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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my son the truth that the reason I had zero contact with him while he grew up is because I hate kids? Must suck having Allied Mastercomputer for a dad
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Nov 9, 2021 13:21
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theflyingexecutive posted:Either sibling would only get their chunk, which is guessed at 100k but could definitely be lower or higher, if they dropped five figures suing their sister into the ground. She'd lose a ton of money to her lawyer and have her assets liquidated at below market rate to pay them. OP decided her relationship with her sister is more important that a few thousand dollars she doesn't need and the brother just seems happier to see his sister punished than to get a few thousand dollars that he also doesn't need. "A few thousand dollars" can be life-changing for a lot of people, and I certainly don't trust sister's assessment of her brother's financial situation. She sucks, and her sister belongs in jail, but you're worried about decorum?
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Nov 9, 2021 13:27
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Soylent Pudding posted:AITA for telling my son the truth that the reason I had zero contact with him while he grew up is because I hate kids? From the op: quote:Why is literally every persons go-to suggestion for me to get therapy? Gee, I don't know??? 
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Nov 9, 2021 13:29
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fish and chips and dip posted:From the op: His post makes a lot more logical sense if you just find+replace the word "kids" with "childhood trauma"
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Nov 9, 2021 13:40
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"While growing up I hated kids." "As a kid you hated kids?" "Yes." "This is psychologically healthy to you?" "Yes."
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Nov 9, 2021 13:58
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theflyingexecutive posted:It's only a felony in the eyes of the law. It's not a life-changing amount of money for the op nor the brother. goddamn are you a fuckin idiot
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Nov 9, 2021 14:03
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theflyingexecutive posted:It's only a felony in the eyes of the law. It's not a life-changing amount of money for the op nor the brother. Honestly make this the new GBS title
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Nov 9, 2021 14:05
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Have some French weirdos. https://mobile.twitter.com/francoismandil/status/1457465086117822468 Rough translation mine: quote:For 10 days I've been in a Whatsapp group where 106 out of 107 members are between 17 and 20 year old. 50 to 100 messages an hour. In Europe this is very normal.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:06
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y'all need to grow up a little and get some perspective, all she did was steal tens of thousands of dollars. it's impossible to say what is good or bad
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Nov 9, 2021 14:16
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teen witch posted:My neighbors want to build a sex trafficking rehab “under the radar” I'd normally bitch about NIMBY assholes ruining everything, but an "under the radar" facility addressing "sex trafficking" in TYOOL 2021 America is 100% going to be a QAnon Yehawdi training center.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:20
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DoubleNegative posted:This discussion is reminding me of that time when I was a kid when my family had this container of chocolates from around the world. Most of them were fine or even delicious. But one of the little bars from somewhere in Europe tasted like loving ham. It's really disconcerting to bite into what you think is chocolate, only to taste pork. Chocolate bars with bacon in were all over the place a few years ago.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:20
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Kuiperdolin posted:Have some French weirdos. Eh, I'm not going to begrudge people their somewhat strange efforts to connect in an unprecedented era of isolation.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:29
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That’s peanuts. I have been in a group chat with just 8 elder millennials ever since ios messages moved off of sms, and it still gets 400-500 messages per day, like 16-20 messages per hour. 100 zoomers should be able to do way better than 100 messages an hr.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:34
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"not a life changing amount of money", about an amount of money that irrevocably changed the lives of everyone involved
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Nov 9, 2021 14:37
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Runcible Cat posted:? Wow yeah, I read that entirely with the lens that she also had a kid to take care of. She's an rear end in a top hat for sure, but the situation is over and the money is supposedly spent. It's supremely petty and vindictive to go after your sister for money that you don't really miss though, especially when doing so could bankrupt her. When I say "It's only a felony in the eyes of the law", I mean that the consequences for her would be magnitudes worse than her crime. My FIL had almost the exact same situation happen to him when his mother passed last year for a similar amount of money and his brother swooped in and ransacked all the heirlooms and most of the cash. My FIL absolutely did not need any of that money, but he got very sullen and paranoid around everyone, just caricaturishly not trusting people and almost cut his brother out of his life completely. He eventually came around after therapy and an SSRI, talked to his brother through a lawyer, and a few heirlooms "were suddenly found", but the whole situation was very gross considering that my FIL wasn't hurting for money at all.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:37
