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Formatting OP's AITA for telling my sister a "wedding tattoo" is a curse (even though I have one), and now the curse is coming true? quote:My partner and I are in our 30s and we live in a country where gay marriage is illegal. We got engaged years ago knowing we wouldn't be able to marry, but we set a "wedding" date and had a party for friends and family. Instead of an actual ceremony, we got matching tattoos. We had been together 7 years when that happened, and it's been another 6 years since then.
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Oct 6, 2019 13:29
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not paying it forward?? This is like, distilled boomer extract. Motherfucker could have just paid for his own order if it was such a big deal
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Oct 6, 2019 14:10
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What have they been doing for the 9 weeks since he moved out of the house that their marriage is still capable of falling apart? Trying to go halvsies on a fixer upper investment property?
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Oct 6, 2019 14:17
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Imo bag fries are fair game, rooting your dirty fingers around inside individual packs for even more, geeeet fuuuucked!
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Oct 6, 2019 14:20
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My father [M65] is getting hacked because he orders boner pills and signs up for shady dating sites online. How do I [M28] stop it?quote:My clueless non-techy 65 year old dad visits porn sites and signs up for shady crap (boner pills, dating sites etc.) so his inbox is overflowing with spam.
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Oct 6, 2019 14:44
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DrManiac posted:This is like, distilled boomer extract. Motherfucker could have just paid for his own order if it was such a big deal His order was already paid for. That's the whole point of the story
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Oct 6, 2019 15:14
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FilthyImp posted:Someone tell these poor fuckers about Sensory Friendly screenings that turn the lights to dim, lower the volume and serve to let special needs kids have a fun day at the movies without someone saying they ruined Hotel Transylvania 4 for them. I went to one of these and it just ended up being a bunch of old ladies watching Downton Abbey in full darkness/sound. Maybe they wanted to be allowed to ask who every character was each scene without being kicked out.
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Oct 6, 2019 15:15
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AITA for becoming friends with my dad's much younger girlfriend, and encouraging her to "live a little"?quote:My dad is 46 and I'm 22. I found out recently that he's started dating a girl, Lisa, who's 23. My first reaction was to be grossed out, I've got to admit.
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Oct 6, 2019 15:19
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ad090 posted:AITA for becoming friends with my dad's much younger girlfriend, and encouraging her to "live a little"? How dare you befriend someone within your age cohort that iiiiim trying to gently caress!
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Oct 6, 2019 15:28
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AITA? Had a bad date where she walked out on me Hi Reddit, I (38m) recently had a horrible date with a girl (37f). The backstory is, we actually went on a date from a dating site 4 years ago. I drove an hour to meet at a place closer to her. It didn't go well. The reason cited at the time was distance as I was an hours' drive away and she only wanted something "5 minutes away or so". She also seemed to hint I wasn't at her "level" of success, though we both wanted something long term. For background, she's got a PhD and has a successful career. I had a masters, but was still relatively early in starting up my career. Fast forward to present day, and lo and behold, we match again on a different app. Only this time, I've moved for a new (significantly better) job and am about 5 minutes from her neighborhood she's stayed in for the past 4 years. The first red flag was she had NO recollection that we had gone out before. How many different people have you dated if you don't remember ever meeting up with me? Anyway, we chat on the app and find she's super stressed and burned out all the time at work. Her dating life hasn't been going well as she's still on these apps 4 years later. In the same neighborhood. I offer to meet up with her again. I'll also admit she's very pretty. We meet at a bar and go over what's been going on. She still doesn't remember me, but talks about her most recent ex from a couple months ago. The guy didn't want anything long term, requested an "open relationship" from the beginning when they started dating, lived very far away, was emotionally unavailable (her words), her friends hated him, and they dated like this for 12 months. In my mind I'm thinking this just sounds like an extended booty call, but keep silent. She then mentions she has high expectations for a significant other, and won't compromise, which is her choice of course. This all sounded hypocritical given everything I'd learned about her and how our original first date 4 years ago went. When we originally met back then, I was "too far" away, and not at the proper success level. Now I find she's okay with doing an open relationship with someone who lives far away and doesn't want anything long term? On top of that, she mentions she wants to be married and have kids eventually. I mention that might be hard to find if you're not willing to compromise, and those guys who might meet her checklist criteria could be douchey as well (see her ex), and I could see her getting divorced if that happens. I didn't say this in a mean or lecturing sort of tone. She then flips and says she's gonna leave now, and immediately walks out. I sat there for a moment, finished my drink, picked up the tab, and left. I think about it and laugh a bit now given the absurdity of the entire situation. Was I an rear end in a top hat here? Or did I just dodge another bullet for the second time?
