|
Pinecone Sample posted:Should I (F24) dump my deadbeat bf (M24)? Lady should realize that she has a live-in rent boy and embrace it.
|
#
?
Aug 6, 2019 23:32
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 14, 2024 00:48 |
|
|
Anyway, grandmothers. Not even once.
|
|
#
?
Aug 6, 2019 23:35
|
|
|
My (26F) boyfriend(31M) lied about matching tattoos with his ex. So my bf has a tattoo on his back. I asked him about it and he just shrugged his shoulders and said he got it when he was in Miami. Now I find out that his ex has the exactly same tattoo on the same spot on the back. What do I do? Do I forget about it or ask him about it again? I had a tattoo from my ex(bad decision I know) but I got it covered as soon as I had the money for it after we broke up, so he could have easily admitted that his was a matching tattoo from his ex. I'm so pissed and hurt and confused as I feel like he's saving it in case the get back together or something. Tl;dr he lied about it and now I'm not sure what to do.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 00:19
|
|
|
Why did my fiance (M33) buy me (F28) the same gift he gave to all of his previous girlfriends? Around 4 weeks into my relationship my now fiance gave me a necklace for my birthday, as he put it on for me he told me has given the same gift to all of his previous serious girlfriends. He told me my necklace was slightly smaller but I had received it a lot earlier than the other girls. I am his 3rd or 4th serious relationship & we are now engaged. We have been dating for two years now & I have always felt confused as to what the gift meant. The gift is thoughtful but also impersonal & left me feeling conflicted as to what the gift actually meant, any insight would be appreciated. Thanks. TL;DR- My boyfriend (M33) gave me (F28) the same necklace as he gave to his previous girlfriends. Insight needed. I had to unexpectedly leave the country to go home as my dad is dying. I work as a stripper & he wont let me work here which means I have no money. I have been stripping for 2 years and paying for our rent & everything else including funding his drug & gambling addiction. Him not allowing me to work puts financial pressure on him & could result in loosing the house we currently share together. He was until today using my messenger as his own & would freely read all my messages since day 1 of being together. Him reading my messages has resulted in me not talking to certain friends.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 00:20
|
|
|
Smirking_Serpent posted:loosing the house 
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 00:24
|
|
|
The lede in that one is not buried, it resides within the crust of the Earth itself. But the actual issue/story is just plain abuse so I wouldn't recommend seeking out the thread. But she's getting help  quote:I contacted womens aid today & they really helped me gain an understanding of his controlling behaviour. Reading back on my post its so obvious but I think i've been minimising a lot of his behaviours and my experiences. I'm also going through a lot right now with my dad, I hadn't seen him in two years and he had been drinking himself to death. His liver and kidneys are failing & saying goodbye to him is the hardest thing i've ever had to do and trying to deal with my relationship at the same time is overwhelming. This is the first time i've been away from my partner which has enabled me to reflect on what has been happening. Before it was really hard to get a proper perspective as I had no one to talk to.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 00:26
|
|
|
Smirking_Serpent posted:Why did my fiance (M33) buy me (F28) the same gift he gave to all of his previous girlfriends? Wonder what this marvelous catch of a bf does in his day job.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 00:30
|
|
|
Smirking_Serpent posted:TIFU by sleeping with a married woman. Maybe this was STDH, but I witnessed part of a similar situation. Life is often much dumber than fiction. A buddy was visiting from out of town, hooked up with a girl who forgot to mention she was in a relationship. I come into the story in the middle of day two. Dude called me to come over to this girl’s place to hang out, but the conversation had a very “I need a bro to save me right now” kinda vibe. I get there and my buddy is visibly relieved. I guess when they went out to dinner the night before, he had bought a ring from one of those quarter machines and mockingly proposed to her (since they had hit it off so well and had already hosed like ten times before they even got to the restaurant). Well, apparently she thought he was serious about the tin ring proposal, and so had hosed him all night and morning, even harder and more frequently than before. The first thing I noticed when I opened the door was the goddamned bubbles. She had a battery powered bubble machine going full blast. She said it was going to be the centerpiece at the wedding party when they got married and were together forever. I make small talk and suss out more of the situation. poo poo was hosed, she was super creepy possessive, there were some knives* randomly laying around, she was holding a big pair of scissors and cutting one of those paper people chains out of magazine pages while humming happily to herself... so I tell my buddy that I need his help moving some furniture right now and yank him out of there. His back had deep claw marks all over; looked like he had been jumped by a puma. We commiserated about the situation and gained no wisdom that day as we laughed it off as a little misadventure. Apparently he went back the next day and hosed her silly, the moron. It was his last day of leave, so what did he care? He’d be out of state for a year or more and he had just met this chick by pure chance anyway. Only found out the aftermath many years later. She had confessed her infidelity to her boyfriend, gotten dumped, trashed some poo poo and then slit her wrists. Thankfully she didn’t die and was in psychiatric care soon after (still there as far as I know). The poor girl was manic, or going through a psychotic break or something else very bad, so I don’t blame her at all. I was just like “bitches be crazy, yo,” because I was a drunken lout at that point in my life. It’s only looking back now that I realize how hosed the whole situation was. She needed to be hospitalized immediately and I wished I had pushed things in that direction. I think my buddy is a giant shitheel for leaning into her crazy (he certainly didn’t try to disabuse her of the marriage idea) and then dusting out of town with no worries. I’ve only talked to him a handful of times since. * it was a sex thing. Her idea. Likely the knives she used on herself later. 
