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I found an update:quote:I had no idea my post would get so much attention. There was a lot of really solid advice (and one creepy PM warning me that by dressing in business attire and wearing lipstick and heel I was being overly sexual around my child and that would turn my son into a serial killer. Stay gold, reddit) This guy is a disaster. ETA: Giving him another chance is a mistake. gently caress him. 
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thats probably the best outcome possible tho idk
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Jan 11, 2020 18:30
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It sounds like he's depressed given his new life changes. They're doing normal person stuff to fix it and it'll probably be fine.
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Ugly In The Morning posted:One of my friends in college ended up with some dude buying her a new iPod. Not a nano or shuffle, one of those 60GB ones. I told her “he’s into you, big time, to like seriously unhealthy levels” but she was kind of oblivious and sheltered and insisted that he was just a really good friend. Even doing that too early in a relationship is a screaming red flag. "Happy 2 month anniversary here's a diamond tiara like the one you like from that movie!" Slightly later "You can't break up with me I spent so much money on you!"
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Jan 11, 2020 18:35
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I (27F) might break up with my boyfriend (25M) for beating up a guy who was sexually harassing me. The ordeal resulted in a gun pulled on us. Am I right in doing this? So me and charlie (boyfriend) and a few other friends went to this bar, and me and my girl-friend were out smoking in front when some guy went by and this guy came up and did these like smooches at us when walking by, and my friend said "eww gently caress off" and then he went up to us and was like "what did you say girl?" and put his arm around her. She pushed him away and he was laughing with his friend who was behind him, then he tried putting his hand on my shoulder and said "what about you?" in a flirting manner and i grabbed his hand from my shoulder, and then he put it back there. It was creepy, to say the least. Then, out comes my boyfriend with this TERRIFYINGLY loud, booming deep voice, going "WHAT THE gently caress ARE YOU DOING GUY" and the guy who was harassing us got up in his face briefly, and then my boyfriend literally grabbed him upwards by the collar and WWE style smashed him on the ground like he was a ragdoll. Then he punched him, fast, 4 times in the face. The other friend pulled out a pistol and aimed it at my boyfriend and said "dont loving move, dont loving move" and he just walked backwards slowly until he was out of sight, while my BF had his foot on the other guys chest on the ground. When the other guy was out of sight, my BF quickly gave another punch to the guy on the ground. Anyways, I was yelling and screaming the whole time in fear. We all just got up and left the area, the guy on the ground bleeding out of his face. I'll be honest, I was loving furious with my BF, and I still am. I am from europe where poo poo like that DOES NOT HAPPEN. You call the police if somebody is doing what that guy was doing, you don't beat them up. Not to mention I got a gun aimed at me, something which I never thought could ever happen in my life, even if I am in america. I told my boyfriend he was a loving moron, and that we should have called the cops, and he just laughed and hugged me and said "if we called the cops, they would arrest me for assaulting that guy, you dont know how cops work here" and I just couldnt believe that was his excuse. Maybe dont assault the guy in the first place?? anyways, we have been dating for only 4 months so like, its mostly a new relationship. I think he thinks I should be greatful he protected me but I am kind of bitter at him, who is that bravado macho man that they just beat someone up like that? poo poo like that just doesn't happen, at all, where I am from. Idk, I am really rethinking a relationship with a man who gets into fights with people like that. I really like him but I feel like he is just loving stupid if he is fighting people over anything. Police exist for a reason. Taking 'things into your own hands' is just not what you do where I am from, it is something brutish idiots do. Should I break up? Can someone idk, explain why he would do that? Is this an American thing? It all seemed so loving wild. tl;dr: Boyfriend beat up a guy who was sexually harassing me, I am thinking of breaking up with him. The best comment: I promise you, most rational people everywhere in the world would just call the cops in this situation, not escalate it by getting physical. Your boyfriend showed a horrible lack of maturity with his actions and if you two have only been together for 4 months, this definitely seems like more than enough drama to end the relationship.
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TheDeadlyShoe posted:Getting a vibe there that the real complaint is that Dan doesn't want to have to spend any time on the baby, since that's Mom's job. In the followup is turns out the mother suffered from PPD for a while and kept telling Dan he was a better parent then she was, she got it over it and stopped acting like that and Dan was trying to undermine her to feel like he was the better parent again. They were going to start counseling. Edit: Not quick enough, the follow up was posted already.
