AITA for trying to embarrass a potential racist?quote:As many young men do, I was swiping on Tinder. I matched with a pretty girl who gave me her Snapchat. It turned out that it was a Premium Snapchat where she sold nudes and foot pics, and that she had no intention of getting to know me or wanting to date. So, as many young men might do, I screenshotted the (SFW) selfie in her story where she had prices listed to laugh about the whole story with my friends. She proceeded to call me the long form n word and block me.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for wearing a gas mask in public and at home? Meanwhile I feel like parents are melting down because she's being visibly abnormal instead of just sucking it up and tolerating it so they don't look bad by association.
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AITA for calling out a potential racist? And by racist I mean a person about whom I can't recall any actual racist actions or comments, but he was mean to me so he might be racist!
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:07 |
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PetraCore posted:Eh, NTA. Parents are dicks about her hypersomia but it's a real issue, and since they're (dickishly) correct that the only person's behavior she can control is her own, she bought a mask that solves the issue for her. Is it weird to walk around wearing that in public? Yes, absolutely, I also have aspergers but even I know that. Is it a preferable sort of weird to melting down at every strong scent and being rendered nonfunctional? Also yes, absolutely.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:12 |
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chitoryu12 posted:AITA for breaking up with a guy because he had a ninja sword in his apartment? he's a navy aviator and you're upset because he has an antique sword as a military/family heirloom in his house? he's a trained killer lady, that part should have grossed you out before the fuckin sword did e: he is a professional weapons user. like he gets paid to understand and use weapons. the fuckin sword he probably never touches freaked you out? hot cocoa on the couch fucked around with this message at 19:26 on Dec 12, 2019 |
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Chomp8645 posted:AITA for calling out a potential racist? Sounds like a story made up for people to have this reaction.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:24 |
From the more casual subreddit, r/amithebuttface: WIBTB if I was upset with someone laughing at a joke about my sister’s attempted overdose? quote:Hey!
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:27 |
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AITA For Not Prioritizing My Photographer's's Grief Over My Wedding Photos? I got married in September. I booked our photographer over a year in advance. He has great reviews and I really like his work. We knew that his assistant would be the one shooting our actual wedding, and we were fine with that. We had a really jovial, friendly rapport built up during the engagement photos, it was all great. The wedding day came, his assistant was a doll and we loved him. I paid the full price for everything, and right on time. At no time were we difficult clients, but totally the opposite. Our contract states that after the wedding, we can expect to see rough edits, ask for some changes, and then get the full gallery back. It states not to expect anything in less than 30 days, but it could take as long as 90 days. Verbally, he told me that turnaround was typically 8 weeks. 8 weeks after the wedding, I hadn't heard anything at all (no sneak peek, no rough edits, had not seen a single pic), so I sent a text asking how things were going. He referenced the 90 days, and said he was running on time. I was disappointed, but the contract does say 90 days on the outside, so I let it go. On day 85 I sent another text, checking in. He replied to say that his mom had passed two days before, and he'd be taking the rest of the month off, and would resume working after the first of the year. I replied with support, but also indicated that I was concerned that we weren't going to abide by the contract, and that I'd expected to have the photos before the holidays so I could gift albums to my parents and new in-laws. He replied with "There is an act of God clause." The contract does mention acts of God, but specifically with regards to if there is an emergency and the photographer can't make it to your wedding. It details how he'd attempt to find a replacement photog, etc. I reaffirmed my sympathy for his situation, but restated my concern at the fact that we've seen nothing yet, and we are worried. He replied with just, "wow." I understand that against the loss of a parent my desire for photographs seems trivial, but it's been three months. I paid a lot of money for the pictures, and I really want them back. It is so delicate, and I honestly feel bad for him, and really empathize with his loss... but I do feel entitled to what I paid for and contractually agreed to. To be informed 5 days before the deadline and only because I reached out, doesn't sit well with me. It seems unprofessional, and at the very least, like he should have offered a partial refund for not making the deadline. I would have refused that offer if he'd extended it, but would have appreciated the gesture of good faith. Mostly, I just want the pictures. I want to know for sure something didn't happen to them, and the record of our beautiful day isn't lost. So. It's now day 93. No pics. AITA for mentioning the contract and still wanting my pictures despite his mom passing?
