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ulex minor posted:what about the little girls feelings themselves? maybe they both miss their friend and are sad they're not allowed to play together any more. the parents should have talked this out together. A new challenger appears E. DragQueenofAngmar posted:basically this. you protect the victimized child, not the victimizer. it doesnt matter in the moment what the intention or knowledge behind the word was, it matters that the black child is protected and shown by example that they absolutely have no responsibility to be accepting or understanding or tolerant of being called an extremely vile racial slur, with included racist context that almost certainly proves that there was ill intent, even if only ill intent from the person who taught the white child these things by example. You (and the other posters in this vein) are right. I thought about it some more, and my thinking does put an onus on the victim (or those nearby them) for no other reason than their victimization. I still think the constructive discussion is “better” because it may in some situations lead to an “optimal” outcome, but agree that it is unfair (and somewhat myopic) to count it against someone who doesn’t. Brother Tadger fucked around with this message at 06:04 on Apr 10, 2019 |
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kimbo305 posted:Are you saying it's not an American idiom? I'm saying I know its an English one because we have a riot act
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JFairfax posted:I'm saying I know its an English one because we have a riot act Read the riot act is also an idiom in American English.
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My (24F) boyfriend (28M) gets paranoid when we have sex and keeps going out to buy Plan B when we are already praticing safe sex.CaptainShoe21 posted:My boyfirend and I have been together for 2 months. I had 2 past relationships and have 3 past sexual partner while he also have 2 past relationship but I'm his first sexual partner.
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HMS Beagle posted:Read the riot act is also an idiom in American English. if only the riot act had been effectively enforced upon the upstart Americans
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My [17M] mother is trying to keep me from having a friendship with my favorite cousin [18F] because she thinks we are ‘too close’, any advice?quote:u/DontSayAlabamaPlz
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Straight White Shark posted:My [17M] mother is trying to keep me from having a friendship with my favorite cousin [18F] because she thinks we are ‘too close’, any advice? "u/DontSayAlabamaPlz" well I have to give him a little credit
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Straight White Shark posted:My [17M] mother is trying to keep me from having a friendship with my favorite cousin [18F] because she thinks we are ‘too close’, any advice? OP is secretly VC Andrews.
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Looking for content and stumbled upon another  that I won't copy over, but the title is "I (26F) found terrible stuff while cleaning out my late brother's (30M) room. What do I say to his wife (28F)?" You can guess where it goes, everyone is telling her to stop going through his things ASAP, lawyer up, and turn over every one of his possessions to police.quote:I am sappy. I feel things at a deeper level than most. I (26m) feel that my girlfriend (22f) gets annoyed at it sometimes. 
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 But in a funny way, not an abuse way. Also, don't do drugs, kids.TIFU by putting a 5 hour energy in my vagina kenmademedoit posted:12 hours before my first “grown up job” interview, I was sent a drug test permission form which stated it was to be done on company’s grounds. Considering I smoke weed daily I started looking up ways to pass a drug test. I came to the conclusion that I was going to need some clean pee, a small container, and a way to keep it body temperature. I had clean pee and an off brand 5 hour energy bottle (they’re just a tad wider) but needed temperature strips to monitor the temperature.
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r/relationships I [23M] am really into the thought of my GF [23F] dressing up for me during sex. u/Came_Naller quote:I'm really into the idea of my girlfriend dressing up as Velma (Yes, Velma) and I'm quite worried about being open about it to her.
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Straight White Shark posted:My [17M] mother is trying to keep me from having a friendship with my favorite cousin [18F] because she thinks we are ‘too close’, any advice? lol these cousins def gonna gently caress
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One of the most confusing conversations I remember from my teenage years was a friend who asked wanted everyone in our social group to identify our "hot cousins" for one another, so we could of course arrange some sort of cousin swapping dating system. He was astonished that none of us were able to identify "hot cousins".
