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Best Bi Geek Squid: Mar 25, 2016

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I don’t hire a fully qualified girl for a job because she is the one who cheated with my fiancé? (Cheating was almost 4 years ago).

For some background I was deeply in love with my fiancé, we were about two months away from the wedding when I found out he cheated on me. I knew of the girl but had never met her but had it on pretty credible authority that she pursued him knowing he was engaged. It was still his fault so while I called off the wedding but tried to reconcile and forgive, I just couldn’t do it. We broke up but it was a year before I could even face the world socially and 2.5 years before I went on another date. I’m past it but will probably never truly be over the hurt.

I work HR at a large tech company and am in charge of hiring new people to work in our sales department. The girl in question has a fairly unique first name so when I saw her name I thought it might be her but her last name didn’t match. But when she sat down for our initial interview (me and one other person) we instantly recognized each other. I have to give her full credit, she was nervous for about a minute and then composed herself and gave an amazing interview. Her credentials are spot on and obviously she has the ability to talk and be a good sales person.

But part of me feels like “gently caress you, I don’t need to reward you with a Commissioned sales position with an amazing base salary.” My co-interviewer thought she was a slam dunk but the decision still goes to me. We have interviewed 34 people so I can easily hire someone else and raise no red flags, but the key is she is the most qualified and gave the best interview.

She sent a very polite email thanking us for the interview and asked if I would be willing to meet with her again to discuss potential “conflicts.” I have yet to respond. I guess I have two choices, meet with her she probably hire her OR I just hire someone else a little less qualified and no one but me will ever know.

WIBTA if I don’t hire her?

apart from being an rear end in a top hat, that could create a sex discrimination issue. Unless if you're in Iowa - then you might be able to use the jealous spouse defense

https://www.lexology.com/library/detail.aspx?g=f0ecbd4e-de14-48f0-9cfc-45ab0a31019f

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Can a female employee terminated because her employer’s wife was threatened by her relationship with the male employer sue for sex discrimination?

Answering the question for the second time, the Iowa Supreme Court unanimously said “no.”

Melissa Nelson was 20 years old when Dr. James Knight, a dentist, hired her to be a dental assistant in his practice. Over the next 10 years the two built a personal relationship that occasionally crossed the line of propriety but was not sexual. Both married with children, Nelson and Knight would text each other about family issues.

But Knight also sent questionable texts, wondering how often Nelson had orgasms. In the office he occasionally complained that her clothing was too tight and “distracting,” noting that if she saw his pants bulging, she would know her clothing was too revealing. When Nelson made a statement about her infrequent sex life, Knight responded, “[T]hat’s like having a Lamborghini in the garage and never driving it.”

When Knight’s wife – who also worked in the dental office – discovered the two texted after hours, she insisted that Nelson be terminated, calling her “a big threat to our marriage.” Although Knight acknowledged that Nelson was the best assistant he ever had, he fired her, admitting that he feared he would try to have an affair with her if she kept working in the office.

She filed suit, alleging sex discrimination in violation of Iowa state law. Had she been male, Nelson claimed, she would never have been seen as a threat by Knight’s wife and terminated. Importantly, she did not allege that Knight committed sexual harassment or that she was subject to a hostile work environment.

But the court concluded that Knight’s conduct did not amount to unlawful sex discrimination.

“Title VII and the Iowa Civil Rights Act are not general fairness laws, and an employer does not violate them by treating an employee unfairly so long as the employer does not engage in discrimination based upon the employee’s protected status,” the court said

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:33

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# ? Jun 11, 2024 20:35

HIJK: Nov 25, 2012; in the room where you sleep

HOT BREAD! posted:

and Lo, the cycle of Ye Manchilde continues, evermore

edit: actually maybe not, the kid actually seems like he wants to change, so the only rear end in a top hat here is the useless mother for raising another dumbass that thinks fuckin' Hamburger Helper is "fancy poo poo"

Yeah the mom here is not doing this right. Like if you wake up one day and realize that you�ve done wrong by your kid and he can�t take care of himself then you need to fix it by teaching him different. If he�s an rear end and a jerk and still wants his tendies then yeah okay, more understandable to go scorched earth on him. But it�s a bad idea to start with the nuclear option.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:33

Fitzy Fitz: May 14, 2005

MarcusSA posted:

Yes YTA.

