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- emptyspace
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AITA for joking about there being milk in my girlfriend’s new fake boobs?
Well, the good news for this jackass is that if he keeps making that stupid joke, he won't have to look at her ridiculous boobs anymore.
emptyspace fucked around with this message at 23:03 on Jan 8, 2020
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Jan 8, 2020 23:00
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- Colonel Cancer
- Sep 26, 2015
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Tune into the fireplace channel, you absolute buffoon
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A garlic flavored love goblin that doesn't play videogames or watch movies is an amazingly good find on reddit imo.
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Jan 8, 2020 23:19
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- Beachcomber
- May 21, 2007
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Another day in paradise.
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AITA my husband says I am a sexist for not being open to hiring a young attractive nanny to help care for our children.
She needs to be reassured that they're getting a nanny, not an Au Pair.
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Jan 8, 2020 23:57
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- Smirking_Serpent
- Aug 27, 2009
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AITA for telling my American friend that she shouldn’t go braless in China?
I [22M] am from Beijing China. I met a Chinese-American girl Grace [20F] when she came to volunteer teach English at the orphanage school I was at in 2016. The group of American volunteers are the ones who showed me Reddit. We still keep contact on WeChat. She came to visit her dad in Suzhou China. I am on break during school so I came to see her and a few of my other friends in neighbor Shanghai. We met up at the train station. Her dad let me stay at his house for two nights. We had dinner at the train station.
I already noticed from the first minute, but I wasn’t comfortable enough to bring up to her about what she wore or didn’t wore. We caught up first for the three and a half years we didn’t see each other. She wore a white shirt with no bra. It’s not proper to not wear one for girls in China, especially if the nipples are very visible. Hers was. I first asked her if she was cold, because it was 8C and she was in just no sleeve shirt. She said she doesn’t scare of cold. I then asked her if not wearing bra is very popular in America. She said it is and covered her chest area.
I said I was sorry for making her uneasy but that it was kind of rudely inappropriate in China to have obvious you know whats showing, and it would be less of a problem if she were Caucasian, but since she looks like Chinese, people would think she might be prostitute or just loose. I told her that I already noticed many people watching her there. She said she doesn’t care what other people think. But I told her that it is kind of disrespectful to local culture and many of the people especially older ones will form a negative judgment before even hearing her talk. She said she really doesn’t think we should be having this topic of conversation and she will wear what she wants to wear.
Of course I am just someone she can only kind of call friend but I said I just want her to be aware that her dressing bad out of norm will probably make bad impressions and might make her dad have bad reputation when she meets his friends. She was angry at me for continuing the topic of conversation when she told me to stop. She said she didn’t remember me being so annoying and perverted before. I was really hurt she used those words to describe me. I really let her know that and that I’m just advising the best for a friend. Neither of us apologized because neither of us thought we did wrong.
I bet she noticed many people watching her there when we were walking and taking the metro. It was a little bit awkward and she didn’t say many words to me for the rest of the night. Her dad was nice and welcomed me in. He told Grace to take me to famous snack spot, but she said she was too tired and wanted to sleep and would show me tomorrow. I think she is still mad at me or uneasy around me. I really mean nothing bad. I hope she is better tomorrow. I only get to see her for one full day and she is making it hard on me.
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Jan 9, 2020 00:29
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- Barudak
- May 7, 2007
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My dude, you have assuredly seen a Beijing Tanktop. You cant tell people who have seen that what to wear in China without coming across as insane.
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Jan 9, 2020 01:02
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- Sjs00
- Jun 29, 2013
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Yeah Baby Yeah !
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Did the other meat dad eat the OP's pet cat?
The cat disappeared yeah
Jesus it's an epidemic
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Jan 9, 2020 01:39
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- Play
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Strong stroll for a mangy stray
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We hired a nanny recently and a not insignificant number of my male friends asked if the nanny was hot as the very first question in follow-up to the wonderful news we found someone trustworthy who my kids like.
This person will help manage the unsustainable amount of domestic labor we were both doing in rearing two boisterous little kids and we're optimistic she will help us be better partners for one another and more present parents.
Not "who is she?" not "where did you find her?" not "what's it costing you?" not "has it helped?"