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hot cocoa on the couch posted:he's a navy aviator and you're upset because he has an antique sword as a military/family heirloom in his house? he's a trained killer lady, that part should have grossed you out before the fuckin sword did Boyfriend is responsible for maintenance/operation of war machines specifically designed to kill people: Good. Boyfriend has an antique, ceremonial weapon on display: Bad.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:40 |
My[22M] roommate [23M] wants to "decorate" the living room with swords and anime posters. I am not okay with this.quote:After my roommate Arnold and I had been living together for about a month, I realized a few things:
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:42 |
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SilvergunSuperman posted:Sounds like a story made up for people to have this reaction. Nothing about this story is at all implausible. Chomp8645 posted:AITA for calling out a potential racist? Eh, it's not like racists all wear signs or something. It's perfectly possible the poster is right.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:44 |
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Patrick Spens posted:Eh, it's not like racists all wear signs or something. It's perfectly possible the poster is right.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:47 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA For Not Prioritizing My Photographer's's Grief Over My Wedding Photos? Now this persons parent could have very well died but! I am having my doubts because it’s pretty convenient timing that it happened right before the deadline. Also the lack of real communication before hand doesn’t seem normal. I’m going to go with NTA because it seems like photographer is trying to stall.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:47 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA For Not Prioritizing My Photographer's's Grief Over My Wedding Photos?
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:48 |
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Leon Einstein posted:He didn't do anything racist, you idiot. "You deserved to be called racial slurs" says totally not racist person
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spacetoaster posted:YTA. My son does this very thing and it's the same thing we would have done at that age. My friend had an Uncle that worked for Nintendo which is how I figured anything out.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:50 |
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MarcusSA posted:Now this persons parent could have very well died but! I am having my doubts because it’s pretty convenient timing that it happened right before the deadline. This is when you double-down and ask for the time and place of the memorial so you can send flowers. Insist upon it. Worst case, you've ingratiated yourself to this person and will hopefully get your photos faster, best case, you've caught him in a lie.
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Garrand posted:"You deserved to be called racial slurs" says totally not racist person
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Partner 29m used 3some app for years to try and facilitate couple experiences. I download it, he says we should delete it as its 'toxic'. Should I be worried? Partner was experienced in 3somes and we discussed exploring them a few years back. We've been together 5yrs. I was initially hesitant but open to explore he downloaded an app similar to tinder but for kink/polyamory and said he would manage as a couple account. When asked about the messages/people on the app repeatedly, he didn't show me or provide login just said it wasn't great and mostly fakes. In the end we had a couple experiences but not via the app. He's been more active on it lately as seen the notifications pop up, despite seeming less interested in sex with me. Over time I've got more keen to explore this together and decide to download the app too, I request to link my account as his partner. When I do this he messages: 'the app is full of horny guys and fakes. I think we should delete it'. Just me or does this seem off? He's clearly been using it, allegedly as a partner account. Why decide we should delete it now? Tldr: partner uses 3some app for years allegedly as couple, I download it, says its useless and we should delete. Should I be suspicious? UPDATE: When brought it up he just said he would delete the app, and then made a pount of showing me he was uninstalling it. Apart from the fact you can re install it to me that just seems like he wanted to avoid any interaction on the content of messages past. he also just sidetracked - via our WhatsApp "It's like Facebook but worse. It's something you end up scrolling impulsively to waste time when you really should be doing something productive. It's been years and zero leads on it, it's time I'm not getting back and neither are you."