Now if she was the manager she�d Be NTA but since she�s an HR drone who wouldn�t have much if any interaction with the lady beyond hiring she�d be a huge rear end in a top hat for it.

Can others weigh in on this?

I would not even consider hiring her if there were over 30 other candidates.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:35

Danaru: Jun 5, 2012; 何 ??

Getting yelled at by your parents for not being able to do stuff they actively prevented you from learning how to do is basically the life story of everyone under 40

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:36

new boot goofin: Jul 23, 2007; like school in july

TheManWithNoName posted:

I feel worse for the wife who got lawyer�d into thinking it was her fault for not blowing him or whatever.

Yeah no kidding, that guy is such a piece of poo poo. I did enjoy the girl thinking she was going to "get in trouble" though. That's so cute. I almost want to ask her like, with who???? The Snooping Police????

HIJK posted:

Yeah the mom here is not doing this right. Like if you wake up one day and realize that you�ve done wrong by your kid and he can�t take care of himself then you need to fix it by teaching him different. If he�s an rear end and a jerk and still wants his tendies then yeah okay, more understandable to go scorched earth on him. But it�s a bad idea to start with the nuclear option.

Absofucking lutely. What fucks me up too is apparently his 14 year old sister does just fine cooking, so there has clearly been some gender-based parenting differences there. I feel bad for the kid.

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AITA for getting annoyed when my husband repeatedly wakes me up masturbating in bed?

Throwaway because my husband lurks.

My husband (26) and I (26) have been together for 6 years and married for 1. This has been an ongoing issue through our entire relationship. I truly don't mind if he masturbates because I understand that we all have needs, but I am a very light sleeper and between the light of his phone and the shaking from the motion it wakes me up. He'll stop for a minute, I go back to sleep, and then we repeat this cycle another 5-10 times until he finishes.

I find this really disrespectful to me. I have told him many times that this irritates me and I make him aware of my irritation every time he wakes me up. Last night, however, he acted like I was being completely unreasonable about it. After the 5th time of waking up and trying to get him to stop I moved out to the couch. Like I said, I don't care if he does it, I don't care where he does it and when he does it as long as it's not in bed when I'm trying to sleep.

AITA here?

Thanks for all the responses! It sparked an interesting debate and I appreciate all the advice given.

yeah but does it go clink clink or is it more of a "change hitting bucket" situation

edit: reddit motherfuckin' delivers hahahahahsdaskjflkjsdglkj

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edited 1 month ago
I suggest opening up a conversation about this. Your guy's sex life might not be as good for him as it is for you. That doesn't give him license to wake you up, but it seems lots of couples have problems in this area due to lack of communication. He genuinely might not know what else to do.

new boot goofin fucked around with this message at 22:40 on Jul 1, 2019

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:36

BOOTY-ADE: Aug 30, 2006; BIG KOOL TELLIN' Y'ALL TO KEEP IT TIGHT

HOT BREAD! posted:

and Lo, the cycle of Ye Manchilde continues, evermore

edit: actually maybe not, the kid actually seems like he wants to change, so the only rear end in a top hat here is the useless mother for raising another dumbass that thinks fuckin' Hamburger Helper is "fancy poo poo"

If he can get online to bitch on Reddit, he can look up how to cook on Google or Youtube. Sounds more like he's using his mom "teaching" his sister as a cop-out to get her to cook something.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:40

Pvt.Scott: Feb 16, 2007; What God wants, God gets, God help us all

chitoryu12 posted:

My (21F) older sister (26f) destroys my hobbies by upstaging me. (Very long)

Get gud, scrub.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:43

Telemaze: Apr 22, 2008; What you expected hasn't happened.; Fun Shoe

Renegret posted:

They're just trying to overcompensate for being forced to live their lives as walking, talking bags of baby food who slowly grow to resent their partners because they get to sleep peacefully through the night while the baby happily wakes mommy up 3 times during the night to eat for a solid year.

