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Can my ex wife make me take a breathalyzer at her will? Not court ordered. Texas.quote:My wife (28) and I(28) got a divorce about 4 months ago. It was uncontested. I gave her the house and custody. My visitations are every Thursday and 1rst,3rd and 5th weekend (yay texas).
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [30F] boyfriend [34M] does not dress appropriately for the occasion and I don't know how to tell him. This really depends on where they are. I mean, shorts, sandals. and T shirt is practically formal wear in Socal unless you are dining out at a steakhouse or something. Other glaring red flags aside, someone being "too sensitive" to take advice on fashion when they have none means they are just a big whiny baby who can't take any criticism of their life. Good luck with that winner.
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Aug 6, 2019 17:33
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He’s a professor so I fully believe he has truly awful fashion sense
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Cythereal posted:Learning how to say "no" is a lost art, apparently. So... this is awkward but I thought this would work itself out but clearly it's nacht. So it seems to me there's only one final solution. Wehr not right for each other and if we keep this up it's only Göring to end with one of us getting hurt. Look, I'm not trying to feed you a line, fraulein, so let me be kristall clear. I like you, I just don't reich like you.
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My (20F) boyfriend’s (20M) Mom is stalking us, running background checks, and trying to convince him to leave me.quote:I guess I’ve just never had to deal with this before. We have been in a relationship for about 8 months now. My boyfriend’s Mom seemed like a normal lovely lady when I met her but lately she has turned into a stalker and is very rude and doubtful about me and my boyfriends relationship. When we had first gotten into a relationship she criticized and yelled at him about it being “too soon” even though it had been 2 years since his last relationship. When we recently moved in together and she’s trying to convince my boyfriend to move back home to “save money” but also was telling him to quit his job in the oil field because he works too much for his age and she never sees him. She then started probing him about my life and why I left college and how I’m “only a barista” and started asking him about how much money I make! We decided to go out of state for a camping trip with my family (on my birthday) and she threw a hissy fit saying that if my family wants to see me they should “come here” instead of us seeing them. She’s been stalking all my social media and telling him that I should supposedly “watch what I post” even though there isn’t anything incriminating on my social media, (I use my social media for my photography). She also decided to do a free background check on my boyfriend to make sure he wasn’t “hiding anything from her” and then one on me to find some dirt. I haven’t even been pulled over before! The thing that recently set me off is that yesterday she screamed at him cause we bought a solid oak table that we’re going to stain and refinish for our apartment and she blew up cause he’s wasting all his money. It was a 50$ table. I just don’t know what to do at this point, every other relationship I’ve been in I haven’t had problems like this with any parents which is rough cause I genuinely see a future with my current boyfriend. I’ve never met a parent who’d rather their son had no job and live at home for the rest of his life, but it seems his mom hates seeing him succeed and hates me.
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Aug 6, 2019 19:00
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DemoneeHo posted:Can my ex wife make me take a breathalyzer at her will? Not court ordered. Texas. Nobody has ever been so obviously hiding an important part of the story.
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so, have you ever wondered what it would be like if Michael Scott tried telling rape jokes? (spoiler tags for content) AITA for just participating in a birthday roast where the person it was for said nothing was off limits? A little back story here I had been dating my (m24) gf Susie (f25) for a while now and she has a group of friends I didn't know that well other than a few of them that would all be at this birthday party for one of her friends named Ally. As a group my gf and her peers are a little more liberal than I tend to be although Im not excactly conservative myself I just don't really run in the activist type circles. Well her friend wanted people to roast her because she is an alt stand up comic or something and Susie told me I probably shouldn't participate since I barely know her and I agreed at the time. When the roast was happening in the birthday girl's opening statements where she roasted many of the party goers she went int on me about being a stereotypical frat boy since I was in a frat at the University of Cincinatti. She made some comments about me being a predator which I thought was kind of messed up since part of her whole thing is being a survivor of the kind of thing she accused me of jokingly. Anyways I reasoned that if she was comfortable enough to roast me it should be ok if I participate too so I took a turn after the first 3 roasters went. My jokes were the following even though Im toning them down a bit for this submission you will get the jist of it It is unarguable that the perpatrator against Ally was a huge scum bag but you also can't argue he didn't do a lot for the body positivity movement when tons of people heard about what happened and who he picked (Ally is a bigger girl) I then went in on her boyfriend Steve and said Steve is a great guy and it seems like they are really in love it is just too bad he will never be Ally's most memorable gently caress. At that point one of her friends started yelling at me and getting in my face and Susie grabbed my arm and made me sit down and the mood of the party changed very quickly with Ally looking like she was going to cry and Steve looking like he wanted to fight me. She said nothing was off limits and already made a joke in that general arena about me and I just feel like I did nothing wrong and now Susie's friends are telling her Im problematic and telling her to break up with me. AITA here? I feel like everyone else at the party is tbh for getting mad at me when nothing was supposed to be off limits.