No, instead everybody wants to know if the nanny's a smokeshow.
well?
AITA for telling my American friend that she shouldn’t go braless in China?
I [22M] am from Beijing China. I met a Chinese-American girl Grace [20F] when she came to volunteer teach English at the orphanage school I was at in 2016. The group of American volunteers are the ones who showed me Reddit. We still keep contact on WeChat. She came to visit her dad in Suzhou China. I am on break during school so I came to see her and a few of my other friends in neighbor Shanghai. We met up at the train station. Her dad let me stay at his house for two nights. We had dinner at the train station.
I already noticed from the first minute, but I wasn’t comfortable enough to bring up to her about what she wore or didn’t wore. We caught up first for the three and a half years we didn’t see each other. She wore a white shirt with no bra. It’s not proper to not wear one for girls in China, especially if the nipples are very visible. Hers was. I first asked her if she was cold, because it was 8C and she was in just no sleeve shirt. She said she doesn’t scare of cold. I then asked her if not wearing bra is very popular in America. She said it is and covered her chest area.
I said I was sorry for making her uneasy but that it was kind of rudely inappropriate in China to have obvious you know whats showing, and it would be less of a problem if she were Caucasian, but since she looks like Chinese, people would think she might be prostitute or just loose. I told her that I already noticed many people watching her there. She said she doesn’t care what other people think. But I told her that it is kind of disrespectful to local culture and many of the people especially older ones will form a negative judgment before even hearing her talk. She said she really doesn’t think we should be having this topic of conversation and she will wear what she wants to wear.
Of course I am just someone she can only kind of call friend but I said I just want her to be aware that her dressing bad out of norm will probably make bad impressions and might make her dad have bad reputation when she meets his friends. She was angry at me for continuing the topic of conversation when she told me to stop. She said she didn’t remember me being so annoying and perverted before. I was really hurt she used those words to describe me. I really let her know that and that I’m just advising the best for a friend. Neither of us apologized because neither of us thought we did wrong.
I bet she noticed many people watching her there when we were walking and taking the metro. It was a little bit awkward and she didn’t say many words to me for the rest of the night. Her dad was nice and welcomed me in. He told Grace to take me to famous snack spot, but she said she was too tired and wanted to sleep and would show me tomorrow. I think she is still mad at me or uneasy around me. I really mean nothing bad. I hope she is better tomorrow. I only get to see her for one full day and she is making it hard on me.
Dude still thinking of Grace's protruding nipples 3+ years after the fact lmao
Also I would be very surprised indeed if Chinese folks were even allowed to use reddit
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Jan 9, 2020 01:46
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- Sjs00
- Jun 29, 2013
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Yeah Baby Yeah !
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I know a woman who loves kids and is a nanny and can confirm she's beautiful and intensely Christian
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Jan 9, 2020 01:50
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- Motherfucker
- Jul 16, 2011
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I certainly dont have deep-seated issues involving birthdays.
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I know a woman who loves kids and is a nanny and can confirm she's beautiful and intensely Christian
oof. May as well throw it away the whole thing is ruined.
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Jan 9, 2020 01:58
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- Pinecone Sample
- Oct 12, 2010
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THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420
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WIBTA if I reported a tenant for pornographic car stickers?
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So I live in a very family- friendly apartment complex. There are families with young children all over the place, which is part of the reason I moved here. I don’t have kids, but I like the comfort of knowing it’s family friendly.
I don’t know if this person is a new tenant or just someone who has been visiting for a few days, but there is a car parked out in front of my building that has hentai stickers on it. Like actual images of naked women. It’s disgusting, and I have to see it every time I walk in. My fiancé just came home and he discovered that the plate on the car even says “henta1.”
I don’t judge people for what they’re into, because it’s none of my business. But I think this is really inappropriate and shouldn’t be displayed like this. WIBTA if I filed a complaint with management?
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Jan 9, 2020 02:17
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- snergle
- Aug 3, 2013
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A kind little mouse!
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WIBTA if I reported a tenant for pornographic car stickers?
i hate weeb poo poo but yes you would be. i say do it anyways.
