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Smirking_Serpent posted:Me [26/M] with girlfriend of 4 months [27/F]. Our friends are warning me about her “odd behaviors”. Am I blind/ignoring warning signs? Red Flags? Starting to doubt myself. Dump your stupid friends.
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Barudak posted:Is ELI5 a trigger word for a manchurian candidate or something? Is a foreign power using e/relationships as a modern numbers station? Explain like I’m 5
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please knock Mom! posted:Explain like I’m 5 The Manchurian Candidate is an old movie about a man hypnotized to do bad things in response to secret code words.
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please knock Mom! posted:Explain like I’m 5 Which is great, because the entire post is about not explaining poo poo to five year olds
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Oct 5, 2019 01:17
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Like why not just hit the casinos? Slower income drain depending on your stakes / addiction level and you still get that gamblers endorphin rush People who understand nothing about risk go to the casino People who understand a little about risk think day trading is a better option People who understand a lot about risk go to the casino
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I [22 M] with bisexual girlfriend [19] who has been unfaithful over ten times in her previous two relationships. We have been dating for a little over two months, and I have recently come to learn of her cheating nature over her past two relationships, the most recent of which ended a couple of months before we started. AFAIK, she had cheated on her most recent ex-boyfriend with five other men. She never told him about her infidelity during their relationship, and only confessed about one of the men after they had broken up. That man was also her then boyfriend's best friend. To this date, he still isn't aware about the other four. As for her relationship prior to that one, the number of times she was unfaithful is a bit of a mystery to her as well. There were both men and women involved in this one. I have never heard of anyone being unfaithful this frequent and it has definitely gotten my very, VERY wary. My previous relationship before this was a two and a half year long, long distance one, with complete loyalty from both sides. Her reasoning behind the cheating was mostly that the boyfriend didn't give her enough attention, but does that excuse the fact that she knowingly was unfaithful with that many different people? Of course I'm aware of the warning signs this brings up, especially since her reasons for being unfaithful are quite pathetic. But I have found myself having strong feelings for her prior to finding out about this, and I wouldn't want it to end because of her past. I cannot tell if she has changed or transformed from her former self, especially since her relationship with her ex ended not that long ago. What does the relationship side of Reddit think? Any prior experiences with the same would be duly appreciated. tl;dr: Girlfriend's a serial cheater. Should I be worried?
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Oct 5, 2019 01:19
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Pinecone Sample posted:My girlfriend's father wants to get an investigator/law worker on me Well, I mean, I guess it just depends on the how the law worker reads the entrails of the chicken they just cut open. That's how you work laws, right?
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Khanstant posted:
I was broke for a while and usually had a bunch of stuff in my fridge/pantry, because I’d get poo poo on sale in bulk quantities so I wouldn’t have to worry about running out of food if I had surprise expenses. These days I make good money and never stock up unless I’m planning on cooking something crazy, because I won’t be in a situation where I can’t just stop at the store and pick up stuff for dinner or eat out. Just beer and some frozen stuff for when I’m lazy in there. The Bramble posted:The guy who wanted his wife to get an abortion after the doctor told them it was twins because of the "simple math" of twins meaning she'd be pregnant for 18 months and he didn't want her to not work that long. Does anyone have the original?
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Oct 5, 2019 01:21
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Clark Nova posted:Which is great, because the entire post is about not explaining poo poo to five year olds She did explain them, though? I thought that "adults sometimes get piercings in places other than their ears, like this one in my navel" was a pretty good explanation to give a 5 year-old
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Oct 5, 2019 01:22
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That poor man is like a centipede marching into a minefield
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Oct 5, 2019 01:23
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QuarkJets posted:She did explain them, though? I thought that "adults sometimes get piercings in places other than their ears, like this one in my navel" was a pretty good explanation to give a 5 year-old Right but the mom doesn't want their child to know about non-ear piercings because obviously ears are the only non-sexual place to pierce your body.
