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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:What?! No. Boyfriend is a moron and absolutely doesn’t get a say in this at all. gently caress the boyfriend. He's a moron, yes, it's the tone of her narrative as it goes on and on that makes you wonder what he's been putting up with already and what he's in for in dealing with a pregnant woman.
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Getting pregnant is a massive change in lifestyle that will affect him mentally, emotionally and financially just as much as it does her. she's allowed to be a surrogate for her sister and he is certainly within his rights to say no, dealing with a pregnant girlfriend isn't in my life plan right now, see ya
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 17:46 |
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Like, he super doesn't get to just veto it for sure but yea you kinda have to answer 'will you do this extremely physically and emotionally taxing thing in having our baby and giving it up to us' with 'can I have a couple days to talk that over?' Even if you already know you're gonna say yea, you gotta at least give your partner and poo poo some time to adjust.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 17:50 |
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Dancer posted:Did my (32m) wife (26f) go over board with wedding photos or am I overreacting? Is this insane culture that's sprung up around weddings a byproduct of reality TV show or like
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 17:51 |
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Op though pregnancy isn't a team sport. Lol But besides, it looks like that it isn't even legal if she didn't have a child before and her partner isn't on board.
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My boyfriend told me he paid for sex with a trans woman. Now what? This is a throwaway account. This will be a long post (sorry in advance, I want to give as much info as I can to get the best advice). I’m a cisfemale who identifies as straight and he is a cismale who recently told me he may be pansexual. I think the part that is bothering me is that: 1)he paid for it. And I would still have a problem with him paying for it if it was a ciswoman. But I also understand why people pay for sex and he explained this was a difficult point in his life. 2) it happened another time (that he didn’t pay for). The part that’s bothering me about that is wondering if it’s something he likes and will I measure up/be enough. He has assured me that he was exploring his sexuality which I completely understand. He was also extremely reassuring that he was with me for a reason and not with anyone else. Which is comforting, but it’s still hard not to have those thoughts. I feel like I should ask questions but at the same time I don’t think knowing the specifics will make me feel any better. Has anyone been in a situation like this where a) you found out your partner paid for sex or b) they were with someone trans and you had feelings of being inadequate? TL/DR: My bf was with someone trans (once he paid for it and once he didn’t) and I am struggling with feeling inadequate and the thought of him paying for sex. I hope I’m not being offensive to the trans community in anyway. I tried to use the correct verbiage but please correct me if I’m wrong.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 17:53 |
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May I suggest murder My [31M] husband prevents me [31F] from getting sleep [new] Basically what the title says. I’ve been sleep deprived for months. Not because we have any babies crying through the night but simply because my husband won’t let me sleep. Let me start by saying I love my husband. He’s smart and talented so that’s why it’s so frustrating that we aren’t able to figure this out. He’s always been a night owl, from middle school through college and beyond. He would take naps pretty much anywhere he could lay his head down throughout the day and that has worked for him. This has never been an issue at work either. He makes a good salary and has the option to work from home for most of the week (sometimes they fly him out somewhere or he has to go into the office once a week) but he pretty much can wake up at 10 am and walk 15 steps to his office chair. This means he can go to bed at 2 or 3 in the morning and still get a decent amount of sleep. I can’t do that. Depending on my schedule I’m up at either 4 or 5 in the morning and I need to be awake and alert. My job requires me to be energetic. I really like my job and what I do. However; I feel like I’m dying. I typically work 6 days a week and this week alone I only had 22 hours of sleep in total. I don’t have the energy for any of my hobbies or to go to the gym. I’m moody and cranky and start falling asleep at the wheel. This has been going on for nearly a year. I CAN’T. It’s not like he’s just watching movies so he can go into the other room. For a while, it was the game League of Legends. His gaming computer is in our bedroom (we have a small apartment) so playing at night on his headset was a thing for a while. Then he got a 3D printer and would be up all night making models and running back and forth between the small office space and our bedroom to see if it works. Sometimes he keeps me up because he’s in the mood for sex at 1 am. Other times he would invite friends over for board games and I would say we’d need to wrap it up by 11. Nope, it’s almost 1 and everyone is still here making a bunch of noise. The point is, there is no sleep in my life. I suggested I make the office my bedroom and soundproof the wall. This way he can have all his games and friends and printers and whatever and I won’t bother me. He felt like bad because I was being demoted to a second rate person in our relationship. He would get the bigger bed, bigger room, with the nice brand new mattress we’d recently purchased (so comfy btw) and I’d probably have to get a used futon. I’m at my wit's end. He started taking online language classes once a week and he has them set up for 9:30-10: 30 pm on Friday’s. I still need to work on Saturday. He also had a bunch of work to finish that evening (a deadline). I suggested he cancel the class and do the work instead. It’s more important. No, he’s got it. Finished the class and work by 11:59 pm. Finally! Let’s go to sleep. I’m in bed and he’s getting all touchy. “Let me rub your back.”, “Let me hold you.” , “take your top off so I can touch your skin.” I glance at the clock it’s almost 1 AM!!! I put on jeans and got my shoes and I spent the night trying to sleep in the car at a grocery store parking lot. He did not text or call or anything. I did come back home around 4 am to get ready for work and he was sleeping on the couch, so I guess he must’ve felt bad. I don’t think he understands how much this affects me. I’m exhausted. We’ve had so many conversations. Occasionally when he’s up late doing a project and only gets 5 or 6 hours of sleep he complains how tired he is. Doesn’t he understand I’m like this almost all the time? On another note, the way he and his family act sometimes in regards to other people, it’s like they don’t have social or emotional intelligence. It makes me wonder if perhaps he’s on the spectrum and should get tested? Please, Reddit. Help me get some sleep. EDIT: He did suggest we try waking up at the same time. It just didn't really work because he'd keep sleeping through all of the alarms. He also suggested that I try taking naps throughout the day to see if that helps me (I tried, but then it became difficult for me to fall asleep at the time I should have. Rinse and repeat). So it's not like he wasn't trying to give solutions! TL;DR: My husband has a lot of hobbies and is a night owl but I need to be up at 4/5 am for work most days. How can I compromise?