AITA for joking about there being milk in my girlfriend’s new fake boobs?
blowing up my relationship for a poo poo joke
snergle fucked around with this message at 04:09 on Jan 9, 2020
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Jan 9, 2020 03:30
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- Smirking_Serpent
- Aug 27, 2009
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AITA for the comment I made about women' experiences at my engineering company as a panelist at a recruiting event?
I'm a software engineer, working at a well known tech company, that a lot of people want to work for. It kind of sucks being one of two women engineers here, to be frank. I'm friends with the other woman and she's equally frustrated.
But HR at my company asked me to be on a panel at a recruiting event where people can ask us questions about the company. We'd be recruiting interns and full time employees. I said I didn't think I could; I had other work commitments that day. But they were pretty insistent, saying that they wanted "my unique experience" on the panel.
So I went, and overall things went as expected, with one exception...
A girl who looked like she must have been a freshman or sophomore in college asked a question, she looked right at me and asked whether I thought (Company) had a good supportive environment for women in engineering. I started to say "That's a..." And right away, the three guys I was on the panel with started jumping right into saying how everyone is treated like an equal, how anyone who does good work gets respect, etc.
Now, to be totally honest, that has not been my experience at all. Same goes for my only female coworker.
I looked at these 3 guys who were talking about our experiences without seeming to know the first thing about them, and it frustrated me.
So I took my microphone and said "From my experience, you'll have to be comfortable speaking up when others try to speak over you, especially when you're the one with actual expertise on a subject. I won't sugarcoat it, it'll takes us more work and more guts to succeed in this industry. I see that changing, but unfortunately it's a gradual change."
The topic quickly moved on, someone else asked a question, and I didn't think too much of what I'd said. It was honest, it was a lot more diplomatic than some of what I could have said. It was hopeful for the future, even.
But after the panel finished, a couple things happened in quick succession. First, an older lady who said she was a project manager for a software team at a bank came up to me and said she appreciated my honesty. I talked with her for a little while, then went to meet up with the carpool if my coworkers going back to the office.
In the car, they all started getting frustrated with me for saying what I did on the panel. Now, these guys aren't on the he same project as me, we've never worked together directly. But they were saying that a panel wasn't the place to bring up those frustrations first.
I said that were making a lot of assumptions; my supervisor already knows about that and more.
I didn't think I'd said anything too shocking. I know I made a dig at them with the bit about people speaking over you. But it didn't seem too offensive to me.
I am worried this will become more of an issue at work.
AITA for the comment I made?
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Jan 9, 2020 03:56
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- pentyne
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AITA for the comment I made about women' experiences at my engineering company as a panelist at a recruiting event?
I'm a software engineer, working at a well known tech company, that a lot of people want to work for. It kind of sucks being one of two women engineers here, to be frank. I'm friends with the other woman and she's equally frustrated.
But HR at my company asked me to be on a panel at a recruiting event where people can ask us questions about the company. We'd be recruiting interns and full time employees. I said I didn't think I could; I had other work commitments that day. But they were pretty insistent, saying that they wanted "my unique experience" on the panel.
So I went, and overall things went as expected, with one exception...
A girl who looked like she must have been a freshman or sophomore in college asked a question, she looked right at me and asked whether I thought (Company) had a good supportive environment for women in engineering. I started to say "That's a..." And right away, the three guys I was on the panel with started jumping right into saying how everyone is treated like an equal, how anyone who does good work gets respect, etc.
Now, to be totally honest, that has not been my experience at all. Same goes for my only female coworker.
I looked at these 3 guys who were talking about our experiences without seeming to know the first thing about them, and it frustrated me.
So I took my microphone and said "From my experience, you'll have to be comfortable speaking up when others try to speak over you, especially when you're the one with actual expertise on a subject. I won't sugarcoat it, it'll takes us more work and more guts to succeed in this industry. I see that changing, but unfortunately it's a gradual change."
The topic quickly moved on, someone else asked a question, and I didn't think too much of what I'd said. It was honest, it was a lot more diplomatic than some of what I could have said. It was hopeful for the future, even.
But after the panel finished, a couple things happened in quick succession. First, an older lady who said she was a project manager for a software team at a bank came up to me and said she appreciated my honesty. I talked with her for a little while, then went to meet up with the carpool if my coworkers going back to the office.