So maybe I'd be singing a different song if I could stick my own hairy, floppy man boob in my baby's mouth, but at least with a bottle I can take equal responsibility in meeting the needs of my child instead of dumping full responsibility on my wife like so many poo poo rear end fathers out there do.

What is this bizarre take? A man isn't a poo poo father because his child is breastfed by its mother. That's completely ignoring the fact that many women actively want to, and choose to, breastfeed their babies.

Also calling breastfeeding mothers "walking, talking bags of baby food" is gross as gently caress.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:57

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

Girlfriend (21f) is angry that I (24m) want to gamble.

We�ve been together for 3.5 years now. I�ve always enjoyed gambling, and there was a time where she almost left me because she felt that I was spending too much time at the casino, and not enough time with her. But we got through it, and I haven�t been gambling since then.

But today my friend said he�d be in my area (which has some pretty good casinos) and invited me to go with him to a few. I told my girlfriend that I�ll be going tonight even though I have work in the morning. My job isn�t going so well, so I want to earn some extra money. I�m not going for fun.

She was extremely upset and I could barely get an answer out of her. But from what I could gather, there�s 2 reasons she�s angry. The first one is obviously because of our past. The second reason is because she�s been having family problems. Her uncle is addicted to slot machines and basically has been tearing her family apart. My girlfriend, her parents, her grandparents, and other uncles are involved in spending large amounts of money to clean up the mess her uncle made. This has all been going on recently, so she said she feels disrespected that I suddenly want to gamble at this time.

While I understand her pain as much as I can, this has nothing to do with me. I think she�s being a bit unreasonable by it. I�m a grown man, so I can go gambling with my friend. Well she didn�t say that I couldn�t go, but she won�t even talk to me right now. I�m at work so I can�t do much besides text her. And she�s not online nor opening my messages. It worries me a bit but I think she�s just upset.

I don�t want to skip going to the casino just because her uncle is addicted or because it caused problems in the past. I�m going there to make a little extra cash and it�s just one time. It�s not like I�m leaving at 1am to go.

Do you guys have some advice? How do I talk to her to make her feel better about it? Or do I just let her feel upset because she�s having a tough time (that sounds mean, but I mean � to let her feel her emotions, if that makes sense) Like should I wait it out and see if she calms down? I don�t know what to do

TL;DR GF�s uncle has caused massive problems with her family due to a gambling addiction. Because of this, she got upset when I said I�m going to the casino tonight, after a long time. I don�t know what to do next � she�s ignoring me and very angry

Edit I told her that I really want to see my friend, so maybe she can understand. Then she suggested that I just go to dinner with him and hangout instead. I don�t think that�s fair, even though it�s a good suggestion

Update I decided to not go to the casino after all. I chose my girlfriend�s feelings over mine. I came to her home and stay here with her instead. I also searched up things about gambling addiction. Even if I don�t have it, maybe I can better understand to support her.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 22:58

Pvt.Scott: Feb 16, 2007; What God wants, God gets, God help us all

Midnight Voyager posted:

Yes? That kind of thing isn't for creativity or ambition you loving weirdo. It's a zen therapeutic thing. I have a friend who started doing those when she was trying to bust alcoholism. It calmed her nerves and helped her relax.

Crossword puzzles helped get me through sobering up from my little alcoholism issue. I did so many loving crosswords. I don�t even like crosswords.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:17

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Telemaze posted:

What is this bizarre take? A man isn't a poo poo father because his child is breastfed by its mother. That's completely ignoring the fact that many women actively want to, and choose to, breastfeed their babies.

Also calling breastfeeding mothers "walking, talking bags of baby food" is gross as gently caress.

I think Renegret is referring to the mommy blogger mafia who are constantly involved in oneupsmomship and false momvertising around who can be the nuttiest and most self-sacrificing mom, and who tell women that can't or don't want to breastfeed that they are bad mothers. I think he's posted in other threads about his wife's struggle to breastfeed their new baby and how other moms shat on her for not being able to.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:24

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; Ultra Carp

MarcusSA posted:

Yes YTA.

