Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for wearing “crocs” to work? (Serious, I may have just been denied a promotion) quote:maybe I’m looking at a case of anti-male bias 
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Jun 18, 2019 05:15
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Guaranteed the crocs are the low hanging fruit for the manager to mention. Id guess either anime shirts or camo cargo shorts daily.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:15
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AITA for not eating anything in a 3 course meal? so i work for a really small IT firm in Canada, and recently we finally finished a big project so our upper management (who are based in another city) came to town and took our entire office (only 6 staff members) out to dinner, in a fancy restaurant about 2 miles out of town. The Menu there was already pre decided for everyone. The menu was only revealed to us about 2 hours before we were supposed to arrive so I didn't have chance to see it, but lets just say management had splashed the gently caress out on this. but I am a picky eater, like seriously. I only eat about 10-15 foods. and I rotate them within my diet, and cook for myself. I pulled my boss aside (the one who runs our office) and explained that I would not eat any of the food selected and if I could just order off the regular menu this restaurant has (where I would've been able to get 2 but not 3 courses that I'd eat) he said no and that "I'll eat what I'm given if I want to show respect" so anyway, the starter came and it was Broccoli soup, I don't like broccoli soup so I just ate one of the slices of bread that came on the side of the dish. The Main Course was Lobster fried rice, I absolutely despise lobster so I didn't touch a single thing on this plate and just sat there sort of staring at it, while drinking my water (which I had ordered to not drink the expensive $200 bottle of wine which i didn't like) at this point I could see my boss might be slightly frustrated with me so I kept my conversation down to a bare minimum. When dessert came it was just lots of fruit and a couple bowls of things to dip in (think strawberries and cream) I don't eat fruit so I too had none of this. When it was time to say goodbye the 2 men from management shook my hand but didn't speak a word to me like they had to everyone else, and my boss simply didn't say a word to me. but I received a text a few hours after saying "we'll talk next time you're in the office" (I'm on vacation for 4 days now) so AITA reddit? Part of me thinks I am for not eating, but part of me thinks that I offered to order separately so its not really my fault. quote:yes, I have minor functioning autism.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:19
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Pinecone Sample posted:AITA for wearing “crocs” to work? (Serious, I may have just been denied a promotion) YOSPOS SHOE CHAT, I SUMMON THEE. Er hem. If you don't wear at least 300 USD minimum shoes, people will mistake you for a waiter or poor person. Definitely get a pair of black leather shoes and brown leather shoes for maximum outfit coord.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:19
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not eating anything in a 3 course meal? How loving dare they not have tendies and honey musty?! Heffer posted:Guaranteed the crocs are the low hanging fruit for the manager to mention. Id guess either anime shirts or camo cargo shorts daily. Found a pic of the OP 
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Jun 18, 2019 05:20
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quote:Almost Any form of Beef (Burgers, Steak, Mince) all well done
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Jun 18, 2019 05:22
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not eating anything in a 3 course meal? Ehhh I'd say NTA just because people with autism are basically known for having sensory issues. If they manage to have 10-15 food items they can handle, and not die of scurvy good for them. But honestly they should have notified management on their dietary requirements. Just say it's an allergy thing. Seafood and fruit allergies is a known problem. Or say they're a mormon and such food is sinful. gently caress them for not earing free lobster. They could at least eat the rice portion. RICE IS LOVE. RICE IS LIFE.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:22
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Who the gently caress chose that course progression? Broccoli soup leading into fried rice? That's horrifying
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Jun 18, 2019 05:24
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I know the guy has autism but lol that he just dug the hole deeper by talking as little as possible, like he was the inverse of fat camp Buddha.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:26
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Who the gently caress does a set three piece meal with "lobster friend rice". I'm laughing that the picky eater but also at the stupid rube that thought "broccoli soup, lobster fried rice and fruit" was some sort of ~high class~ meal.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:30
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Unfortunately, I think knowing the etiquette of "take a couple bites/look like you're eating, don't make it obvious" is also going to be lost on a person with autism who isn't prepared for that situation, but that was definitely the thing to do there. EDIT: That said, that meal really is bizarre. Each of the components are delicious individually, but who put that poo poo together?
