) but that's it. When I was 17 my mom started dating again for the first time, and she met my stepdad. He is a single parent and lived together with my stepsister. After 1 year of dating they wanted to start living together, and me and my mom moved in with my stepdad and my stepsister We moved in last March, and he proposed to my mom in June and they got married this January. Pretty fast if you ask me, but they're happy and it's none of my business. Prior to moving in I met my stepsister a couple of times. We got along pretty well, but we didn't really speak outside of when we were all together. This all changed when we were constantly around each other (our parents both work 5 days) and we started to hang out a lot. We discovered that we had a ton of common interests and we started getting closer. I've always found her attractive, but I tried to push away those thoughts and just enjoy our time together. I think it was somewhere around June when things started to heat up between us. We usually watch series or play games together, and we both like to smoke weed occasionally. One night she told me she wanted to talk, and she confessed that she really likes me and that she wanted to get it off her chest. I told her I've been crushing on her since I moved in, but we both decided to bury our feelings as it would be for the best. This lasted for one painful month, it ended when we were blazing together and we made out. From that point on we agreed to keep it everything a secret. Things have escalated since then. Our parents are happy that we get along so well, pretty sure they don't have a clue lol. We've been going out on 'dates' together and all that, and we started sleeping together several months ago. We're essentially bf/gf unless our parents are around. It's not an ideal situation and it's tough to hide sometimes. Last week we had a pretty emotional talk, and she told me she no longer wants to hide our relationship. I completely agree with her, but I'm worried about what other people are going to think and most importantly, our parents. It sucks so much, because I truly love her so much. My life changed for the better when I met her, and I'm happy for the first time in a very long time. I'm almost tearing up writing this, she's just so incredible. I really, really don't know how to deal with this. We just want to be together, but the circumstances make everything so difficult. Any advice is appreciated, but we do not plan on breaking it off. TLDR: I met my stepsister when our parents started dating, and we've been living together for 1 year. We have incredible chemistry and after a few months she confessed her feelings to me, and I told her that it was mutual. We decided to bury our feelings, but after one month we couldn't hold it back anymore and we made out for the first time. Things have escalated since then, and we've been 'together' since July/August and started sleeping together. We are (obviously) hiding our relationship from our parents, but we are essentially bf/gf when they're not around. Last week we had an emotional conversation and we came to the conclusion that we no longer want to hide 'us'. We don't know how to go about this.
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Mar 7, 2019 04:18
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Someone's been spending too much time on pornhub.
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Mar 7, 2019 04:25
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M.C. McMic posted:Someone's been spending too much time on pornhub. Way too much really.
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PancakeTransmission posted:But if every person was capable of doing that, the banks would be out of business) Congratulations! You figured out the business model as well as how you can use it to your advantage.
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AITA for sending my Feminist friend a video of the Rocky Balboa speech? (telling her stop whining) I am 26 year old male. I have a pretty high paying job, definitely higher than average for someone my age. Anyway I have had a friend since university (26 female, met her when I was 18) who since graduating university, hasn't really held down a job. In fact, she hasn't had one since graduating 5 years ago. She keeps blaming this failure on how the job market is patriarchal and employers are sexist, she's tried applying but she hasn't been persistent. In terms of degrees, I studied Accounting and Finance at uni and she studied Business Studies (which isn't a bad degree tbh). Point is, she keeps whining, all she does now is stay inside her house, watch Netflix and eat junk food. She also still goes to nightclubs quite a lot. I thought she might be depressed or something but she got tested and she isn't. I just think she's really lazy, but she keeps whining to me that ''I can't get a job because it's sexist out there...you won't understand''. I just told her ''I got to where I am through persistence and hard work'' and she reiterated her point, that she can't get a job because it's sexist out there. So I sent her a video of Rocky Balboa's speech to his son: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_Vg4uyYwEk “Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that! Now she said I was being an rear end in a top hat to her... quote:Everyone Sucks Here - I would love to one day be able to actually give somebody who calls out a person for manipulating dialogue on social issues to get their way in an argument an NTA. Yet I never can, because they're never posted by somebody who is actually neutral to or supportive of fixing those issues.