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 17:56 |
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Sagebrush posted:Getting pregnant is a massive change in lifestyle that will affect him mentally, emotionally and financially just as much as it does her. she's allowed to be a surrogate for her sister and he is certainly within his rights to say no, dealing with a pregnant girlfriend isn't in my life plan right now, see ya It's insane that anyone could fail to see this. He doesn't get to say no, but he does get to say goodbye. OP really shouldn't expect to be able to keep her relationship and do this without talking about it first.
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:What?! No. Boyfriend is a moron and absolutely doesn’t get a say in this at all. gently caress the boyfriend. You aren't emotionally mature enough to criticize other people's relationships lmao
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 18:04 |
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Potential surrogate should talk with a lawyer and an obstetrician before making a decision. Asking your sister to risk her own fertility, among other terrible complications, at such a young age sounds exploitative.
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ParserGirl posted:Potential surrogate should talk with a lawyer and an obstetrician before making a decision. Asking your sister to risk her own fertility, among other terrible complications, at such a young age sounds exploitative. look I know surrogacy is maybe one of the most complex and highly regulated things you can get involved in for parenthood, even more than adoption at times, but my sister's got an empty womb and I'm seeing solutions!
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:What?! No. Boyfriend is a moron and absolutely doesn’t get a say in this at all. gently caress the boyfriend. Hm, username doesn't check out
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quote:How do I (28m) politely broach toenail length with girlfriend (30f)?
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 18:24 |
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My [F33] relationship is ending over laundryquote:I'm engaged to Mark [M34] and we are to get married in 6 months.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 18:29 |
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At least now she knows he can't handle the smallest of arguments without going nuclear.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 18:35 |
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I know he loves me, she says. lmao
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 18:53 |
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'I know they love me' is a word less than 'for sale: baby shoes, never worn' so suck it Hemingway
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 18:55 |
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Miserable Maid posted:Nah, it's fine. Especially with the 9.99 unlimited thing Nah, Olive Garden is lower quality than most fast food places and it isn't particularly cheap either. You're way better off going to another crappy pasta chain like Noodles & Company or Fazoli's, since it's cheaper and way less terrible... or preferably, a local casual family restaurant that's probably around the same price for much higher quality pasta and you're supporting your local economy, not massive garbage mega-corporations like Darden that refuse to salt their pasta water and treat their employees like literal slaves. Seriously, Darden is well-known for being terribly abusive to their workforce, even by lovely chain food service standards. Do not support them. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 19:09 on Sep 14, 2019 |
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Sagebrush posted:Getting pregnant is a massive change in lifestyle that will affect him mentally, emotionally and financially just as much as it does her. she's allowed to be a surrogate for her sister and he is certainly within his rights to say no, dealing with a pregnant girlfriend isn't in my life plan right now, see ya I agree 100% that he's justified in walking out if he can't handle this, but her boyfriend also has to realize that their life together is about so much more than him, especially when it comes to her family. It's not too much to ask to have a little bit of empathy for his girlfriend's sister and her husband, not stay stuck solely on how this decision affects him, as if he lives in an underground cave far away from civilization. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 19:10 on Sep 14, 2019 |
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Sagebrush posted:Getting pregnant is a massive change in lifestyle that will affect him mentally, emotionally and financially just as much as it does her. she's allowed to be a surrogate for her sister and he is certainly within his rights to say no, dealing with a pregnant girlfriend isn't in my life plan right now, see ya He's well within his rights for this to be a massive and perfectly valid dealbreaker but rofl at the idea that the man dating her is just as affected as the woman who is actually pregnant.