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Jun 18, 2019 05:30
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Plan Tacos sounds like tacos where the shells are blueprints
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Jun 18, 2019 05:34
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value-brand cereal posted:gently caress them for not earing free lobster. They could at least eat the rice portion. RICE IS LOVE. RICE IS LIFE. This poster is clearly terrible, but shellfish allergies are no loving joke so it was weird of the management to make that choice in advance. Unless this was some secret test to make sure nobody in the office was kosher...
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Jun 18, 2019 05:34
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I hate picky eaters but someone having to drink thick hot vegetable water to appease their corporate masters or get fired also sucks. e: He does say small company, so not corporate master, I guess like a LLC Lordling maybe
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Jun 18, 2019 05:35
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comments from the crocodile when people start speculating why he doesn't like the woman who got the promotion:quote:You said it but everyone is thinking it. Especially because she’s the “quirky hot girl” who claims to love GoT but couldn’t identify GRRM in a police line up. quote:Dude you can see she wears thong panties under her dresses, that’s unprofessional
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Jun 18, 2019 05:35
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LanceHunter posted:This poster is clearly terrible, but shellfish allergies are no loving joke so it was weird of the management to make that choice in advance. Unless this was some secret test to make sure nobody in the office was kosher... Yeah, I was just thinking about what a catastrophic choice a lobster dish is for a mandated business dinner. Kashrut, allergies, vegetarians/vegans...
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Jun 18, 2019 05:37
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Smirking_Serpent posted:comments from the crocodile when people start speculating why he doesn't like the woman who got the promotion: Why_I_should_be_fired.txt
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Jun 18, 2019 05:37
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Smirking_Serpent posted:comments from the crocodile when people start speculating why he doesn't like the woman who got the promotion: The thong panty thing is loving ridiculous. Thong under a dress minimizes panty line and is essential with certain fabrics. Basic-rear end formal womenswear thing there. Dude has no style AND is a loving clueless misogynist.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:41
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QuarkJets posted:Expecting men around the world to safeguard nude photos is just setting yourself up for failure. Like, seriously? You expect a level of maturity and respect that most men aren't even capable of pretending to muster? Yes. And, furthermore? So should you.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:43
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Resting Lich Face posted:The thong panty thing is loving ridiculous. Thong under a dress minimizes panty line and is essential with certain fabrics. Basic-rear end formal womenswear thing there. Dude has no style AND is a loving clueless misogynist. Yeah, that line alone makes it very clear that he is an incel who knows nothing about women. If everything else he said didn't indicate this as well...