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Xenocides posted:I (27F) might break up with my boyfriend (25M) for beating up a guy who was sexually harassing me. The ordeal resulted in a gun pulled on us. Am I right in doing this? Your bf didn't get into a fight. He ended the fight before one even started. He's a peacekeeper, someone that calmly ends a situation before it spirals out of control. That kind of cool-head and logical thinking is a treasure. You don't have to stay with the guy, but don't break up with him over his tactical instincts.
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Xenocides posted:I (27F) might break up with my boyfriend (25M) for beating up a guy who was sexually harassing me. The ordeal resulted in a gun pulled on us. Am I right in doing this? "just call the police" says woman who comes from a country where police are not an armed and murderous racist gang with no oversight
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Xenocides posted:I (27F) might break up with my boyfriend (25M) for beating up a guy who was sexually harassing me. The ordeal resulted in a gun pulled on us. Am I right in doing this? Anyone who initiates a conflict like this with a full on physical escalation probably has a wardrobe full of Ed Hardy shirts and tries to starts fights the second anyone cross them. 99% chance he uses the words "alpha male" on his social media profiles. He's going to beat her at some point, either from jealousy or rage over her disagreeing with him. Also, calling the cops in that situation is probably tied with what happened for "what will have the greatest chance of someone being shot" pentyne fucked around with this message at 18:47 on Jan 11, 2020 |
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Jan 11, 2020 18:45
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pentyne posted:He's going to beat her at some point, either from jealousy or rage over her disagreeing with him. That's if they don't break up by default when he gets in a bar fight with someone whose armed friend shows less restraint
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Jan 11, 2020 18:46
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My (F20) BF (M20) always says sorry now after he talks about anime because i told him when we had a fight that it was overbearing that he has to say ‘IS THAT A JOJO REFERENCE’ in every conversationquote:Ok so my bf of 2 years is a self proclaimed weeb. He became full-on weeb a year into our relationship. I like anime too so it wasnt reslly a problem at first. he started watching so much anime in the past few months. All is good.
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Jan 11, 2020 18:51
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the only reason she hasn't dumped his rear end yet: quote:so even though you asked to talk about other things (not an unreasonable request), your bf is still trying to shoehorn anime into every conversation? i would think about what exactly you’re getting out of this relationship and if it would be worth saving
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Jan 11, 2020 19:14
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Looking for material and while the post was dull I think I found  This feels like a dumb question, but I’d like to ask about wearing a cock cage with only one testicle?
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Jan 11, 2020 19:18
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Weebs give head like it's pocky. All genders, every orientation. The hotel at an anime con is like a 24/7 tongue slolem. it's revolting, good thing everyone involved is over 18.
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Jan 11, 2020 19:26
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Boyfriend jacks off loudly and I’m not sure if I’m being too sensitive about itquote:Hi, So I have zero issues with porn or even just masturbation in general and am a frequent user of both.
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LadyPictureShow posted:My (F20) BF (M20) always says sorry now after he talks about anime because i told him when we had a fight that it was overbearing that he has to say ‘IS THAT A JOJO REFERENCE’ in every conversation I feel a deep spiritual connection with this chick because I also have to fight off the urge to sleep when people start trying to convince me to watch JoJo
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My (35f) partner (40m) is developing a really bad old man smell. How do I manage it without saying anything?quote:I've been with this guy now for three years. In the last six months he's started to develop what I recognize as "old person smell" from visiting nursing homes or aging relatives. The smell is at its worst in the morning and emanates from his pores. Some nights I may sleep in my office if I'm having trouble in our bed. If I reenter our bedroom in the morning after he has been sleeping in there alone, I will involuntarily dry heave or get nauseated. It makes even a quick goodbye peck a stressful and sickening event. The pillow cases and sheets pick up this smell and I have steadily increased the frequency I'm changing them so that I'm less bothered by the odor. I'm certain this is exacerbated by his heavy drinking. He regularly consumes a bottle of wine or more each night. While the drinking may necessitate another advice post in itself, what I really need help with is managing the smell. I'm not able to hide my reaction but I don't want to offend him. He's sensitive and, like any of us, would be crushed if I were to tell him he smells like an <i>old person</i>. Most nights I remember to start the essential oil diffuser and may occasionally spritz the covers with a freshening spray. Other than that I'm lost. Please. Help me before it makes me literally puke.