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 00:35
|
|
|
AITA for not telling my (26M) gf (20F) where the alcohol she paid for came from? This is my alt acc and I’m on mobile. So my birthday is today, and my gf had planned a trip for us. She and I have been together for 3 years. We are going to go stay in a nice hotel and basically chill for a couple days. She does drink, and I do too, so we wanted to buy alcohol for the night. To be fair, she paid $312 for the hotel and she wanted to pay for my dinner and alcohol. Last night, my best friend and I hung out and she got me 10 fireball nips and 2 bottles of vodka. My two favorite drinks. So I texted my gf that I’d gotten us a bottle of vodka for our trip. I never said I’d bought it specifically, I just said I got it. She insisted that she pay for it, so I asked my friend how much she paid and told my gf ($20). Then my gf Venmo’d me $20. I told my friend what I was doing and she called me an rear end in a top hat. She’s literally mad at me for it and told me to get out. I don’t think I did anything wrong because my gf wanted to pay for it and it’s none of my friend’s business, really. AITA? Edit: my gf and best friend know each other and get along well. No one is jealous of the other and my gf knows my best friend and I were hanging out.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 01:10
|
|
|
Baronjutter posted:Folks like this make me very sad because they've so normalized dysfunctional relationships and screaming arguments. I had a lady at a party once ask me where me or my wife goes to stay when an argument gets too heated. They were very confused when we told them that we do not get into screaming object-throwing fights that get so severe one of us has to crash at a friend's place for a night or two. "But don't all couples fight like that???" My parents used to yell at each other and when I'd come out of my room and ask them to stop fighting they'd say "oh we weren't fighting we were just having a discussion." You would think your young daughter asking you to stop fighting is enough to get you to realize poo poo isn't normal but nope. Now as an adult I'm having to learn how to stop myself from yelling when I get heated Those poor kids are never going to feel comfortable in a relationship that doesn't involve screaming and possibly domestic violence
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 01:17
|
|
|
Dazerbeams posted:What kind of deadly snake venom doesn't kill a child after several hours of exposure? I'm really curious. The North American vipers are in the family Crotalidae which generally have a necrotic coagulopathic toxin that works locally but rarely systemically. This includes your sidewinders, rattlers, timber rattlers, cottonmouths, and copperheads. It's not like the Black Mamba or "two step" snake that is deadly within minutes. The only other major venomous snake in North America is the coral snake which has a neurotoxin that can paralyze a grown person and there's no real anti-venom so you better hope you're within range of a hospital before your diaphragm goes.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 02:42
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:The North American vipers are in the family Crotalidae which generally have a necrotic coagulopathic toxin that works locally but rarely systemically. This includes your sidewinders, rattlers, timber rattlers, cottonmouths, and copperheads. It's not like the Black Mamba or "two step" snake that is deadly within minutes. Are they in the states? You can't really confuse any of those with grass snakes, but there's vipers in Northern Europe that are relatively harmless if you're grown and not iummunocompromised and do look passably similar to grass snakes.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 02:45
|
|
|
13Pandora13 posted:Are they in the states? You can't really confuse any of those with grass snakes, but there's vipers in Northern Europe that are relatively harmless if you're grown and not iummunocompromised and do look passably similar to grass snakes. They're all in the United States. Some grass snakes attempt to look like vipers but vipers have a very distinct head shape (triangular) when compared to grass snakes and they have pits between their eyes and "nose holes" as well as a diamond pattern on their backs. Most people not familiar with the outdoors or snakes might get them confused. However, a grass snake rarely bites (they prefer to play dead or run away) and if they do it's more of a scrape or cut without any local skin reaction.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 02:50
|
|
|
What kind of human that lives near both can't tell a viper from a grass snake? "Just a few differences..."  Like poo poo, lady, remembering the head shape that kills you versus the one that kinda annoys you is pretty much written into our brains and inscribed on our DNA. If you see that poo poo and let your grand-offspring poke it I'm hella surprised you're even alive.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:04
|
|
|
I could punch them both easily. In fact I could probably punch one with the other!