In the car, they all started getting frustrated with me for saying what I did on the panel. Now, these guys aren't on the he same project as me, we've never worked together directly. But they were saying that a panel wasn't the place to bring up those frustrations first.
I said that were making a lot of assumptions; my supervisor already knows about that and more.
I didn't think I'd said anything too shocking. I know I made a dig at them with the bit about people speaking over you. But it didn't seem too offensive to me.
I am worried this will become more of an issue at work.
AITA for the comment I made?
I'm sure those 3 engineers who were so quick to claim how the work environment is equal also consider themselves male feminists.
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Jan 9, 2020 04:46
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- therobit
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I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time
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I'm sure those 3 engineers who were so quick to claim how the work environment is equal also consider themselves male feminists.
Every man I have met who describes himself as a "male feminist" has been a creeper who was trying to use the language of female empowerment to get women vulnerable, drunk, and/or naked so he can assault them.
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Jan 9, 2020 05:02
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- DeadMansSuspenders
- Jan 10, 2012
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I wanna be your left hand man
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Every man I have met who describes himself as a "male feminist" has been a creeper who was trying to use the language od female empowerment to get women vulnerable, drunk, and/or naked so he can assault them.
On to some content.
I [25f] have recently been diagnosed with an medical condition, my SO [29m] of 2 years thinks I am HIV positive and is being a jerk
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Basically I have recently been diagnosed (like in the past week) with an auto immune condition (am willing to PM people the name of the condition, just don’t want to say it publicly because SO knows I reddit, and I can’t imagine that this is a common situation). In the grand scheme of auto immune conditions it’s on the low end. It’s completely non-contagious and I am in the process of working with my immunologist to treat the condition via a combination of steroids and immunosuppressants. It’s not going to kill me or lower my life expectancy, it’s just a chronic thing that will flare up throughout my life.
SO and I have been together for almost 2 years now, and up until my diagnosis it has been smooth sailing. When I got the diagnosis, my boyfriend completely freaked out and now thinks that because I have an autoimmune condition, I must be HIV positive. In the last week, I have started a huge dose of immunosuppresents to get the condition under control. Of course this means it has wreaked havoc on my immune system – something my family dr, the immunologist and pharmacist have advised me on – and I am more susceptible to certain illnesses.. Last week I developed a pretty nasty flu and had an outbreak of cold sores. SO was livid, and thinks that is a sign of HIV. He started yelling at me, accused me of cheating on him and left our home to stay with his family.
I don’t have HIV. I have had multiple blood work and tests in the past couple of months. I’ve offered for SO to come with me to speak to my doctor. He is insisting that I must have HIV, and he is not coming home until I admit that I lied/cheated on him.
I honestly don’t know what more I can do. I am exhausted, sick and now dealing with a long term (and expensive) health condition. I don’t want to fight him, but I want him on my side. We haven’t spoken in 2 days, but he is still texting me. What can I do to convince him I am not cheating/HIV positive?
tl;dr: I have been diagnosed with an auto immune condition, and my SO thinks it is HIV. It's not. He thinks I am cheating. I'm not. I dont know what to do to convince him otherwise. Help
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Jan 9, 2020 05:03
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- Smirking_Serpent
- Aug 27, 2009
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AITA for limiting a coworker's bathroom time?
I work in a small office of just 20 employees. We have two single, unisex bathrooms. As the years have passed and we've grown, getting into the bathroom has gotten harder and harder as people take their leisurely time in there. For the most part I say "ok, I can hold it, you gotta do what you gotta do," but there's one coworker (we'll call him Jim) that drives me nuts.
Jim loves his bathroom time. Without exaggerating, he takes 45-65 minutes in the bathroom at least once, often twice per day. I first noticed just how long it was when I started invisalign and had to brush my teeth after I ate anything. I originally put a toothbrush in a bathroom he favored, so I'd have to wait literally an hour for him to come out so I could brush my teeth and put my aligners back in. After one particularly grueling day I moved the toothbrush to my desk so I could have it anywhere.