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quote:Not to mention I got a gun aimed at me, something which I never thought could ever happen in my life, even if I am in america. Well now you know
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Xenocides posted:I (27F) might break up with my boyfriend (25M) for beating up a guy who was sexually harassing me. The ordeal resulted in a gun pulled on us. Am I right in doing this?
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My Lovely Horse posted:I like the idea of Charlie launching into such terrifying violence that the guy with a gun decided he wanted no part of this and only covered his own retreat. I mean, if you're gonna get in a fight with two guys, Charlie had the right idea. Come in hard and just absolutely flatten one of them before they get to start things on their terms. I don't really think he was in the wrong there, the two creepos had already started grabbing the women and were escalating it, and one of them was armed. If he hadn't come out of the bar things could have gone way, way worse for them.
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Jan 11, 2020 20:31
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Best Bi Geek Squid posted:My (35f) partner (40m) is developing a really bad old man smell. How do I manage it without saying anything? Yeah, I'm pretty sure that reek is due to him sweating out the booze rather than visiting aged relatives, but you do you.
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Best Bi Geek Squid posted:My (35f) partner (40m) is developing a really bad old man smell. How do I manage it without saying anything? woman exhausts all possible options and is seeking more advice to avoid directly confronting her alcoholic husband can't imagine why 
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Also let's be honest, the cops would not have arrived in time to help (this is not a high priority issue for them at all) and they would probably have been like 'you called us because...these guys are flirting with you??' while eyeing the girls up and down. Calling the police would really not have been a solution and in fact calling the cops while being alone yourself with no backup in the meantime can be what escalates a situation to dangerous at times. The one time I got full-on attacked in broad daylight, he was frozen but lurched forward in panic when I took out my phone to call the police.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Yeah, I'm pretty sure that reek is due to him sweating out the booze rather than visiting aged relatives, but you do you. She's saying she has noticed the smell before when she visits old folks' homes, not that he is picking it up from doing so. It is the smell of the human body slowly decaying. Yes, it is happening because he's killing himself with booze.
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Jan 11, 2020 20:37
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Charlie did nothing wrong. Those men were already getting physical against the express wishes of the women. Unwanted touching warrants violence.
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I'm willing to bet if Charlie hadn't shown up or had gotten beaten up, she would be wanting to break up with him too. I say let her do it so he can move on.
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Charlie literally couldn't give two shits about the girls, he just wanted to show how much of a Big Strong Tough Man he was. Not to undermine the secerity of unwarranted touching and harassment in any way, but they were outside a bar having a smoke. They could've and probably were going to end it by just... walking back inside and saying gently caress off, before Mr Macho Man runs outside shouting in his best practiced alpha voice at them and escalating the situation into violence.
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Sagebrush posted:She's saying she has noticed the smell before when she visits old folks' homes, not that he is picking it up from doing so. Yeah, depending on how bad and how long the drinking has gone on she may actually be smelling liver failure.
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pentyne posted:Anyone who initiates a conflict like this with a full on physical escalation probably has a wardrobe full of Ed Hardy shirts and tries to starts fights the second anyone cross them. 99% chance he uses the words "alpha male" on his social media profiles. Lmao  ok bud
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Admiral Ray posted:Your husband is loving trash and irreparably broken deep inside. His image of a mother isn't an image of a person with their own wants, needs, or identity. His image of a mother is a formless, boundary-free blob that only exists to supply her children with their needs, never concerned with her own. I was expecting a nice gimmick post from Admiral Ray to start off my morning but then you just post a bunch of accurate observations about a situation? What the gently caress day ruined, I expect you to be a formless, boundary-free blob that only exists to supply me with quality shitposts
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Is it weird that my new boyfriend yodels when he pulls out after sex?quote:I recently started dating this guy that I have been friends with for a long time and every time he pulls out he yodels for a few secs.
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My SO thinks a regular massage is cheatingquote:I told my SO I was thinking about going to a professional massage-parlour to fix sore muscles, as I’m in the army and get quite a lot of strain on my back and shoulders. She meant that this was cheating, as another woman would “provide pleasure on me with oil” etc... i told her i did not think of this as cheating, as I would be paying a professional for a service intended to help sore muscles, nothing sexual or anything of the sort.
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Am I the second choice?quote:started dating my boyfriend a few months ago and things are fine but I can’t help feel like I’m the second option.