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AITA for telling my wife she can't sleep in the same bed as her mom? My wife and I just recently moved 1000 miles away from her family. A little bit of background; my wife is an only child, and her mom was a single mom to her growing up. They are extremely close, talk everyday, video chat every weekend etc. It was her moms birthday a few weeks ago and as a surprise, she flew her mom up here and had her stay with us a couple of days. We all hung out and had a wonderful time; I really get along well with my MIL and it's great. On the last night of my wife's mom being here before her flight in the morning, as we were getting ready for bed, I notice my wife gathering a bunch of blankets and pillows. I ask her what she's doing and she said "oh I'm gonna sleep with my mom tonight". I'll admit I didn't react well because that concept is so weird to me. My family and I are not close at all, my sister and mom have never slept in the same bed, and I find it weird that a woman in her 30s wants to sleep in the same bed as a woman in her 50s. It's...creepy to me. I told her so, and said it icked me out. She got pissed and told me to stop being gross, and that I can gently caress off because she is going to hang out with her mom before she leaves. We got kinda heated, and she stomped off to go spend the night with her mom IN THE SAME BED. The next day, she is still pretty annoyed with me and told me that I'm making a sweet thing so disgusting and weird. I don't feel that I'm wrong, I think it's creepy. She thinks it's normal. Am I the rear end in a top hat?
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If you're a female child, sometimes you have to do the whole "skin hunger" thing for a female parent who otherwise feels sexually pressured during physical contact with their spouse. It's not weird except that it's a way to help in a sad situation. It's not sexual, people need to be able to touch one another.
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JFairfax posted:lol these cousins def gonna gently caress it's like those stories you hear about two really close best friends and one of them having a partner who's concerned about them sleeping in the same bed and taking trips together just the two of them. like, they both might believe that they'll never gently caress but it only takes one weak-willed night and they're sure giving themselves all the opportunity in the world to have one of those
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Pick posted:If you're a female child, sometimes you have to do the whole "skin hunger" thing for a female parent who otherwise feels sexually pressured during physical contact with their spouse. It's not weird except that it's a way to help in a sad situation. It's not sexual, people need to be able to touch one another. 
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CheesyDog posted:One of the most confusing conversations I remember from my teenage years was a friend who asked wanted everyone in our social group to identify our "hot cousins" for one another, so we could of course arrange some sort of cousin swapping dating system. hey it's like the old saying goes, 'if you can't find the hot cousin at the family reunion then it's probably you'
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13Pandora13 posted:I am a pisces and she is a virgo if that tells you anything CheesyDog posted:r/relationships Brother Entropy posted:hey it's like the old saying goes, 'if you can't find the hot cousin at the family reunion then it's probably you'
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platonic skin-feeding is a proven way to reduce stress and likelihood that a parent -will- get involved in extramarital shenanigans
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there's gotta be a better phrase for it than 'skin hunger' tho
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I'm fortunate that all my cousins live hundreds of miles away and are nearly as unattractive as I am.
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Brother Entropy posted:there's gotta be a better phrase for it than 'skin hunger' tho Thats what I call it when I down a bag of pork rinds.
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Skin hunger is a real term used for it, and tbh it's also the least  part of that post
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i like nice words
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MarcusSA posted:Thats what I call it when I down a bag of pork rinds. or when you eat all the skin off a piece of fried chicken before going into the meat itself
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I saw a kid call another kid a goon at a local playground today. I didn’t scream at him but calmly explained that words have meanings and he didn’t even know who JeffK was so he shouldn’t go around saying things he didn’t understand. To my surprise, he told me I cried like Integral and said I should “Go back to Fark”, then all the children laughed and called me a stupid newbie.
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Xik posted:At last count I had 27 cousins and none of them are attractive. I have two types of cousins, "ones that look like me" and "ones that look like me and are also actual NFL linebackers"
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my wife she can't sleep in the same bed as her mom? i think ive posted something like this 15 times or so in this thread, but its really profoundly sad how men have no concept at all of non-sexual touch. and its so strongly ingrained, to the point where many people observing a man touching someone with any degree of care or intimacy or friendliness assumes its sexual
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I know this discussion has died down, but gently caress. This post makes me so annoyed. You suck so much, Pick.Pick posted:I would wager most school-age children don't know what that word is. I don't even know if I've heard it out loud outside a Tarantino movie. This is like the whitest, most ignorant poo poo. If you've honestly never heard the n-word at school or at all outside of a movie, then you've probably lived the most privileged white existence imaginable. Hate to break it to you, but the vast majority of people don't live an existence as sheltered, privileged, and ignorant as yours and have heard racial slurs thrown at themselves and/or other people they know, and unfortunately, brought up in regular conversation too. And yes, most children know what the n-word is, or they understand it has strongly negative connotations if they don't get its direct meaning. Kids aren't dumb and they pick up so much more than you think they do. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 06:32 on Apr 10, 2019 |
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:i think ive posted something like this 15 times or so in this thread, but its really profoundly sad how men have no concept at all of non-sexual touch. and its so strongly ingrained, to the point where many people observing a man touching someone with any degree of care or intimacy or friendliness assumes its sexual counterpoint, sleep boners
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CheesyDog posted:r/relationships Jinkies! Maybe you should get a clue and broach the subject while sharing a scooby snack with her. That way she'll be at ease and won't get the jeepers. But if she rejects the idea, then break up with her and split up the gang so you can find someone who will dress up and zoink you.