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Oct 6, 2019 15:29
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Pinecone Sample posted:GF [24F] of 2 years went into my [26M] basement lab that she’s specifically never to go into while snooping and opened a properly stored, labeled container of a pyrophoric chemical. Deedee! Stay out of my lab!
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Oct 6, 2019 15:29
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From r/childfree: "you can take the risk since you don't have kids" (donating a part of my liver) quote:Let´s see if I can keep this short and sweet. No, probably not. Wait, even the doctor is buying into the idea of "you don't have kids, therefore your life isn't worth all that much"? I'm not familiar with all the specific rules of medical ethics, but I'm pretty sure that that would generally be frowned upon. Same with encouraging someone (regardless of family status) to undergo a crazy high-risk surgery to donate an organ whose recipient couldn't be trusted to take care of it.
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Oct 6, 2019 15:38
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teen witch posted:How dare you befriend someone within your age cohort that iiiiim trying to gently caress! "Don't you realise I WANT her isolated and desperate for my affection"
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Oct 6, 2019 15:47
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AITA for changing my daughter’s visitation schedule once?quote:rear end in a top hat
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Oct 6, 2019 15:47
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Power Khan posted:AITA? Had a bad date where she walked out on me It was one date four years ago, you weirdo.
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Oct 6, 2019 15:53
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Cockmaster posted:From r/childfree: A lot of doctors 100% buy into that bullshit. Due to cancer and some other complications, the odds of me being able to carry a fetus to term are very low, but the odds of complications (including life-threatening ones) are relatively high. I've been trying to get my tubes tied for years and have yet to find a doctor willing to do it. Some refused to do it until I was 40 "in case you change your mind" or demanded I get permission from my husband before they'd do it. My partner casually asked about a vasectomy and they offered to book him later that month.
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Oct 6, 2019 15:55
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Batterypowered7 posted:It was one date four years ago, you weirdo. LOL he seems really butt hurt that she doesn't remember this nonevent
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Oct 6, 2019 16:04
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Dienes posted:A lot of doctors 100% buy into that bullshit. Due to cancer and some other complications, the odds of me being able to carry a fetus to term are very low, but the odds of complications (including life-threatening ones) are relatively high. I've been trying to get my tubes tied for years and have yet to find a doctor willing to do it. Some refused to do it until I was 40 "in case you change your mind" or demanded I get permission from my husband before they'd do it. That poo poo pisses me off so much. My vasectomy consultation took place the same day as the procedure and was literally the doctor saying "You're 33 and have one kid. You're good with one?" and I said yes and then had the procedure done. I can't imagine the levels of pissed off I'd be if I needed to get my tubes tied and I had to deal with douchebags like you have. They don't even have the decency to at least make it about the risks of surgery. Instead they treat you like don't really know what you want at best or chattel at worst. "Get your husband's permission" my rear end! Holy poo poo.
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Oct 6, 2019 16:05
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People are even weird about vasectomies sometimes. A friend of mine recently got one and the first two doctors he went to flatly refused to do it because he didn’t have kids. I think the third one only did it after he brought his wife with him and she said “Yes, I know he’s doing this and I’m okay with it”
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Oct 6, 2019 16:19
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A lot of doctors are huge assholes. Was a derail a while back about how a lot of women find it nearly impossible to get the doctor to actually look at their health problems without insisting that they must be pregnant. Example was coming in with a broken toe and the doctor insisted she must be pregnant.
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Oct 6, 2019 16:45
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Ghost Leviathan posted:A lot of doctors are huge assholes. Was a derail a while back about how a lot of women find it nearly impossible to get the doctor to actually look at their health problems without insisting that they must be pregnant. Example was coming in with a broken toe and the doctor insisted she must be pregnant. A lot of doctors are the same as a car salesman. They won't even talk directly to the woman and will insist she needs to clear it with her husband before purchasing. Ive seen reddit posts that banks, lenders, mortgages as well always ask the man assuming he is in charge of the finances regardless of any details. Can't say its unexpected but aside from lovely attitudes about gender it does seem weird to push a family member to donate an organ with the literal reason "if you die at least children arent traumatised"
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Oct 6, 2019 16:59
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I'm not sure if it's still the case, but about the only good thing to come out of r/childfree is that they had a post (maybe in their wiki?) with a list of doctors that performed vasectomies/tubal ligations for people that normally get turned away by other doctors. Seems like a good resource to have around if you've made that decision for yourself and need to find a supportive medical professional.