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Jun 18, 2019 05:48
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AITA for “harassing” my uncle because I would like to meet him and he doesn’t want that? I come from the “trashy” branch of my family. Mom is mentally ill and abusive, dad spent 20+ years in prison, both are junkies and first cousins. I was born in the middle of drugs, violence, mental illness and incest, yet I somehow did good for myself. I’m 24 and I just completed my PhD (2 years ahead!), despite being the first in my side of the family to ever complete high school, much less college. I have a very bad relationship with my parents and siblings, I’ve been independent since I was a teenager, I have a good job. My regret comes from my uncle (dad’s brother). He is like me, coming from a poo poo family but rising above his station and becoming the CFO of a rather large corporation all on its own merit. He is very much a family man, he gives $10,000 to each of his nephews and nieces every year because he doesn’t have kids himself and he actively participated to raise them. My branch of the family (my parents, my siblings and me) are the only ones excluded from it. For good reason, because my parents stole a lot from him for drugs, they were usually rude to my uncle and the last time he saw my father, dad threatened him to steal $20k. But while I respect his hatred for my parents, I feel unjustly punished. All my cousins are homeowners thanks to his gifts, they all live pretty great lives while I had to live in poverty and crawl my way up with no support. Now that I “made it,” I would like to be judged on my own merit. I would accept it if he doesn’t want to give me the $240,000 I would have gotten from him if I were born in another branch of the family, but I want to hear it from his mouth. I also mostly want to have a relationship with my uncle, because my entire life, despite never meeting him, I considered him a role model to motivate me to get out of my family’s hole. I tried to contact him through cousins who see him often, through mail, etc, but he always ignored me. I eventually went to his house and rang the bell, but nobody opened the door although he was home. Finally, I went to his workplace and talked to his secretary, but I was told that my uncle was locked in his office and that I had to vacate the premises or the cops would be called. I just wanted to talk to my uncle, for god’s sake. After that, I received a mail from my uncle, essentially telling me that he considered me trying to contact him and showing up at his home and work “harassment.” He demands I stop or he’ll press charges. I was never told to back off before what feels like the nuclear option, and I never did anything to warrant him treating me so badly (even though i’m related to people who did). I will drop it and stop trying to see him, I guess, but was I wrong to try and meet my uncle like I did? EDIT: It would seem I made the front page and suddenly this blew up, lol. I would like to address a few points that keep being brought up: I WOULD HAVE DONE THE SAME EVEN IF MY UNCLE WEREN'T RICH. This is the most important point. I am not and was never after the money. I realize I conveyed that very poorly, but I never felt entitled to the same gifts he gave my cousins; I would be lying if I said I didn't daydream about being brought into that close-knit family and getting some of the money too, but I was more than willing to accept I wouldn't get anything. I would have never even brought it up if my uncle had accepted to meet me. I backed off as soon as I was told to. The cease and desist letter was literally the first thing from my uncle telling me he didn't want to talk to me. One day I was in the city where he lives on unrelated business, so I told myself "I know his address, I may as well try to knock on the door and see what happens!" I tried to go to his house, then his business, and I finally received the mail telling me to back off, all within one day. I immediately stopped afterward. I did not stalk my uncle over long periods of time, as most comments seem to imply I did. For a decade or so, I would send the occasional email every few months, like "Hey uncle, I just started studying at X university, I will be living on campus now!" in September, then nothing until June of the next year with a mail saying "Hey, I will be moving in with roommates, I feel pretty good about that! By the way, I have a new number, (XXX) XXX-XXX, feel free to get in touch if you ever feel like it  " I think I kept it very light and friendly all along. Then, one day, I tried to meet my uncle in person, and that went terribly badly. After that day, I completely stopped all attempts to reach out to him. If anything, I expected people to find me pathetic and sad, as I was essentially a lonely kid trying to have a relationship with an uncle who clearly wants nothing to do with me; I didn't expect people to accuse me of being creepy and predatory.I am not a scary person. I'm 5 foot 6, skinny and nerdy. I was never aggressive at any point of the process. When the secretary told me to go away or she'd call the cops, I wasn't confrontational, I didn't scream or anything; I was mortified and apologized and booked it out of there immediately. I tried my best to be as nice and friendly as anyone could be in that situation. I find it pretty upsetting that lots of comments depict me as a crazed axe murderer stalking my uncle in the dark woods, ready to pounce. Lastly, I see a lot of people with a lot of good points, and I am glad I started this discussion because it helps a lot to put things in perspective. For instance, I realize in hindsight that my uncle ignoring all my mails was enough a sign he doesn't want me in his life, but I was desperate to find a "normal family" besides my junkie parents that I remained willfully blind to it. I want to thank those of you who left constructive comments, I appreciate it greatly! I completely accept I'm TA here. Thanks for that.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:50
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AITA for traveling while my wife is pregnant? My wife is 6 months pregnant. We were planning to travel but our plans got cancelled because she was scared of traveling. I don’t think canceling the trip was necessary but it is what it is. She has been driving me crazy for the past months. I understand the hormonal changes during pregnancy but it’s extremely annoying. She told me she can’t stand the smell of cigarettes (I smoke) so she refuses to be around me. We rarely hang out and she always eats alone. Even though I have stopped smoking around her I grew really tired of her so last month I decided I was going on a trip to Vegas with my friends in July. She was pissed and says I’m being an rear end in a top hat. Apparently she needs me around but we barely hang out together. AITA here?