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Straight White Shark posted:My [17M] mother is trying to keep me from having a friendship with my favorite cousin [18F] because she thinks we are ‘too close’, any advice? My eyes couldn't roll back further into my head after reading this story. "It's not like we're gonna bang or anything. She just showed me her boobs and we cuddle and sleep together in the same bed all the time." Gross.
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ad090 posted:AITA for cutting my sister out of my life for getting engaged to my worst highschool bully? Apologise for your impulsive actions and volunteer to make a speech to illustrate how you've seen the light. Describe in detail what the bully put you through, conclude by stating he is forever a bastard, and you won't be the slightest bit surprised when he beats the poo poo out of your dumbass sister.
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Pick posted:Would you say then that adult white people all thoroughly and meaningfully understand the American legacy of racism? HOLY WOOOOOWWWWW And this earlier: "see how that works out for you" Children who weren't taught about whipping, WHIPPING and n-----calling by Black people -- grow up into adults who yell n-----, and don't the Black people SEE how they made this happen? Doesn't it just make you throw up your hands in despair? The dumb n----- WILL keep creating adult White racists and getting themselves killed and uff, just all KINDS of delinquency from their Plain Civic Duty. Even in the heat of justified pain, put one step wrong, startle one tiny white angel, fail to make teachable moments out of obscene scars of dehumanization, flare out in a cris de coeur -- AND SEE HOW THAT WORKS OUT FOR YOU In a country and at a time when children just a little older than the little girl are shot by the state see how that works out for you Wait and see how much worse we can make it, n----. The racism is your loving fault now. "I went to some kind of cameo-necklace stucco-facade Carmelite loving convent and I neeeeeverrr even knew the n-word?? Like what even is that? Like... obvi I'm boasting about the rich-idiot Marian-garden counterfeit miniature painting childhood I had and 99% of YOU and certainly not the, what are they called, B-er-lack people? Like the colour? Sorry I just don't see things like that - so, anyway, I can extrapolate from my admittedly EXCEPTIONAL personal experience what the NATIONAL cultural climate is, because the Sisters-of-Clean-Antiseptic-Racism didn't teach me logic" "...keep having feelings. For your loving spawn. Flash into anger when they are called n----, n----, n-----. AND SEE HOW THAT WORKS OUT FOR YOU" Lesson to me, never ever returning to a thread with this poster in it.
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QueenAnnesDead posted:HOLY WOOOOOWWWWW You have learned a valuable lesson here tonight.
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MarcusSA posted:You have learned a valuable lesson here tonight. True. I am hoist by my own petard. Tomorrow morning I am going to find one of the little white shitheads who zoom about on motorized skateboards, scaring old ladies and dachshunds trying to poop, and just punt one across the street. I feel that, in some occult way, that will dilute the venom Pick's gurgled out tonight.
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Pick posted:If you're a female child, sometimes you have to do the whole "skin hunger" thing for a female parent who otherwise feels sexually pressured during physical contact with their spouse. It's not weird except that it's a way to help in a sad situation. It's not sexual, people need to be able to touch one another. Is “skin hunger” what got you into taxidermy?
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Pirate Radar posted:Is “skin hunger” what got you into taxidermy? Pick posted:It's not sexual Nah not the same
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AITA for telling my girlfriend I'm not attracted to her anymore?quote:I have been feeling pretty lovely lately and I think it's my five year relationship. I tried to be as kind as possible and voice my concerns, we spoke about how I feel and why, we both cried, it seemed great. There was one last aspect I felt a need to bring up and I felt bad for doing so, but I felt a need to be transparent. She has not changed, but I'm not that attracted to her anymore. I let her know, said sorry, she cried, said I was awful and left. I think I just hosed this all up for myself. I love this girl and I wanted to work it out, but she actually just walked out of our house crying and I feel terrible, but I thought I was letting her know my concerns gently and calmly. The conversation was going really well before this. Reddit, AITA?
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