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Aug 6, 2019 19:06
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DemoneeHo posted:My (20F) boyfriend’s (20M) Mom is stalking us, running background checks, and trying to convince him to leave me. 
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Aug 6, 2019 19:06
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AITA for telling my mom something her husband (my step-father) did would have been a deal breaker for me?quote:When I was 10 I went on a trip with my nana for a week and a half. When I came back my mom (out so I thought) had painted my room bubble gum pink with hot pink trim and my sister's (age 5) room peach with dark peach trim. I hated my room. I was never a girly girl and I've always haired the color pink. Tbh this paint job probably was a huge reason for me going goth a few years later. My mom claimed she did because she "knew" I'd love or when I was a teenager and I needed to grow up. There was a huge fight and I had to live with that hell room until my parents renovated the house when I was 16. From the way my mom always talked about the room it was my punishment for not being a girly girl and not choosing what she wanted.
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Aug 6, 2019 19:11
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AITA for peeing in a ditch when my wife had to pee too?quote:Driving at night, we were looking for a restroom, because both of us needed to go. Being in a rural area and late at night, we couldn't find anything open (no cellular signal either, so no Google to help).
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AITA for buying one son a significantly better phone than his brother? My younger son (15) is in need of a new phone. He’s into tech and has been eyeing up flagship phones, but me and my husband decided a 15yo doesn’t need one and said his budget was £600 which he accepted. When I told my older son he said that his phone needed upgrading too so when we went to buy his brother one he’d tag along too. At this point, the understanding was he’d pay for his own - he’s just started a well paying job and he’s worked throughout uni. He also graduated a month ago, and me and my husband have been deliberating over present for him. In the end, we agreed that we’d contribute £600 towards his purchase too. The younger son ended up with an iPhone 8, and my older one bought a Galaxy S10+. He accepted our £600 and paid the rest of the balance himself with his own money. My younger one says it’s really unfair how his brother got a vastly better and newer phone. I told him that his brother was an adult and used his own money (partly) and that he wasn’t even allowed a smartphone until he was in Yr12. However, we know that times have changed and the younger one has a had a budget Android (Moto M) for the last 3 years. We said that he’d get a high end model the next time his contract was up when we felt he’d be old enough to be responsible for such a phone.
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Aug 6, 2019 19:15
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for just participating in a birthday roast where the person it was for said nothing was off limits? 
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Aug 6, 2019 19:19
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for buying one son a significantly better phone than his brother? Give him a flip phone
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Aug 6, 2019 19:20
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for peeing in a ditch when my wife had to pee too? Free yourself and pee wherever you want, OP
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Aug 6, 2019 19:21
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If the expectation is that one person can’t/won’t participate in the roast then you should probably not go at them, but that being said lol holy poo poo dude.
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Aug 6, 2019 19:26
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The Roast Guy is almost certainly an actual predator / rapist. This is from 4 months ago, it's a real account that he also uses to masturbate to pictures of women's feet and tell them about it.quote:Finally back on my feet after a long and arduous legal struggle. Feels like a million pounds off my shoulders!!
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Aug 6, 2019 19:27
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They should hold another roast for him, but with fire
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Aug 6, 2019 19:30
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charity rereg posted:The Roast Guy is almost certainly an actual predator / rapist. This is from 4 months ago, it's a real account that he also uses to masturbate to pictures of women's feet and tell them about it. Jesus Christ
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Aug 6, 2019 19:30
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I didn't know Jeff Ross posted on reddit.