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Jun 18, 2019 05:50
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:Yes. Exactly. Just expecting and accepting men being creeps is just as bad as saying "boys will be boys" Don't give people like that an out
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Jun 18, 2019 05:52
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Pirate Radar posted:Oh yeah I forget which page it was on but the post saying Americans don’t eat fish multiple times a week had me real confused It was me and I stand by it 
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Jun 18, 2019 05:53
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for traveling while my wife is pregnant? Messy divorce incoming.
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Jun 18, 2019 05:55
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You should hold men to a high standard and if they do lovely things hold them accountable. That's different than saying "here you go I trust you with something that can destroy me"
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Jun 18, 2019 06:00
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Heffer posted:Guaranteed the crocs are the low hanging fruit for the manager to mention. Id guess either anime shirts or camo cargo shorts daily. It's probably another post by the guy who wears superhero clothes everywhere.
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Jun 18, 2019 06:04
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cumshitter posted:I know the guy has autism but lol that he just dug the hole deeper by talking as little as possible, like he was the inverse of fat camp Buddha. Yeah, gently caress him for having a disability.
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Jun 18, 2019 06:05
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Hellblazer187 posted:That's different than saying "here you go I trust you with something that can destroy me" Something like. . . Physical sexual contact? We're cool with raw dogging a tindr fling but sending a photo of the pregame warmup suddenly whhhoooooOOOOOAAAAAAOOOOoooohhh slow down pardner, you could poke an eye out!
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Jun 18, 2019 06:13
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for traveling while my wife is pregnant?  I hope that GF leaves him and takes him to the loving cleaners, just for smoking around her and their unborn child.
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Jun 18, 2019 06:14
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AITA for taking back the Xbox 360 I gave my younger brother on his birthday?quote:My brother is 9 years old. His birthday was 3 weeks ago, but for the past year, he has become addicted to playing games on his kindle fire. Now, I've had this old Xbox 360 for 7 years, I've poured months into it. I have at least 30 to 40 games for it, and I've enjoyed having it. I loved playing all my games but two years ago I bought an Xbox One with some cash that I had been saving for a while, and the Xbox 360 has been collecting dust on my TV stand. I felt sorry for my younger brother only having a kindle fire at his age when I owned a PlayStation 2 and Nintendo DS when I was 9, and his birthday was soon so I decided to give him my Xbox and all of my games.
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Jun 18, 2019 06:15
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quote:I am a team leader in a very small company. My team only has two other members. A few weeks ago, one of them, Jamie, got married. A few other colleagues and I were invited to the evening reception. The other member of the team got drunk and was abusive to many guests and even knocked small children over on the dance floor. When everyone was trying to leave, he started to get naked and violently abusive in the venue's car park. Jamie asked him to leave and he hit Jamie twice, knocking him to the floor. Guests were trying to eject him, but he was throwing punches and fighting them. He also spat blood all over the bride. His girlfriend punched the bride too. Jamie did not want to spend his wedding night with police giving statements so did not press charges. quote:Your employer isn't powerless; they absolutely can take action over this if they want to, just like they could take action over, say, a sexual harassment incident that happened outside of work. Who knows, they might be choosing not to get involved because they don't know for sure what happened and they'd have to do an investigation (although it sounds like there were multiple employees there who could be witnesses). But asking Jamie to "forgive and forget" the guy who punched him at his wedding, spat blood all over the bride, and generally caused a massive scene at his wedding is ... a tall order.