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:07
|
|
|
Scathach posted:What kind of human that lives near both can't tell a viper from a grass snake? "Just a few differences..." Frankly, I'm surprised she has an adult child if she's the kind of person who lives near the woods and thinks a 4-year-old is a "big boy" who should know the dangers and consequences of forest exploration
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:11
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:They're all in the United States. Some grass snakes attempt to look like vipers but vipers have a very distinct head shape (triangular) when compared to grass snakes and they have pits between their eyes and "nose holes" as well as a diamond pattern on their backs. Most people not familiar with the outdoors or snakes might get them confused. However, a grass snake rarely bites (they prefer to play dead or run away) and if they do it's more of a scrape or cut without any local skin reaction. lol
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:12
|
|
|
Please don't punch the grass snake. Like the little dude plays dead if you even look at him as if you're gonna eat him. Poor guy just wants to not be mistaken for something terrible.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:13
|
|
|
It’s good she got a picture of the snake responsible, bad that she initially misidentified it. A friend of a friend was bitten by a pretty deadly snake (a many-banded krait) and may have been saved by the fact that he could show the doctors a picture of the exact snake so they knew what antivenom to give him. This story is slightly undercut by the fact that the picture was the selfie he was taking with the snake just before it bit him though.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:17
|
|
|
With the internet in your pocket, how the gently caress do people these days not just research what they're looking at before they grab it? Dude had a phone to take a selfie but didn't take two seconds to Google something? Not even to post wtf species he was holding for Instagram cred or something?
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:21
|
|
|
Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not telling my (26M) gf (20F) where the alcohol she paid for came from? Alex, I'll take "Things that are gonna bite him in the rear end real soon for $400. Oh hey, the Daily Double !"
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:27
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:They're all in the United States. Some grass snakes attempt to look like vipers but vipers have a very distinct head shape (triangular) when compared to grass snakes and they have pits between their eyes and "nose holes" as well as a diamond pattern on their backs. Most people not familiar with the outdoors or snakes might get them confused. However, a grass snake rarely bites (they prefer to play dead or run away) and if they do it's more of a scrape or cut without any local skin reaction. I mean the poster, dude
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:29
|
|
|
13Pandora13 posted:I mean the poster, dude No idea, I just assumed, but if the kid's arm was that swollen and turned purple it seems like more than a "mild reaction" from the Euro viper.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:37
|
|
|
Scathach posted:With the internet in your pocket, how the gently caress do people these days not just research what they're looking at before they grab it? Dude had a phone to take a selfie but didn't take two seconds to Google something? Not even to post wtf species he was holding for Instagram cred or something? All very good questions.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:40
|
|
|
Scathach posted:With the internet in your pocket, how the gently caress do people these days not just research what they're looking at before they grab it? Dude had a phone to take a selfie but didn't take two seconds to Google something? Not even to post wtf species he was holding for Instagram cred or something? You're totally right, but the answer was always going to be mllaneza posted:Alex, I'll take "Things that are gonna bite him in the rear end real soon for $400. Oh hey, the Daily Double !"
