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DemoneeHo posted:My sister(F22) ripped up my(F19) Stan Lee autograph and I haven't forgiven her even if my mom(46F) is pressuring me to, for families sake. Should have put a spoiler on the ages for this one imo.
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Also, caffeine drinking kidney stone wife needs to be assessed for adhd. Self medicating with coffee until I got an ulcer when I went back to school was one of the big signs for me.
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Aug 30, 2019 22:42
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DemoneeHo posted:My sister(F22) ripped up my(F19) Stan Lee autograph and I haven't forgiven her even if my mom(46F) is pressuring me to, for families sake. quote:
 a limb from the sister's body and beat her with it.
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Aug 30, 2019 22:44
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Pinecone Sample posted:How do I (23F) respectfully break things off with a guy (31M) because he doesn't have his poo poo together? Or am I being too critical? I know this was from pages ago, but I can't get over this grown-rear end man who tried to make "home decor" by hardening Play-Doh. I feel like the properties of Play-Doh should be common knowledge by age 5 or so, although I guess if he hasn't nailed down stuff like "don't let your multiple dogs just constantly piss and poo poo in your house," it might still be beyond him.
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Aug 30, 2019 22:51
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I fuckin' hate comics but holy poo poo that's a bad sister and an absolutely reasonable thing to cut a family member out of your life over. I can see like 10 year olds doing the petty destruction of each other's stuff because they got mad sort of thing, but at those ages it's unforgivable. Older sister knew exactly what she was doing and how much her younger sister cared about that irreplaceable treasure and she destroyed it over not being lent a jacket. She wanted to hurt her sister as badly as possible and knew exactly where to strike. if it was "just some paper" like she's dismissing, she wouldn't have gone after it to hurt her in the first place.
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Aug 30, 2019 22:53
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Im sorry you lost your Stan Lee autograph and have discovered your family is irredeemable poo poo who will never truly love you, but think of this sort of like matt murdoc getting hit by toxic waste: now you can see that
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Aug 30, 2019 22:55
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I (F26) do not know how to handle my partner's (M32) news. Relationships submitted 9 hours ago * by ExplainMyPain quote:Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read. A big thank you to anyone who is willing to provide me perspective on what to do or their thoughts. I want to learn and grow as a person so, if you disagree with me, I want to read your thoughts especially.
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Aug 30, 2019 22:55
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Pigsfeet on Rye posted:
It's not even about money or materialism. The dude is dead and she can't get back the physical manifestation of that memory. Have the goddamn emotional maturity to understand that people like what they like and that is relatively similar to whatever you value and care for in a similar way.
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Aug 30, 2019 22:56
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Motronic posted:I (F26) do not know how to handle my partner's (M32) news. Relationships Way to appropriate strong-spine culture you fraud.
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Aug 30, 2019 22:58
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Motronic posted:I (F26) do not know how to handle my partner's (M32) news. Relationships quote:I asked if we could talk since he was on a ten minute video game break Lmao case closed.
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Aug 30, 2019 23:00
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I [39M] am disturbed and confused by my wife [36F] and her friend [34?F] [new] submitted 7 hours ago by confusedhub2019 quote:I guess obligatory long time lurker, first time poster notice. tldr at the bottom.
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Aug 30, 2019 23:03
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Motronic posted:I [39M] am disturbed and confused by my wife [36F] and her friend [34?F] [new] Go for the belt.
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Aug 30, 2019 23:09
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Don’t waste the invite, man!