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Jun 18, 2019 06:18
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ive got some strategy tips for life and one of them is: always full-a press charges
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Jun 18, 2019 06:23
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my neighbours that their daughter got her first period? This touches on a hotly-debated ethical issue in healthcare. The law needs things to be black and white, so at 17 and 354 days old you are a child, incapable of independent legal action, ward of your parents or guardians, and at 18 years zero days on the dot, at midnight, you arent. But the reality is much grayer than that, and teens are both forming an identity for themselves and starting to take on decisions and responsibilities that will have lifelong effects on their lives. In recognition of that, reproductive health is one of the places the law makes exceptions to parental soverignity in some cases. Normally, you always have to make a good-faith effort to contact the kid's parents, but in reproductive health, if the kid asks you to not tell their parents, you're obligated to honor that request as if the kid was an adult, because the kid knows their family better than you do and if there's one facet of a teens life where they're making adult-scale decisions, it's reproductive health. Ultimately, dude did everything he needed to do to make sure she had what she needed, including calling in backup from the lady at the drugstore to check his work. They are welcome to not be pleased with not being told, but it was unexpected, the kid got the care she needed, and in the absence of further guidance the guy took the kid at her word. Acknowledge and validate the parents' frustration without being a doormat. this is a big scary deal for them, i'm sure. this may end up as an agree-to-disagree thing, and they may not want you watching their kids again, but you didn't do a bad and are definitely the opposite of an rear end in a top hat e: this warmed my bitter callous heart
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Jun 18, 2019 06:26
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WIBTA if I don't go down on a girl for being an outie?quote:I don't really know where I should start. We both met on a party of a friend. We exchanged numbers, you all probably know how it usually works nowadays. She(18) is a lovely and nice girl. We talked for a bit and after a while she told me that she is still a virgin. No biggie, everyone has to start somewhere right? While flirting with her I(20) brought up that I could be teaching pretty much everything that I know. She was pretty excited about it. However last night as we talked before making out she brought up the fact that she didn't like how her vag looked like. I have only felt hers once before and it was during night time outside (just fingering, nothing else). So I didn't really see it before however I knew what was coming up. And she is correct, it doesn't really look appealing to me for being an outie. By telling her that I will teach her we even brought up stuff I could do to her so she knows what I would be able to do on other girls like giving head to her or doing 69 (eventhough I haven't even done it myself yet lol) and all kinds of stuff. The question now is, WIBTA if I decide not to do these things to her eventhough I kind of told her I would do exactly that? Would it be better if I talk to her about it or if I just pretend not to do it? it took me way too long to figure out this dude wasn't talking about belly buttons. also i'm almost 100% sure that whatever he thinks he can teach this girl is just stuff he's seen in porn before
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Jun 18, 2019 06:32
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i vomit kittens posted:i'm almost 100% sure that whatever he thinks he can teach this girl is just stuff he's seen in porn before Almost? You're not giving yourself enough credit there.
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Jun 18, 2019 06:33
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Does she have a penis? That post is baffling.
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Jun 18, 2019 06:41
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She has inner labia. Young men think women shouldn't
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Jun 18, 2019 06:42
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subpar anachronism posted:Does she have a penis? That post is baffling. This is the only explanation im comfortable with
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Jun 18, 2019 06:44
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:Something like. . . Physical sexual contact? We're cool with raw dogging a tindr fling but sending a photo of the pregame warmup suddenly whhhoooooOOOOOAAAAAAOOOOoooohhh slow down pardner, you could poke an eye out! Lol going raw on a tinder hookup is also incredibly dumb and not advisable. Edit: I'm a boring lame weiner but I'm a consistent boring lame weiner. Hellblazer187 fucked around with this message at 06:48 on Jun 18, 2019 |
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Jun 18, 2019 06:44
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