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Mar 7, 2019 04:27
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M.C. McMic posted:Someone's been spending too much time on pornhub. I mean they're two teenagers who only met a year ago and aren't related. Sucks to be them, but imo they're not really doing anything wrong.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for sending my Feminist friend a video of the Rocky Balboa speech? (telling her stop whining) I didn't have to read the rest because he's the rear end in a top hat.
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AITA for cutting ties with a very close friend for confiding in me? I had a very close friend for 6 years, where we would see each other regularly, do activities, have dinners and get-togethers, and leaned on each other for support. Several months ago, he asked me if he could tell me something very personal, and that I would promise to not tell anyone else. I said yes. He told me that he is being accused of sexually molesting his nephew many years ago as a child. Now his nephew (who is an adult) is threatening to go public with it. But because he is very close to his sister (his nephew's mom), his nephew will wait until his mother dies to go public. He was very upset that he would lose everything and we didn't talk about this for a few months. My ex-friend has always been a very openly sexual person, but I never thought it would be possible for him to actually do this. But there was always this nagging voice in the back of my head that he may have. One day at dinner I asked him point blank to look me in the eye and tell me he did not do this and that I would stand by him if he was innocent. He looked me in the eye and said "it's complicated". I felt a burning sensation in the depth of my stomach. We didn't talk for a month or two. In that time, my wife gave birth to our first kid. He came over to say hi and wanted to take pictures with the baby. I told him not to. After a few more months, I told him that we can no longer hang out. I also told him that I needed to tell my wife. He tried to convince me not to, but I didn't want to lie to my wife anymore on why we are not seeing our friend. AITA? Should I have been more of a friend to him? Edit: I did tell my wife. We still have mutual friends (which is awkward) but we have not seen this specific person for several months. Edit 2: even though we have not seen each other for some time, we did talk on the phone a couple of times afterwards. He tried to explain that he didn't do "the thing" and asked me how I was could be so judgmental of him. But after that he respected my wishes to not want to see or speak to him.
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SirSamVimes posted:I mean they're two teenagers who only met a year ago and aren't related. Sucks to be them, but imo they're not really doing anything wrong. I agree. It was more a commentary on the state of pornhub.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for cutting ties with a very close friend for confiding in me? Uh yeah "its complicated" is not at all how you respond to that question. He totally did something.
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AITA for telling an employee that had an odor? They walked out mid shift. (self.AmItheAsshole)quote:I (F24) manage a shop 801 sq feet. there are 5 to 6 employees working in the shop. We hired "Cindy" (F20s?) for 2 days a week. I told her if its possible, Id get her another day of work if things go well.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for sending my Feminist friend a video of the Rocky Balboa speech? (telling her stop whining) I can pretty much guarantee this guy thought about that speech, thought "wow that could totally own those essjaydoubleyous that wont sleep with me" and this was the result. Especially the whole she got tested for depression and it came back negative bit to head off any criticism lmao I also guarantee that he will do zero self reflection on getting called an rear end in a top hat in the story he specifically designed to show him as the hero
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for cutting ties with a very close friend for confiding in me? The fact this dude thinks "did you sexually molest this person" is not a yes or no question means he is guilty of something really poo poo.
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Serephina posted:This is especially rich because "It came one day shipping and it is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. It looks and plays like a dream.", yet he couldn't tell that it was a fake. He could go out and get a replica and be happy as a calm with it! But instead he's a moron who wishes to be a collector yet is is literally unable to appreciate the differences in the items he professes to love. My dad has the same issue as that guy, where he doesn't comprehend that the cost of items is not somehow negated just because you could hypothetically resell them in the future (especially if you're almost certainly not going to). Similarly is the tendency to think that getting things "on sale" is somehow the same thing as profiting. I've tried many times to explain to him that items do not have intrinsic values and that if a thing is selling for $X, that's what people are generally paying for it (obviously there are exceptions where something is actually a good deal, but I don't exactly trust him to tell when that is). It seems like people who take pride in their ability to "get good deals" are almost always actually terrible with money. It's like some sort of financial Dunning-Kruger effect. My dad also plays guitar and has accrued like 37 guitars or some poo poo over the years, lol. This guy is going to become my dad when he gets older.