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:41
|
|
|
My (24F) partner's (24M) unwillingness to try new foods is beginning to affect our relationship.quote:Hi, Reddit! My partner and I have been together almost 4 years now and, while everything is honestly great, I'm exhausted by his appetite that can only be akin to a toddler's.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:42
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:No idea, I just assumed, but if the kid's arm was that swollen and turned purple it seems like more than a "mild reaction" from the Euro viper. I don't think after several hours a 4 year old is only going to have localized swelling and discoloration from one of the American vipers though. You'd have to be pretty stupid (I mean, this MiL clearly was, but) to mix up a grass snake with any of the aforementioned US vipers, but common adders/vipers don't have nearly as angular of a head as their bitchier American cousins. It would be a pretty easy mistake to make.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:44
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:My (24F) partner's (24M) unwillingness to try new foods is beginning to affect our relationship. poor boyfriend, thought of cumin and died
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:47
|
|
|
13Pandora13 posted:I don't think after several hours a 4 year old is only going to have localized swelling and discoloration from one of the American vipers though. We're both tilting at windmills here because, who knows for real so I'm not trying to argue, but I assure you that as a medical professional who has treated snakebites and administered antivenom in the US- A mild envenomation can present hours later as swelling, pain, and discoloration of the area as small as a few inches around the bite.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 03:51
|
|
|
[CA] I played a prank on my boss which made his computer unusable, they called IT and police saying I hacked their systemsquote:
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 04:25
|
|
|
You hosed with a computer in finance, causing the manager to hit the panic button. Should've come clean the moment IT was called the first time. Even the broiest of bro culture companies will not tolerate loving with the money.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 04:29
|
|
|
Smirking_Serpent posted:Why did my fiance (M33) buy me (F28) the same gift he gave to all of his previous girlfriends? Every woman should be assigned a government-funded older brother at birth. His only job is to collapse the kidneys of piece of poo poo boyfriends like the one in that story.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 04:51
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:My (24F) partner's (24M) unwillingness to try new foods is beginning to affect our relationship. Nothing is worth living like that
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 05:08
|
|
|
tactlessbastard posted:Anyway, grandmothers. Not even once. Hey, some grandmas are a welcome refuge from the mother. My grandma once held a snake down with a rake while I killed it with a shovel. That said, we're Australian, so there's a very different set of priorities in play by default.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 05:22
|
|
|
La Brea Carpet posted:My (24F) partner's (24M) unwillingness to try new foods is beginning to affect our relationship. Solution, murder the boyfriend and eat him instead. He'll be an easy takedown from the lack of nutrients and at least he'll stop bitching about the garlic like a drat vampire. Hi there, FBI? Yeah, this is a joke post. I don't know the boyfriend nor do I condone murder or eat people. I am however an advocate of garlic. Pretty sure that's not illegal yet.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 05:28
|
|
|
Winter Stormer posted:Nothing is worth living like that I've literal conversation where my coworkers and I will be chatting about our lives and such and when asked about dating and relationships saying "I could never date a picky eater" is like some shocking thing that can't understand I would hold my ground on. I mean, I've never actually had to deal with it, and I think that would be an absolute deal breaker, but just the idea that someone who turns their nose up at a taqueria or refuses to trying a goat curry is a hard pass is weird to most people.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 05:47
|
|
|
alphabettitouretti posted:MIL's negligence could have seriously harmed my child and I'm not sure how to treat her now I have two kids around that age, and if this happened to them, they would have told me about ten times each within the first minute they saw me, so I'm guessing MIL told the kid to keep it a secret.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 06:05
|
|
|
Ghost Leviathan posted:Hey, some grandmas are a welcome refuge from the mother. My grandma once held a snake down with a rake while I killed it with a shovel. That said, we're Australian, so there's a very different set of priorities in play by default. My grandmother parked her buick on a 7 foot rattler and killed it with a tire iron we're from florida
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 07:18
|
|
|