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Aug 30, 2019 23:09
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Antivehicular posted:I know this was from pages ago, but I can't get over this grown-rear end man who tried to make "home decor" by hardening Play-Doh. I feel like the properties of Play-Doh should be common knowledge by age 5 or so, although I guess if he hasn't nailed down stuff like "don't let your multiple dogs just constantly piss and poo poo in your house," it might still be beyond him. This Play Doh poo poo slaughtered me because I used to make decorative teacups (?) of the flags of the nations of the world and dry then out and my parents never once yelled at me for wasting Play Doh
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Aug 30, 2019 23:18
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DemoneeHo posted:My sister(F22) ripped up my(F19) Stan Lee autograph and I haven't forgiven her even if my mom(46F) is pressuring me to, for families sake. Nuke her.  Actually nuke mom too 
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Aug 30, 2019 23:36
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I asked BSS about the Big 3 thing, and consensus was: no exact consensus, because there's about six or more contenders, might have just meant OP's three faves
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Aug 30, 2019 23:46
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Kite Pride Worldwide posted:Nuke her. As Robert Oppenheimer once intoned, "I am become death, girlfriend of deadpool"
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Aug 30, 2019 23:49
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Pinecone Sample posted:This Play Doh poo poo slaughtered me because I used to make decorative teacups (?) of the flags of the nations of the world and dry then out and my parents never once yelled at me for wasting Play Doh I feel like there's a difference between doing it as the kid for whom the Play-Doh was bought and doing at as the dad of those kids, especially a dad who sounds like he's close to deadbeat. Using and ruining a consumable toy intended for the kids you're already kinda neglecting is pretty lovely, even before you get into his "plan."
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Aug 30, 2019 23:49
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Motronic posted:I [39M] am disturbed and confused by my wife [36F] and her friend [34?F] [new] Disturbed is probably a strong word but it's loving weird and I'd also be confused as hell about what's going on or why either party involved thought that was a smart thing to do.
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Aug 30, 2019 23:51
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goethe.cx posted:AITA for going to gay bars to get hit on even though I’m not gay? lol at "real interest" when the setting is a bar
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Aug 31, 2019 00:07
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Hey, an update on the Stan Lee autograph!quote:Update : Thanks for the support. My dad and I found somone that restored pictures and we are taking my piece to it. Dad is going to use part of the money he was going to gift my sister for her car down-payment. As you can imagine sister threw a fit and is staying with mom at my grandparents now.  Maybe she can recover it.At least her dad doesn't suck.
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Aug 31, 2019 00:10
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AITA for telling my mother she is not allowed to visit my workplace unless it's an "open day"? I (25F) have been working in a lab for a few years, first as a student, now after graduation, as a paid employee. Mother teaches basic science to kids aged 12-14, so she gets some of it and is very interested in what I do. But over the past few months, especially since I’m doing it as a job I feel she doesn't take it seriously. She keeps saying she wants to work here too and is sure she would be good at it, which I find kind of insulting since I had to get an MSc for it while her education doesn't even qualify as university. My contract says 40 hours/week but with no set schedule, basically I come and go whenever I want to and nobody checks it, but I religiously count my 8 hours/day because I'm... a decent person lol (plus, I still gotta keep those results coming). All summer (when she doesn’t teach) she kept making plans on workdays when I can’t attend and when I reminded her that I have a fulltime job now she’d be like “but can’t you just skip a day whenever?”, and I technically can but also... can’t really. I feel she is jealous of my free schedule and that I can take part in some exciting research while she feels burnt out in her job but sometimes her attitude makes me feel she thinks it’s all fun and games and I’m just a kid with expensive toys. So she had this idea that she wants to visit the lab. I was like "okay, we actually have an open day event soon, you can come to that and we will show you around". She got SO OFFENDED at my suggestion. She was like she isn't just some random nobody, I should just take her there! I told her it's not possible. The truth is that it kiiinda is but it's complicated and also, frankly, weird and embarrassing in my opinion. The building requires cards for entry so I'd have to check her in at the entrance. I could use it as an excuse to her visit that she is "in science" too, profs bring colleagues to visit all the time, but I'm not a prof so I don't feel it's in my right. No one else ever brought family or partners to visit, only on open days. Again, might be only my judgement but I feel she thinks this is just some student playground and not an actual, serious research lab. But it is, and it isn’t for public entertainment - except on the open day, which she is free to come to! But she finds that insulting, so much that on a recent family gathering I overheard her complaining to my aunt "...and I asked if I can visit and can you imagine what she said?! That I can visit on an open day!" but all this laughing, jokingly, as if my suggestion was unbelievable ridiculous. TLDR; My mother is interested in my laboratory job to the point she wants to visit my workplace, and she found my suggestion that she can come visit on an upcoming open day insulting. She thinks I should just take her and show her around sometime, which I think is unrealistic, and she also seems to not take my job seriously. AITA for telling her she can't visit, only on open days?