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Dienes posted:He's well within his rights for this to be a massive and perfectly valid dealbreaker but rofl at the idea that the man dating her is just as affected as the woman who is actually pregnant. not really sure how it will affect them financially at all either, the OP says her sister and BIL will be super involved and take care of pretty much everything. I think even live there?? It will absolutely impact his girlfriend's ability to live a 20 year old life with him and thats fine, I would probably leave too, but yeah no.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 19:29 |
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Op mentioned that she thought she could quit her job and just concentrate on the pregnancy. They probably didn't even look at the rules for surrogacy in their country, or check with a lawyer.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 19:46 |
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Power Khan posted:Op mentioned that she thought she could quit her job and just concentrate on the pregnancy. I skimmed the wall of text but everyone is making out like this is some informal arrangement between the sisters? How can they go through the process of implanting the fertilized egg in a clinic with tons if legal forms needing to be signed?
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Girlfriend [19f] mad that I [21m] feel uncomfortable that she is wearing lingerie clubbing without me (need help)quote:A few months ago my girlfriend of 9 months (now) showed me that she got some sexy lingerie, a one piece body suit. I thought sweet she is getting all sexy for me, lucky me, then she told me she wanted to wear it out clubbing with her single friends (who wear similar things out). I told her that I would find it uncomfortable if she did, and she didn't wear it... until tonight. Last week she told me she was going to wear it and again, I told her how I felt, and she seemed to understand, and sounded like she would respect how I felt and not wear it. But then tonight she told be that she was going to wear it anyway, and again I told her, and at this point she was already pretty drunk having pre drinks in a hotel room in the city with her single friend who she goes clubbing with once or twice a month, for the last 6, who my girlfriend told me last week wanted my girlfriend to wear it. She said that she didn't want to get into a fight ( we had a big one a few days ago about her not ever bringing me out with this particular friend, I just want to go once in a while that's all, she said that she wants me to go, I said she never invites me so it doesn't seem that way, apparently it's to protect her single friends feelings because her friend had a bad breakup a year or so ago).
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:That’s merely a new trend in order to not lose money on cancellations, not a mark of quality. I remember you actually. You’re the restaurant foodie guy. However I disagree on your first point. Of course it’s to save money on cancellations, but it is usually a mark of quality and certainly price as well for 2 reasons: 1) it only makes sense if you are popular enough that people are willing to prepay and lose the money if they don’t attend. 2) it’s almost exclusively the domain of high end Michelin/ prix fixe establishments. Calling it a new trend is I guess accurate (started popping up maybe a decade ago?) but at least here it’s basically how every high end restaurant works. Maybe mid tier restaurants are asking for prepay now but If they are I’ve never experienced it.
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WIBTA if I went camping with new female friends if my girlfriend can't go?quote:My girlfriend, Alison, and I have been together for 3 years. We've had some problems, we broke up about 4 months ago and have been back together for about a month. There are some trust issues but I like to think we've done a lot to work through things. OP gets declared an rear end in a top hat and mods lock the thread. Some hours later, his girfriend responds on r/relationship_advice and links to the AITA thread he created: My (24f) boyfriend (29M) posted this yesterday. How do I end things calmly? quote:I am the girlfriend. I cannot believe he actually posted this. He was talking to his ex for 6 months behind my back. His female "friend" texted him all day every day for over a month and when I told him that made me uncomfortable he told me to talk to HER about it so I did, politely and she accused me of being rude and bitchy to her because I said I felt like she was getting too close way too fast and using him as her main source of emotional support and comfort. He never set boundaries with her and she ghosted. He also doesn't mention here that he continued to be very close friends with a FWB he had before we met, they were literally having sex up till the moment we decided we were exclusive which is fine but in 3 years I never met her, he went to her house to hang with her and her children for hours at a time, they snapchatted all the time and he told me if we broke up they'd start having sex again. I have never asked that he remove them from his life completely only that there be boundaries that keep things platonic. And now this camping situation, I feel that him going camping with only one other guy and 3 girls that he just met and tripped shrooms with is a little odd and intimate and makes me uncomfortable. I feel like he's ditching me to go have a grand old time with three random girls I don't know who were fawning over him and calling him a "shaman" when he gave them mushrooms. He claims he's not interested in them but why be so adamant then to go on a trip with three girls you don't know and claim to not care about?
