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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for getting mad about a weird incest joke my gf made about my parents? bahaha, holy poo poo "You two are brother and sister, arentcha! I knew it, at least the product of your forbidden relationship didn't turn out too inbred to be sexy! He's a tiger in bed, a real beast. Haha, I'm just joshin' around, you people really all do look the same tho! Didja ever watch game of thrones?" Vim Fuego fucked around with this message at 01:42 on Aug 23, 2019 |
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InediblePenguin posted:you think there's a 1% chance it really is the woman's fault and she really did deserve to be Punished by her husband by having her shoes and clothes set on fire? Some of these stories start in one direction, then you find out they killed a puppy or abandoned a toddler or something. Which is why it's obnoxious when the big precipitating event or other relevant background is made intentionally ambiguous. AreWeDrunkYet fucked around with this message at 01:42 on Aug 23, 2019 |
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I (46F) really want to make a drastic career change. My husband (48M) seems reluctant to talk about it.quote:Throwaway account because you never know.
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Aug 23, 2019 01:52
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Pinecone Sample posted:it would help lift the incredibly taxing work schedule I have from my and my family's shoulders. Somebody doesn't know *poo poo* about (A) running a commercial kitchen and (B) the hours it takes to both produce product, do your marketing, and do deliveries. Come back when you've researched your dreeeeeeam including the rate of failure of new bakeries.
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Aug 23, 2019 02:03
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Somebody doesn't know *poo poo* about (A) running a commercial kitchen and (B) the hours it takes to both produce product, do your marketing, and do deliveries. I really want my weekends back, I'm going to culinary school
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Aug 23, 2019 02:05
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Somebody doesn't know *poo poo* about (A) running a commercial kitchen and (B) the hours it takes to both produce product, do your marketing, and do deliveries. Couldn't she start a side business out of her own kitchen if she really wanted to pursue this? After the first 3 black forest cakes though maybe she'd realize how much work it is. That might inspire her to pursue or it might make her back off...
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Tato posted:Fight man needs to stay in the thread because it's a welcome break from the "meaningful discussion" for 10 pages that eventually results in multiple people being probated for being insane. Yeah, it just causes pages of people emptyposting how great fightman is or how he really needs to be in his own thread since this thread has nothing to do with him, it's very different.
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Aug 23, 2019 02:13
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Pinecone Sample posted:I (46F) really want to make a drastic career change. My husband (48M) seems reluctant to talk about it. He seems reluctant because you are delusional as said above. Just stay in your field and find a place that lets you work less or go per diem or some poo poo.
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Aug 23, 2019 02:14
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i loved the time i spent cooking. i even moved across the country to further that career path. and i miss it a lot, even at its most stressful it was still creative and rewarding. that being said, everyone i ever knew who loved to cook and opened their own place never cooked again. who has time? you got payroll and vendor relations and greeting guests and and and and. a degree in pastry arts. jesus loving christ. hope you like unpaid, mandatory internships that result in you having exactly zero edge in getting hired over whoever doesn't show up to their test shift with blow all over their face and is willing to take a paycheck that is a fraction of what you expect just take a year off and cook for people you love, that may actually be really satisfying to you! a surgeon should have more than enough self-direction to learn everything a 2-year program could possibly teach
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Aug 23, 2019 02:18
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Pinecone Sample posted:I really want my weekends back, I'm going to culinary school Every over the hill boomer wants their dream of their big successful restaurant where everyone falls over themselves to compliment them on the food and decor. This is more "the art of being a pastry 'master' is my calling" but no less delusional.
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Aug 23, 2019 02:19
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pentyne posted:Every over the hill boomer wants their dream of their big successful restaurant where everyone falls over themselves to compliment them on the food and decor. How many stupid rear end loving movies have this as the plot line too.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:Somebody doesn't know *poo poo* about (A) running a commercial kitchen and (B) the hours it takes to both produce product, do your marketing, and do deliveries. With her age and savings, she would probably be paying people to do the heavy lifting. And if she can pull together some catering business from her doctor friends it might be workable. If it's even close to break-even the other doctor's salary can support the family and keep her afloat. It's obviously a train wreck of a financial decision and she recognizes that, but if it makes her happier and they're solvent enough to swing it, why not? https://www.payscale.com/research/US/Job=Chief_of_Neurology/Salary
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AreWeDrunkYet posted:With her age and savings, she would probably be paying people to do the heavy lifting. And if she can pull together some catering business from her doctor friends it might be workable. If it's even close to break-even the other doctor's salary can support the family and keep her afloat. as soon as she starts paying other people and looking for catering gigs she stops having time to bake, which is the thing she says she loves. a surgeon and a neurologist are almost certainly able to rebalance their finances and that is a perfectly fine decision to make. that's not the real hidden cost of turning a love of food into a business for her and I don't think she's realized that yet and it can't be stressed enough that there is a major scam undercurrent to culinary arts programs. she should start out of her own kitchen for a very select set of customers and she really doesn't need a 2 year degree to do that. at least she's not thinking about C.I.A. or some other bs school
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Aug 23, 2019 02:43
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pentyne posted:Every over the hill boomer wants their dream of their big successful restaurant where everyone falls over themselves to compliment them on the food and decor. She should just take some time off and try out for a Food Network baking competition.