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for telling an employee that had an odor? They walked out mid shift. (self.AmItheAsshole) I had to do this for a guy once. I wasn't even really his boss. I just hired him and felt responsible. Also, he wasn't a minority. He was the gooniest white dude ever. I had to pull him into a room and basically tell him he couldn't come to work a dishevelled, smelly mess (in the nicest way possible). (Yes, he was a developer.) Smelling bad is never okay in a professional environment; not in American culture. Well, unless you're a professional athlete, I suppose. But if you're in a service job and come to work smelling like burnt rear end wtf.
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M.C. McMic posted:I had to do this for a guy once. I wasn't even really his boss. I just hired him and felt responsible. I was his manager (he was a contractor and doing good technical work), but same. Dude....it doesn't matter if you shower every day like you claim if you don't wash your cat pis smelling clothes. It's such an uncomfortable thing to have to engage in, especially when it's so out of sorts for the professional norms of where you're at. Like.....I've worked construction driving trucks, etc......a lot more liberal on this poo poo than woking in an office.
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AITA for outing my roommate and getting her arrested? Ohh boy this whole thing has been a rollercoaster. Where to begin... I live with 4 people. One of my roommates and I do not get along. At all. Despite this, we have a lot of mutual friends, so we often end up hanging out together. A couple nights ago, my friends and I all go out She's there too. We go out to a local restaurant/bar and just generally have a good time. Recently, my ex and I broke up. While we were eating, me and the girl (let's just call her Sarah) got into a disagreement. I'll spare the details, but it essentially lead her to say: "Wow, no wonder your ex broke up with you." That got some looks from the group, but I decided to keep quiet about it. The night carried on. I was pissed. We decide to head back home. The way our carpooling worked, it was just me and her in her car, with her as the driver. She had a couple drinks at the restaurant... this will be relevant soon. While we were in the car, I did not say a drat thing to her. As we were driving home, I saw blue lights flashing behind us. I could not keep from laughing a bit. When we stopped, the police officer came up to us he and Sarah were talking. Then a great idea came to mind: Me: "Excuse me officer... I feel obligated to tell you that my friend was drinking earlier. I do not feel safe." In reality, she was probably going about 7 or 8 over the limit. Her driving was fine. But I just about had it with her. Sarah gave me the dirtiest look, then the cop told her to step outside. Sobriety test was okay, but we live in a state where she needs to take a breathalyzer if asked... and she did. She blew barely over the legal limit. Cue the arrest and me calling an uber. So am I the rear end in a top hat here? My friends don't know the full story yet- basically that I snitched on her. She is facing a world of trouble right now. EDIT: I have to wear correctives, but I did not have my glasses on me. EDIT 2: I am a guy, and my gf and I broke up. EDIT 3: Okay here's where I currently stand. What I did was cold hearted. I'm not going to argue that. And yes, it was out of spite. BUT I do not think this is "wrong". She broke the law, and this will ensure she does not do it again. I really do not like her or care for her at all, so whatever happens to her life and future will not make me lose one second of sleep. I know this may sound heartless, but I still believe I am in the right. EDIT 4: Some people are saying this is a bad move due to the roomie situation. The way I see it, she will have to move out because of the court fees, etc. Probably back to her parents' place. So I won't have to deal with that fallout. Again, coldhearted. I will admit that. EDIT 5: I guess I should have also mentioned this: This was not revenge for this particular situation. She's done a number of bitchy things to me before. I've had it with her, and this was me saying so. I also stopped her from driving drunk in the future though and taught her a lesson, albeit an ice cold lesson. EDIT 6: Okay, I need to clarify a bit more. - I did get in the car with her, yes. I didn't even think of her drinking when I got in. She had 2 drinks. 2. That is not enough to warrant suspicion. I just thought of it when we got pulled over. -I did not do this with the intent of getting her kicked out of the home. I did this so she could get a slap of reality. -I still think what I did was simply cold, but not unethical. She broke the law. I reported her. It would have been unethical not to, honestly. She needs to learn that driving drunk is not okay.
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Leon Einstein posted:Is it snobby if I''d rather eat a bucket of KFC than Olive Garden? Literally anyone with actual tastebuds should prefer some goddamn chicken to tasteless overcooked Olive Garden slop.