Now if she was the manager she�d Be NTA but since she�s an HR drone who wouldn�t have much if any interaction with the lady beyond hiring she�d be a huge rear end in a top hat for it.

Oh yeah, actions shouldn't have consequences

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:27

Play: Apr 25, 2006; Strong stroll for a mangy stray

Pick posted:

This actually really fucks up your kid, thanks

No it really doesn't, lol. My parents did a similar thing and it taught me a lot about money, work and life. A little uncertainty is okay, it teaches you to value what you have.

Maybe these parents didn't implement the idea in the best way, but the thought was good. They don't want to end up with a little spoiled prick who knows mommy and daddys money will take care of everything always. And before you say it I don't see anywhere where they told him that he would starve if he bought the snack. They just compared the snack to actual food in terms of cost to make it clear to him that things have value and don't just appear (like they seem to when you're a kid)

Haifisch posted:

Society as a whole is offended at the idea that you should live within your means instead of accumulating tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt/car loans/etc.

I don't judge people who are poor and desperate to have some small nice thing for once, or people who make the conscious decision that a starbucks coffee every morning is worth more to them than a new phone/buying a house slightly sooner/whatever, but there are plenty of people out there who could afford some of the things they want & go into debt because they feel entitled to all of the things they want.

It's more than living within your means, it's living within your NEEDS. Our society tells us that we must have more more more. More than the neighbors, more than the sister in law, more than the coworker. Always more.

The goal really should be to live with less. Even when I make more and more money, I try to reduce my needs. I live in a small apartment to keep energy use down and I ride my bike as much as humanly possible. I don't buy into the argument that having money means spending it. If I have a million dollars saved up at the time of my death I can just donate it where it will do some good. Constantly consuming is horrible and I applaud those parents for trying to teach their son that lesson, even if maybe it wasn't done as well as it could've been.

chitoryu12 posted:

If it's funny I'll still post it. I like Major Tom guy.

That technique works, I used to do it all the time. We'd even do it together at raves in a unified technique called the elevator (not with our dicks out, this isn't a sex thing it's more like a drug thing). Never even entered my mind to apply that to jacking off but I'm not surprised it entered someone else's.

I agree with you, though. A man passing out, falling down, cumming all over himself while unconscious and being discovered by mom is definitely within the spirit of this thread

chitoryu12 posted:

Coworker gave me a FUGLY necklace

Either it's a re-gift or you just got something with a curse on it.

Hang it up at your desk, because who cares if it's ugly sitting up on your cubicle wall but then she can never complain you aren't wearing it but you also never have to wear it

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:29

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; Ultra Carp

Fitzy Fitz posted:

Can others weigh in on this?

I would not even consider hiring her if there were over 30 other candidates.

IF someone pursued your fiance, got them, broke up your wedding plans, and hurt you so badly that you "couldn't face the world for a year" and didn't date for 2.5 years, then you are not under any obligation to be kind, polite, or fair to them and it is the height of foolishness to think otherwise. Further, if the OP does hire the lady who cucked her, OP seems like she'll be so messed up by it that she'll end up having a breakdown, quitting her job, or doing something else extreme. Besides which, if this lady is so qualified, she's not exactly going to have a hard time finding work and the injustice, if any, is minimal

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:31

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Vim Fuego posted:

IF someone pursued your fiance, got them, broke up your wedding plans, and hurt you so badly that you "couldn't face the world for a year" and didn't date for 2.5 years, then you are not under any obligation to be kind, polite, or fair to them and it is the height of foolishness to think otherwise. Further, if the OP does hire the lady who cucked her, OP seems like she'll be so messed up by it that she'll end up having a breakdown, quitting her job, or doing something else extreme. Besides which, if this lady is so qualified, she's not exactly going to have a hard time finding work and the injustice, if any, is minimal

Yeah, "rear end in a top hat who has personal drama with the interviewer" is not a protected class.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:33

FilthyImp: Sep 30, 2002; Anime Deviant

I think the chick's already preparing for "I WASNT HIRED BECAUSE OF PERSONAL BITCH BIAS" with the email that says stuff about reaching our and working out their differences.