I lost it when Jim got into the bathroom before a meeting I had scheduled with one of my teams for 12. At 11:30 AM one bathroom was already occupied, and Jim went into the other. To use the bathroom, Jim brought: his phone, over ear headphones, a tablet, and a portable phone charger. To the bathroom. I have the longest walk in the office to the bathroom, and it appeared to be a popular time for people to move their bowels, so every time the 2nd bathroom door would open someone else would leap up and get in before I could. By the time noon rolled around I told my team I couldn't start (the meeting happens once per week and takes 40+ minutes) until I could use the bathroom. Two other people on my team were also apparently waiting for the bathroom.
We all eventually got in and out of there around 12:20. At this point it had been almost an hour and Jim was still there with 8+ hours worth of entertainment ahead of him. We're too small to have an official HR rep so I share 50% of HR with another coworker. I do the paperwork/benefits side, he does the "employee happiness" side. I had enough of Jim's poo poo so I pulled our CEO and the other member of HR aside and explained the situation--how long he takes every day, how he only goes with his phone and tablet, how he's clearly just watching porn in there, and how it makes it impossible for the rest of us to simply pee.
Other HR dude talked to Jim with marginal improvement. I haven't seen anything other than his phone go to the bathroom with him since, but he does still seem to take a long time (I don't exactly keep a stopwatch though). My coworkers are thankful I put my foot down, but some of my friends think I am TA. AITA?
TLDR: My coworker takes an hour in the bathroom twice a day to watch videos so I made HR speak to him about it.
EDIT: A few comments have come up for me assuming he's watching porn. Fair enough, I do not know for sure! I have gone in immediately after one of his bathroom periods and there was no poo odor. That + the tablet + the headphones made me assume something was awry. Apparently 39% of people jack off at work so it's not a wild assumption.
EDIT 2: I kept my toothbrush in there because we have under-sink cabinets and I had it in an additional carrying case, so it wasn't out on display or anything weird like that.
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Jan 9, 2020 05:06
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- DeadMansSuspenders
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I wanna be your left hand man
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My [26m] wife [26F] and I used to have a dead bedroom. Now roles have flipped.... posted by: IMightHateMyWife
quote:We got married 5 years ago. The first bite of wedding cake cemented her vagina shut and we basically went directly into a dead bedroom.
This almost killed me. I was horribly depressed. I almost killed myself one night back in late 2012 over it, but instead ended up passing out on the floor.
My wife was not only sexually frigid, she was a horrible, degrading companion. She was not affectionate at all. She wouldn't hesitate to tell me when she thought some other guy was hot, but the moment I tried to have sex with her she would tell me that she wasn't interested in sex and that her libido was low and that she wasn't a teenager anymore and that sex hurt and lots of other excuses for why we could never gently caress.
I could sometimes get her to have sex with me if I took her on elaborately planned, expensive dates, but even those decreased in effectiveness to the point of not being worth it.
We went to therapy together. I didn't like it at all, but therapy, talking to some friends about their experiences and reading online led me to believe that what I was going through was totally normal. Wives just don't gently caress like girlfriends and there was probably nothing I could do about it, other than sit through more therapy, if therapy was helpful, which it wasn't.
Anyway, I decided to accept it and do something else with the energy that I had been using trying to get my wife naked.
I started going to the gym with a high school friend. He quit after 3 months, but I didn't. I just went deeper and deeper down the rabbit hole. Diet and exercise turned into strict diet and lots of exercise. Strict diet and lots of exercise turned into that plus supplements, then steroids. Before I really knew what was happening I was buying tiny underpants, tanning and practicing posing for an NPC show.
Gym went from something I did an hour a day with my friend, to something I did every day on my own for 6+ hours. I weighed everything I ate. Recorded every rep. Set alarms on my phone for supplements, injections and meals. Started planning out my day so that I could be in bed for 9 hours, working for 8 and in the gym for 6.
I transformed my entire lifestyle into something I liked more and was more or less content.
My wife and I started having sex more often and without me having to go through an elaborate dating ritual to get it. Then she started wanting sex daily. Now she pretty much throws herself at me every time we're in the same room.
It's like someone flipped a switch and threw her into porn mode. She asks for things she had never done with me before, or even previously told me she dislikes. She wakes me up in the middle of the night because she wants to gently caress. She dresses much sexier when I'm around now. Instead of being degrading and terrible she's always laughing and talking about my body and wanting to do stupid juvenile things like punch me in the stomach to feed how hard my abs are.