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Wibta for asking coworker to stop joking about her multiple bereavements? Sorry for any formatting issues, I'm a technophobe. I've been at my job for about six months now, and I have a coworker who started a few weeks after me. Even though we've only been there a few months, since we started there she's lost 4 family members (an aunt, a cousin, two grandparents. Her cousin died a week ago). Understandably she's been quite affected by it. She says she doesn't feel like she can take time off because there's too much work to split between the rest of us, which I agree with - we wouldn't be able to cope. The result of that is that we have to put up with her morbid sense of humour. For example, she had some chocolate in the office fridge and I didn't know it was hers, so I asked whose it was and she said "oh, that's my bereavement chocolate, it gets me through the day." When I asked her about her weekend plans, she said "probably a few funerals, a bit of mourning, maybe an impromptu phonecall to say someone else has kicked the bucket." Another time, she was making everyone coffee (I admit she usually ends up being the one to do this as no-one else makes it as nicely) and she said something like "of course, it should be you all making me coffee, seeing as I'm the one whose family are dropping like flies." She said it in a jokey way but it made me uncomfortable. I get that she needs to talk about this stuff and is probably trying to do it in the least depressing way but death is death and I don't see why we should all hear about it all the time. It's worth saying that she's generally really nice and jokey and it's just that sometimes the jokes are too morbid. She isn't death 24-7. It just comes out every now and again and it's like... ok. She's in bereavement counselling so wibta for asking her not to talk about death unless it's with her therapist?
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Straight White Shark posted:I (f 26) always want my husband (28) to check the house for murderers before I come inside but he told me he’s not going to do it anymore. Just wait until she finds out that her husband is statistically most likely to murder her. The killer was in the house the whole time!
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"I have an irrational fear of being murdered" seems pretty rational.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Wibta for asking coworker to stop joking about her multiple bereavements? sorry my continual loss of loved ones makes you uncomfortable
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HIJK posted:Couldn't she start a side business out of her own kitchen if she really wanted to pursue this? Baking/cooking well is absolutely a skill, but it’s not a career with a high barrier to entry - there’s nothing stopping you from going to the grocery store right now, getting ingredients, and baking several cakes for your local PTA bake sale or to sell to friends/family/coworkers or whatever. Smirking_Serpent posted:Wibta for asking coworker to stop joking about her multiple bereavements?
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Aug 23, 2019 03:20
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Wibta for asking coworker to stop joking about her multiple bereavements? Cripes, those jokes are really mild. I could understand being uncomfortable if someone else in the office was dealing with recent bereavement, but if it's just her dealing with it and she's otherwise pleasant, let her have her little stress release.
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How do I [31F] motivate my partner [32M] to find another job or change his terrible work ethic. He’s on thin ice with his manager. I am so frustrated by my partner's lovely work ethic. We are both in our early 30s, living together and sharing expenses. We are also saving for a trip this upcoming summer, which will not be cheap. My Issue is that my partner (m32) will take any excuse to skip work. Anything. We both caught a cold this week, he missed 3 shifts. It wasn't that bad, i made it to all my shifts. In fact, i had to work because we couldn't afford to lose the income if I had stayed home as well. He will skip out on work if hes tired, has a stomach ache or has a runny nose. I should add that he does not work a stressful job, at all. He does not struggle with depression or anxiety I am getting sick of picking up the slack because hes "sick". We both have a cold, yet i worked my 9 hour day and did the housework and grocery shopping. He sat and played video games all day. Any attempt to start a communication with him about this is met with defensiveness. I am called a nag because i want him to go to work when hes "sick" or tired. I am tired of being the only one who works hard in our home. Maybe this is more of a rant, but i am feeling almost ready to pack my bags here. He called out this past Sunday and when I asked him his reasoning he just smiled and told me he stayed up too late playing video games and told me they threatened to write him up for reliability at work because he has called out/been late too many times in the past few months. They said he’s showing a trend for not being at work TL;DR: My partner is lazy and will take a day off at the slightest sniffle, or any sign that he’s tired this means i have to work harder to make ends meet. This goes for household chores as well. I cant seem to get through to him that his poor work ethic is making my life more difficult. Any suggestions would be appreciated, as I feel ready to end the relationship
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When I studied for my current career like 1/3rd of the class were chefs trying to escape the hell that is hospitality/catering.
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MagusofStars posted:Yeah, this is really the best option here. It would give her the experience of actually running a business, selling food off before it goes bad, handling money, and she can slowly expand her client base. Going to school for some things makes sense but she's not talking about attending Italian cooking schools to learn Proper Italian Cooking and become a certified master chef or something. Maybe her career is giving her an inflated sense of proportion but these things need to go slowly when you're starting what is essentially your own business... that's where the community bake sales and stuff really comes in handy. Heck.
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My relatives died and that's sad, but I'm going to get all the attention I possibly can from it.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:How do I [31F] motivate my partner [32M] to find another job or change his terrible work ethic. He’s on thin ice with his manager. Just cut your losses and get the gently caress out. He will go back to living with his parents in their basement and be their problem. That poo poo ain’t gonna fix it self.