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:51 |
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Patrick Spens posted:Eh, it's not like racists all wear signs or something. It's perfectly possible the poster is right. True, but imo it's not ok to go around publicly accusing people of things that are "perfectly possible". It wouldn't be ok to tell everyone in the shop "hey, Joe is a rapist!" , or a thief, or an abuser, or an addict, because it's "perfectly possible" when the only evidence presented is "he's a dick to me".
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Chomp8645 posted:True, but imo it's not ok to go around publicly accusing people of things that are "perfectly possible". It wouldn't be ok to tell everyone in the shop "hey, Joe is a rapist!" , or a thief, or an abuser, or an addict, because it's "perfectly possible" when the only evidence presented is "he's a dick to me". Yeah this. The person is mid mad they were a dick. Also it seems like they had a perfectly good reason to be a dick.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 19:55 |
I [21M] missed out on the validation from casual hookups and now I am really bitter and treat girls badlyquote:I am in my 3rd year of university now. When I first started university, I was horribly underweight, had no dress sense, had acne and painful social anxiety.
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Ok usually I push back against the "claim every story I don't like is fake" crowd, but this one really does read like some bullshit lol.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:01 |
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Chomp8645 posted:Ok usually I push back against the "claim every story I don't like is fake" crowd, but this one really does read like some bullshit lol. Some parts ring true, I definitely believe he's bitter and resentful.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:02 |
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So much self awareness typically leads to trying to improve oneself
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:12 |
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SHY NUDIST GRRL posted:So much self awareness typically leads to trying to improve oneself* *Except from people that post on reddit.
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SHY NUDIST GRRL posted:So much self awareness typically leads to trying to improve oneself How many more chin implants do you want the poor kid to get!?
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:16 |
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Dude sounds like the rear end in a top hat for him and his frat bros to be passing around photos of a girl to make fun of while at work.
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chitoryu12 posted:I [21M] missed out on the validation from casual hookups and now I am really bitter and treat girls badly joker’s trick...
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How to help/handle a recovering depressed boyfriend who is loving things up? Small heads up : although I'm quite fluent, English is not my native language, so I might use some weird wording. I've (30F) been with my boyfriend (45M) for the past 5 years, we've been living together for two. Shortly before we moved in together, my boyfriend had a string of bad luck : he lost the investments he made and had to practically drain his savings. A couple of months after that, he got laid off at his job. His old job screwed him over, he's in a legal battle to even get his unemployment checks and hasn't found a job since. We moved in his house (which is all paid off) and we're living on my paychecks (enough to survive and have a little fun, but not to build the future we want). Losing his financial independence, his employer screwing him over like that, not being to get another job quickly, the government moving at a slow pace and blocking many opportunities for him... he fell into a depression. He's been going to therapy for more than a year now. Since he had no luck finding a job, he wanted to take the opportunity to totally change fields and wanted to train to become a welder. He found a school, where he would first follow a five months module, and then he would for a year go half time to school, half time to an internship. I was totally on board with that. He started the first part of his program last february. He failed, but his teachers thought he just had a rough start and that he has the ability to succeed. So he enrolls again in september and it's going well. He started to work this week on his final project, which will be graded and will be used to decide if he succeeds or not. And it's not going well anymore, he's loving up, but since I also think it's his depression acting up, I don't know how to handle it. The biggest issue is (I think) : he's not getting enough (or quality) sleep. He goes to sleep super late, and if he was out he drinks and gets at least slightly drunk. That's not really new, and usually it's not a problem. He has to leave at 7:30 to be on time at school. So monday, I wake up at 7:15, and see he's still in bed. He slept through his alarm clock, but thankfully left only 10 minutes late for class. Today I woke up at 8:30 (working from home) and saw he was still in bed again. So he was more then one hour late. Yesterday he was up on time, but was hung over. I want to be sensitive to the fact that he's still recovering from depression, and that the stress of this final project is probably playing mind games with him (which is why he