A month ago, I was taking a shower before bed and without saying a word she got naked, hopped in the shower with me and blew me. I could keep telling stories, but anyone who has read this far probably has a pretty good mental image by now.
At first I liked her new behavior but then I started thinking back to how she used to always shoot me down and make me feel like poo poo. The same woman who used to tell me she isn't interested in sex, suddenly can't get enough of it. The woman who told me that sex hurts now says stuff like "I want you to gently caress me like you're trying to kill me with your dick" and telling me how hot it is that I made her bleed last time I hosed her. The woman who used to complain that I was too focused on sex now texts me nudes at all hours when I'm away from home.
She could've been like this the whole time, but chose not to be. I would have been happy with sex once a week, thrilled with sex twice a week and totally in awe of sex every day. All that isolation and depression. All that frustration. My suicide attempt. She fueled it all with indifference. All she had to do was bend over for 5 minutes every once in a while and it could have all been prevented. That's not a hard, or unreasonable thing to do, especially for someone you're loving married to. I wasn't worth that to her. She watched me burn and did nothing.
Since I've had that revelation, I've been completely disinterested in having sex with her. Now I'm the one saying no. I even used a few of her old excuses and criticisms on her and she looks deflated afterwards. I made her cry a few times and honestly it felt great, then terrible, then kind of had an afterglow of great again. This person almost destroyed me and now she wants sex? After all of that?
I don't know how to feel or what to do. Part of me wants to work through it with her. Part of me wants to watch her burn for a while and part of me just wants to file for divorce and never speak to her again.
Has anyone else here gone through something similar?
tl:dr; wife wouldn't gently caress me. Then I got huge and now she wants to gently caress all the time, but I don't want to anymore after all the pain she caused me.
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Jan 9, 2020 05:08
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- bell jar
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fake boring and wildly misogynist
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Jan 9, 2020 05:11
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- DemoneeHo
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Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca
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[MD] Reckless PTA parents have been emotionally and verbally abusing my adopted son in and outside of school. School is doing nothing because they donate large sums of money to the school.
quote:My son is adopted from China, he is in the second grade. The schools PTA mothers have been incredibly aggressive and bratty, anything they don’t like they start a Facebook page about and such.
They have heavily vetted teachers lesson plans, have fought redistricting the school aggressively, and are extremely against the LGBTQ community.
So my son being from China does not look like me or his father, and when the PTA mothers noticed this they started attacking us on Facebook and such on the schools PTA page. In addition they have gone out of the way to tell their children to bully my son and they have even walked into my son’s class and insulted him on his family status.
I was hesitant at first to report it but the final straw was last night the school had a parent student party but the PTA parents that planned the event sent my son and I home because I am not his real parent and “If his parents really cared about him they would come”
There is evidence, teachers have witnessed this, I have recorded some confrontations. The school administration is refusing to act on it, their reasons being that this is a group of people not a singular person and therefore would take more time to stop, and the big one being that the parents donate large sums of money each month and reprimanding them would cause the parents not to donate.
What is our coarse of action, and who do we take action against? School? Parents? PTA itself?
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Jan 9, 2020 05:21
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- DeadMansSuspenders
- Jan 10, 2012
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I wanna be your left hand man
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My [30s] BIL [30s] tried to ruin my wedding. He is upset I cut the stupidity out of my wedding video.
quote:I [34F] got married to my boyfriend Dan [35M]. We have been together for 5 years now. We have been married two months now.
Dan has two siblings. Moira [32F] is great, I love her like my own sister. Smith [30M] is kind of a weird character. He is fun, in small doses. I am not annoyed with him so much as perplexed. He seems stuck in middle school.
My wedding had a lot of small problems. I had a kid throw up on my dress, so I wore my MOH's dress while she changed into her street clothes. I tripped going up the stairs. Dan dropped his ring down the vent. One of my cousin's children knocked over a pile of cupcakes. For the most part, no one did anything on purpose and we have it on tape, which is hilarious.