Girl needs to be honest at this point and just say "She's qualified, but I have a personal reservation because {reason} and I should step away from this decision". Maybe everyone else will go "yeah that sucks next"

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:35

Scathach: Apr 4, 2011; You know that thing where you sleep on your arm funny and when you wake up it's all numb? Yeah that's my whole world right now.

Okay, the rape part of the "not gay" one is terrible. Jesus. I doubt much would change even if they thought he was straight, though. That's more like "hey there's a dude I can get drunk and do poo poo to without getting in trouble." Some rapey rear end in a top hat is looking for an easy mark regardless of who the mark is attracted to.

Terrifying poo poo aside, why is he worried he's not attractive to women when he already has a girlfriend?

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:35

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Fitzy Fitz posted:

Can others weigh in on this?

I would not even consider hiring her if there were over 30 other candidates.

Nor would I. We can find dozens of other candidates who don't have a personal history with someone in the company. By definition, she is *not* the most qualified, because "gets along with our existing staff" is a critical qualification.

Also, for whoever brought it up, this is not sex discrimination. Discrimination has a very specific legal definition that you're refusing to hire them because of their gender. That is not the case here - she's not being refused because of her gender, she's being refused because of personal conflicts with an existing staff member. That's a completely legitimate and legal reason to say no to someone.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:41

Play: Apr 25, 2006; Strong stroll for a mangy stray

Scathach posted:

Okay, the rape part of the "not gay" one is terrible. Jesus. I doubt much would change even if they thought he was straight, though. That's more like "hey there's a dude I can get drunk and do poo poo to without getting in trouble." Some rapey rear end in a top hat is looking for an easy mark regardless of who the mark is attracted to.

Terrifying poo poo aside, why is he worried he's not attractive to women when he already has a girlfriend?

Yeah the way he told that part too makes it seem like he doesn't quite realize how hosed up that was. He was sexually assaulted but you wouldn't know it from how he glosses over those parts and treats them like just another inconvenience stemming from people thinking he was gay. It's kinda worse than that dude

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:46

Leon Einstein: Feb 6, 2012; I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

Play posted:

It's more than living within your means, it's living within your NEEDS. Our society tells us that we must have more more more. More than the neighbors, more than the sister in law, more than the coworker. Always more.

The goal really should be to live with less.

I totally agree. My sister will make comments asking if I'm ever going to move, and I tell her I don't plan on it. My house is plenty big for my family and plenty nice. I live in the city and can get to pretty much anything going on in 15 minutes. The idea of living in a big mcmansion with 6 rooms and a theater room in the suburbs sounds like hell to me. Always trying to keep up in a neverending race where everybody ends up dead anyway seems pointless.

I use a SD projector from the mid-aughts that was like 30 bucks hooked up to an ancient roku to have my own theater out in my yard thank you very much.

Unfortunately 99% of people just want more and more and more.

# ? Jul 1, 2019 23:47

Fitzy Fitz: May 14, 2005

therobit posted:

Yeah, "rear end in a top hat who has personal drama with the interviewer" is not a protected class.

OK, this has gotten off track from the original question. Legal considerations aside, I see no reason that she would be an rear end in a top hat for passing over the woman who slept with her fiance. It might be unprofessional or arguably illegal, but it's not an rear end in a top hat thing to do.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:10

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Fitzy Fitz posted:

OK, this has gotten off track from the original question. Legal considerations aside, I see no reason that she would be an rear end in a top hat for passing over the woman who slept with her fiance. It might be unprofessional or arguably illegal, but it's not an rear end in a top hat thing to do.

Agreed. Someone suggested there would be grounds for a sex discrimination lawsuit, that's what I was reacting to. It's kind of weird that people would think she is under any obligation to employ this woman.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:13

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

HIJK posted:

Yeah the mom here is not doing this right. Like if you wake up one day and realize that you�ve done wrong by your kid and he can�t take care of himself then you need to fix it by teaching him different. If he�s an rear end and a jerk and still wants his tendies then yeah okay, more understandable to go scorched earth on him. But it�s a bad idea to start with the nuclear option.