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Oct 5, 2019 01:28
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sephiRoth IRA posted:Like why not just hit the casinos? Slower income drain depending on your stakes / addiction level and you still get that gamblers endorphin rush He probably thinks it's easier than working. It's not. It's a full time job like any other. Day traders have to watch the market all day while simultaneously doing research and monitoring forums/chats/etc. for day traders. You have to be constantly monitoring and researching to make money. If he wants to replace his income he has to make $6,000 per month. That's $300 in gains per day, on average. In order to make that he has to have a significant amount invested so that a price movement of a couple percentage points can get him to $300. So that would be 1% on an invested sum of $30,000, and he has to be averaging that on a daily basis. Coincidentally, Schwab and TD Ameritrade just announced they're going to $0 fees for stock trades so if that was the only thing holding him back from day trading I don't think he's got the knowledge necessary to do it. I only own a couple individual stocks myself and have the rest in funds. cumshitter fucked around with this message at 01:31 on Oct 5, 2019 |
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Oct 5, 2019 01:29
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I know this thread makes fun of foot fetishists a lot but for my money ear fetishists are worse so danggit Khanstant.
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Oct 5, 2019 01:30
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Ugly In The Morning posted:
this is it, iirc AITA for asking wife to abort 1 twin? ok so i am a 45 yrs old male, she is 37 females. i came home from job. wife came home from a appointment with the doc. says twins. this was news to me. we had not considered the possibilly of twins. my wife was a bit nervous i can tell but excited by the surprise anyways. i start to feel like a raccoon in a room filled with rocking chairs, not sure if abortion is an option where i am. so i start doing research, we live in Alabama and my wife is a bit over 6 weeks pregnant. in Alabama abortion is legal until about 21 weeks. ok good, so, we have plenty of time to think. im a intellectual minded kind of person, talking things over helps me personally, even if she made up her mind on keeping the twins. its ok. i just want to talk about our options. me: ok i want you to abort one of the twins as i am concerned about our fiscal wellbeing of having twins, how long you are going to be pregnant, the safety of the twins once born, our time spent into taking care of both twins, lots of potential fighting between twins, unwanted attention from strangers, double time spent if both twins get sick, never alone time with one child. it would seem logical to abort 1 of the twins. it is either that or we need to prepare for the outcome of twins. (these are all my points, backed up with strong arguments when i spoke to her). her: agrees with financial point says we can talk about that, but rest of my reasons are stupid. says i am an idiot. (???) me: i explain points again. if 1 twin sick, the other will 100% as they spend all their time together. first time parents, having 2 right away increases chances 1 gets hurt, twin proofing the house, and i go on with more back up arguments. it is all genuine concerns. we have a bit more back and forth, she is trying to shove my concerns, but all i want is a civil discussion, not to be verbally shoved and called stupid. her: she starts crying. says im the biggest idiot on the planet. she says she knew something wasnt right. stuff like that. she starts shoving things in her purse and gets out of the house. goes to her mothers. all every dramatic and i am flabbergasted. we had a very long discussion before pregnancy, but now that she is pregnant with unexpected twins i am not allowed to put anything in the tip jar? i reckon shell be back when she is hopefully is willin to talk. i am fretting over options going. we have lived our hole lifes in Alabama so we dont have any residence outside of here so if we need to leave the state for an abortion past 21 weeks, may not be allowed... i am fine with no abortion (honestly i prefer it, dont want her going through struggle of abortion) but this discussion must happen. i am all about open dialogue and sharing smart ideas. even if she has her mind set on having twins. am i the ahole in the context that i should not speak about abortion to a women who is pregnant? i want to chat while we still have our options on the stump...not fair for her to call me stupid for fretting over surprise twins. edit: making edit so people know, always mention twin. i think i ruined life that way. i still i dont see how i am ahole as everyone says... always mention twin quote:how does it make sense for 1 baby needing 9 months but multiple babies only require a few months? sorry but there is a obvious flaw in ur logic. cite some studies if you are going to make claims like this. quote:it is up to the person making the claim to cite their sources.
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Oct 5, 2019 01:33
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Idiot got the math wrong. The womb queues up babies like a production building in an RTS. So it will be one baby every 4.5 months, but they get delivered at the same time. At least that's my understanding of how baginas work.
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Oct 5, 2019 01:35
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I [22 M] with bisexual girlfriend [19] who has been unfaithful over ten times in her previous two relationships. cumshitter posted:That's all assuming he has the discipline to weather price fluctuations given the extreme emotional investment of seeing half his nest egg losing significant value over the course of a day or week. He might panic sell and then double down, like a bad gambler. Everything about the way the dad is described screams "impulsive" and "in a hurry". I hope for his sake he doesn't go through with it...but if he does, I hope we get an update as to how long he lasts before blowing all the retirement nest egg, because my guess is six weeks tops.