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Oct 6, 2019 17:07
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ad090 posted:AITA for changing my daughter’s visitation schedule once? quote:I told her she was malicious and that she has chosen to hold a grudge for years. I said I would never be able to be worthy to her, and that I was done going through that pain. If she wanted a relationship I would be there, but I wouldn’t force it. Lmfao, loving classic deadbeat dad.
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Oct 6, 2019 17:20
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Admiral Ray posted:Lmfao, loving classic deadbeat dad. I'll look after my kid, but not when it's inconvenient. like... what would your plan have been if you had an older child and your wife was pregnant with a second child? How do you think couples with more than one child did things?
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Oct 6, 2019 18:14
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:only another 20 months in this ARG until the big reveal that the cause is slenderman Chairman Mao posted:I like that this guy thinks this gimmick has another year or so left in it. He won’t last that long with the internal bleeding and/or ruptured organs he’s gotten from being rolled by grannies every other day. You’d think the stomach pains would have made him instantly angry.
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Oct 6, 2019 18:25
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QuarkJets posted:Friend if you expect your other housemates to clean up your dishes then it is you who are the poo poo housemate Dishes with multiple housemates was simple. Whoever didn’t cook dinner did the dishes that night. It’s like magic!
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Oct 6, 2019 18:32
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Transmogrifier posted:Formatting OP's  BLESSEDPLS
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Oct 6, 2019 18:42
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My (31F) fiance (38M) doesn't want my ex (30M) to come to our wedding!quote:One of my best friends is a gay male who was actually my neighbor in high school. We dated for 9 months at age 16/17 but since then, he's only dated men (he wasn't out of the closet in high school). We have remained close friends into adulthood. I don't take the fact that he was my "ex" seriously because it's been friendship for 95% of the time we've known each other. There are 0 feelings on either end. And we have both had major relationships since then including the one I'm in right now where I'm getting married next year! My fiance (38M) doesn't want to hang out with my ex or invite him to the wedding. He says the fact that we've slept together really bothers him, and I wouldn't like it if he invited an ex. Idk what to do I can't imagine my ex at my wedding. Fiance is willing to go along because it's important to me, but hates the idea and I don't want to do that. Btw, this is the FIRST time I've ever seen my fiance jealous. Help!
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Oct 6, 2019 18:44
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teen witch posted:How dare you befriend someone within your age cohort that iiiiim trying to gently caress! This is like the perfect power moved your dad starts dating somebody way younger than themselves
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Oct 6, 2019 18:47
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DemoneeHo posted:My (31F) fiance (38M) doesn't want my ex (30M) to come to our wedding! If your fiance is jealous of one gay guy you banged 15 years ago, you should not marry him.
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Oct 6, 2019 18:48
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AITA for re-wearing underwear that my ex purchased for me? Simple one. I was clearing out some boxes of my stuff from my parents home last week and amongst my clothing, found a bag filled with very expensive Agent Provocateur lingerie. My ex was a big fan of seeing me in these so bought me many sets.I don't really wear expensive lingerie these days and usually go braless but decided to take them home with me to surprise my current boyfriend. I thought he would appreciate the novelty. After he got over the shock and of course, the inevitable happening, he asked me if I had spent all our savings on lingerie worth £1000 but was really angry to find out my ex bought me it and has asked me to get rid of it. He wants it gone. I don't want to. I look good in it and it's not like it reminds me of my ex. Am I the rear end in a top hat?
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Oct 6, 2019 18:55
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AITA for wanting to wear a "Just Divorced" sash out to a bar? I've been dating my (29F) boyfriend (30M) for over a year. We're both recently divorced, both previously married for about 7 years. Recently, my group of girlfriends said they wanted to take me out for drinks to celebrate my recent divorce. I loved the idea, and on our group chat, I sent a picture of a "Just Divorced" sash and tiara and told them that I should wear them to the bar. We all had a good laugh, but while I sent the picture to be funny, I was fully planning on doing it. A few days later, I was telling my boyfriend about the conversation and showing him the picture of the sash and tiara. He looked at me and said, "You know you can't do that, right?" I asked him what he meant, and he said, "If you wear that to a bar, guys will be trying to pick you up all night." He hates the idea of other guys hitting on me, especially when he's not there. I think wearing the sash and tiara would be something funny to do that would start a few laughs. I never had the intention of encouraging any flirting that might happen, and I'd never go home with anyone who wasn't my boyfriend. AITA for wanting to wear the sash?