pentyne posted:I've literal conversation where my coworkers and I will be chatting about our lives and such and when asked about dating and relationships saying "I could never date a picky eater" is like some shocking thing that can't understand I would hold my ground on. My girlfriend has a limited range of preferences from growing up in the country but she’ll try anything even though she’ll probably hate it. But she’ll always be down to try new places so I don’t mind at all, there’s usually something that isn’t spicy even at the most hole in the wall Hispanic or Asian joint and she tries just about everything. She has a friend though who is a massive chud (found that out later) and will refuse to try literally anything besides McDonalds and Olive Garden. We took her to a stake place since In n out was apparently too exotic and she ordered a well done steak, and sent it back for being undercooked. She also showed up once when we were going to sushi after we held our ground this chick pouted and refused to eat literally anything there. Then she unzipped her jacket to reveal she was wearing a MAGA t shirt. God what a loving embarrassing person. Ugh.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 07:21
|
|
|
|
| # ? May 14, 2024 00:48 |
|
|
(33M) My wife (26F) gave her phone number to a coworker to get drinks. Now I’m pissed. TLDR: (33) wife (26) gave her number out to a new coworker who wanted drinks with her. I found out, now I’m debating if I want to be married to this person. Me and my wife have been together for a while but only married 4 months. I got a promotion and had to move, she came with me. She gets a job as a bank teller in a small bank and she works with 4 guys and 1 woman. Out of these 3 guys they’re are pretty old and married, well apparently the 4th guy who I guess is not old and not married has been small talking my wife. Well apparently (after pressuring her of why she exchanged phone numbers) he invited her out to have drinks, because when we were eating dinner, her mom texted her phone (her mom is going through a bad divorce) so I told my wife that her mom texted her and she asked “what did she say?” I opened her phone up and there it was. This guy is sending her messages about missing a weekend out. With all the cute emoji faces with hearts and poo poo. I’m shocked and wondering wtf is a “weekend out”, then I see my wife’s response....... Our dog passed away last Sunday and she had responded to this guy saying “Hey Christian, our dog passed away, sorry I couldn’t go out”. This is when I see red, not only has she accepted his phone number, but is clear that they had plans to go out. This is when I confronted her. I demanded why the gently caress is she giving her number out, and WHY in the world would she ever think it was okay to go get drinks with another man? And basically she kept brushing it off as a small situation, but it wasn’t small.. it’s a big gently caress up in my opinion. But then it clicked, we have been having issues of her not trusting me. I’m in shape, and there have been a few occasions of women who have approached me but I have told my wife because she wants to know when these things happen. Well anytime I do something that doesn’t have her with me, she constantly accuses me of talking to other women, she constantly assumes women approaching me and I give them the time of day. We have gotten into a few arguments over this because she got mad at me one night because I was invited to go to our local drag strip to go race my car with my friends. I openly invited her to go with me and my friends and she said that she didn’t really wanna go, and then she gave me poo poo because she thinks there were gonna be tons of women there.. but after I found out she was planning to go drinks with this guy.. it all started to make sense. IMO, she has a guilty conscious, that her guilt is getting at her and she’s projecting her actions of being shady onto me and making it seem like I’m being the unfaithful one. Now I’m sitting here everyday, wondering wtf she does at work while he’s around her, because if she has the audacity to exchange numbers and plan for drinks over the weekend, then I adamantly believe they are talking it up at work. I then pondered the situation and started to do the process of divorcing. Since my home of record is a different state I asked my father to get me a petition to divorce and told my wife that I was thinking of divorcing her. That’s when she exploded in tears, and she was crying telling me she didn’t mean it anyway, but I held my dignity and told her what she did disrespected me and our marriage. After 5 mins of her trying to corner me in the living room with tears m, she called her mother and told her that I was wanting to divorce her, and her mom asked why. She told her mom that she gave her number out to a guy who had invited her out for drinks. And her mother said exactly what I said to her, “honey you’re married now, you can’t give a random guy your number even if you work with him, and the last thing you do is go have drinks with him, you’re MARRIED.” That’s when her mom asked to talk to me and I refused, I was too upset. Well her mother calmed her down and we were quiet most of the night, and I was on my phone diligently looking up my states law for divorce. Now it’s been a a day of silence and my wife has apologized but I still feel that I do not trust her at all, and I don’t want to be married to someone who I have to constantly worry about if she’s being faithful. Op's context: quote:There have been numerous situations like this before this. More or so.. exes coming up in her phone during our days as "girlfriend boyfriend" asking to hook up, and her hiding these messages from me. Later on to find out that they have been chitchatting in messages on all social media platforms. I told her straight up, she doesn't like when women, LET ALONE EXES, contact me in casual ways, but she can talk to her exes still? While they admit their feelings for her, and she can keep a full blown conversation up behind my back, then I find out and I nip it in the butt. This situation i posted, is literally the cherry on top. I've tried numerous times to get past the bullshit that has come from it, but literally every week is something new.
|
|
#
?
Aug 7, 2019 07:28
|
|