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Aug 31, 2019 00:12
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I [27m] hoop with a neighbor [16f] and her friends [teenagers f & m]. Her mom asked her to pretty much stay away from me. How should I handle this moving forward? Four blocks from my home there's a park with a soccer/basketball court. The park covers the full city block and there are small apartment buildings all around. A few months ago I started going really early in the morning on weekends. Because it's mostly occupied for the entirety of the day, I get there at 6am and when the kids arrive at 8 or 9 I leave so they can have the court. A girl started showing up early too, about one hour before other people and we became friends. Sometimes she plays soccer on her own while I play on the other half, other days she asks for pointers on how to shoot the basketball, etc. She frequently showed up with a friend and that became the early weekend routine for us, for about 2 months. I mostly left when enough people converged on the court, but I did play soccer with them a few times. Last weekend, her friend showed up and we where playing around at about 7am. I asked her for the girl who originally showed up early and she said her mom told her to not get there so early to play with me. I don't know how accurate what she told me was, but she said her mom asked about the man she was always playing with and how old he was, etc., and didn't like the answers and ordered her to not leave home so early. I didn't see her on Saturday, and on Sunday I saw her arrive at about the same time as most people (8 or so). So, I only know what the friend told me, which is probably not entirely accurate. With that in mind, what should I do? I don't think we owe each other any sort of clarification, some days we would barely interact anyway, but I don't know if I should have something in mind tomorrow when I get there. It really sucks that her mom seems close minded but I also don't feel like I should judge anyone based the limited info I have. What should I do next? Is there anything in particular I should have in mind moving forward? tl;dr: I play basketball on a public court near my home every weekend early so kids can play freely a little later in the morning. A girl started showing early too and we would sometimes play together. Someone else told me her mom suddenly doesn't want her to be around me so early. How should I react or handle this moving forward?
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Aug 31, 2019 00:15
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I [27m] hoop with a neighbor [16f] and her friends [teenagers f & m]. Her mom asked her to pretty much stay away from me. How should I handle this moving forward? Wtf. I ball daily, it's totally normal for us to get random kids on different schedules showing up, and we show them the ropes. That's just a part of early morning bball IMO. We're here to play the game. Teaching kids is part of that but we're just here to play.
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Aug 31, 2019 00:27
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Midnight Voyager posted:Hey, an update on the Stan Lee autograph! Its good that the father recognizes that the sister picked an item she knew would cause major emotional pain but would use the excuse of "its just a piece of paper" and is punishing her for it. The mom is garbage because she's either willfully ignorant of how much her daughter cared about the autograph or doesn't see anything wrong with someone being emotional hurt for refusing a request.
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Aug 31, 2019 00:28
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Antivehicular posted:I feel like there's a difference between doing it as the kid for whom the Play-Doh was bought and doing at as the dad of those kids, especially a dad who sounds like he's close to deadbeat. Using and ruining a consumable toy intended for the kids you're already kinda neglecting is pretty lovely, even before you get into his "plan." For sure, I just forgot that doing that was a thing and really gives an insight into this guy's intellectual age
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Aug 31, 2019 00:32
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pentyne posted:The mom is garbage because she's either willfully ignorant of how much her daughter cared about the autograph or doesn't see anything wrong with someone being emotional hurt for refusing a request. TheAardvark posted:Wtf. I ball daily, it's totally normal for us to get random kids on different schedules showing up, and we show them the ropes. That's just a part of early morning bball IMO. We're here to play the game. Teaching kids is part of that but we're just here to play. Op needs to invoke the ancient rite of Shut Up and Jam. If Mom cannot defend against the Chaos Dunk, she loses all claim to the court.
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Aug 31, 2019 00:35
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How emotionally stunted do you have to be to not recognize that a personal drawing combined with a famous dead man's signature means something incredibly valuable? Are golden children some sort of extension of narcissism, where the parents project themselves onto one child and become blind to all their faults?