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MagusofStars posted:YTA, because holy poo poo that’s a lot to handle in less than six months. If bad jokes are helping her cope with basically living the plot of a Final Destination movie, then you just nod and go with it. My dad died last November. One of my cousins couldn't make it because one of his girlfriend's parents had died that weekend. Another cousin went to a funeral in Idaho in the morning and then drove over to Oregon (and not the near part) for our memorial service that evening. Two months later yet another cousin's husband lost his mother. It was not a good winter to be anywhere near our family. Fortunately we share the same dark sense of humor.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:How do I [31F] motivate my partner [32M] to find another job or change his terrible work ethic. He’s on thin ice with his manager. So this dude definitely has undiagnosed depression, right? This is freakin' textbook.
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Pastry thoracic surgeon lady should do it. My cousin and her husband were both dentists, shared a practice, worked all the time and they died in a plane crash leaving their 3 kids who were basically raised by a nanny behind. I'm not really making a clear point here but both parents doing the intense doctor thing is tough and if it's going to give her fulfillment and let her see her kids and maybe not die in a fiery terror then that's good.
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Antivehicular posted:So this dude definitely has undiagnosed depression, right? This is freakin' textbook. There are a hell of a lot of men (mostly men, some women) on r/relationships who have decided that they just don't like the work world and their girlfriends will support them if they are good enough at repeatedly losing jobs. No, working full-time as a pastry chef or a baker is *not* going to give her more time with her children. She says in the comments that she doesn't want to start a business. That means she will be working standard restaurant/bakery hours, which start long before the children are up and may, depending, stretch on until they're in bed. OP doesn't seem to have any understanding of how production kitchen work actually goes.
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Arsenic Lupin posted:There are a hell of a lot of men (mostly men, some women) on r/relationships who have decided that they just don't like the work world and their girlfriends will support them if they are good enough at repeatedly losing jobs. Yeah, I posted that and then realized there are plenty of people like this without mental illness involved. I still sincerely suspect a lot of "my SO doesn't have depression but is poo poo at sex/work/hygiene/anything besides sleeping and the most basic dopamine-producing activities" posts have undiagnosed depression at their heart, though.
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Antivehicular posted:So this dude definitely has undiagnosed depression, right? This is freakin' textbook. There's no indication of whether he was like this before, no indication of how it affects the rest of his life besides not doing the household chores which maybe he was never doing anyway. She says "I should add that he does not work a stressful job, at all. He does not struggle with depression or anxiety" which means either we accept that she has good perception of the situation, in which case it must be something else, or she doesn't in which case a lot of what she describes is filtered through her own judgement of severity. Whenever people say things like "Any attempt to start a communication with him about this is met with defensiveness." I'd really love to be a fly on the wall because there are many defensive people in denial who will avoid any negative thoughts and any discussion around them and there are also many people whose attempts to start a communication consist of asking pointed loaded questions to which the only reasonable responses are full acquiescence or defensiveness, because even if the person on the receiving end is receptive to a real conversation the person asking isn't.
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:white people dont get to say poo poo about looking the same when there's exactly TWO types of white person and they're either named CHRIS or JOHSSSSSH I was actually thinking maybe the parents are white and just both happen to be blonde or something but the girlfriend’s from a largely nonwhite place, but yeah, it’s more likely they’re Asian and she’s white and swears she’s not racist
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:white people dont get to say poo poo about looking the same when there's exactly TWO types of white person and they're either named CHRIS or JOHSSSSSH i knew it! aidens arent white.
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Honey, you won't believe it: I convinced the local manager of the Dunkin' Donuts to let me start a two year residency. I'll be working under the Attending Donut Specialist. It's unpaid, but the experience is invaluable. Can you believe it? The Attendant is only 17. He must be a genius in the field.
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Mr cumshitter, sir, I dont want to tell you again the balls for all sale only applies to the donut balls.
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It’s cool that professional woman’s midlife crises isn’t the normal divorce and sports cars and hookers but turning your life into a bad rom com setup plot Wow she’s so smart and talented, but she just LOVES to BAKE
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Better than my midlife crisis where I joined a hardened battalion of PMC operators. Turns out you dont get dental benefits with that.
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Woman buying donuts: Oh no. My water just broke. Dr. Donuts: Sorry, not my thing anymore. Also, I let my malpractice insurance lapse so... I can't really get involved. *24 hours later* I refused to help a woman in labor at my donut shop because my doctor insurance lapsed. AITA?
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MagusofStars posted:I assume she’s never once spoken with anybody except super-serious Crossfitters because literally nobody outside a gym believes this. I read that and made that twisted Brittney Spears meme face in real life.
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Pinecone Sample posted:I (46F) really want to make a drastic career change. My husband (48M) seems reluctant to talk about it. When you've spent so much time and money working towards a specific goal/profession, and then realize it's not what you want, your brain kind of panics. Before you know it you've concocted an elaborate fantasy that your true life's calling is professional baking because you like making muffins and brownies for people. She could probably do with some therapy before she makes any rash decisions.
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