Goddamn parents whose kids are helpless little babies right up until they do actually need something then suddenly they're obviously fully self-sufficient adults who don't need to be taught anything.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:14

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

Play posted:

No it really doesn't, lol. My parents did a similar thing and it taught me a lot about money, work and life. A little uncertainty is okay, it teaches you to value what you have.

"It didn't mess me up, so it messes nobody up!" Thanks man, good talk.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:15

Barudak: May 7, 2007

Scathach posted:

Terrifying poo poo aside, why is he worried he's not attractive to women when he already has a girlfriend?

I assume due to fear of being a target for attempted rape again.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:22

InediblePenguin: Sep 27, 2004; I'm strong. And a giant penguin. Please don't eat me. No, really. Don't try.

Midnight Voyager posted:

"It didn't mess me up, so it messes nobody up!" Thanks man, good talk.

Yeah that's literally what everybody who was abused as a kid and now wants to abuse their own kids uses as their excuse

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:27

CharlestheHammer: Jun 26, 2011; YOU SAY MY POSTS ARE THE RAVINGS OF THE DUMBEST PERSON ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH BUT YOU YOURSELF ARE READING THEM. CURIOUS!

Midnight Voyager posted:

"It didn't mess me up, so it messes nobody up!" Thanks man, good talk.

It�s not even real uncertainty. Since there can�t actually be any real consequences it actually teaches the opposite lesson.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:35

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

Play posted:

Yeah the way he told that part too makes it seem like he doesn't quite realize how hosed up that was. He was sexually assaulted but you wouldn't know it from how he glosses over those parts and treats them like just another inconvenience stemming from people thinking he was gay. It's kinda worse than that dude

At the least, if he dances he should be able to kick like a motherfucker.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:42

Professor Shark: May 22, 2012

I feel bad for the guy :smith:

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:46

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

Midnight Voyager posted:

Yes? That kind of thing isn't for creativity or ambition you loving weirdo. It's a zen therapeutic thing. I have a friend who started doing those when she was trying to bust alcoholism. It calmed her nerves and helped her relax.

I think the issue is they don't have kids yet and she's literally a NEET, the coloring app being a way to unwind isn't the issue under normal circumstances, or he'd be a total rear end in a top hat, the issue is that she's unwinding from having done nothing all day everyday. His guess it might be depression is probably spot on, but he's super naive to accept "no I'm not depressed" from the obviously depressed person. TBH though I dunno if he can really help, you don't get out of that sort of rut easily, any "support" ends up basically being enabling.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 00:51

Pinecone Sample: Oct 12, 2010; THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420

If someone on the way to work in traffic yells "HEY, SUCK MY DICK" and then turns out to be the guy I'm interviewing for a job opening, I have to hire him because having a dick puts him in a protected class

Paradoxically, I am not allowed to suck his dick

# ? Jul 2, 2019 01:04

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

AITA - broke my girlfriend�s dad�s foot?

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Okay gotta explain. Have been with my GF around 6 months but haven�t met her parents. On Saturday night we were having a BBQ at her house when I heard a knock on the fence and a loud voice saying �keep it down in there you assholes!�. We weren�t being overly loud and it was like 6.30pm so I felt this was unreasonable. I called back �calm down mate we�re not even being loud.�

There was a louder knock on the fence and I could see the top of a man�s head peeking over. The man yelled again �I said keep it the gently caress DOWN!� At this point I�d had enough and I stood up and yelled back �mate get hosed!� There was a soccer ball at my feet and I kicked it at the fence roughly where he was standing. I saw the top of his head duck and then heard a kind of crunching noise and a painful yelp, then groaning.