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Aug 6, 2019 19:31
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AITA for wanting even some of my $4000 that I spent on a "friend" back? A friend and I moved in to a unit together and signed a lease together. Six months later, I had to move again due to personal issues. I sat her down and we had an in-depth and lengthy discussion of all of our options in regards to me moving out. She gave me the go-ahead and decided she would also look for a new place to stay so we could just break the lease. Two weeks or so later, I asked how her house hunt was going, and she says she's changed her mind. She rejected every single person I put forward who was interested in taking over my lease. She says she'll also help me look for someone so I won't have to keep paying rent. Two months go by, and I message her explaining that I'm not able to be picky with who I choose to takeover for me anymore, it's costing me more money than I can afford paying rent in 2 places. I give her ample of options, including staying in the spare room of the place I'm actually living in, or helping her house hunt. She denies it all, but she understands and will start paying even $10-$15 more to even out the cost. Spoiler alert: she doesn't ever do that. Another two months go by. I message her saying that I need to stop paying rent as it's not viable for me to essentially keep paying rent for her, or she needs to find somewhere else so we can break the lease. I've already paid upwards of $4000 for her to live comfortably by herself for four months, and I'd like something back. (Also, she is using all of my furniture, appliances, and homeware. She owns nothing but her bed frame. And I've let her just use all of it.) She responds with a bunch of excuses and basically asks me to keep paying rent. Never thanks me for doing this for her, just denies that she ever agreed on doing any of the above, or never wanted to. I tell her that her lack of communication in all of this has caused me a lot of frustration, and put me out of pocket $4000, and I'm not asking for anything more than even just a peace offering, or a token of appreciation. If she didn't want any of this to happen, she should have told me from the get-go so I could figure something else out, rather than agree to a bunch of things she knew she wasn't going to oblige to, and make it a hassle for me later on. She comes back with her "legal obligation" is to the landlord and not me, which I never mentioned jackshit about. I know all of the legalities, which is why I kept paying rent up until this point. So because of that, she has to "deny my request for some reimbursement". And is basically threatening me with legal action if I keep asking her for something in return. Basically, I know I signed a lease with her, so she has the "contractual" agreement that I'm still on the lease, which is why I'm still paying rent. She mislead me with her lack of communication, and it has cost me a lot of money. All of our mutual friends are on her side, and some have even blocked me. Which is why I'm wondering, AITA?
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AITA for cutting my daughter out of my will for getting an abortion?quote:I have a daughter who I love dearly that is 29, she recently came to me and her mother and told us that she was 4 months pregnant. She said she didn’t know who the father was and that she had multiple people who thinks might be the father. From what I could gather, she doesn’t like taking birth control, and instead trust her partners to use protection. She works in one of my companies for which she gets paid competitively for what, I admit, is minimal work. When we talked to her we told her that we would of course support her in whatever she did, and while talking options we made clear to her that if she kept the baby we would support her financially and ensure that she would be able to spend as much time as possible with the child, especially since she might have been a single mother. She mentioned that she was considering getting and abortion, I told her that if she wanted to get an abortion she would have to pay for it herself, the implication being that I would financially support every option but that. She knows that I am personally not supportive of the practice, so I didn't need to make that clear to her again when she is obviously under a lot of stress. In the end I made sure that she understood that whatever she did, it would never affect the amount of love we have for her. I left my wife and my daughter to talk in private, after I talked to my wife and my only question was if it was consensual sex. My wife said she thinks it was, and she did ask. My wife and my daughter are close, she would have told my wife if it wasn't
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for buying one son a significantly better phone than his brother? Also, sort your younger son out before he's an Apple cultist for life. DemoneeHo posted:AITA for cutting my daughter out of my will for getting an abortion?
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for cutting my daughter out of my will for getting an abortion? Yup you're an enormous piece of poo poo. I was really hoping this would be one of those twist ones where somehow the OP was reasonable. Nope. Just straight forward garbage person.
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Aug 6, 2019 19:51
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Aug 6, 2019 19:52
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for peeing in a ditch when my wife had to pee too? Showing solidarity in bowel movements is an important part of any relationship. My husband and I will often share a urinal, or lovingly hold each other's hands under the stall wall while reading funny Reddit headlines to each other. After 15 years our bowel movements are perfectly synced.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:so, have you ever wondered what it would be like if Michael Scott tried telling rape jokes? yoinks. if someone told a joke about me being a sex predator i'd probably get upset. but my solution would just be to bounce from the situation and not go into rape joke territory. kinda confirming what was said about you tbh.