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Mar 7, 2019 05:09
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Anne Whateley posted:The debit card fraud thing I think is old news from the '90s, or maybe the protection isn't required legally but is done voluntarily? The only debit cards I've had were backed either by Visa or MasterCard and had all the same protections. Someone stole my info (from a knitting site! rude!!), I was out $0 and they overnighted me a card. Someone stole my rent check, I sent them the police case report and that money immediately reappeared too. I think the only negative anymore is that they don't build your credit score. This is totally wrong. One of my co-workers had her debit card information stolen a few months ago and some rear end in a top hat bought Chipotle like 15 times. It took like 4-5 days for her bank to investigate and she was temporarily missing out on a bunch of cash until then. I guess it depends on the bank, but it's still a thing.
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My (24f) boyfriend (26m) applied for the Navy without discussing it with mequote:td;lr: Boyfriend (26m) applied to Navy without telling me, don't know how to process it. I want to be supportive but selfishly I don't want him to leave. I know he's a grown up who doesn't have to ask to do things, but it's a pretty big life changing deal.
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warning: this guy is the biggest piece of poo poo dad since Cronos. I'm serious. There's a reason I'm using spoiler tags! AITA for saying my daughter has a big nose and making her cry? I’m 56 years old and my daughter is 17 The daughter and I have had a few issues throughout the years which started in her teens, as most father-daughter problems do. When she was little, she was a little chubby so I used to call her chubster, pudge, etc, as a joke and talk to her about the importance of losing weight. When I was growing up, my dad would often call me fat and to keep fat, which inspired me to lose weight and get fit. Anyway, when she got to her teens, she started being a bit funny about being eating, (making herself sick, etc). She wasn’t anorexic though as she wasn’t skinny enough. Anyway, we started having arguments and the revolving subject of those tiffs would be how I made her feel ‘unworthy’ and ‘fat’. She also keeps bringing up this occasion where I apparently called her fat in public at age eight, making her cry and telling her, ‘go eat a chocolate bar, that will make you feel better, fatty’. This is an event I cannot remember but my wife remembers clearly. This has caused a significant rift between my daughter and I and on many occasions she has used the silent treatment on me. I’m talking weeks of silence, only speaking to the wife. It makes it unbearable. We usually have a slightly jokey relationship when we are friendly, however the banter sometimes becomes a little bit personal. She will call me fat etc and I will in return. Sometimes, it’s ok and sometimes it’s not. I just don’t know where I stand. Anyway, in one event in question, she called me a ‘cock’ so I said she had a big nose. It was all friendly but immediately, after I said that, she went cold on me. Turns out, or so my wife tells me, she hates her nose which is sort of Roman-esque but nothing huge or anything. It’s one of her ‘big insecurities’. She didn’t speak to me for about a week and is still cool with me now. Anyway reddit, am I the rear end in a top hat for taking banter too far? .... EDIT I spoke to my wife, she told me to leave it. She said my daughter has been talking about moving out because of my behaviour. She told me some other things about my daughter too. But I still think I should speak to her. I feel so loving bad about what I have said to her in the past but I don’t want to come across as disingenuous. Edit 2 I spoke to her. It didn’t go well. At all. in the comments, it's revealed that his daughter actually tried to kill herself, but she and the mom kept it a secret from him because they didn't know how he would react. It looks like he's realized he's a horrible person and is sending her to live with her grandparents as an act of mercy. So, uh, happy-ish ending?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for outing my roommate and getting her arrested? this guys an rear end in a top hat for siccing the cops on anyone.
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You guys who've had trouble with debit cards, were they MasterCard or Visa or something else?
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Barudak posted:3-5% cash back
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There are only two things you should say to the police "Am I free to go?" and "I want to speak to a lawyer." OTOH gently caress drunk drivers. In conclusion, I hate everybody.
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for telling an employee that had an odor? They walked out mid shift. (self.AmItheAsshole) From the link the place is a salon. I had my hair cut once by someone who reeked like an anime convention and it was absolute hell.
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Leon Einstein posted:Where you getting 5%? Many cards with cashback will have quarterly categories (which often you need to sign up for in order to get the benefit of so they can avoid giving it to everyone) that are 5% back instead of usual amount in addition to extremely niche cards that give 5% but only for one thing. For example Amazon prime card is 5% cashback all purchases on Amazon and has no fee, but youve got to pay to be an amazon prime member. If you spend 2k or more on Amazon a year though its a pretty dang good deal.