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Credulous Skeptic posted:"A few thousand dollars" can be life-changing for a lot of people, and I certainly don't trust sister's assessment of her brother's financial situation. At face value, if the brother was well-off enough to not need the <$20k (after lawyers fees and liquidation and everything), yes it's hosed up to send someone, even if they were mean to you, to the charnel house that is an American prison and get their house foreclosed. If he has already moved way out of town and gone NC, it's inevitably going to be more emotionally damaging to drag up all these emotions surrounding his dead mother while simultaneously sending his own sister to jail over a few thousand dollars.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:43
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Jesus Christ, log off
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Nov 9, 2021 14:46
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EIDE Van Hagar posted:elder millennials +2 against advertising Critical weakness to TikTok
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Nov 9, 2021 14:47
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theflyingexecutive posted:At face value, if the brother was well-off enough to not need the <$20k (after lawyers fees and liquidation and everything), yes it's hosed up to send someone, even if they were mean to you, to the charnel house that is an American prison and get their house foreclosed. If he has already moved way out of town and gone NC, it's inevitably going to be more emotionally damaging to drag up all these emotions surrounding his dead mother while simultaneously sending his own sister to jail over a few thousand dollars. I tend to agree, if they had a good relationship, but it’s the consequences of her own actions. She poisoned the relationship so I don’t see how she could expect them to be friendly to her now. Don’t steal from people and expect it to work out for you.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:49
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hawowanlawow posted:Jesus Christ, log off For real "Well she already spent the money she literally stole from you, you shouldn't be upset" 
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Nov 9, 2021 14:49
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Uhh no, going after someone for forging their signature on legal documents and then stealing 100k and using it to buy themselves a house and car is absolutely not petty in any sense of the word. What the hell. The sister deserves to be taken to the cleaners. She deserves it not just legally, but also morally. What she did is hosed up and wrong. OP should probably do a credit check and make sure all her financial and identity documents are locked up real tight.
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Nov 9, 2021 14:49
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Barudak posted:This person takes "my sister forged documentation to become executor of my parent's estate and gave me $500 usd" like they eat clonazepam by the handful. In similar stories it seems like it usually emerges that the "bygones be bygones" kids got slipped some hush money by the thief. Wonder if she's got thrown a few grand and is keeping quiet about it because she doesn't want to come under fire from her brother. theflyingexecutive posted:Wow yeah, I read that entirely with the lens that she also had a kid to take care of. "wow, these people are being really gross and materialistic huh" I say as I continue shoveling tens of thousands of dollars of other people's money into lifestyle upgrades for myself
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Nov 9, 2021 14:50
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theflyingexecutive posted:Wow yeah, I read that entirely with the lens that she also had a kid to take care of. You're either some sort of sentient doormat or someone willing to do bad things to people as long as you've determined it's actually okay to do so. Lmao @ "my FIL had to go to therapy and go on meds to deal with the betrayal, but God forbid the person that did a bad thing see any consequences for their actions."
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Nov 9, 2021 14:50
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I think they just spend a lot of time on the internet and hate money but also have absolutely zero sense of scale or who to be mad at
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Nov 9, 2021 14:53
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theflyingexecutive posted:At face value, if the brother was well-off enough to not need the <$20k (after lawyers fees and liquidation and everything), yes it's hosed up to send someone, even if they were mean to you, to the charnel house that is an American prison and get their house foreclosed. If he has already moved way out of town and gone NC, it's inevitably going to be more emotionally damaging to drag up all these emotions surrounding his dead mother while simultaneously sending his own sister to jail over a few thousand dollars. Are you the "My bike got stolen recently," comic guy?
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Nov 9, 2021 14:57
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Johnny Truant posted:For real I'm not saying what she did was right, I'm saying from the brother's perspective, he's facing a five figure legal bill and years of protracted legal action to get (if he's lucky) half of what he's owed. It's not a two week process where you get a canvas sack with a big dollar sign on it, it's a scorched earth war where he'd constantly reigniting the traumas of both his mother's death and his sister's abuse. And on top of that, his sister could get her entire life wrecked by a prison sentence.
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Nov 9, 2021 15:02
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theflyingexecutive posted:I'm not saying what she did was right, I'm saying from the brother's perspective, he's facing a five figure legal bill and years of protracted legal action to get (if he's lucky) half of what he's owed. It's not a two week process where you get a canvas sack with a big dollar sign on it, it's a scorched earth war where he'd constantly reigniting the traumas of both his mother's death and his sister's abuse. Your strawman of the legal challenges is meaningless, why are you babbling about that bullshit theflyingexecutive posted:And on top of that, his sister could get her entire life wrecked by a prison sentence. Oh noooo, the consequences of my actions! Shut up and realize you have decorum brain worms and try to do better
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Nov 9, 2021 15:05
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My [20M] girlfriend [19F] asked me what I see in her and I responded as bad as you can respondquote:I told her some nice stuff and I think she asked if I have other needs and I said yes I think but I can get them met through friends.