There was one incident that felt intentionally done to make my day harder for me. It was done by Smith. During the actual vows, when the priest [60sM] asked if anyone protests, forever hold your peace, Smith stood up. He said he was in love with me and didn't think I should marry his brother. Then after a few seconds of silence, he said 'wrong wedding' and walked out. I could hear him laughing about it.
I have a little brother [25M] who was prone to stupid poo poo like this when he was 11. I have learned not to take it personally, I work with kids. I am used to Smith. I just felt it was stupid and made him look bad more than me. I didn't want it in the video and asked the videographer to take it out. I didn't bring it up again, I let Dan handle his family like we have agreed. I think he spoke to Smith about it, I know my MIL [60s] gave him a stern once over.
I let it go. I didn't really think about it much until we got the video and pictures. Smith was over while my cousin Cindy [40F] was. Cindy asked to see the video and pictures. I turned it on, showed her the video. It was hilarious. It was loving and beautiful. It also didn't have Smith doing something stupid.
Smith got upset about it and said we kept all the other bad stuff, why not him. He was part of the wedding excitement. He was funny. Why didn't we keep it in?
I told him I didn't think it was very funny, he did it to piss us off, and I didn't want it in my video. I said no hard feelings, it wasn't funny is all.
Smith left and is actually upset about this. He has been texting Dan saying how I changed him, blah blah.
I am just not sure how to go forward from this. I feel like I am dealing with a toddler. How do I explain to Smith that he could have ruined my wedding, and most women would have flayed him alive and told him to never come into their home? I feel he owes me an apology, but don't really care that Smith thinks he is funny. I just don't want to deal with hissy fits. So what do I do?
TL;DR BIL made a stupid joke during my wedding vows and is upset the guy edited it out. NOt sure what is up?
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Jan 9, 2020 05:22
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- Colonel Cancer
- Sep 26, 2015
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Tune into the fireplace channel, you absolute buffoon
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That's a pretty sick prank bro.
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Jan 9, 2020 05:29
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- Peaceful Anarchy
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sXe
I am the math man.
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This person is being vagu6and one sided enough that I really question their account of what is happening. School administrators know not to say when they are favoring donors.
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Jan 9, 2020 06:06
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- Clitch
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I lived through
Donald Trump's presidency
and all I got was
this lousy virus
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I [25f] have recently been diagnosed with an medical condition, my SO [29m] of 2 years thinks I am HIV positive and is being a jerk
Your boyfriend wants out, and he's pushed All-In on you being an unfaithful, disease-riddled whore as an excuse to not look like the bad guy.
Clitch fucked around with this message at 06:43 on Jan 9, 2020
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Jan 9, 2020 06:25
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- Sandwich Anarchist
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Plus he's been cheating on you for a while and was concerned that he picked something up from someone a while back
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Jan 9, 2020 06:28
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- QuarkJets
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My [26m] wife [26F] and I used to have a dead bedroom. Now roles have flipped.... posted by: IMightHateMyWife
What an rear end in a top hat. She wasn't attracted to you because you were a chubby slob, a problem that you chose to fix, and now you're relishing in making her cry because she's attracted to you again? gently caress off and die, idiot.
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Jan 9, 2020 06:31
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- tactlessbastard
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Godspeed, post
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Fun Shoe
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gently caress off and die, idiot.
B&
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Jan 9, 2020 06:34
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- DeadMansSuspenders
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I wanna be your left hand man
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Seriously how do people type this sort of thing out and not realize it is such a terrible situation?
My husband [33M] and I [33F] have been together since high school and still can't resolve these sexual problems.
quote:My husband and I got together during high school and to this day have been each other's one and only relationship. We grew into adults in this world together, and have been through many highs and lows and milestones.
I hope this is the right place to post about this. I'm still quite new to Reddit but am in pretty desperate need to have another human being to use as a sounding board on these issues.
Out of everything we've been through, the biggest struggle we continue to have in our relationship is in matters of the bedroom. My husband has always had more sexual desire than me, and so I do my best to try to keep up. However, as of late I feel like things are getting a bit too much for me to handle and it's wearing me down.