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Oct 5, 2019 01:57
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GF [24F] of 2 years went into my [26M] basement lab that she’s specifically never to go into while snooping and opened a properly stored, labeled container of a pyrophoric chemical.quote:My GF of 2 years finally moved into my house 3 months ago, and one of the ground rules, now that she’s living here, and indeed since we started dating is that that room is strictly off limits. I don’t want to encourage curiosity, so I said there’s some dangerous stuff in there and not to go in.
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Oct 5, 2019 02:22
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"What is my girlfriend's fascination with my forbidden basement of mystery?"
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Maybe instead of telling her never to go in somewhere, give her actual instructions on safely handling chemicals? You give her a mystery and she’s gonna want to know. On the other hand, maybe also don’t have a room in your basement full of “your god drat house is on god drat fire”.
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Oct 5, 2019 02:24
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Pinecone Sample posted:GF [24F] of 2 years went into my [26M] basement lab that she’s specifically never to go into while snooping and opened a properly stored, labeled container of a pyrophoric chemical. well YOU shouldn't have been in the west wing!
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Oct 5, 2019 02:31
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Pick posted:well YOU shouldn't have been in the west wing! well YOU should learn to control your temper!!
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Oct 5, 2019 02:32
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You know years down the line theyll look back on this moment and laugh maniacally as they make those fools in the halls of science give them they respect they deserve
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Oct 5, 2019 02:34
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Pinecone Sample posted:GF [24F] of 2 years went into my [26M] basement lab that she’s specifically never to go into while snooping and opened a properly stored, labeled container of a pyrophoric chemical. More like girlfriend found my meth lab
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Oct 5, 2019 02:39
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Pinecone Sample posted:GF [24F] of 2 years went into my [26M] basement lab that she’s specifically never to go into while snooping and opened a properly stored, labeled container of a pyrophoric chemical. Bluebeard strikes again! Also, I feel like this could have been easily solved by saying: “don’t go in the basement, I store chemicals in there that will catch fire spontaneously if they are exposed to air, you could die and burn the house down. 100% serious here.”
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Oct 5, 2019 02:54
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everyone has that one ex who is The Sims
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Oct 5, 2019 02:57
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Pinecone Sample posted:everyone has that one ex who is The Sims Yeah, thats why ill never own a pool again.
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Pinecone Sample posted:My [27F] sister [23F] is having a trump themed wedding and wants me to attend dressed as Melania holding an assault rifle. 
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Oct 5, 2019 03:14
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There was a high probability that she would immolate to death there, meaning my house would have burned down, and my dog would be at significant risk too.
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Oct 5, 2019 03:23
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Yeah ignoring a blatant warning because its a "mystery" is a really good excuse. e: the dog never went in and played with labeled chemicals so i can see why he was worried datajugend fucked around with this message at 03:27 on Oct 5, 2019 |
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Ugly In The Morning posted:Maybe instead of telling her never to go in somewhere, give her actual instructions on safely handling chemicals? You give her a mystery and she’s gonna want to know. When I moved back home for a year we tried to keep my cat out of my mom's sewing room and closet; too much stuff to get his claws into and make a mess. Naturally, he kept trying to get in. Finally I let him in with supervision; he sniffed around to know the layout of the place, looked at me, and left. After that "no" was all that was necessary to keep him out, he just didn't like having an unknown area in his territory. If it worked for a cat, I bet it works for girlfriends as well. But yeah, does a meth lab involve any pyrophoric chemicals? I'm trying to think of a legit reason to have a basement laboratory and it seems like there's gotta be better places to put a home lab (if you're a chemist who likes to take his work home I guess). How are things laid out such that the first thing she opened caught fire?