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Nov 9, 2021 15:05
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theflyingexecutive posted:I'm not saying what she did was right, I'm saying from the brother's perspective, he's facing a five figure legal bill and years of protracted legal action to get (if he's lucky) half of what he's owed. It's not a two week process where you get a canvas sack with a big dollar sign on it, it's a scorched earth war where he'd constantly reigniting the traumas of both his mother's death and his sister's abuse. And on top of that, his sister could get her entire life wrecked by a prison sentence. these are all important considerations that she probably should have thought of before defrauding her siblings, who she ostensibly loves and cares about, of what is probably more money than they've ever seen at once in their lives, simply because she did not feel like continuing to live in an apartment
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Nov 9, 2021 15:06
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theflyingexecutive posted:And on top of that, his sister could get her entire life wrecked by a prison sentence. good, gently caress her. she's a thief and a piece of poo poo who thinks nothing of robbing her own family. sending her to prison would be well worth the effort
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Nov 9, 2021 15:06
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Propaniac posted:My [20M] girlfriend [19F] asked me what I see in her and I responded as bad as you can respond Girlfriend wanted to break up but didn't want the blame
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Nov 9, 2021 15:09
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theflyingexecutive posted:I'm not saying what she did was right, I'm saying from the brother's perspective, he's facing a five figure legal bill and years of protracted legal action to get (if he's lucky) half of what he's owed. It's not a two week process where you get a canvas sack with a big dollar sign on it, it's a scorched earth war where he'd constantly reigniting the traumas of both his mother's death and his sister's abuse. And on top of that, his sister could get her entire life wrecked by a prison sentence. He doesn't give a gently caress about his sister though? Her getting her life wrecked is the goal for him and she's made it easy and free. It's not about the money, it's about how she made his life a misery and then topped it off by betraying his mothers wishes and stealing from him. You DO get it's not about the money right?
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Nov 9, 2021 15:10
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Johnny Truant posted:Your strawman of the legal challenges is meaningless, why are you babbling about that bullshit It's not a straw man, it's a strong likelihood and I use it to reinforce my point that someone willing and to shell out $10-20k in legal fees to recoup $15-20k over a period of years isn't already dying in destitution and is more being vindictive about it. That intellectual and emotional investiture is simply not worth it from a mental health standpoint, even if you're going to be completely Manichean about the laws she broke and ignore how devastating imprisonment is.
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Nov 9, 2021 15:15
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Maybe it's the mother's final wishes to punish the daughter for as stealing from her and he's just being respectful
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Nov 9, 2021 15:17
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theflyingexecutive posted:It's not a straw man, it's a strong likelihood and I use it to reinforce my point that someone willing and to shell out $10-20k in legal fees to recoup $15-20k over a period of years isn't already dying in destitution and is more being vindictive about it. That intellectual and emotional investiture is simply not worth it from a mental health standpoint, even if you're going to be completely Manichean about the laws she broke and ignore how devastating imprisonment is. you're projecting a lot of idiocy and decorum brainworms into this story, hth and it is a strawman you're just too stupid to see it, again hth
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Nov 9, 2021 15:18
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duck trucker posted:Maybe it's the mother's final wishes to punish the daughter for as stealing from her and he's just being respectful That would be my final wish as well, for the daughter in this story to be punished.
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Nov 9, 2021 15:18
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theflyingexecutive posted:Wow yeah, I read that entirely with the lens that she also had a kid to take care of. OP says her brother "can do without the money"; given how much she's minimising everything else I'm going to wait and see if the brother has anything to say about that. Also, and notably in your FIL's case, it's not all about the money. It's loving heirlooms. They have emotional weight and value themselves apart from monetary value. Someone helping themselves to everything of the deceased, things you wanted as mementos or because of their history? Don't you see how insulting and hurtful that would be, especially from a sibling? From what we see of brother's POV there's been a lot of that going on there too - sister mismanaged the estate, helped herself to everything and gave her siblings a derisory amount. And from what he said to OP, the whole family has been colluding with this decorum stuff. Burn it all down, brother. gently caress 'em all.
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Nov 9, 2021 15:19
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Don't we only have the sister's word on how the brother is doing? And they've had minimal contact for years? And he started crying when she wouldn't back him up on this? For all we know he's down to his last savings and the lawyer is working pro bono
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Nov 9, 2021 15:20
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If you fake documents to steal an inheritance from your non-doormat siblings, you have already burned that relationship to the ground. That has happened in my family in my grandparents' generation, and even if they chose  over legal proceeding, hoo-boy did it lead to a lot of bitterness and resentment.
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Inheritance Law almost as good as Tree Law, the stories that have been posted involving it have been bangers.
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