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DemoneeHo posted:My SO thinks a regular massage is cheating Can't you just default assume that any immediate leap to cheating for any life situation is either raging red flag insecurity or projecting their own infidelity? It's not even like "she'll give you a hand job" its the idea that a women would be capable of a task that the man somehow enjoys regardless of being non sexual. Will she freak out if he visits a female hair stylist because he finds combs through his hair enjoyable? Her then clinging onto the idea even after he says he'll get a male massage therapist is pretty telling that she's a compulsive cheater or she assumes he'll cheat at the drop of a hat.
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pentyne posted:Can't you just default assume that any immediate leap to cheating for any life situation is either raging red flag insecurity or projecting their own infidelity? She's an army wife. Of course she's cheating.
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henkman posted:Am I the second choice? She must be completely unable to see the color red to miss the veritable mountain of red flags.
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Is it weird that my new boyfriend yodels when he pulls out after sex?quote:I recently started dating this guy that I have been friends with for a long time and every time he pulls out he yodels for a few secs. I feel very awkward but don’t know how to tell him.
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The comments from OP are what really makes this one awesome. AITA for throwing away my son’s winter formal ticket when I saw it just lying on the floor? quote:I was cleaning up my son’s room yesterday and he had a bunch of stuff strode out on the floor like his bag, instruments, shoes, earplugs, etc. On the dresser, it was messy too, so I decided to clean it off too. I saw a winter formal ticket (I didn’t know what it was until he came and asked where it was) and chunked it in the trash with the rest of the garbage I found. He got mad at me and started flipping out cus they don’t allow purchases at the door. I told him he should keep his room clean and poo poo like this won’t happen. But he told me “don’t loving do poo poo like that again.” But I don’t see how I’m in the wrong. I mean, he shouldn’t be relying on me to clean his room, cus he’s 15. AITA for throwing his winter formal ticket away when I saw it on the messy dresser (his whole room looked like a pigsty)? Some choice comments coz pooooor OP can't accept their judgement! quote:CleanUp717 quote:CleanUp717
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AITA Because My Wife Has To Work A Job? Hello. Looking for some opinions. I'm a man, age 50-ish. I ran a reasonably successful one man business for 25 years. I was the sole bread earner for our family throughout that period. My wife has a college degree and a Masters. She has never used her education to become employed. She stayed home with our kids who are now in college. My wife stayed home and did the things she likes to do, read, cook and etc. She also traveled to Europe and in the US to research a book she has been writing for I guess going on 17 years. About 3 years ago the industry that I am in began a serious decline that it shows few signs of pulling out of.; it's much smaller now. Before the market bottomed our cash flow sucked. Clients paying late, or not paying, etc until about a year ago. At that time, after fighting tooth and nail against it, my wife grudgingly sought out and accepted a basic part-time job for minimum wage. My suggestions that she use her degree to obtain employment were met with anger. My wife, since the part time gig, has grown massively resentful towards me that she has to work a job. Her opinion is that this is my fault she has to work because I have failed at my role of being a father/husband, that I "did not keep her safe" and allow her to live the life that she lived back when revenues were much larger. The resentment she shows towards me grows larger every day. Now, her boss wants to apply for a full time job at the same firm. She is considering it because it comes with health benefits, which we have been paying for. But she is now very resentful that this job offer may come to fruition. Very. Her resentment ... It's affected every facet of our relationship: we have not slept in the same bed in a long time and none of the usual marital fun stuff is happening. We were on the cusp of having sex once but she just got up, said I didn't do my job in keeping her safe and since I don't then there's no reason for her to have sex with me. She got dressed and walked out of the room. Once, in a rage about having to work, she went into our just left for college son's bedroom and smashed all his furniture, scaring our younger son. Thankfully that level of behavior has not since resurfaced. To explain it to our then (crying and scared) 9 year old she said that she "just had a moment". I tried to talk to her about seeing a medical professional regarding this situation. Sadly, what came back is that because I have taken anti-depressents in the past that I am the one who is mentally ill. Or that I am "gas lighting her" (had to look it up). She just left for work about an hour ago. This after very unfriendly body language and pained silence from her, for hours prior. No kiss goodbye, no "see you later". I heard the garage door close. I am grateful for this forum and the opportunity to vent if nothing else. It felt good to get this all out finally. Thank you.
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