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Pinecone Sample posted:Girlfriend [19f] mad that I [21m] feel uncomfortable that she is wearing lingerie clubbing without me (need help) Idiot manbabies who think their partner's body is exclusively for them need to wiped off this planet. Sometimes a lady's allowed to feel confident and sexy wearing lingerie on her own without her embarrassing boyfriend or his input whatsoever, especially when they're 19 out dancing with friends! Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 21:25 on Sep 14, 2019 |
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Taima posted:
I would like to hear more about "gourmet" as a class signifier. Is it just that if you use it, it indicates that it's special instead of your usual?
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Idiot manbabies who think their partner's body is exclusively for them need to wiped off this planet. Sometimes a lady's allowed to feel confident and sexy wearing lingerie her own without her embarrassing boyfriend or his input whatsoever, especially when they're 19 out dancing with friends! sure she can do what she wants to do but they're 19 and 21, they should just break up
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Dienes posted:He's well within his rights for this to be a massive and perfectly valid dealbreaker but rofl at the idea that the man dating her is just as affected as the woman who is actually pregnant. Yeah, unless of course, she miscarries
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 20:32 |
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pentyne posted:I skimmed the wall of text but everyone is making out like this is some informal arrangement between the sisters? How can they go through the process of implanting the fertilized egg in a clinic with tons if legal forms needing to be signed? Most clinics would disqualify her from surrogacy because she's never given birth before.
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ParserGirl posted:Most clinics would disqualify her from surrogacy because she's never given birth before. OP is either a shitpost, or a complete idiot that never even tried to look up the legal requirements of the whole ordeal.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 20:51 |
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lol if you posted:competitive chess Haha nope competitive chess will also destroy your body https://www.espn.com/espn/story/_/id/27593253/why-grandmasters-magnus-carlsen-fabiano-caruana-lose-weight-playing-chess
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 20:54 |
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charity rereg posted:
Boomers: The New Batch decide they're going to charge their own child open market rent for their inherited asset, because they have no concept of the economic realities facing said child. Not even suggesting they pay toward owning the house in which they served as live-in caretaker for their dying grandmother. Just straight up, 'We've been looking around on Zillow and we think this is fair.' 2 to 1 that "A good chance to teach you some responsibility." came up in the conversation.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:don't say i never get you guys anything nice I was like,"should I know what arcane farm means?" So I googled it, which only pulled up MMO mats farming advice. Then I googled La Mangeoire and it's supposed to be arcane farm equipment. That's not nearly as fun to think about as, like, having ant farms hanging from the walls but instead of ants, there are pixies living in them.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 21:15 |
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Beachcomber posted:I would like to hear more about "gourmet" as a class signifier. Is it just that if you use it, it indicates that it's special instead of your usual? It's more like if you're super wealthy and a foodie you probably wouldn't be using the word gourmet at all when describing a restaurant I think.
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Gone Fashing posted:sure she can do what she wants to do but they're 19 and 21, they should just break up It's less about their relationship and more about men being really lovely about their partner's body. A girl's allowed to wear sexy lace panties or a revealing bikini 100% for herself without her dumbass boyfriend factoring into it.
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# ? Sep 14, 2019 21:29 |
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A woman is allowed to wear whatever she wants. Her partner is also free to decide they aren't comfortable with that, and say something. Ultimately the woman decides what she will wear, and the partner decides to either live with the discomfort or leave the relationship. Fighting about it is dumb, but it's 100% fair for each person to define the bounds of what they find acceptable from their partners.
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My girlfriend (21F) is polyamourous. I'm (22F) new to this relationship. She and her boyfriend (28M) have been together for about 4 years while I've only been with her for 5 months. He wants a relationship too but I'm very gay.quote:My girlfriend (21F) is polyamourous. I'm (22F) new to this relationship. She and her boyfriend (28M) have been together for about 4 years while I've only been with her for 4 months. Anyway, so I've been really uncomfortable with this guy since he's kinda maybe been expecting a sort of sexual relationship from me even after telling him I'm like fully and truly a lesbian. It's been making me feel uncomfortable and more so that if I offend this guy my girlfriend will be disappointed or something. I also found texts on her phone of them talking about me and how he shouldn't push it and giving him advise about getting together with me. She's even gone as far as including him in our sexting (pictures and videos of her and him) I really love this girl but this whole situation is making me uncomfortable. IDK what to do. I've told her I'm uncomfortable with his sexual interest and she says she's "talked to him." But the fact that they've been together longer makes it feel like it's them and/against me. quote:I thought this... Because like this week he let it slip that they were looking for someone and when she "found me" he stopped looking... I confronted her about it and she kind of just brushed it off? That's what's even got me more suspicious about all this.
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ParserGirl posted:My girlfriend (21F) is polyamourous. I'm (22F) new to this relationship. She and her boyfriend (28M) have been together for about 4 years while I've only been with her for 5 months. He wants a relationship too but I'm very gay. HEY NOW
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