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Mar 7, 2019 05:56
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Anne Whateley posted:You guys who've had trouble with debit cards, were they MasterCard or Visa or something else? It DOESNT MATTER what payment network they are on. This is (almost) completely separate from the issuing bank policies. Head to BFC if you want more information on this.
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My mom is really big on min-maxing credit card perks to get massive discounts on airfare and hotels. She's got Excel spreadsheets and everything tracking all this kind of stuff. She hasn't paid a dime in interest either and she is pretty good at finding ways around the annual fees. So if you are really disciplined, it can be very lucrative.
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Panfilo posted:My mom is really big on min-maxing credit card perks to get massive discounts on airfare and hotels. She's got Excel spreadsheets and everything tracking all this kind of stuff. She hasn't paid a dime in interest either and she is pretty good at finding ways around the annual fees. So if you are really disciplined, it can be very lucrative. My dad is the same way. He has like 8 billion miles for flights and poo poo.
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Panfilo posted:My mom is really big on min-maxing credit card perks to get massive discounts on airfare and hotels. She's got Excel spreadsheets and everything tracking all this kind of stuff. She hasn't paid a dime in interest either and she is pretty good at finding ways around the annual fees. So if you are really disciplined, it can be very lucrative. The credit card company has a term for these people since its such a known thing, but at the same time its not worth doing anything about it since discouraging them discourages the people who will slip up.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:warning: this guy is the biggest piece of poo poo dad since Cronos. I'm serious. There's a reason I'm using spoiler tags! This story didn't end with the death of the father so it's not a happy ending at all.
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Barudak posted:Many cards with cashback will have quarterly categories (which often you need to sign up for in order to get the benefit of so they can avoid giving it to everyone) that are 5% back instead of usual amount in addition to extremely niche cards that give 5% but only for one thing. For example Amazon prime card is 5% cashback all purchases on Amazon and has no fee, but youve got to pay to be an amazon prime member. If you spend 2k or more on Amazon a year though its a pretty dang good deal. Yeah, my Discover does that with the categories. I forget which is coming up, it's either Gas Stations or Grocery Stores but anyway it'll see good use.
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Barudak posted:The credit card company has a term for these people since its such a known thing, but at the same time its not worth doing anything about it since discouraging them discourages the people who will slip up. Yeah manufactured spending/points chasing/churning looks a hell of a lot like money laundering and bustouts because of how you're quickly maxing out on Simon gift cards and then repaying in cash or money orders or some kind of cash billpay service etc. In most banks the bar for reporting something to the feds is "suspicion" which is nowhere near what you think of as "probable cause" or whatever else you heard on the  . If I see you're maxing out a dozen tradelines and then I call the bank you're paying them from and they tell me all your poo poo's from PayPal and cash deposits then you bet your rear end that's getting sent to the feds.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Me (19M) and my stepsister (19F) want to officially start dating but we don't know how to go about it. Hell yeah brother
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The obvious solution is to get them to divorce. Parent Trap 2.
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FAUXTON posted:Yeah manufactured spending/points chasing/churning looks a hell of a lot like money laundering and bustouts because of how you're quickly maxing out on Simon gift cards and then repaying in cash or money orders or some kind of cash billpay service etc. In most banks the bar for reporting something to the feds is "suspicion" which is nowhere near what you think of as "probable cause" or whatever else you heard on the Depends on the strategy, many of these folks are serial openers rather than moving the same money across accounts. Basically do the minimum to maximize big rewards then move on so little money is ever actually spent. Its how a dude at my spouses work paid for airfare for a family of five without spending a dime.
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I read an article a couple months back about how banks over here in norway are having problems with people signing up for credit cards with huge limits, selling them for like 50% of the max limit and then reporting them stolen. For some reason they also said its almost impossible to bust someone doing this and that the only people caught were people who had been snitched on. Anyway, scamming banks is morally good and cool.
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My mom tries to get me in on it for the sick Bennies but I just don't have the patience and discipline to juggle multiple cards since I'm paranoid I'll screw up and have some forgotten card building up interest charges from an unpaid balance. I have a Costco credit card that gets me able $800 back a year which is fine for me; I add it onto my tax refund and treat it like an unexpected windfall.
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