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My [26 M] brother [29 M] keeps seeking relationships with only Japanese women. My partner [26 F] (who is Japanese) and I have been together for 3 years. We met in the country we currently live in (not Japan), and have been living here together ever since. Last year, my older brother was in a relationship with a Japanese woman who he met online (through a language-exchange website). That relationship ended early this year, and now in the last few months, he has started dating another Japanese woman who he also met on a language-exchange website. Before these relationships, he also tried to date several of my partner's friends (who were also Japanese). My brother, my partner, and myself all get along quite well together. We live in the same city and often hang out together. However, we are very uncomfortable about his relationship with yet another Japanese girl. We haven't spoken to him about how we feel yet because we don't want to upset him, and he seems to be unaware that we are uncomfortable about it. We have asked my brother why he wants to be in a relationship with a Japanese woman once before. He told us that he wants to live in Japan in future, and also that he feels he can't find anyone that matches him in our country. We don't completely understand why he feels this way, and it seems he has some very concrete biased views about women in our country (it might be related to some bad previous relationships many years ago, but we are not sure). My issue with his relationship is that he seems to only be selecting partners based upon their race. If he lived in Japan and met a Japanese person and started a relationship, it wouldn't bother me. Furthermore, I am concerned that he is unable to talk seriously with these partners as he can't speak or understand Japanese (apart from a few basic phrases), and his previous and current partners both have very low English skills. I know (from what he has told me) that they mostly communicate through online messaging using online translator tools. I don't want to draw comparisons, but my partner speaks fluent English. I think easy communication is important for a deep relationship, and I am worried that my brother may be entering into hollow relationships because of language barriers. My partner and I are also concerned about how others will view our relationship, if people discover that my brother and I both have Japanese partners, despite both of us not living in Japan. There is a common negative stereotype in Japan about foreigners who travel there only to find a Japanese wife, as if they are some kind of sought-after luxury item. There is also a negative stereotype in Japan about Japanese women who travel overseas to find a foreign husband, for the same reason. My partner hates these types of people (as do I), but has sometimes been jokingly referred to as being this kind of woman (i.e. going overseas to find a foreigner husband) by friends and family in Japan as a result of being in a relationship with me (to clarify, my partner moved overseas for career reasons, not to find a husband). This is upsetting for both of us already, but if her friends and family in Japan were to discover that my brother also has a Japanese partner, it makes us all look like these negative stereotypes, and it is very hard to say "no, it isn't like that". I feel that worrying about what other people think of my relationship means that I am a shallow person (I know I shouldn't care, and I would readily argue with anyone who spoke ill of my partner), but in Japan the culture is different and people (in my partner's experience) seem to treat others quite harshly based on how things look on the surface, regardless of what the actual truths are underneath. She is worried that her friends and family (in particular) will look down on both of us as just another example of the two negative stereotypes listed above, because that is how my family looks on the surface (i.e. two foreigner brothers, both with Japanese partners who went overseas). I don't mean to say that I think my brother should end his relationship just so that my partner and I feel comfortable. My brother has recently talked about introducing us to his new partner, but we feel uncomfortable about it. I am worried about my brother, but at the same time the thing that maybe brings him some happiness is making us uncomfortable. It's not my business to say who he should or shouldn't be in a relationship with, but it still has an effect on me and my partner. TL;DR: My brother seeks relationships only with women who are Japanese, and it makes me and my partner (who is also Japanese) uncomfortable (also, none of us live in Japan). What should I say to my brother about this? Should I say anything at all? He is the only close family I have and I don't want to push him away. I want to resolve the uncomfortable feelings for everyone but I don't how to do it without someone getting hurt.
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Booboos is really fun to say.
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Oct 5, 2019 03:57
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I don't like it that my brother is dating someone of the same ethnicity as my partner is taking marsha!marsha!marsha! to new heights.
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this is what happens when parents allow younger siblings to ruin their older siblings fun, they never develop personalities of their own and just glom onto whatever they're doing. "Waifu? why not! i like anime fine enough i'm sure that's all the cultural background i need!"
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DemoneeHo posted:This must be eagle boyfriend: Couple pages back, but this guy sounds so rad and I am super jealous and want an eagle companion. OP is lame
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Oct 5, 2019 04:17
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for asking wife to abort 1 twin? Ironically, the more babies you have at a time, the more likely they are to be premature.
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Oct 5, 2019 04:34
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"There is a common negative stereotype in Japan about foreigners who travel there only to find a Japanese wife, as if they are some kind of sought-after luxury item" It would not surprise me at all if weeabos and redpillers did this in significant enough quantities to be noticed
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QuarkJets posted:"There is a common negative stereotype in Japan about foreigners who travel there only to find a Japanese wife, as if they are some kind of sought-after luxury item" sexpats have basically Been A Thing since there has been ships to sail in. the american colonies were founded by a bunch of upstart british failsons. really imperialism wouldn't have succeeded without white europeans producing so many useless males.
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Its a known thing in asia, but white people are considered quite attractive so its not all white people and more they don't want desperate 30 year old cant regularly shower English teachers who have no social skills.
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