At this point my GF came running outside and screaming. She ran and opened the gate and I followed her to see the guy on the ground clutching his foot. She ran over to him and said �dad are you ok?!� The man was her dad. They�d organised him to come over as a surprise to meet me and I guess he thought he�d prank me. When I kicked the ball at the fence he startled and fell off the bricks he was perching on and broke a bone in his foot. I apologised profusely and we took him to the ER. He was quite magnanimous about it but my GF is furious. He�s gonna be in a cast for a while but the doctor said it�s not that bad an injury. I paid the emergency room fee and his insurance is taking care of the rest. My GF has gone completely cold on me. Am I the rear end in a top hat?

TLDR, girlfriend�s dad was playing a prank trying to scare me, I kicked a ball in his vicinity and he fell and broke his foot.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 01:06

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

Midnight Voyager posted:

"It didn't mess me up, so it messes nobody up!" Thanks man, good talk.

Are poor parents abusive for having the same conversation? Feels like a life necessity really. The current wage climate is unfair and that's no fault of the kid but it can be mitigated while we work to better things rather than just going fullon into spending yourself into debt+no savings. Acknowledging entertainment and splurges are a part of an organized budget isn't abuse but we've already been down this road.

Can always take it to bfc.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 01:10

Pinecone Sample: Oct 12, 2010; THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420

AITA for asking out a girl I met a funeral?

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I attended my great great grandfather’s funeral a week ago and I met the most amazing girl, Sarah, who is one of his grand grand children as well. We liked the same movies, drinks, alcohol, political views, and about to study the same major in universities that are very close to each other. She’s also one of the most gorgeous girls I’ve ever met in my life. I felt kind of guilty by getting to know her so well at our great great grandfather’s funeral but she we just had so much in common it just happened. I got her contact and a few days later we go on our first day and my siblings and parents lost their poo poo saying it’s disrespectful to date someone I met at s funeral and I’m disrespecting my great great grandfather and bringing shame to the family. I really do like this girl and I find it ridiculous that I’m not allowed to date her because of these circumstances, am I really supposed to miss out on the love of my life because I happened to meet her in these circumstances? Also knowing my great great grandfather he wouldn’t give a poo poo, he told us to throw a party on the lake and toss his ashes into the lake instead of a boring rear end funeral which nobody but me and a few others wanted to do.

Edit: no this is not incest we are third cousins. This is legal. Franklyn Roosevelt married his second cousin

# ? Jul 2, 2019 01:12

goethe.cx: Apr 23, 2014

Pinecone Sample posted:

AITA for asking out a girl I met a funeral?

what I want to know is how old his great-great-grandfather was if he died when OP was in college, those are some good genes

# ? Jul 2, 2019 01:14

MagusofStars: Mar 31, 2012

Haifisch posted:

AITA - broke my girlfriend�s dad�s foot?

The broken foot is just a poor coincidence and bad luck...but totally YTA for kicking a soccer ball at someone yelling "keep it down!" a couple times.

Like, the appropriate response to that is to just roll your eyes and ignore the jackass neighbor. Not to angrily kick a soccer ball at them.

# ? Jul 2, 2019 01:21

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Is it illegal to leave a watermelon on someone’s door step???

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My friends and I, all minors, are doing this thing where we go around our small town leaving various types of melons on people’s door steps.

Just for fun. No harm intended. Some of the houses are of people we know, some are strangers. We’re doing it anonymously.

We sign the melon in black sharpie with our group name, not traceable to us. Sometimes we also write things on the melons. Last night, my friend drew a detailed penis on one.

I buy the produce from our local Walmart. We drive up to the house, drop of our runner, drive away a little bit and then after the melon has been dropped, the runner jumps in the car and we skrrrrt away.

We do not ring the doorbell or knock. We simply leave a melon on the doorstep.

I’ve tried looking this up on google, but as you can imagine, there’s not a lot for this specific situation.

I’d just like to know if we could get into any trouble for doing this? Thanks for the help Reddit!!!

# ? Jul 2, 2019 01:29

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

MagusofStars posted:

The broken foot is just a poor coincidence and bad luck...but totally YTA for kicking a soccer ball at someone yelling "keep it down!" a couple times.

Like, the appropriate response to that is to just roll your eyes and ignore the jackass neighbor. Not to angrily kick a soccer ball at them.

*at the fence, their own fence

# ? Jul 2, 2019 01:30