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Aug 31, 2019 00:47
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Dazerbeams posted:How emotionally stunted do you have to be to not recognize that a personal drawing combined with a famous dead man's signature means something incredibly valuable? Are golden children some sort of extension of narcissism, where the parents project themselves onto one child and become blind to all their faults? they certainly just see it as kid's cartoons signed by some schmuck because they dismiss the younger daughter's interests
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Aug 31, 2019 00:51
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Which would mean that the mother doesn't give a poo poo about her husband either, since he's also a big Marvel fan.
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luxury handset posted:they certainly just see it as kid's cartoons signed by some schmuck because they dismiss the younger daughter's interests Agreed, and it is completely irrelevant what the thing is that brings her joy. This is like spoiled sociopath poo poo.
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Aug 31, 2019 01:07
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dick wizard posted:Should have put a spoiler on the ages for this one imo. Yeah this whole thing should have teenagers as protagonists. “I’m an adult women who lives at home and still needs my parents to mediate conflict for me.” You are 22, move the gently caress out. Edit: actually I misread it she’s the 19 year old , will let my mistake stand for the ages.
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WIBTA if I don't attend my sister's $2800 per ticket destination wedding? *I do have enough money.quote:My sister is having a Destination wedding in the Dominican Republic (all-inclusive). It'll cost me $2800 dollars to attend (there's no option to adjust the dates/costs. it's for a full week). My sister would be very upset if I don't attend. My parents say I should go, and that I'm being selfish for saying I'm not going.
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Dazerbeams posted:How emotionally stunted do you have to be to not recognize that a personal drawing combined with a famous dead man's signature means something incredibly valuable? Are golden children some sort of extension of narcissism, where the parents project themselves onto one child and become blind to all their faults? Yes. A lot of golden children get in on the abuse of the scapegoat child because the narcissist parent both encourages it and not abusing the scapegoat is like the only way to lose golden child status.
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Pinecone Sample posted:WIBTA if I don't attend my sister's $2800 per ticket destination wedding? *I do have enough money. Your parents can pay if it's so important you go and $2800 means so little to them.
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FilthyImp posted:Mom's playing favorites and it shows. 100% Mom played the "you shouldn't be mad at your family over material things" card, but now mom is upset over the other sister losing a material thing that she hadn't even received yet. Dazerbeams posted:How emotionally stunted do you have to be to not recognize that a personal drawing combined with a famous dead man's signature means something incredibly valuable? Are golden children some sort of extension of narcissism, where the parents project themselves onto one child and become blind to all their faults? Yes, that is common with a narcissistic parent. The dad's comment about the other daughter being spoiled by the mom further hints at this possibility
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Pinecone Sample posted:WIBTA if I don't attend my sister's $2800 per ticket destination wedding? *I do have enough money. For any person who wants a destination wedding, even if you pay for the whole thing, it's imposing the other person in a huge way. So if you want one, you live with the fact that not everyone is coming. As someone who has a sister who is exactly like the one in the Stan Lee story, take the hint now that your mom is trash, along with your sister, and when you move away, don't look back, not to spite them, for your own mental health.
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Aug 31, 2019 01:24
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imagine blowing up your parents' marriage at age 22 by destroying your siblings' irreplaceable drawing over not borrowing a jacket
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I appreciated that the people I know who did destination weddings paid for their guests airfare and hotel under the justification of that being the money they saved not renting a venue/hosting 500 people.
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Pinecone Sample posted:WIBTA if I don't attend my sister's $2800 per ticket destination wedding? *I do have enough money. who cares about destination weddings -- this is the line that's bugging me quote:The cost of this trip would exceed the value of my worldly possessions including my car. okay, so we'll generously say that you have a $1000 junker shitbox (even the scrap value of a car stays pretty stable at about 500 bucks). you have a cheap laptop that cost you $700 and a three-year-old android worth a hundred dollars. the total value of everything else you own -- all your furniture, clothing, housewares, cosmetics, etc -- is less than one thousand dollars? what the hell does this person's living situation look like? Barudak posted:I appreciated that the people I know who did destination weddings paid for their guests airfare and hotel under the justification of that being the money they saved not renting a venue/hosting 500 people. i went on a destination wedding to india and the whole two weeks was entirely paid for as long as i covered the plane ticket there. still expensive, but absolutely the right choice to go
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