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Oct 6, 2019 18:56
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ad090 posted:AITA for changing my daughter’s visitation schedule once? quote:and it wouldn’t have been fair to my wife to make her care for a child that wasn’t hers when she was so vulnerable. What a conundrum. Can't make my wife care for my kid... me? What do you mean I figure it out?
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Oct 6, 2019 18:57
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for wanting to wear a "Just Divorced" sash out to a bar? I know a person who did that. Their marriage had lasted like eight months, so the whole thing felt sad and desperate. They did have dudes trying to pick them up all night, which was kinda why they wore it.
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Oct 6, 2019 18:58
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for wanting to wear a "Just Divorced" sash out to a bar?  Like wear what you want, your bf is being a jealous weenie, but lol that you aren’t doing it to get some attention
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Oct 6, 2019 19:00
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AITA for kicking my mother in law out after she poo poo herselfquote:Just like the title says. My mother in law came over the other day and we were watching football and drinking beer. She started double fisting beer and wine. She then put on a nightgown, think of a really oversized shirt if you arent familiar. She then went and layed down on the couch. After we cooked some food (ribs, mac and cheese, and coleslaw) I went to the bathroom (#1) and was in there maybe 1 minute.
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Oct 6, 2019 19:08
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I basically told my friend that her son is more attached to his brother.Should I apologize for it?quote:So, she’s my coworker and roommate. we’ve been friends for 4-5 years. She has 2 sons, 17 and 3. Since the minute the kid was born his brother has been taking care of him. He did literally everything. Feed him, change him, get up when he cried, bathe him. I could tell that he was constantly tired. I talked to my friend about it and she just shrugged it off, saying that it’s his brother and he should take care of him.
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Oct 6, 2019 19:10
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America WIBTA if i didn't forgive my friend of 3 years for calling me names and pushing me to a paniac attack? So last night was the homecoming dance that my friend (I'll call her C) has been looking foward to for YEARS. She had spent so much time and money to make it absolutely perfect. I, personally, don't really care for it much since im not a big fan of dances and partys but she really wanted to go and i didn't want to let her go alone. Well we get there and when we are about to go in, teachers started to yell through megaphones to get into the building, literally screaming RUN RUN RUN! Well we get into the building and they arn't checking our tickets or id's, they close and lock all the doors and they arn't telling us what the hell is going on. So I naturally assume something really bad is happening like a big threat to the school with school shootings being a thing. Im shaking, tearing up and on the verge of a paniac attack. I start looking for exits just incase something bad happens when C saids "it's ok there are teachers at the door, we're fine" i looked at her like a crazy person and tried to explain that there is a possibility that we might die tonight and that if there was a shooter they probably would shoot the teachera too. She waves it off and calls me a "killjoy" for not wanting to just go dance and have fun and she straight up saids "we'll know if we hear screaming". Well now i feel like im in a different demention and one of my other friends (we'll call her L) saids there are litterally police cars outside of the school and that something bad really is happening. I run to the bathroom, barely able to breath at this point, sobbing, terrified. They follow after me with only L really concerned. L is trying to talk me down but at the same time C is still saying that im over reacting and that we're fine. I text my mom about 30,000 times and finally i call and she picks up the phone and i beg her to come get me. She got permission from the principle to come pick me up and i wait. C leaves the bathroom and L finally talks me down and gets me to open the stall door. I tell her I'm leaving and that she can come with me or stay but either way I'm gone. She saids she'll stay with C because she dosent want to leave her alone here. I leave and once i get home i FINALLY get to know some information. Apparently something happened at a burger king about a mile and a half down the rode so they issued a lockdown until it was resolved. That was all we heard from them. Today C texted saying that she was a bitch and that the way she acted was wrong and that shes really sorry. But i really don't know if i can forgive her. Everyone around me is saying that, even if it takes time, i should eventually forgive her. But with the way she treated me because she just wanted to party i really don't know if i can trust her anymore. So reddit, WIBTA for not forgiving my friend of 3 years because she pushed me to a paniac attack and only felt sorry after?
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for kicking my mother in law out after she poo poo herself Oh wow Oo
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Dienes posted:A lot of doctors 100% buy into that bullshit. Due to cancer and some other complications, the odds of me being able to carry a fetus to term are very low, but the odds of complications (including life-threatening ones) are relatively high. I've been trying to get my tubes tied for years and have yet to find a doctor willing to do it. Some refused to do it until I was 40 "in case you change your mind" or demanded I get permission from my husband before they'd do it. r/childfree maintains a list of doctors known to recognize women as adult human beings. You might take a look at that.
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