Typically if I want my husband to be patient and understanding (basically, to treat me and anyone else he comes into contact with like a human being) I know that I will have to butter him up with sex to start the day. Well, a big home-cooked breakfast, then sex, and then our day can begin. Otherwise he will spend the entire day tensed up like an elastic band ready to snap, which leaves a palpable cloud of anger and negativity over the whole family.
Yesterday I decided I wanted to take the kids out for a picnic and to the museum. My husband is not really 'into' these sorts of family outings, especially for more than an hour or so, so I don't try to push it. I just wanted to have a relaxing day out so I called up my mother to see if she would accompany me and the kids instead. Before doing so, I made sure my husband had a good breakfast in him and gave him a bj before packing up the kids and heading on our way.
My husband is not too good being left on his own, so while I was out he ended up going over to enjoy some guy time with his dad, eating and watching movies. I watched some tv with my mother that night after she and I had fed and bathed the kids and gotten them both to bed.
By the time my husband got back, it was quite late and I was very ready for bed. I tried my best to make it clear that I wasn't in the mood to give him another bj that night because I'd had such a busy day. (Unfortunately for him my period started, so bjs.) Usually if I let him down gently like this he doesn't blow up and throw a huge fit. But he clearly had it set in his head that this is what he wanted and this is what must happen. That's when things started to get silly.
We were lying down in bed and after some vain attempts at groping me he turns on the tv and puts on one of the movies we had wanted to see. I'm like, "I can't watch all of this right now, it will be like 4am by the time it ends!" He turns off the tv and just glares up at the ceiling. I suggest we could just casually watch regular tv, but he snaps at me and says he's not in the mood to watch tv. And now, because I won't satisfy him, he won't be able to sleep tonight either. I am at a loss.
So we lie there in silence, him stewing in anger and me getting increasingly exhausted and frustrated by the minute. If I just stuffed his penis in my mouth this would all be over with and I could rest. But by that point I'm too upset that this ALWAYS has to be the way. He is always SO hyperfocused on getting to orgasm whenever he needs to that it is overtaking our relationship, our family life.. Everything! I am fed up with feeling like a hole for him to use whenever he pleases - regardless of whether I want to - and yet I still have to be slow and sensual, be on top, take control and act like I enjoy it even if I say I'm not in the mood! Seriously, gently caress this.
In our relationship I do make a conscious effort to keep things working between us, specifically to try not to be as sexually 'broken' (defective) as he tells me I am, because I want him to be happy and feel like he is married to a desirable woman. But at this point I'm seriously running out of fucks to give. Sex in our relationship is not enjoyable, it feels more like an obligation, one that is slowly destroying me inside.
My husband ended up telling me to go sleep in bed with our youngest that night if I wasn't going to be using our marital bed for its intended purpose, and so I just left, hoping he'll use this as an opportunity to masterbate and move past this!
He proceeded to spend the next hour trashing the house, slamming doors, listening to a movie really loud, then coming into the room and hovering over me. He ripped the blanket off me and my (thankfully) sleeping son and said that "if I can't sleep neither can you." He eventually left and threw more things, then went back to his movie in the bedroom. I was starting to dose off when he came back and apologized to me and asked me to come back into the bedroom. I asked if he was sure about that just as he left to check on something. I still ended up falling asleep in bed with my son once things quieted down finally.
The tl;dr of this I guess would be: I feel like a human orifice for my husband to pound as he sees fit. We have tried talking through these problems but it always boils down to me not having a decent enough sex drive and I need to put a bit more effort into it. What am I supposed to do??
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Jan 9, 2020 07:49
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- Breetai
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🥄Mah spoon is too big!🍌
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Seriously how do people type this sort of thing out and not realize it is such a terrible situation?
My husband [33M] and I [33F] have been together since high school and still can't resolve these sexual problems.
I thought relentless misery pornography was not regarded as suitable thread fodder.
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Jan 9, 2020 08:20
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- Smirking_Serpent
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/r/relationships: relentless misery pornography
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Jan 9, 2020 08:32
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ADBOT LOVES YOU
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- LimburgLimbo
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fake boring and wildly misogynist
p sure the forum has rules against signing posts
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Jan 8, 2020 22:58
and :tearsofjoy: to every cat picture, so she's going against the Will of the Friendgroup.
lady.