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Aug 6, 2019 19:56
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Ebola Roulette posted:Have people never heard of latex free condoms? How do they keep falling for that "I'm allergic to latex" poo poo? Just whip out a latex free one and say "no problem". Girls who are actually allergic to latex just carry/keep a bunch of them at their place. Planning on still having sex with a crazy person is is uh nope.
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AITA for going off on the owner of the company I work at over their drug testing policy? Ok so I know that I’m an idiot but am I also an rear end in a top hat? I’ve been working a summer engineering internship for the last 2 months. It’s been great, I love my coworkers and I’ve learned so much. The company did a pre employment drug test which I knew about in advance so I stopped smoking for 3 months in preparation. Well last weekend I wanted to go to a local festival so I asked my boss if I could have Friday off. She said that’s fine but to run it by the head HR lady who is also part owner of the company. She told me that it’s perfectly fine and to have fun. Great. Well I return to work Monday and the head HR lady serves me with drug test forms. Her reasoning is that the festival I went to is known for recreational drug use and she wanted to make sure I was clean. Well I don’t smoke often but I did that weekend so I knew I was gonna fail and lose my job. I got so aggravated I went on a minor tirade about how drinking excessively is actively encouraged around the office and I know she has come in hung over on multiple occasions. She also held an office party at her house a few weeks ago with alcohol provided where multiple people passed out at her house and the rest drove home intoxicated. I let her know just how hypocritical this is. My boss even had my back and told her how great of an intern I had been and how she was looking forward to hiring me full time when I graduate. This was to no avail. So I said goodbye to my coworkers and left. I’m lucky to be so close to my boss who said she would provide me a good recommendation and give me contacts to get a job when I graduate. So damage was mitigated and I’m actually somewhat glad this happened because i don’t want to work for a company with a drug policy as arbitrary and hypocritical as this. So AITA? Should I have just accepted my punishment and left amicably? UPDATE So I realize that I am an idiot for using recreational drugs when I’m trying to start my career. And I have only myself to blame for being fired. I still think the general culture around many companies in the US is hypocritical. Marijuana use is at most on the same level as drinking. Although I was wrong to talk back to my superior, I believe my opinion is valid. I will also be careful not to overshare and get too friendly with coworkers, especially superiors, in the future. This was my first professional job, so I’m still learning. I texted the co-owner apologizing for my rant and thanking her for internship opportunity. She said there’s no hard feelings and she’s not going to put a black eye on my resume. I’ve gained many contacts through this internship working almost 3 months there so I still got tons of value. tldr; I hosed up badly, lucky it didn’t end worse than it did. Culture around marijuana use is still hosed up.
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"Can I take friday off for the Square Fest, the festival for squares?" Problem solved.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for going off on the owner of the company I work at over their drug testing policy? Definitely an idiot but jesus christ that HR person. If the intern's doing their job (and they apparently are, unless the OP is completely lying about their boss's opinion of them) then firing them accomplishes nothing but wasting money replacing them. HR knows this, it's their goddamn job. They're costing the company money for the sake of their personal power trip. EDIT: apparently she's a co-owner too, so she's throwing her own money away. what a miserable shitpile.
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Straight White Shark posted:Definitely an idiot but jesus christ that HR person. If the intern's doing their job (and they apparently are, unless the OP is completely lying about their boss's opinion of them) then firing them accomplishes nothing but wasting money replacing them. HR knows this, it's their goddamn job. They're costing the company money for the sake of their personal power trip. It is really weird to see a drug test for an existing employee unless there's a specific legal requirement or a liability issue (accident, etc). For a normal officer worker that is unusual as all hell. As a hiring manager explained to me once why they only do pre-employment screening , "we don't care if you do drugs, we just care if you can stop (when you know you're going to be tested)".
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US drug testing culture is something I just can't wrap my head around. I can sort of understand it for heavy equipment operators, but in the US it seems more like a weird moral purity thing.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for going off on the owner of the company I work at over their drug testing policy? I checked, and yes: "targeted" drug tests of this kind are illegal in California. only pre-employment checks are allowed. I also checked in the thread, and while he never outright says it, it sounds like the company may have had federal contracts, which is the only possible excuse they'd have to maintain a program like this, assuming it's legal. get your next internship in CA, friend! we pay more too.
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:It is really weird to see a drug test for an existing employee unless there's a specific legal requirement or a liability issue (accident, etc). Federal contracting, especially DoD TS/CI poo poo.
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