has trouble going to bed, I also have trouble sleeping when stressed). But those past two years have been hard for me too, for us, and I don't know if I could forgive him if he fails because he hasn't been able to get a decent amount of sleep and can't concentrate on his project (I'm also worried that failing will send him back to being fully depressed). He just left me a whatsapp voicemail, telling me he's feeling blue, his project isn't going great, he has to start over because he made some rookie mistakes (because he can't concentrate),... And I don't know how to respond. I want to support him, but I also want to tell him that his lifestyle the last few weeks aren't helping him. I've asked him if he wants to book an extra session with his counselor, but he says no, it's just one bad day, and he has me. But honestly, I don't think I can be there for him when he's acting like that. I feel forced to be ok with all of this when I'm not. I don't know how I'm going to act or what I'm going to say when he's coming home. I don't want to tell him that it's ok, I'm here. Because no, it's not ok, and I might not stay here much longer (we're also in couple's therapy, he knows I'm getting at the end of my rope). Anyone has any experience or advice ? Tdlr; Lately my boyfriend has been going to bed late and gotten little sleep, which is affecting the training he's following (and our subsequent future). I'd like to talk about this and give him a wake up call, but want to be mindful that this is probably caused by his depression and want to be supportive of that too.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for drinking alcohol at every family gathering and cryptically smiling when somebody suggested I do it because I can't handle hanging out with them? NTA, but you should probably just tell them why and if they can't deal then you won't have to see them again.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for introducing my sister to my boyfriend while he was in drag? No? Why is this a question?
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:44 |
how do i gently tell my bf he needs to wipe better?quote:first off, i know. i’m mortified that i even have to put this out here, so obviously this is a throwaway account.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:47 |
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Chomp8645 posted:True, but imo it's not ok to go around publicly accusing people of things that are "perfectly possible". It wouldn't be ok to tell everyone in the shop "hey, Joe is a rapist!" , or a thief, or an abuser, or an addict, because it's "perfectly possible" when the only evidence presented is "he's a dick to me". Oh yeah, the op's a dick. I'm just saying that "acts weird and hostile to a black person" can in fact be evidence of racism.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:47 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:How to help/handle a recovering depressed boyfriend who is loving things up? bitcoin
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Partner 29m used 3some app for years to try and facilitate couple experiences. I download it, he says we should delete it as its 'toxic'. Should I be worried? He's totally cheating on her
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chitoryu12 posted:how do i gently tell my bf he needs to wipe better? I just threw up a little.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:53 |
Patrick Spens posted:Oh yeah, the op's a dick. I'm just saying that "acts weird and hostile to a black person" can in fact be evidence of racism. The only evidence we have that he could be a racist is the OP saying he "heavily insinuated" that he deserved to be called that for screenshotting her story. We don't actually have any reason to believe the rear end in a top hat's version of events here.
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# ? Dec 12, 2019 20:53 |
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Hobo Clown posted:A few years ago my brother asked for a raise and was turned down, so he started interviewing at other places. Got an offer, put in his notice, and the original job got freaked out and offered him a massive raise to match what the other place was going to pay. He ended up staying since it meant he didn't have to move. As part of it they also apparently put some money away in a college fund for his at-the-time newborn, with the caveat that he needs to still be working there when she would eventually use it. It was a real Mr. Burns "Don't Forget You're Here Forever" move on their part. You never accept the counter offer.
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Help (anxious avoidant relationship) (also help with how to productively talk to someone who is avoidant in a way that is comfortable for them and doesn't hurt them)quote:TL;DR: Basically in short I've (19F in my first relationship so i don't know whats normal) learned my bf (22M) has been masturbating in the bathroom when im there every couple of days (or at lest that's what it seems like) and its impacting our sex life. we have a very anxious-avoidant relationship how can I approach talking to him about this? it's left me feeling like poo poo for 2 weeks now and i've been trying to get over it but I don't know if I can. please read the whole thing or as much of it as you can bc like every relationship problem there are diff. aspects to it. Also is this normal am I being overreactive? "Anxious-avoidant relationship" sounds absolutely exhausting.
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