Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for leaving an 18 cent tip and getting the waitress fired?

When the manager called the waitress over, both of us saw her roll her eyes as she was walking here. As soon as the manager saw this, he put on his "you're about to get fired" face. All the tears and pleading made no difference. It was ugly. People were filming with their cell phones.

Play posted:

I think they should just act like loving adults and do the loving wedding without bringing their dumbass high school drama into it. How bout that

therobit posted:

So when is it ok to complain about a bad service experience?

bell jar posted:

dude is absolutely an rear end in a top hat, just give the whole thing including tip at once, why bother splitting it in two

Vim Fuego posted:

Uh, well, good luck with that.

Anyway, I love the new thread title. It's a worthy replacement to "difficult to poo poo on my wife."

Have a gander at this genuine quandary, y'all:

AITA for wanting my best friend as my Best Man, even though he cheated on the Maid of Honor?


I kinda think the MOH and Best Man just have to suck it up and pretend to be ok for the wedding. I don't think there's any right answers for the OP, cause this guy qualifies as his best man regardless of if he cheated on someone he was dating or not. But OP probably does have to give him the boot because who wants to start their marriage with Wife & her best friend being righteously angry at you? But then again, not standing by his best man would show a lack of character.

blugu64 posted:

Because the next largest bill is a $100?

Leon Einstein posted:

Sugar babies deserve everything they get. Nothing is free. Trading your dignity and ability to date for a little cash seems shortsighted.

cumshitter posted:

The tipping story didn't happen and is some weirdo redpill's fantasy of degrading women.

Like a manager is going to fire a server in front of everyone on the middle of the floor during the middle of the shift, loving things up for every other server and causing a giant scene.

La Brea Carpet posted:

I'm the upscale restaurant that costs less than fifty bucks for a couple.

La Brea Carpet posted:

I'm the upscale restaurant that costs less than fifty bucks for a couple.

Dazerbeams posted:

Are you mocking Olive Garden right now?!

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Burt Sexual posted:

The wide spread use of AITA itt is new and odd to me. AITA?

Straight White Shark posted:

The groom's priorities are clear and he only has one option, call off the engagement and marry the best man.

Pirate Radar posted:

Wedding dude is about to find out what it’s like to not have a best man, which sucks given the timing at the beginning of his marriage. Dude’s gotta make some friends his wife doesn’t hate or he’s going to be married without a friend/support network outside of his wife, which isn’t healthy.


If he booked the venue and catering in his name this could be a seamless exercise.

Xik posted:

Most of the people that post those AITA just want validation and aggressively double down on any criticism. Very few edit and update saying they understand why they are the rear end in a top hat and will do something about it.

e: oh right you mean why... It's a separate subreddt (/r/AmItheAsshole/) and in the comments folks comment if they are the rear end in a top hat and they get upvoted etc

blugu64 posted:

Because the next largest bill is a $100?

Dazerbeams posted:

Are you mocking Olive Garden right now?!

Thumbtacks posted:

Clark Nova posted:

He should break it off if she doesn't actually eat his rear end for fetching lemonade

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GF and I have been dating for a while now. Our relationship has been on and off for 5 years but we are a in good spot this time around. We love each other a lot and have been talking a lot about our future together. There is no question in our mind we want to marry each other. The problem is that we have different idea of the timing of it.

She seems to want a quicker proposal and marriage. In fact, she doesn’t really want a ceremony. She just kinda wants to do the civil wedding and then elope within the next 6 months. I’m kinda cool with that because it saves us a lot of money but it seems so drat fast. She keeps sending me instagrams of rings and wedding venues and dresses. And since we are going on a trip soon, she keeps hinting she wants the engagement to happen soon.

On the other hand, I am conflicted. I tell her I am not financially ready but the truth is I am planing on proposing in two weeks. The only problem is that now I’m having second thoughts on the timing. While talking to her I started saying that perhaps we should take things slower. I try to explain that I just want us to keep working on our relationship and each other before moving onto the next phase. Somehow this frustrates her because to her this comes across as wishy washy.

Recently: - She tells me that I don’t treat her the way her friends’ husbands treat them. - She says I am not kind. That I don’t affirm her enough or love her in her love languages. - She gets angry at me when I cuss (not at her, just in general), which makes me frustrated because I feel like I can’t express myself properly. - She tells me I can’t talk about sex or sexual related things with her, since we are trying to be pure before marriage (religion)...let me go on a tangent here. We had plenty of sex before, in fact, we thought we were pregnant not long ago. So when I tell her I am horny and can’t wait to gently caress her again, and she gets angry at me, I feel shut down, especially because the act is already removed. I used to be a very sexually active person and I wish I could at least talk to her about sex...alas. - On top of all that, about a month ago, I made out with someone and got a hand job but came clean to her right away. She was devastated (rightly so), but I’ve been going to couples counseling and doing everything she needs to be able to make up for it. I was frustrated after one of our fights and acted on old habits and impulse. I believe the cheating was an isolated incident. We were able to work through it, to the point I even visited her family and stayed with them. But this adds to her lack of trust and my current hesitation.

Because no man wants to hear that his girlfriend doesn’t feel loved properly, I tell her that it’s crazy that we are thinking of marriage when she tells me all these things. I tell her we should wait and work on the relationship until she feels loved and treated right. Until she can trust me again. This comes across to her as threatening the relationship, but to me it is trying to make sure it’s healthy. I don’t want to be wishy washy, and I don’t think I am, but I am so conflicted. She feels all these things but wants marriage and wants it fast?

Should I go ahead and propose? Would that give her more security? The actual marriage could be later I guess. Or how do I talk to her and make her see that timing here could only benefit the relationship? Are these things we can work during engagement?

TL:DR: Girlfriend doesn’t seem happy but wants engagement and wedding. I want to wait and work on the relationship before moving to the next phase, even though I do think she is the one. What should I do? And how do I have the conversation with her?

Play posted:

Generally pre-shredded cheese has preservatives included so that all that surface area doesn't cause parts of them to go bad.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I used to work as a server.

LadyPictureShow posted:

I (M28) want to wait to propose but my gf (28F) wants me to do it this month. The problem is that she also says she is unhappy and doesn’t trust me since I cheated. Should I propose in 2 weeks or wait?

LadyPictureShow posted:

That I don’t affirm her enough or love her in her love languages.

Xik posted:

Murder-suicide, there is no other choice.

Pirate Radar posted:

I hear you, but what about suicide-murder?

Xik posted:

Murder-suicide, there is no other choice.

LadyPictureShow posted:

I (M28) want to wait to propose but my gf (28F) wants me to do it this month. The problem is that she also says she is unhappy and doesn’t trust me since I cheated. Should I propose in 2 weeks or wait?


No, you guys should definitely go ahead with getting engaged ASAP.

Pirate Radar posted:

I hear you, but what about suicide-murder?